All my life my mom keeps buying me things I don't want,

>>18033772
Sorry I don't have an answer but mine does this too.

"Things" aren't really my style. I like to have a few very nice things that I take good care of and love and otherwise like to live in a pretty spare kind of way. Not because I can't afford it but just because clutter really bothers me to the point where I'd say it causes me mild anxiety.

My mother values things and when she gives gifts she likes to give in volume and it's take her about 10 years of hearing me say "no, no, please don't worry about buying me these things I'm not very materialistic" to finally believe me. And even then she still buys more than I'd like. For Christmas just gone her big present to me was to chip in on some new ice skates and I thought that'd be it. But on the day she also gave me half a dozen other things I didn't want or need.

If you really want to have some kind of effect on her, then start buying her shit she obviously doesn't want. But it seems like you don't have the money for that so we're gonna try the next best thing.

*ahem*

Tell her that if she doesn't stop buying you useless shit with money that you don't have then you'll stop eating. If she can't stop literally spending her own money on shit she KNOWS you won't like then to save money you won't buy food for yourself nor eat any food in order to conserve it for her. If this fails then you'll be dead sorry bro

>>18033772
you mother sees giving gifts as an expression of love. obviously its burdensome and her reaction is less than elegant, but you should start by appreciating that she buys people things because she cares about them.

you should probably approach her by saying that you appreciate what she does, but you really just don't need all this stuff, and as nice as it is, she should really save her money, or buy herself something instead.

>>18033772
Tell her in advance what you DO want for your birthday, Christmas, whatever. Make something up if you have to. You'll never stop her giving you things, but you might be able to control WHAT she gives.

She's just got narcissistic personality disorder, and is attempting to fight through it by getting you things, which must surely show she loves you.

Except that since her disorder makes her incapable of paying attention to the interests of anyone but herself, she just gets you what she would like.

She gets mad when you don't want the things because, remember, NPD makes you unable to consider what other people would want, so all she knows is that she'd want it in your shoes, so therefore you not wanting it is absolutely ridiculous and unheard of.

>>18033772
>hurting her
>I'm always polite when I'm trying something down. I constantly acknowledge that I know she's trying
You seem to be rewarding her behavior every time, perhaps a tougher stance is in order.

Take her gifts and give them to the needy. If she asks where x gift is, tell her you passed on the blessing or something. She'll either get pissrd and stop gifting you (want you want) or you'll have a steady stream of nice stuff, that don't need, to give away.