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>>18030274
Mostly, I motivate myself by the fact that I got shit to do. Just get your fat ass outta the chair and be done with it.

>>18030274
Not a goddamn thing because the cycle is irreversible and life is a shit buscuit

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>>18030178
Basic manual labor

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In short, there was nothing particularly special about her. She didn’t come from money or have a determined work ethic. She wasn’t brilliant or an over achiever. She was just a 20 year old girl going through her “I want to travel” stage. Nothing wrong with that, we’ve all been there. Just wanting to explore life and all it has to offer. Form relationships with people without having any kind of obligation to them. Just a free spirit moving along making all kinds of bad decisions.

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Perhaps the most captivating thing about her was the fact that she rarely showed or shared her feelings or emotions. This caused a constant longing for validation from her, which she rarely ever gave. It created a constant desire to pursue her even more in hopes of her opening up and sharing her life and secrets. We are naturally curious and attracted to things we don’t fully understand. And that’s exactly what she was. Her intentions were never clear, never concrete. She could be there for weeks at a time, every day, and then suddenly drop off the map for days at a time. Her explanation for this was “I just don’t like to stay glued to my phone all the time.” Fair enough. But she would constantly post on social media whilst remaining absent. Is there an explanation for this? Perhaps it was nothing.

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At the end of the day, she will be nothing more than another girl. Just another person. You won’t think about her every day or expect a text from her. You won’t anticipate seeing her name glow up on your phone, and you won’t be disappointed when it doesn’t.

>>18029703
>I have no idea what to ask for/show at the barbers.
I think the appropriate phrase is "Just fuck my shit up".

Seriously, I don't think haircuts are "in style" ever, at least not for men. Apart from beards, those are in right now.

>>18029703
A haircut that complements your faceshape is 100% better than any meme trend

>>18029808

This, OP. You have to find something that fits your head/face shape, and a good stylist can help answer that question if you ask them. Like, I look shitty with a basic buzz cut even though the majority of dudes look pretty good with one...just makes my head and face look weird because of how angular my face is, so I need something that softens that a bit.

Go to a good salon that also does men's hair frequently, pay the good money (25 minimum), and get a good haircut...if it's to your liking, take a picture of yourself with that cut, and show it to the stylist every time you go get a haircut.

God speed.

He's gotta get physically attractive. Not the most important, but it's the hook on your line. A year of lifting and eating at calorie deficit should do it, head on to /fit/. Hes going to have to have a job and respectable income. He will also need to hang out with lots of women, get rejected a bunch, and learn the ways of interacting with women. Finally he is going to have to ensure in that time he can make himself appear interesting, as gaming leaderboards, sword collections and information on old film don't make the panties soaked.

>>18029346
Lose the glasses, lose the neckbeard, start working out, and get a tan

>>18029346
Gym, job, funnies, edjuhmuhcation = b*tches

>>18031464
You need to exercise and eat properly. Try losing weight as well. Get 7+ hours of sleep. Optimally 8. Lay low on the carbs. Eat Whole Foods.

I drink about 3 liters of water on a short day, easily 6 if I'm working out in the summer.

Literally go and see a doctor. If you dehydrate yourself you will end up dead. A doctor will be able to administer IV fluids which will keep you alive if you really can't ingest water for whatever reason.

>>18031473
i literally do all that and i usually drink more than enough. this is new

>>18031479
it feels whiny to go to the doc because "i don't want to force myself to drink water"

At this point ask for a work phone or just don't integrate it into your personal one.

Company isn't paying you to check that shit off the clock and they have your phone number if they really need to get ahold of you. At the most effort possible, use a Linux distro and a mail client off there if you need to have access from anywhere that isn't work.

If you own an android phone don't connect it to the work email.

You could probably get away with it if you used a third party email app to receive work related emails and never gave the actual phone your gmail log in.

>>18031462

So using the Gmail app, on an android, and logging in to the email through that is basically fucking retarded and I should stop, right? I can just imagine all my pictures being uploaded to some company drive or something.

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IT field is full of money but it seems most of us lose our love or aren't grand autismo enough to stare at code/terminals 24/7.

Anon, I understand.

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>>18031412
> mfw tried to study premed and burnt out because I'm not a clever man.
> hated the idea of university

> 5 years later
> be scuba instructor and technical diver.
> Be invited by researchers to be part of a dive team/support team to collect samples/explore some reef etc.
> Help out over 2 or so years.
> One of the profs encouraging me to get a degree in bio, and apply for oceanographic institute.
> Doing undergrad biology at 26

Ayy lmao (?)

If you have the money and the energy, go back to school.

I'm 23. I've been in college since I was 17, with one year of break. I do not have a degree. I barely have progress towards a degree. While my issues are more a mental health thing than a mistaken goals thing...I think the point is the same.

Life is too short to spend it not doing what you want to do most. If you hate the idea of spending the rest of your life in IT, don't. If you love the idea of studying some kind of bio, do it.

Yeah, you've sunk money and time into something else. But that's sunk cost, man.

By the time I'm done with my degree I'll have basically paid for at least two. I'll have spent my "best years" either in total misery or too busy to have much fun.
But the promise to myself that one day I'll be doing what I really want to do is the only way I can get up in the morning, face my shitty day job, do heaps of homework, and try my damnedest not to backslide.
It's the only light at the end of this shitty tunnel of a job I hate and a life I didn't expect.

Sorry to make it about me. I'm just saying...doing what you most want to be doing is always the right choice.

There's no such illness as depression. You're just weak ass cunt, with nothing but self pitty thinking the world owes you something. You either get tough or you die or you continue living whining and shitposting. There's so much opportunity today.

>>18031436
I know the world doesn't owe me anything. I feel like I have the life I deserve, even if I hate it. I just seem to have lost the ability to pretend I don't.

>>18031506
Some more of that self pitty, man. Baw, my life sucks, I deserve this kind of life. What the hell are you doing? You don't deserve anything. You only get what you negotiate for. Stop whining and start taking care of yourself.

That sounds nice and thoughtful, and like you're overthinking this.

>>18031271
I'd love it if someone did this for me, personally. It may be slightly intrusive, but I don't think it will matter. A nice get-together is still as far from intrusive as you can get. By the sounds of it, it'll be fun.

How serious are you guys/how long have you been together? Have you or he ever paid this much for a gift before?

>>18031212
Its called conditioning nigger, the skin on your dick is getting tougher coz you rub it to much.

>>18031232
This

Get into more hardcore/ascended tier stuff

>>18031232
So is this a fairly normal thing? I masturbate at most once a day.

Like attracts like. Are you a quality man?

>>18031218
Yeah, I see what you're asking.

I get looks from women all the time--I seem to keep their attention, they blush, laugh, smile, etc.
However, I never get a chance to have personal relationships and conversations with them, as my time with them is limited to work.
I want to have personal, meaningful relationships; mostly with women.

Well, what are you defining as quality?

>>18031188
heres an advice:
leave while you can

I like your wig

Lurk moar

>>18031125
I don't think there is one.

>>18031125
>Everyone depends on each woman, I know that. But what are the universal rules on what they seek on a man?

do you not see a problem with this?

Ultimately anything you can think of that would be universal are universal to every human being, friend, date, girlfriend, mother, father, etc... The only universal rules are those you should apply to everyone, not just the girl you're interested in.

>>18031125
> Everyone depends on each woman, I know that.
Proper grammar for a start.

Also, you answered your own question.

There are no universal rules.


What do men look for anyway?

Sounds like you're just incomparable. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe he is the problem, and not you?
Everyone gets mad, and just because he's mad at you doesn't necessarily mean that it's your fault he's mad. Perhaps, as Doc Cochran said, perhaps he generates his moods himself and then later seeks an excuse for them.

Are they attainable? Not for a typical person, not for the person you want to be. But for who you are now? If we're assuming you're the one at fault here, you need to start smaller. And let him know that you're actually working on this.

But since we don't know anything about your relationship reassess if you are the one at fault, or if you are the only one at fault. Could he react better? Be more patient? You should both work towards improving.

>>18031111
I have no control over what he does, so I can only set my own goals.
I realized that the two things I cannot accomplish that he wants me to/that I need to in order to be happy: "do not expect unnecessary message responses" and "only message when you have something important to say". Both of these are quite impossible for me at this point. I break every time.