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When you're depressed, how do you force yourself to get out and do things?
Plz help. So sad.
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>>18033503
Weed, a walk in the park, petting my doge.
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>>18033503
Start with small things. We love and support you.
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Step 1. Look up online guides for dealing with depression that are given out by psychology clinics.
Step 2. Educate yourself on the potential to free yourself from this. Educate yourself on the snowball effect of depression. The less you do with depression, the less the depression makes you want to do. Until you want to do nothing. You must do the opposite of this. Do very little. Then a little more. Then a little more. More. etc.
Step 3. FACT. Exercise is actually as good or even better than taking meds for depression. FACT even something as little as walking for 30 minutes will improve your whole mood the REST OF THE DAY. Even walking is that good. You can walk. So get that walking in.
Step 4- See a doctor for any possible underlying health condition that could be contributing to your depression.Once they are determined make plans to heal them.
Step 5- Get productivity addons and programs off the internet to help you be more productive.
I also advise some mental techniques that I use. Such as reminding myself that "It probably won't be as hard to do as i'm thinking" Taking the first step is always the hardest part. Realize that taking the first step will be way, way less hard than you thought it would be.
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So there's a girl. Good girl, you're great together. She looks up to you, almost even admires you it seems.
You like her as well. There's definitely something about her, and you'd love to love her and take things further.
However, she has a best friend; a guy. She insists that he's just a friend, and even when you don't ask she mentions that occasionally.
>Every time you see her, she brings him up at least once. But he's just a friend.
>The guy's a foreigner, with that "building up a new life" charm to him. So he did, and he succeeded at it pretty well. The only thing he's seemingly missing is a loving girlfriend. But he's just a friend.
>Most of the things you try to impress her with are met with a "wow nice, this best friend does that too" or "yeah, I heard that from this best friend". But he's just a friend.
>He's good looking, and sends a lot of photos to show that off. But he's just a friend.
>He told her "I love you" before, which creeped her out but still was charmed enough by to get him what he wanted. Nothing weird, though. But he's just a friend.
>They text through the night, and he even calls her up through the night even though both have to get up early. But he's just a friend.
>She told me she doesn't take anything seriously and just goes with the flow wherever it takes her. In general, though. But he's just a friend.
>She semi-regularly travels for 5 hours to get to his place, even when he didn't have anything planned other than play some vidya on his own. She even stays over, though they just watched some movies throughout the night with another family member and slept in different rooms. But he's just a friend.
Most of the above details I didn't ask. She added them herself.
Anyway, I don't know. The guy seems perfect, and as an average Joe who only tried all sorts of things once, I have no idea how to top this if someone like that is 'just a friend'. Doesn't seem like he's rejecting her, at least.
Is he just a friend?How can I one-up him for once?
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Steer clear OP
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>>18033483
Ur getting cucked senpai
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>>18033483
If there's anything I learned from a relationship(s) and watching others is theres no such thing as "just a friend" of the opposite sex. And if there is then there better be good evidence to back that claim up...
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Addicted to masturbation 2017-02-09 01:21:07 Post No.18033467
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I have been masturbating daily, for at least seven years, as far as I can remember cause it might as well be longer. Not only that but we're talking about 4 times a day to seven times to ten times a day or more, everyday. I want it to stop.
It doesn't let me do anything, whenever I want to put effort on something I just don't and instead fap, it's instant gratification at zero effort.
This brings me to another problem, I have zero motivation plus zero attention span and I'm starting to believe my heavy addiction to masturbating is part of the problem since I'm used to get instant gratification at no effort, I really don't put effort in anything.
Now I've been two days without masturbating, the most I've been in at least seven years and I'm going nuts, literally I can't think of anything but to grab my junk and stroke it, I find myself unconsciously grabbing my crotch someone please tell me how to avoid it. I've been doing cardio exercises this two days to try to avoid it but it's not enough, apart of exercise what else can one do to stop the craving?
tl;dr I'm seriously cripplingly addicted to masturbation help
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>>18033467
BUmp
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3 times a day for 25 years here.
Started when the preschool class was shown a video called "where did I come from."
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>>18033521
How do I stop?
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which is better, to have a gf or paying hookers?
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>>18033449
depends what you like.
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>>18033450
quality of sex.
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>>18033451
if thats all it takes, then it depends what you can find. if you have the cash its easier just to go through hookers til you find the right one.
i find that flings are better than ether.
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My girlfriend suffers from Bipolar disorder. Recently she's had manic episodes and is in one right now. She became verbally abusive and left to hangout with her friends and blocked me from all forms of communication. I've emailed and called her doctor. We have the confidentiality release form signed for me so I can talk to him about what's going on and he can answer fully. I'm terrified I have no idea what to do last time I told her I was going to go get her she called the cops and only yesterday told them to let me in.
PLEASE HELP I'M SO HELPLESS I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I NEED TO DO. SHE'S A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON RIGHT NOW PLEASE HELP ME
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DUMP
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Seriously though, don't do this to yourself.
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>>18033455
She moved from a different country to be here.. I love her immensely I just wish her doctor would do something.
I left her a voice mail saying if she doesn't sort this out I'm calling her parents and cutting it off.
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Please help
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I'm in an extremely unrelatable situation, but I'm desperate. I figure I'll ask anyway. Any input you have would be good - positive or negative:
>Be me
>Raised in a conservative Christian family
>Had a conscious, 'spiritual experience' at age 16 where it was like god touched my mind
>It was assumedly what drugs would be like; except had not touched any at this point
>Experience is non-empirically-validatable or reproducible, but as a result, am unable to deny the existence of god no matter what
>Even if had a gun to head, could not truthfully deny god's existence
>But don't want to do what he says or wants
>Feel extreme guilt as a result to an unbelievable degree
>Guilt is present 24/7 and is so strong it has affected every area of my life - personal, relational, academic, psychological
>Have lots of talent and success potential, but after years, life is basically unraveling at this point; every waking moment is pain
>Still refuse to surrender
True Christianity is slavery. You have to give up control of your mind, your thoughts, your actions, your everything to what you think 'god' would want.
This includes all life decisions from big ones like relationships, career, etc right down to little ones like what fucking cereal you have in the morning or what media to consume.
You must be ready to drop and forsake everything in your life if you think 'god wants you to do something'.
If you like or relish anything that even 'rivals god', you have to deny it (even people/family).
Incidentally, the religious experience is very fulfilling and emotionally positive, because many of Christianity's tenets are logical (family; community focus, etc). But it still doesn't change the fact that you are ideally supposed to give up all your agency.
cont...
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I'm aware that the Bible is basically an artifact of some random culture in the desert. I'm aware of its shaky origins, internal contradictions, implausibility, etc. But, that internalized 'experience' simply makes it *impossible* for me to deny it.
In Christianity, to have 'seen' god and to still turn away from him is perhaps one of the worst possible things a human can do. It is in another dimension than murder, adultery, etc. The guilt is so strong that it affects my body physically. My life is being ruined; my mind is cracking under the longterm stress. If i give in though, I know all of it will go away instantly. However, I know myself and I know there will be no other possibility than for me to full monty - no 'moderate' business.
Also, if I give in, I'll be forced to do the following:
-Give time, money, and effort to my local church
-Proselytize other people
-Take political action on social issues against homosexuality, abortion, etc
-Have kids and indoctrinate them with the whole thing
...all of which i give zero fucks about. All I want in life is to have some good experiences, make some success, do some good, and then just die. Cease to exist. No heaven, no hell, or whatever eternal bullshit. Just nothing.
But I'm trapped in this belief system, and I can't think of any way to get out - only to give in.
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Believing there is god is not the same as believing in the Christian god.
You are not trapped in christianity, you are trapped in you belief of God. And maaaan... there are so many ways you can believe in god. Some people even kill for it.
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My point is. If god exists, like you felt it, that doesn't mean he is christian or muslim or whatever. It means he is there. So... you are here, what you gonna do?
Did he actually say "Don't have sex before marriage! Give money to church! Work your ass for religion!" or was he just a soothing presence?
Did he demand anything, or was he complete, leaking this completion into you?...
Listen to Him before listening to those that speak for Him.
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thats fine. even if one could prove god exists it doesn't mean that what his 'prophets' wrote in the bible was true.
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Should I study something I know nothing about 2017-02-09 12:57:52 Post No.18033416
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Should I study something I know nothing about
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okay so
I feel like there are so many different things I'd like to study, but lately I have been thinking about programming and digital design. The ultimate dream would be to work on developing games, and I know it seems kind of far fetched as I have no contacts or experience, but it's always been one of the things I wanted to do.
Problem is I don't know 'anything' about programming or design at all and I feel like it's a field where people have been obsessing about it since they were like 7. I have had some inpunt in graphic design, but other than that I'm empty handed. I have always thought that it'd be a bad idea because I would already be so far behind, but then again; wouldn't things be kinda basic to begin with if I chose to study it?
I'm quite smart and my grades are above average, but I'm also aware that it could be tough to study/work with a profession that is so dominated by men.. Especially when this is something I know so little about as of right now (I know there are other girls, but there are so few of them actually choosing to do this). I don't know, I just don't want to be the typical "girl who obviously has no idea what she is doing and she things games are only fun and games", when it's a huge dream to work on creating games and such.
Where/what should I start to prepare myself for if I decide to apply for something like this?
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If you genuinely want to do it, do it.
Take some classes or look up some lessons online or whatever to get a feel and you should know pretty quick whether you want to do it.
And if you do, do it.
There are some people who have been doing it their whole lives.
There's a whole lot more that are fucking clueless.
All that matters is that you want to do it and you try.
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>>18033416
>The ultimate dream would be to work on developing games
i've been programming for a bit over 3 years, worked at some of the biggest software companies in my country, and can't even get my foot in the door with games.
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>>18033416
Just FYI, most game dev shops are basically white collar sweatshops. You'll get paid shit, you'll work too many hours, and you'll be stressed all the time.
Development is one of those fields where if you genuinely enjoy it you could enjoy it working on a video game or a startup's shitty back end or anywhere else. Try to think it through and figure out if you just want to develop games because you think it'll be fun (it won't) or if you're actually interested in being a developer.
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Prison for internet piracy? 2017-02-09 12:54:06 Post No.18033404
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Prison for internet piracy?
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>My brother was on house arrest on suspicion of illegaly downloading games and stuff online.
>I just spoked to him on the phone and he told me his lawyer called to tell him that he should declare guilty before going to trial because it was most likely lost. They will give him 5 years on prison.
Is this legit?? Can they give you 5 years for that??
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Yes, you can go to prison for that.
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It's effectively theft, which you can go to prison for, so yes.
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What types of games was he pirating? Like recent AAA shit or more obscure stuff?
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/adv/, how does working out change the way girls look at me? I'm a skeltal now, but if I get some gains, then how much will my chances increase on a scale of 10?
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>>18033334
-5 you'll only get dudes
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It's not hitting the gym that enhances your chances.
Obviously the beauty factor is a factor, but for women it's like 20% of the factor.
The other 80% is cognitive stuff, behavioral shit. By going to the gym everyday and getting that nice body, you are showing you are a man that goes after what he wants (and gets it), and also you love yourself enough to care for what you eat and the exercise your body needs.
Well... Tl;dr -> it's helpful but it's not the core of the helpfulness (to go to the gym). You can improve your chances doing other self-improvement stuff.
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>>18033351
Can you suggest some anon?
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I've decided to sailthe seven seas. What torrent software and VPN service should I use?
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Use Transmission.
And no VPN because literally nothing will ever happen.
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>>18033422
My uncle got busted for torrenting media. I'm not taking any chances.
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What do I do.
>4 year beautiful relationship
>promise her everything I have and will have
>She now thinks the disputes we have are just drama
>90% of them are about feelings, both mine and hers
>She says shes unhappy with it and just loves the idea of us now, not actually how we are
>be me, nothing left to lose at this point
>no family as they have forsaken me because of my past
>no friends other than mitazapine and whiskey because every waking moment has been dedicated to my "other half"
>no job because the anxiety and depression I have requires treatment
>literally sit around waiting to see this girl every day (as we dont live together anymore) now she wont even talk to me at all
>how do I fucking cope other then drowning in liquor and smoke until she answers me?
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This hits close for me also, I gave this girl everything and I dedicated all my life for my better half. It's quite ironic, that thats the reason why she dumped me, I forgot to take care of myself and my life, when I really just wanted her to be my life. I understand my faults now, but I loved this girl. 4 years together and now its been 2 months since she left and havent looked back at me since. I'm not myself anymore. I have started running and the rest of the day I'm drinking.
Hope it gets better boys, h-hold me
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>>18033325
its very hard to help you in our position. i think what you should do is
get treatment ASAP
try talking to someone. Explain your situation and that you dont have many people to talk to, you must have some people who you can talk to and if not, why not?
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>>18033364
I'm talking regularly to psych and mental health councilors. they are doing their best but I cant help but feel lost and the future is just so bleak.
I dont have anyone who really cares where its necessary. if that makes sense. I was told about the happy place today and the breathing but all I could think about was with her.
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Parents went on vacation, put me in charge of watching the fish, the fish have died within 30 hours. 2017-02-09 12:08:30 Post No.18033304
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Parents went on vacation, put me in charge of watching the fish, the fish have died within 30 hours.
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How do I go about informing this, would it be better to do it right away and look like an unlucky accident. Or pretend it happened on the day before they got here?
Still not sure what happened.
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>>18033304
Ayy lmao.
Buy new fish the day before and explain yourself, that way you kinda own up to your fuck up and you'll get less shit.
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You fuckin' tard. It's time for some comedy movie hijinks. You fucking twelve or something? Am I con camera?
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>>18033319
Ummmm
Not trolling
But my accounts are frozen due to fraud on both account's and they are like $50 a piece.
So I can't switcheroo
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>meet qt
>don't know her that well
>go to same school tho
>have a few conversations
>this semester we get put in different "sections"
>this basically means we don't have any classes together
>add her on facebook to attempt to have more conversation
>she doesn't accept
>check her facebook
>there's a picture posted with another guy
>feel hurt, get that empty drop feeling in stomach as if I was just dumped
what the fuck is wrong with me
it's not even like i'm horrendously ugly, I get laid and stuff
sometimes I just get fuckin' hooked on these random chicks
picture fucking related jesus christ
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>>18033303
it was never about you.
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>>18033305
idk what you mean by this
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>>18033305
>girl never has more than a conversation with you
>she is with another guy
>WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME
it was never about you.
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Prom question. (18 btw)
Would it be better to go with a girl that I'm not really interested in or not go at all? Would I regret not going?
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>>18033247
everyones different. if you got no friends to even hang with, probably best not to go. as for the girl depends what kind of not interested. is she at least a friend or what?
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It's a once in a life-time moment right?
I believe going is a must.
A date though, is something you can have all the time in your life, in different sorts, colors, flavours, and needs. I believe if you DON'T like the person, you shouldn't go with her. But if you do enjoy the person (not just sexually, or yes, just sexually too), I as you, why not?...
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>>18033247
Yea just grab a girl and go. You will have fun. Make sure to get a hotel room somehow.
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"anon do you think my girl has a nice ass?"
what is the appropriate response?
>"yes"
>looks like i have a thing for his girl
>"no"
>offensive to his girl
is this an unwinnable situation? is there a better way to word your response?
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Sure
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>>18033210
if hes your friend just be say yes. if he says 'OH SO YOU HAVE ATHING FOR MY GIRL' without any jest then its his problem not yours.
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>>18033210
I would just answer with why? and judge his response to that, probably end with i'm not falling into your game, stop trying to make me look at your girls ass.