I have become a person that disgusts me, but I don't have the mental fortitude to change myself. Please help me.
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>>18036184
What are you disgusted about?
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move to someplace else
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>>18036184
Talk to a shrink, it's their job to help people become the people they want to be.
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Who's the cunt here? We have an abusive sense of humor, but all of a sudden posh twat here has started just straight up being a stonewalling dickbag. What's your take on this shit?
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>>18036158
you sound pretty autistic my dude.
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>>18036158
Please speak English. Thanks.
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Ben needs to get the stick out of his ass imo.
Can't handle the bantz.
Hey /adv/-
I don't post here often, and when I do its usually to give relationship advice sine I've been in one for 10 years. But I'll try to quickly explain my situation below.
>wife got pregnant last year
>financially hurting bad, decide now is not a good time to bring a child into our shitty situation.
>wife gets paraguard iud to prevent a repeat
>Ff to now, 6 mnths after iud put in, she is pregnant again. 7/1000 chance.
>we are much more financially stable. Duo income at just above 50k and had to pay taxes for first time ever.
Here is where my question comes in. Aside from the obvious fears of possibly being a dad (I'm 28, she is 26) she is working on her PhD and I am working to help pay bills. We have read that even tho the baby was conceived if you remove an iud you have a 30% chance of miscarrying in the 24 hrs after and it will be a high risk pregnancy for both mother and child after that. We are pondering giving the baby a shot since it got this far, determined lil turd lol. But are worried for her health, babies health (probably defects) and other issues. Anyone here been through this? Or any parents that wanna chime in? Thanks in advance.
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These are all questions for your OB/GYN man.
My opinion is you should do whatever's going to keep the mother alive and at less risk, since you've already got a kid. It'd be rather shit to take that kid's mom away in exchange for a little sibling that will possibly die anyway and/or live a horrific deformed life.
Whatever your doc says is in the best interest of the mother.
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>>18036166
Don't have a kid yet. When I said decide not to bring a kid into our shitty situation, I meant we agreed on an abortion.
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>>18036171
Oh, gotcha.
Well then, idk I still air more on the side of "rather save the living breathing thing that actually even knows it's alive" but again, talk to your doctor, see what possible options you can take and what the risks are.
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so, i have a friend who talks about sex and girls about 90% of the times we hang out. i never really say much because i have a girlfriend but something confuses me. he'll speak on a girl like say Megan Fox, saying she's attractive and how he'll fuck shit out if her. but when I speak on a girl, like say, Scarlett Johansson. he'll say I'm disgusting and repeatedly bother me about it, usually when I only really say "Selena looks cute" or something. every girl i say is apparently ugly and every girl he says is just hot. kinda offends me, even if its a bit petty. just that he gets super serious about it and is kinda always making it a topic to talk about girls. I find it really stupid. any idea what is up with him?
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scarlett looks cute* idk where selena came from.
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>>18036145
He's probably gay.
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I agree, he's probably in the closet, but he doesn't know it yet. He just get jealous when you talk about girls. You find out 5 or 10 years from now he's secretly sucking cock. I had a friend like this. He shot himself.
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What are your thoughts on the idea that all intimate relationships are uneven- that is, one person loves more than the other? Do you think it really just comes down to one party being more confident and the one with less self esteem just believes they couldn't be as valuable as their partner?
I have been married to the man of my dreams for 3 years, I have complete trust and security, but I am certain I love him more than he loves me. I think he could walk away unharmed if we split, and often wonder if he has just settled for me. I live in fear that secretly he yearns for an ex or just regrets his decision to marry me but is too loyal to ever tell me. Am I just being a dick?
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>>18036135
The woman generally always cares more and loves deeper than the man.
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>>18036141
Can you elaborate? Is it a gender thing? Are men are always semi detached in case something better comes along? Are you a male?
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In a 2yr relationship with so I love, but dealing with dead bedroom. Probably because of depo. Wtf do I do? It's been over a month since any sexual contact and we even live together. Pls halp
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>>18036108
depo?
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More details. If you talk like that with your partner I'm not surprised.
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>>18036108
Stop using depo. Switch to another BC (preferably non-hormonal but anything is less harsh than depo honestly) and see if it helps
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Is it possible to meet a woman who will go on "dates" with me without expecting sex? I have a low sex drive (I think because of my medication), every now and then I hire a whore to get it out of my system, but there are certain times when I just want a female companion. Like going out to a nice dinner, or a movie, or even a vacation if I really got to know them. These aren't things I would do with my guy friends, but I would like to have a woman friend for these sorts of things where we both know that it wont necessarily lead to sex.
Kind of like a beard, except I'm not gay.
What do?
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>>18036105
Find yourself an asexual woman if you can. You can have the relationship without the sex.
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>>18036113
How the fuck am I supposed to find an asexual woman?
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>>18036225
There's more asexual women than men.
I don't know where you would find IRL, but there's dating sites for this shit.
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I'm starting to feel like I chose the wrong career path...
So I do male modeling for a living, and it's my dream job I love it, but there is so much baggage that comes with it. I'm only 18, and moved out of my parents house right after high school, so I could travel to different cities for their "modeling busy season". and I love to travel, but i'm forced to live in model apartments, because I can't afford to sign a lease. A model apartment is pretty much a studio apartment with a bunch of bunk beds and you have to share it with 4 to 6 other models for like $1000 a month(depending on where you live). So usually I spend like $1500 on rent, food, gym membership (which is mandatory since I have to be fit), and other shit I need. I have to pick up second jobs everywhere I go, because modeling alone can't pay my expenses.
Models do not make as much as people think. for example I've been living in Miami for the past two months and have only made $500 from some weird photo shoot. But a few months ago I got lucky and made a solid $3000 dollars in two days shooting with Hollister. so like sometimes the pay is good sometimes it's bad.
I guess i'm writing this, because i'm in a bad place. I haven't been able to pay rent for the past two weeks and my agency has been covering it for me, but now I'm in $2000 of debt with them. I eat cup of noodles for most my meals, and it's gonna stay like that till I book a high paying job.
I want to stick with it, because it's my dream job, and i'm actually pretty good at it, but I know models who have been at this for 10 years now and are still living in the same conditions that I am. one of my roommates is 27 and I make more than him, but I also have friends that took off and are like semi famous living the glamorous life people see in magazines.
Should I give up on my dream job and go to college or something while I still have time, or keep with it and hopefully strike a big job that brings me into the spotlight.
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If you can look into sales jobs, think like car dealerships. If you're a smooth talker and a have the looks to back it up, you can make a lot of money without school.
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>>18036100
i live in los angeles, hollywood atually, and 1500 covers my entire two bedroom apartment man
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>>18036109
I've been thinking about that or real estate, because I genuinely am very convincing and charming, and if I do stick with modeling I am gonna have to have something to fall back on after I get older and ugly
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My son is 4. Is it normal for him to say he wants to marry mommy when he grows up?
I mean he's asked to marry his brother and his pre-school teacher before too. But I heard a desire to marry your mom means you'll be a psycho killer.
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>>18036097
it means youve been cuck'd by a toddler
congratulations
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>>18036097
Yeah that's fairly normal. Kids don't really understand what marriage is and have no inkling of the idea of romantic love.
He basically just means he loves his mommy. It's fine.
If he says that when he's 15 however that's a problem :)
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>>18036097
its normal for any kid to say they want to marry the parent of the opposite sex. i did the same thing when i was a kid.
but i ended up shooting my mother, so take that with a grain of salt.
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I'm 19 and I met this woman who is 39 online. We arranged a date at Starbucks for this weekend. She knows that I am virgin and wants to help me with that.
Question : What should I do? Do I bring a gift? Any tips with mature women? Should I bring condoms?
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Bring a diamond necklace.
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>>18036088
Well fuck baka, can you give us more details?
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Just be cool. Bring condoms - no gifts.
You could offer to pay for the coffee, of course.
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I have a few questions to ask about it but if you have additional questions, feel free to ask
Also, it's not limited to men. Should there be any ladies who want to ask anything, ask away.
1. How much is actually too much?
I remember times when i jacked off about 3-4 times a day, all that's done to me at the time was to make me extremely lazy
2. Actual, and useful benefits of not jerking off?
Nofap forums are full of lists of perks and benefits users have had in their attempt to not jack off at all, but frankly, I don't recall feeling any when i had stopped for some time
3. Is there any way for someone to know you jerked off?
Now, i don't mean this as in "you had your dick in your hand and someone walked in"
What I mean is if someone can tell you jerked off by noticing any behavior changes that you yourself can't notice
4. Is there a proper way to schedule something like this?
Was thinking to cut down to about 1 a week
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I'll say no more than once a week, and never to porn.
I didn't have a full blown porn addiction, nor did I masturbate like crazy (averaging only once a day) but my life has been considerably better since cutting it out.
The hardest part is making it through that first week or two, and not giving in - because you'll want to. Not only will you learn a valuable lesson in self control, but you'll really, truly start to feel energetic and like a masculine creature. You'll be eyeing up every girl you see, thinking about what you'd have to do in order to get a piece of her, etc.
It pays off, simply due to how much more outgoing it makes you. The benefits can't be understated - just keep yourself sane by doing it maybe once every week or two, never more.
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>>18036114
I formed the habit of making fantasies similar to porn, as in positions, angles, points of view etc and i just replace them with girls i know. Can that be considered some variant of porn addiction?
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>>18036131
Not a chance. What's in your own head is fine - you'd be hard pressed to get off thinking about unsexy things. There's a big difference in your brain's pleasure receptors and such when you fuel your fantasies with porn - especially the over the top nature of it. Fantasy is cool and fine.
For real though, see if you can go a few weeks without masturbating, and limit yourself to no more than once a week just to take the edge off. Make your priorities life building type stuff, like hitting the gym, socializing, yadda yadda - and don't even think about it. You'll have a lot more energy and ambition to put towards that sort of thing if you're able to break the cycle.
My girlfriend is a porn star and my friends always make fun of me for it. How do I get them to understand she is wife material and to accept her as my fiance? She doesnt cheat she only has sex with other men for her job. Keeps things very professional and ethical.
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>>18036062
0 out of fucking 10.
Not even remotely passable bait.
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>>18036074
No its true if you want post your email and ill send you link to our social media
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Which one? To be honest if it was my mates I would make them feel insecure about how they fuck. Since they are trying to make you feel insecure about your relationship.
I would say things like
>my girl is hotter than yours
>she makes mad cash for her work
>bought me a Rollie the other day
>she gets to have pornstar dick but she still comes back my dick because it's better
If they call her a whore though I have no logical defense for that.
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so I have this fear of any kind of intimacy. I'm a 24 year old male, kind of smart [medical school] and attractive [have heard compliments from girls], some of them that I am chatting with have admitted liking me and wanting to advance to some kind of stronger/further relationship even in an unrealistically formal way due to platonic way of socialising coming from my side. Every time this kind of opportunity comes up, I start avoiding and losing interest, changing behaviour toward somewhat negative. Thus a virgin up to this time, even tho there were quite some times it should have happened [even one night stands]. Don't want to live in this fear, that i have no idea where it is coming from. Could you suggest something? What should I do? Life is further becoming a lonely abyss of this nonempathic socialisation, avoiding special events. Please help, want change, don't know what to do.
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>>18036047
Kind of like a phobia, ya gotta expose yourself to it. Desensitization, if you will. Start slowly by doing a couple of casual dates or outings with people. If it's really bad, tell this to a friend you trust and do "practice dates".
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Im in the same situation as you op so I don't know exactly what to tell you.
How is your self esteem? I've noticed my fear comes from low self esteem. I find it hard to believe that people can be attracted to someone like me so every time someone tries to flirt I think they're just making fun of me.
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>>18036055
going on a date is not a deal breaker, they go quite ok, but losing a topic on which to talk is kind of a bummer, that happens often. you know the things from which you can tell the interest of a person? like laughing from not that funny jokes, a little smile when getting into an eye contact, doing the thing with her hair between the fingers and so on. the thing is that moving from this kind of interaction further somewhere is somewhat impossible for me. what do? even engaging to hold hands.
I'm a 26 year old virgin who up until a month ago never held hands with a girl or went out with a girl or even kissed a girl. Now I have a girlfriend but I can't calm down thinking she will leave me or cheat on me. She's very keen on me and always accommodating me, making herself available to suit me but I still can't stop worrying, how do I calm down or is this inevitable in an initial relationship?
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>>18036005
Sit down and talk to her about it. If you're constantly paranoid about it, and she has no idea why you're acting the way you are (trust me, it'll show at some point), she'll dump your ass.
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>>18036016
This, but remember to emphasize as much as you can that it's a personal issue and not based on her actions. (Unless there is something? Which like >>18036016 said she'll know, just come out with it and tell her you know it's paranoid.)
Also seriously, stop going on here or any other relationship advice places for a long while. You'll see a really disproportionate number of people getting cheated on and it warps your viewpoint if you don't learn to filter it out.
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>>18036016
Yet when I'm around her I become more calm, I feel like her behaviour makes me trust her more because I'm her main focus.
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Is it possible to be with the same person for a long time without them ever getting tempted to cheat? I've had a history of bad relationships and I'm finally in one with a really loving and promising guy, he practically worships me and sees a lot more in me than I do and even then I'm terrified he'll do the same.
I know it's me being paranoid but it really does seem like eventually all guys get led to cheat.
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>>18035972
It's inevitable
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Depends on whether you don't want him to watch porn or not.
Seriously though, I think I've asked my gf to kill me if I ever do that to her; just gotta find someone who really loves you. Has he been cheated on before? Cause that usually tends to stop someone from thinking about doing that.
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>>18035972
Look OP it's human nature to be attracted to other people we aren't meant to be with only one person but if you guys love each other and what not yeah you guys might stay together for a long time or the rest of your lives but you gotta remember it's human nature to be attracted to other people it's the persons will power to not cheat