I'm a 31 M and my girlfriend is 22, we started dating when she was in highschool and we've been together for 4 years. My job pays very well so I was able to pay for a house and a car very early on in my career, and I let her live there with me as she goes to university. However my job requires me to travel between 2 cities, I'm with her for 4 days a week, and gone 3 days.
My gf has a very high sex drive and mine is low, and the lack of sex from my end has been causing friction in our otherwise perfect relationship for some time now. Recently, she cheated on me with a female friend (gf's bi), but it's ok because we talked about this before and I had told her that it was ok if she slept with a girl. But yesterday, she told me she was having feelings for someone else and that we needed to work harder on our relationship.
My gf also has only male friends and had a pretty rough childhood, which as some of my friends have pointed out were major relationship red flags. We're planning a vacation to cuba later in the year to hopefully grow closer again.
What do I do? Is it possible that she's cheating on me? We hardly ever communicate when I'm away because we're both busy, but when we're together things seem fine.
>>18380978
It's like you collect details from old baits to make your own. Come on.
>>18380995
What do you mean?
Should I try to surprise her more by being unpredictable in when I come home, or go through her messages? Idk what to do /adv/
>>18380978
is she cute?
me (18, black not in college or school until fall) and my girlfriend (19, black, started college in march) both got a pink slip for making out in the park after dark. we went to court yesterday (I dressed semi formal, she dressed kinda basic). I got an ACD which is semi good, but my fucking girlfriend got her case dismissed that day without an ACD. what the hell???
>>18380549
bump
>>18380549
Wtf is the pink slip
Why the fuck did you get one for kissing in a park
Also sue
Do guys actually like it when girls have strong passions, interests, opinions?
It seems like a lot of guys complain about girls being uninteresting or shallow, but on the other hand don't really appreciate or care about a woman beyond her sexual availability.
Why would I or anybody care about somebody who all they can offer me is sex because they're so fucking dumb and stupid from marketing & talk like they've sniffed glue for 40+ years BUT still have the audacity to ve treated like a princess
>>18380545
So, yeah. We're inherently just good as a fuckhole, in your opinion.
I don't care about a woman sexually if she has no strong interests or passions or opinions.
So my gf is disgusted by the stickiness of my cum and won't let me shoot it in her mouth, face or even on her chest. Is there a way to ease her into it?
>>18380471
mix yogurt with your cum and offer it to her every morning. Tell her it's the secret to a youthful look.
>>18380471
You secretly feed it to her in her favorite drink or/and meal. Or bill cosby her maybe some Molly up her ass
>>18380471
Don't try to force it, if its that big of a deal and sh4 can't be easily convinced you need a different gf anon. Trust me I've had gfs I forced into stuff like that and they'll just use it against you at some point
How do you find motivation /adv/?
Context:
>be me
>19
>about to drop out of my 1st year at a CS uni
>parents mad af
>gonna have to take the exam all over again this summer
>parents constantly complaining bout my lack of dreams, goals and ambition
>TFW lowkey they are right
>can't find anything to strive for
>just waiting for all of it to end since I can't bring it all to end myself
Have you ever had periods like this? Will I outgrow it or do I just remain an unmotivated fuck forever, /adv/?
You're too comfortable. Once you realize how shitty not having a good job is you'll be motivated.
I'm 27,I have 3 part time jobs so I can have a flexible enough schedule to go to school full time while supporting, myself and paying tuition.
Get it done early so it's not a scramble before 30
>>18380408
this desu.
Give you self a challenge, go to a gym or set some goals somewhere. It's cliche but you really seriously should consider it.
>>18380390
Read Meditations by emperor Marcus Aurelius if you want to find a purpose in life.
http://classics.mit.edu/Antoninus/meditations.html
Is it weird not to use social network ?
I only use the Facebook messaging app, nothing else, no profile, no Snapchat, no Instagram. I just don't find any reasons to use them.
I used to have Snapchat but I kept receiving snaps from people so I deleted it.
Instagram, I never used it.
Facebook profile, I just don't post anything, so i deactivated it.
I'm socially doing fine, I hang out and shit, I talk to girls in bars/clubs... in my daily life I don't talk much you could say, mostly if I have nothing to say.
I haven't had any social media or messaging apps since I was 13. I'm 18 now and the only downsides from it have been
>often not invited to things unless I get specifically into contact with those people over the phone
>girls have asked for my Facebook and look fucking puzzled when I say I don't have one
This has cock blocked me once in the past
>>18380337
Would you use them now because of this ?
>>18380342
Nope. I'll never get any real form of social media.
I have discord and that's as far as I'll go desu
If my friends wanna talk, they have my number
(Posted this in /b/. I'm newfagging hard rn.) Okay /adv/ can you help me? I think my female friend might like me. It wasn't until I spoke to a good friend of mine that I realized she might like me. Let's called her "Mary". She's been in a relationship for a long time and that's the only reason I doubt she has feelings for me.
>Been friends for a year.
>Mary and I became very good friends.
>Messaging each other to this day, outside of college.
>gf wouldn't speak to me because she was an bitch.
>Mary talked to me nearly everyday.
>I had a gf that was a pain in the ass and Mary tried to help me get through it.
>After I broke up with gf, Mary talked to me more.
>Arguably closer now.
What are /adv/'s thoughts?
You're a tool
Thats almost nothing to go on.
>>18380300
No way for us to know. That's not much to go on. You either need to give it a shot or just let it go unless she gives you some irrefutable sign that she's into you, in which case go for it.
I'm 22 and I have never had a stable job. I applied for a comfy at home job working 20 hours a week, and got hired, but I'm thinking about telling them no.
When I was 18 I held a job for a month working at subway. I later quit due to a lot of anxiety and depressive episodes after work. I was always tired. Coworkers kept gossiping, manager would never shut up, frequently got yelled at, feet always hurting, etc. Had another job at a grocery store when I was 16 that only lasted for two weeks. I felt very tired and annoyed by all the customers. This job will be different but the idea still makes me very anxious. I don't know why.
I'm always broke and my mother says I need to start paying rent but I am so scared of working. I feel like shit for never having a stable job in my life. Everyone has money to take a girl out, and buy nice things I can only dream of having. I need to ask my mother for everything. My brothers work and I constantly feel like I am in competition with them. I am the loser of the family.
I guess I'm lazy, I don't know. I'm not a full on NEET because I'm getting my degree online. I am also worried that I will fall behind in my classes. I have a 4.0 GPA since I have nothing else to do. Is 20 hours too much? What do? Take the job or stay broke and mentally stable?
Bump. Need advice please.
Shameless bumpin'
If you take it, it doesn't mean you can't change later.
hi everyone
ive been doing a lot of thinking and ive concluded that a problem in my life is a lack of (or suppressed) masculine aggression. im not talking about violence, just general pushiness; i think a lot of people round here call it 'confidence'
for example, im always thinking of other people whenever i do something. i think about how my actions are going to impact on others and if that would be negative, ie if it would make them feel uncomfortable or scared or whatever. so i guess you could say i value not inducing negative feelings in others over generating positive ones inside myself
how can i change this? how i can re program my mind to be more self centred and less empathic? i feel that this would allow me to pursue my goals more energetically and that this 'aggression' would be better all around (more ability for me, more respect from men and more attraction from women)
basically im just looking for little cognitive, physical and whatever else tricks i can use to really redo my mindset
Become more skilled at your profession
People aren't going to put up with it unless you have something to give in return
And become more physically attractive
You are probably very empathetic and you have trust in people, OP.
I have this problem as well. I find it hard to tell people "fuck off" to their face, or to insist on them doing something which benefits me.
I chose the path of independence and ignoring others, I do everything for myself, and only depend on myself, and if somebody is trying to get in my way - I just ignore them as I can, if I can't I go away. This is not good, I know I need to tell people "Fuck off" sometimes when I just ignore, ignoring seems like a girl behaviour, but I am too busy to explain my reasoning to all stupid people.
Your parents also probably told you to respect other people.
What is comes down to is just having enough friends and experience that you don't care about some assholes feeling and tell it to them, this is confidence (you can only get confident though knowledge of life, this means experience)
I have found pictures of my friends 15 year old daughter smoking weed and posting lewd half naked pictures on instagram should I tell him?
>>18379884
No.
>>18379884
Only about the half naked shit and maybe about the weed if he is open minded. You could also inform her about harm reduction and privacy/cybersecurity anonymously.
>>18379884
Tell her about the dangers of posting pictures on the internet. Whatever you do, don't tell her dad, the only way that can end well is if he doesn't really mind, in which case he doesn't need to know
I've turned to /adv/ for this situation. This girl who I have a crush on, just recently broke up with her boyfriend. They dated for a year and he just ended it with her. Not sure about reasoning, but it happened. This was a few days ago they broke up. Now I'm interested in dating her. She is 19 and I'm 22, do you think age will ruin my chances? I know it's not a big difference, but to her it might be. Also should I give her time before making moves or try to get her tight away? I've heard many answers about waiting, but what should I do in this situation Anons??
>>18379805
hey man keep posting the collection :)
I'm rooting for you!
>>18379811
Ohh hell yeah my dude
>>18379805
age shouldn't be an issue, for her at least, I'm 22 and I prefer girls my age or slightly older, but yeah go for it
>be me: 33/m
>be into her: 31/f
>seems like we've finally clicked, we're talking about traveling together, sex, even living together all the time
>she posts something on her FB page, so I figure I'll mark my territory a little with one of our sort-of inside jokes
>dude i've heard her talk about before as one of her loser friends takes it seriously
>guy spends a good hour flipping out on me for this terrible idea
>i step in and counter most of his flailing arguments
>he gets butthurt and says I've clearly got an obsession with being right
>I tell him to settle down, that I'm just fucking with him
>I'm texting her, "Is this guy seriously this mad?"
>"Oh yeah, that's just like him. Also I told you he was almost an olympic boxer right?"
>"Oh. Uh. No you didn't."
So apparently this guy is a huge beta cuck that probably cruises /leftypol/ and leafposts elsewhere. And is a three-time college dropout... compared to my law practice he's more of a joke.
I'm not going to pretend I don't feel a little challenged. But I see this guy more as an annoyance. How do I deal with this faggot in a useful way? He got *severely* mad at me shitting on him earlier. But of course, if I start turning him into my intellectual whipping boy, she's liable to get upset with me.
Why are you orbiting her instead of making her your gf? Do that, make it official, he'll have to back off.
>>18379737
Would be long-distance is part of the problem. I'm planning on going out to see her and fucking once I settle out the case I'm working right now.
Ha. I wake up this morning and he's replying to everybody who posts on that thread. Holy fuck he's pathetic.
I've recently discovered that I'm not only not as smart as I thought I was, I'm pretty stupid.
How do I cope?
>>18379655
by learning.
>>18379673
But I can't remember anything I learn
>>18379698
then realize that if you literally cannot remember stuff then its not really your fault and delude your self into thinking you are just tragically cursed to be dumb instead of taking actions to improve your self.
I like making shit. So when I got this dead ass tortoise my first thought was I had to make something out of it.
Descrip of the dead ass tortoise.
>Mummified as heck.
>All them legs and head chewed off.
>Someone dun popped a cap in it's ass. Looks like it died before that though.
>It rattles a little when shaken.
>Da shell bits aren't well connected to da, bone bits.
>It's dead. (I think.)
>It's like 9"x7"
So now you know what I'm working with. As far as tools available to me, I don't have a band saw which means no cool cross sections and I don't want to take a hand saw to it. I need ideas other than "Encase in resin" or "throw at [Insert asshats name here]" I would prefer ideas that don't involve expensive materials or tools other than basic hand tools, belt sander, drill, wood lathe, chop saw, table saw. I don't want to break the bank over a dead ass tortoise.
>>18379589
Evil shaman codpiece
Use pig blood for runes
>>18379589
Use its shell as a basis to make a kick-ass figurine of your favourite Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle
>>18379619
I like your brain think, but that's gonna be a huge figure. I don't know if it would be able to fit on my shelf of interesting items.
Hey /adv/, today me and my friend got in to an argument after work. my friend is dating a 16 year old (who in her state isnt the age of consent) whereas he just turned 18 and is legal in his state, and so is she. they've been hitting it off online and i told him it was illegal. he said it wasnt, as they were just texting. /adv/, is my friend grooming someone or is this somehow fucking legal because i'm questioning the fuck out of it. Thanks!
>>18379550
2 years isn't a huge difference, in my opinion. That being said, at 16 I was very naive and got taken advantage of and manipulated multiple times just because I wanted the attention/wanted to be loved.
As long as they are communicating well about what they want, what they're comfortable with, etc. I don't think it's a huge problem tho.
Well as long as it's just through text it's probably ok as long as no nudes are exchanged although if she visits him in his state it would be ok. A two year age difference may not be illegal in her state either because it's so close in age. In my state I think within 4 or 5 years it's ok. I don't think he'd get in legal trouble even if there are nudes because the age difference is so little.
Just let them, if they end up in prision somehow just tell them "lol I told you"