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Been in LDR with bf for almost a year. See each other once a month. Landed Internship somewhere relatively close for the summer. Want to see him during the week sometimes and on weekends. Says it's too much and that he likes his independence. He doesn't even like me spending the night because he says he sleeps better alone. Am I really being too much? During the week I suggested stuff like me making dinner, and then something like video games, even if it's separate just physically together. This is my first LDR, and I want to respect his space but for some reason I'm really struggling and it's been a bit painful.

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Hey 4chan. I need some help getting over someone who was very close to me. They had confessed feelings of love for me and I had returned them. However, he was in a relationship and so he picked his partner over me. Fair enough and all, I was okay with that decision. I encouraged it, even.

My issue is my feelings for him haven't gone away and before then he was one of four people I had ever trusted with anything. When I feel like I can't trust someone anymore I get panicked and confused and eventually it leads to masochism. I've ended up punching a brick wall enough times that my knuckles are really bruised.

I'm too scared to talk to people because I can't trust anyone right now. I just need to figure out how to get rid of my feelings for this guy and how I can stop resorting to hurting myself to get this pain out of my system. I've cut this guy out of my life for now so I and he can get over the other but I'm really struggling.

Ask any questions you need. Thanks guys.

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I was binge drinking this weekend. Drank friday night, all day saturday and all day sunday. Had probably 20 beers in total. Am I at risk for a seizure? I can feel I'm getting withdrawals and feel terrible. I'm just worried.

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My partner left me because of lack of feeling for me, is it really possible to lose feelings without a reason? Because i was given none.

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I'm heavily into some weird, uncommon and degenerate kinks. I also don't feel comfortable being intimate with anyone I wouldn't date. So far, I've sided with the monogamous/intimate stuff

How do you work with this though? I do still really want to be a freak in some ways

My friend (into similar stuff; I don't want to give the impression you can talk to friends about this generally...) seems to think I'm either sexually repressed about this/pussy/unrealistic. Any fairness to these points?

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The fact that i recognize it's something wrong somehow makes my condition less worse i think. Can you help me?

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i like this girl but she has a penis, but she looks like a girl 100% and is passable, i dont like penis but shes so cool and likes the same vidya as me and we get along well and shes actually really hot but no vagina, what do? why cant she just be a real girl

do i say fuck it and date her or break it off, we have been friends for 8 months and know each other fairly well, am i gay, i didnt know she was trans when i first met her?

if my friends or family find out ill be fuckin roasted till death but shes like a solid 8 in real-girl standards

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After an event that occured yesterday night I came to the conclussion that I'm an immature guy. I tend to get mad easily without arguments, I sometimes don't know how to take a joke and something that I hate about myself, I don't know what to do when someone "roasts" me or how do you call it, do I turn it back(but I'm not the guy to come with lines) or I ignore it?

I just want to sort these things out because it affects my friendships and relationships. I'm mostly a good guy with friends, but sometimes I do some retarded shit and it backfires

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off

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Is there any way to change your sexuality? I hate the lesbian community and want to one day have children, which is hard for LGBT couples, and I can't stand any other lesbians I've met in the first place.
They all seem to be hardcore left wing, whereas I'm more moderate and I dislike extremists since it seems to verge into illogicality very quickly. The community also seems very angry, and very casual sex focussed.
I don't want any of that. So is it possible to change?

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So according to the internet, the way to get girls is to continually ask them out and face rejection rates of 90 % plus, including being laughed at to my face, given fake phone numbers, being stood up, giving someone a huge ego boost and a smug superiority complex over me, and facing the risk of the girl laughing about the "omg so creepy guy" on social media for all to see.

And the above is only the long shot scenario of women I barely know. The "better" way is to ask out girls in your social circle or friends of friends. So I can be rejected by people I'll see repeatedly, and laughed at and embarrassed by all the people I'll see the most in life.

Or online, where I can be 1 out of hundreds of matches for each women, who, at best, skims off the Chads.

What's the deal? This all sounds crazy. I've never asked out a girl or had attention from one but all this is unrealistic. I have awful social skills but I'm not an autist. I can easily tell that all of this is internet fantasist shit.

The real method is to be a normie and have an instant connection with all other normies. Even extroverted normies have nothing to say to me but when I see normies talk to other normies so effortlessly, it's like seeing someone talk to themselves, it's so damn effortless. This is the only way: being part of the hivemind. Anything else is a life of quiet desperation.

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>I've been dating this girl for 3 months
>She's anti-abortion, anti-contraceptive
>Just came in her 5 times last night

Do I try to talk her into Plan B, or do I just cross my fingers and hope she gets her period next week?

Am I fucked?

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Unemployed. Looking for a job. Recently (a month) single.

Should I wait until I get a job to make an OKC/Tinder?

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Hi /adv/, long time no see. I just want to get your perspective on a situation. Not really advice, as there is no actionable stuff now, just want perspective.

>be on date last night
>i'm a guy she's a girl if that matters
>expensive sushi restaurant, really good, like world-class
>afterwards, we get pretty drunk
>she is mocking me for my pale skin (playfully, I took no offense to it)
>she said that I'm pale because I sit inside all day on the computer (true, I'm in finance)
>this is where I fuck up
>I say "sitting inside working on the computer all day is how I can buy thousand dollar dinners"
>she flips her shit
>starts yelling at me in the streets (we were leaving a bar)
>I immediately recognize that it was a douchey thing to say and apologize profusely (I'm really not that kind of guy, I just thought we were doing banter I guess)
>keeps yelling but eventually calms down
>I am an emotional person and don't really have conflict like that very often, kinda started to tear up a little bit (I know this is a bitch move, I was drunk and the whole conflict was very shocking to me)
>really messed with the tone of the rest of the evening, but we ended up making out, albeit drunkenly, at the end anyway
>she took an uber home late, I texted her saying "hey I had a great time tonight, sorry for the drama, but I really did enjoy dinner and your company and I hope that we can hang out again soon"
>no response

I am not upset, we were not a good fit, but I just want to get some random anonymous opinions of how bad that situation was, scale of 1 to 10.

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I'm a 20 year old neet, I have never worked and I "want" to get a job. But I'm insecure and lazy, I also expect too much from a job, I don't have any real skills so there's not many jobs I can do, in the third world shithole I live in most jobs I could apply to are physical jobs and I'm weak as fuck, I also can't apply to cashier/salesman/waiter because I don't look friendly at all and I'm ugly. I could theoretically apply to a call center, but I don't talk much... I still think it's my best option because I speak english and the pay is the best for someone with skills like me, I still think it would be extremely tiring...

But the problem is that I don't have a "real reason" to get a job, or at least a motivation more than a reason. Unfortunately my parents don't have many problems with me living as a parasite, I don't want to stay like this but at the same time I feel overwhelmed, I feel really sad because I can't do anything. It feels terrible to be at the bottom of society after feeling superior to people when I was at school, now I appreciate more the ammount of effort everyone puts to their lifes everyday.