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I am 18, male, and mostly while I am chatting/socializing I have constant urges to whine and/or complain, to bring up my problems or something, implying that person I am speaking to is some kind of therapist. Obviously, I do hold myself, yet sometimes it becomes hardly bearable, so I retreat. Even this incoherent text seems like whine.
How do I start enjoy socializing and stop feeling that people are shoulder to cry on?
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>>18037009
Actively try to listen more then talk. Even if something that comes up in the conversation pertains to you, try to hold off as much as possible.
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>>18037009
Do you have an actual therapist?
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Nope, I am not able to afford it, and I have never heard that in my country university could provide any.
>>18037040
That was my strategy, in fact. Asking questions related to what they're speaking about, engage if possible, holding off, be interested or pretending to be interested, but most of the time nothing but pressure comes up, for me. It might be explained that I am trying to connect with not that compatible people, or they are unwilling to contact, etc. however, it does depend on my mood.
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Okay so recently I got really sick. Doctors at first thought it was a glandular fever, then a staph infection but it turned out being some form of herpes. I basically had a small mark on my nose turn into multiple green sores.
Thing is, doctor rang me today and told me that the swabs came back as type 2 herpes (genital herpes) but my dick was fine the whole time however I am sexual active. Is it possible to have genital herpes in a place that isnt your genitals and for your dick to be uninfected? Anyone with experience or med people would be great.
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4 Chan is a terrible, terrible place up ask this kind of advice.
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>>18036975
lol this is just a string of bad decisions OP is making.
OP you shouldnt have sucked so much cock
Then you wouldnt have gotten herpes on your nose
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Im ready to take an L if need be
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I a male am scared of rape. Not happening to me but more someone close to me like a SO, daughter, or relative.
I read stories on Reddits rape page and stuff and it talks about girls being raped and gang raped and I even hear stories like them having the guys cum on their face or they beg them to cum on their face so they don't do it inside them
How the fuck does anyone prevent this?
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by not listening to femnazis, propaganda and other sources which warp your mind
it can happen
you have to go back
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>>18036939
>I even hear stories like them having the guys cum on their face or they beg them to cum on their face so they don't do it inside them
I think you've got your dick out right now. Anyway, the solution is to ban refugees.
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>>18036951
It happens by friends
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Australian legal: Wilful damage incident & questioning of a minor 2017-02-10 08:42:20 Post No.18036934
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Hi, M/25, Aus.
The other day I was involved in an incident where a minor was jay-walking and scraped his bag on my car causing damage in the form of a notable scuff.
At the time I was on my way to a meeting and did not suspect that he had caused damage to my car as I simply questioned him from my vehicle and continued on my way as I was waiting at a set of lights. After looking at the car after reaching my destination I reported the incident to the school so that they might be able to find the child responsible and reiterate about not jay-walking.
I then contacted my insurance to which they said that they would need the name of the person and a charge made against that person for them to request payment for the cover of the damages. For this reason I decided to report the incident the police in a timely fashion.
While I was on my way to the school to speak to the Dean of students(who contacted me the next day after I left a message) I bumped into the child who I identified as the same one who scraped my car.(I live near the school and on the same street the incident occurred ).
I questioned him about the incident to which he apologised. I mentioned how he jay walked which is against the law and mentioned how that if he didn't jay walk he would not have caused the damage. I also explained how there were multiple cameras on the buillding and how I have a dash cam installed on my car and how I would be able to identify him. He then apologised again profusely. I said that by apologising he admitted fault.
I then requested his information and ID (student number, grade and year).
Advice required: Did I do the wrong thing about questioning the child? What should I do next? Should I persue the child/update the police report/notify the school?
Side note: The child crossed the road properly this afternoon.
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You're a fucking creep, and a possible sociopath.
>notable scuff
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>>18036934
There is something severely wrong with you. You have no business questioning the child. Either let the cops handle it, or let it go. I've had a kid rear end my car with a moped. The thing slid under my bumper, denting it, and breaking off my rear muffler from the exhaust pipe. The moped got scratched, maybe bent, i don't know, but kid was fine and moped still ran. Told him not to worry about it.
You and your precious car and a damn scratch. This is what happens when poor people buy cars they can not afford. They get sensitive about them. It is a car. It will get scratched. Deal with it. It's called depreciation. It is life.
And your moral outrage at the horrible crime of jaywalking! You are a certified asshole. When walking it is natural to take the shortest path, no matter what your fascist ordinances dictate.
So yes. You did plenty wrong here.
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what's the process to buying a car 2017-02-10 08:41:49 Post No.18036930
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what's the process to buying a car
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I'm in a bit of a situation. Without going into very much information I no longer have access to a car, and I live far enough from work where I can't not use one.
I found one nearby that I can afford, is fairly new, and suits my needs. Thing is, I can't get a loan online, so I can't go there with any confidence.
I just need someone to assuage my concerns here. Number one being the process. In my head, I find an employee, approach, then my head's entirely blank out of my lack of knowledge on the subject. Second is financial, will they just allow any schlub who shows up to sign a contract for X% of the price plus interest each month?
Random picture from my folder because I don't care to find one that fits.
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>>18036930
If you can not get a loan online you will not be able to get the same loan in the dealership. What you can do is find a shady dealership with overpriced cars that does its own financing.
What I suggest you do is buy either a car you can pay for with cash, or a brand new one. A new car will have a warranty. A chevy spark will cost 15 grand. 2 grand down and $299 month for 4 years. If you have a steady job then you will get financing.
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first of all you only buy cars cash, also a car should not cost more than 10% of your annual income
also get a Honda or a Toyota
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>>18036990
This. Fuck getting a car loan, save up a few thousand bucks and buy a decent old car.
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How do depressed people stop eating by will 2017-02-10 07:52:50 Post No.18036887
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How do depressed people stop eating by will
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How do some people not eat when they are depressed?
I have noticed that when I am depressed, I get bored and eat to distract.
However, today I had a traumatizing experience. I have noticed that in extreme panic where I can hardly breathe is when I really don't feel like eating. I feel so stressed out right now from it that I don't really feel like eating, just having water.
Like when I feel sad about being lonely I crave food. But when im freaking out about my life being threatened I feel so sick to my stomach that I cant even think about food.
How do I preserve this feeling of not having an appetite?
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>How do some people not eat when they are depressed?
It's not a conscious thing. Depression can cause overeating/binge eating or depression can cause a total loss of appetite. When I was fourteen or so I was regularly skipping 2/3 meals a day because I just didn't have any appetite, and what little I did have I was forcing myself to eat.
Some people who have depression only ever have it one way, some who have depression might experience both. It's better to learn to work through it in spite of your lack of hunger or excessive desire to binge eat than wish for the opposite end of the spectrum. Neither extreme is healthy and switching between both extremes isn't either.
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>>18036887
>How do some people not eat when they are depressed?
Hey. Anon who struggles with major depression here. When I'm really low depressed, I've got no desire or will to do anything. Eating, drinking water, hell even getting out of bed are simply not desired and seen as pointless to me.
> But when im freaking out about my life being threatened I feel so sick to my stomach that I cant even think about food.
This is a normal biological response humans have when feeling threatened. It's related to the fight or flight or freeze response. When feeling threatened, the body automatically focuses on more important things like, more oxygen conservation in shallow breathing, pupils dilating to see better, heart rate accelerates, etc. hunger rates pretty low when needing to get away from a threat. It's our natural survival instinct kicking in.
> How do I preserve this feeling of not having an appetite?
Are you trying to lose weight or something? To always be in this state of survival is not healthy for your body and would do extensive damage to it over time. Exercising, eating low sugar and low fat diet is what's helpful and healthy.
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>>18036887
Dunno ... I simply lost my appetite .. guess it went same way as my wish to exist. Smoked 60 cigarettes/day and drank gallons of coffee .. trying to eat made me nauseous and back to cigarettes/coffee .. lost 70 some pounds. Got on medication/shrink .. got it sorted and is still alive but in damaged condition mentally on some points. Like being here though .. also gained some of the weight back
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Keeping the fire buning. 2017-02-10 07:35:14 Post No.18036870
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I'm a bi f in a 2f1m triad relationship. We've been together for about 4 years now, and are very stable. Due to his studies, our guy sometimes has to go traveling for months at a time. When this happens, the sex between my gf and I slowly fizzles out. We continue to be affectionate, and both *want* sex, and enjoy the sex we have, but other things start to get in the way and we end up with only once a week, or even less, and with things being pretty mechanical.
How can we keep things heated when our guy is gone? As soon as he comes back, things are back to normal, and even when he isn't involved, our sex is frequent, but when he's got for a long period things die out. Any tips on keeping the flames burning brightly?
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Any help before I go to bed?
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>bi f in a 2f1m triad
Jesus fucking christ lmfao
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w2c two bi girlfriends who want this arrangement?
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GF is getting really into vegan shit.
talks about it ad nauseam. I try to be as supportive of her choice as possible(always buy her veg food when together, watch depressing docs about animals, try to listen when she talks about it)
but I'm not convinced it's a worthile things for me,
but it feels like she's preaching to me and expecting me to follow and it's a whole life style change I'm resenting because she was more fun to be around when she wasn't vegan.
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>>18036865
Any vego or vegan who pressures other people is a fuckhead and doesn't understand the point of being one. It is about following your own principals, not jumping on a band wagon.
She might just be enthusiastic about it because she has just recently made the switch. I am vego, and to be honest in the first 6 months I had a LOT of conversations about why I did it. But that was mainly because everyone I knew was constantly asking me and bringing it up. So maybe she feels like she needs to defend her choice because she thinks people see her as stupid for doing it.
I would say give her a bit of time, but if she keeps ramming it down your throat tell her you are done with her shit, because the stereotypical high horse vegans are a real fucking bore.
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From one vegan to another. I am not a "hipster", just a regular guy. I ate meat my whole life, loved every second of it. But I saw the numbers and wanted to do everything I could to be healthy. I love food, and I love cooking so it wasn't very difficult making delicious vegan food. I guess the whole "protect animals" thing is cool, but it really wasn't a factor in my decision.
Unfortunately, I get lumped into this vegan faggot group who like to condescend others for eating meat, act like higher beings, etc. I just want you to know not all "vegans" are like that. I don't even consider myself "vegan". I just don't eat meat and stuff.
POINT of my rambling is, if you don't want to be vegan, don't be. Plenty of fat smoking meat eating fuckers have lived to be in their 80s. It's okay to consider things, but don't let anyone tell you how to live.
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>>18036881
>From one vegan to another
I don't know why I said this, because you aren't. Derp, sorry.
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I've been living in Japan for six months now. I don't do anything except sleeping and playing games. I dont feel satisfied with my life and I dont even wanna change, even tho I HAVE TO. I want to stop being beta and become alpha full of energy, like my friends. I have been fired for my first job because showing up late and depressed. I am on seroquel and zoloft. I know I am destined for greatness but it feels like people dislike me on average. I have 2 girlfriends that support me, but Im still not satisfied still want more girls. I spend my days ruminating about my past, about other peoples life (envy) or about what they might think of me (paranoia, hyper sensitivity). What can I do to stop this and get the success I deserve ?
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>>18036855
It's strange that people come onto this site with the intention to irritate people. I've never understood trolling.
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>>18036857
Everyone thinks I'm always trolling but I promess you this is very real. I have schizo affective disorder, its awful man.
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>Have actually been seriously pursued by 16-22 year old models
>Told that I'm really, really good looking by really, really good looking women
>Literally too OCD (semi-autistic) to do anything about it
How do I be normal?
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>>18036772
>seriously pursued by multiple models
post a pic of yourself or delete thread
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>>18036781
That sounds like a way to get recognized or stalked.
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Ok
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Constipation followed by blood?
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Hello, /adv/! I've reecently noticed that I get a pain in my stomach, as if I have to shit, so when I go to take a shit it's as if I'm constipated, but then it's a sudden rush of shit. But it's not shit, just dark-red blood. I'm really concerned for my health. I don't feel like visting an ER (Too expensive, and too far away). but I might end up doing so anyway, but I wanted a second opinion. So, /adv/, Is it Colon Cancer, or just inflamed hemorrhoids?
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Dude if you're bleeding like that you should probably see a doctor. I'm no doctor but I think it could be caused by several different things.
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>>18036766
I know man, but the closest doctor is miles (About 30 or so). I live in the boonies part of Texas.
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>>18036768
id see a doctor
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Dealing with and healing obsession 2017-02-10 05:59:13 Post No.18036752
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How does one go about eliminating an obsession with someone, without just replacing it with another obsession over someone else? I've had prolonged obsessions with people before and the only way I've been able to rid myself with them is just by inadvertently coming in contact with someone I'm more interested in.
I've been obsessed with someone for the past two years and recently it caused me to get in major trouble with my university.
I base my thought process around imagining that I'm talking to them, I write about them all the time, collect and frame their photos, imagine scenarios between us, catalog their social media, etc (it gets more specific than that but I'd have to go into extreme detail).
Eliminating contact with the person isn't the issue in that I didn't have contact with them beforehand, so that wasn't what was fueling it.
Any advice on how to get rid of it?
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>>18036752
On a side note, it's not an obsession based in romantic interest.
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>>18036752
>I'm stalking someone who doesn't even know me
Maybe you should stop doing that.
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>>18036752
In the wise words by some fuckwad somewhere...
GO. GET. THERAPY.
Don't end up like one of those crazy killer stalkers we all hear about.
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Pros and Cons of Bankruptcy 2017-02-10 05:51:27 Post No.18036738
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Pros and Cons of Bankruptcy
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22 year old student. Used to be great with money and in the past year I became a moron due to a stupid situation. I'm now $7000 in debt. I'm losing more money than I'm making and I have no way of paying my expenses. I don't go out. I don't buy anything. I do nothing now other than seldom work. I'm looking for more jobs but they aren't enough. My only credit and debit card are maxed and unable to be used. I'm over my limits. I want to file for bankruptcy and get this over with.
So I'd like to know what the pros and cons of it are. What am I gaining? What am I losing? What are some other options that won't cause me so much suffering?
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Your credit will be ruined for 7 years. If it's student loan debt it won't be forgiven.
Talk to a financial advisor.
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>>18036738
you're still in school. chances are you still need another loan to get through school. if oyu apply for bankruptcy you will not get a loan.
its only 7000 dollars. im also in 8000 dollars. leave it and it will default and you can just wait til you ahve the money to pay it off.
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>leave it and it will default
What do you mean by it will default?
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>be pathetic permavirgin
>join various dating sites because too pussy to try dating in real life
>get little to no response
>realize that I am probably not mentally prepared to really start a relationship but still want to get attention for woman online via matches/profile views etc
How do I either stop being an insecure piece of shit that requires validation from strangers online in order to feel slightly better about myself and possibly quite online dating for good.
Or maybe better still; how do I stop being a pussy and pursue dating in a more proactive manner
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>>18036705
get a job.
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>>18036709
Already have a job
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>>18036760
You are not as pathetic then.
Hit the gym, improve yourself and lower your standards and try again.
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My crush just sent me this, is about my best friend who is dating her right now, he knew i liked her but i said that there was no problem... I asked for it, but it really hurt me...
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>>18036704
>tragada
colombia?
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I'm sorry anon... I was in a similar situation but it went well for me cause the bf was inattentive and kept self-sabotging and generally didn't give a shit about the relationship
However it seems like she is happy in her relationship, there is no way in hell that she would choose you over him ATM. You can either:
1: stay as her friend, set boundaries on contact so you don't get hurt and find other women.
2: cut off contact and focus on other girls. If you keep this crush you might not move forward in your own love life. You do NOT want to be a cuck that just hangs around her for 3 yes hoping that she'll like you eventually. Plenty of great girls will pass by if you don't look.
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AY AY COSITA
What does this mean? I like it.