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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2017-06-04 04:59:21 Post No.18383221
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off
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Girls: Do you usually have your phones on you all the time or do you take a fair amount of time away from them? Some girls I talk to reply for a fair bit for an hour or so then disappear and I don't want to send follow ups and seem needy.
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>>18383243
I have it on me, but I don't really keep an eye on it.
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>>18383243
I usually have mine within arm's reach, but it's not like I'm glued to it or anything.
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What's a good way to defeat stress-eating?
I started eating bananas.
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>>18382796
The best way to lose weight and slim down is to work an active job. When you move around a lot your stomach shuts down and the nervous system that controls your muscles takes primary point.
Other than that eat food very low and fat and high in fiber. 2 key meals that can help you are
1. cherios with non-fat milk. (about 200 calories)
2. Non-fat refriend beans by themselves with some salsa or in a tortilla with a tiny bit of cheese. Beans are very filling since they have a good amount of fiber, also they are high in potassium which gives you a big energy boost.
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>>18382796
Smoke a cigarette instead of stress eating.
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well I'm not hungry or horny now.
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How to make someone fall in love with you ? 2017-06-04 01:30:07 Post No.18382535
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How to make someone fall in love with you ?
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I'm saying fall in love literally not "dating kind of love" ... How can I make this happen ??
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They have to be pretty desperate, it actually doesn't have much to do with you at all.
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You can't.
Next question?
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>>18382535
You can't "make" them but a lot of it depends on connecting on an emotional level where they're very vulnerable and fucking them well. Also maintaining your independence but in the end you can't FORCE anyone to fall in love, we're unpredictable.
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/adv/, how do I "get out" more?
I'm a 25 year old male. It's not like I don't do anything--I'm in the gym 3-5 times per week, I occasionally go out for drinks with my roomie, I go buy groceries.
But days like today...it's a beautiful Saturday and I'm sitting on 4chan. I live a ~25 minute drive outside of a large city & don't have a car. I'm basically in an industrial area so there's not a good area here to go for a walk or anything, you know? No good parks nearby. I do occasionally go for a walk but it sucks because I basically just walk down a busy road past warehouses & apartments and don't get to be in nature or anything.
It's depressing because I want to be out doing *something* but I'm just not sure what to do to fill my time. It makes me feel like trash when I just hang out in this apartment on beautiful days like today.
I also don't have really any friends in this city so it's not like I can text someone up & be like "hey wanna meet downtown for a coffee?"
I don't know, anyone have any advice to offer here?
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>>18381147
if there is literally nothing to do where you are then find a mode of transportation into the city. if thats too difficult or takes too much time then thats your own problem then, we can't move the world around you.
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>>18381147
I think the biggest hurdle for you is because you don't own a car which really cripple your ability to get out more. Transportation is important, even if you live in a good city with every single thing available within walking distance, you eventually will have to get out to somewhere further.
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>>18381152
and do what? I kind of feel overwhelmed & anxious when I go into the city, especially if I don't have a reason for being there, you know? Like I feel kind of weird just wandering around.
>>18381163
it definitely is. unfortunately I can't afford one though, and ubers & cabs are expensive.
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I'm gonna cut contacts with my best friend. I can't be with her, I love her and the more time we spend together the more I love her. She's lesbian and can not ever reciprocate feelings I have towards her. She knows about what I feel. We've talked about it and I told her that I will handle it and stay friends with her, that was three weeks ago, I'm in love for more than a year with her. She told me that if I'd came to conclusion that I can no longer see her, it'd be wrecking to her. I am her best friend as well.
She is my only friend though. I don't have anyone but her. When I have her in my life, I feel like I matter to someone. After she'll be gone, there will be nothing. A big gap in my heart, I don't have family, relatives, only friends I have are those who I see at the bar routinely. Just those superficial people we all have in our lives who just came on the scene sometimes.
Never had a gf like her in my life, never even had a friend that I'd be as close as with her in my life. Good friends are hard to come by, but I feel that when she'll find someone, it will be absolutely destructive to me. I'm a mess just like that and I think that seeing her with someone else would just fuck me up for good...why the fuck does the life have to be such a cunt? He showed me literally everything I ever was looking for in a girl and then said - fuck you.
Also I'm frustrated as fuck and need to study but the only thing I can focus on is getting shitface drunk.
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Cut her off. Least for a while Like there is no option because if you could work through shit you would have already.
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>>18379910
Yeah...
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Or at least try to keep things text only for a while.
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GIOYC -- Get It Off Your Chest 2017-06-03 07:05:07 Post No.18379610
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Ask for advice, vent your frustrations, confess your sins, write letters you will never send, let it out /adv/
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Anyone else just feel like they're constantly surrounded by evil people? Like, there is just not a single decent soul left on the planet?
I think the reason why I still had a bit of hope left in me was because I kept telling myself it's just men, but really women are just as bad, if not, worse.
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I've tried to do my best to be a good person, but I feel like there's a couple people's lives that I've either ruined or could have helped. It haunts me every day and shows no sign of slowing down.
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>>18379654
There's good people out there, but being good doesn't make an impression like being evil. Just do the best you can and you'll meet those who do the same
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My girlfriend said it is 'strange' that I keep pictures of my late wife around my house. My wife passed away from cancer about 3 years ago. I got my first girlfriend since then about 2 months ago and she is unhappy with the fact that I still have pictures of her around my house and wants me to remove them. I feel like it's a little unfair and having some pictures of her around isn't unreasonable, it's my house and she hasn't been my girlfriend for that long. I could understand if it was like an ex-girlfriend but I feel like there should be some understanding when it comes from spouses that passed away.
Am I wrong?
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Fuck her. Keep the photos up.
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She's in the wrong, 100%. That said have you moved on? Do you talk about your late-wife often/make comparisons? If your girlfriend feels like she's living in her shadow I could understand where she's coming from. But the issue there isn't about the pictures, it's about trying to compete with the dead.
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These are signs that this woman you are seeing are not going to make you happy in the long run. It's evident she is not empathic about your past or how you feel.
Don't marry this woman, she will bring you grief and regrets in your later years. Have fun with that pussy but plan ahead to be with someone more desirable
Sup /adv/,
I'm 23 and just moved into a place all on my own (no roommates). It's a bachelor pad with a shared washroom/washer and dryer. The place looked okay at first, and I signed a six month lease. After I moved in, though, things became clearer.
I have a son who is almost 2 years old. I was told when I signed the lease this place would be suitable for kids. Turns out, there's a schizo living in the apartment right next to mine and a crackhead bongo artist upstairs. Neither one of them follows the no smoking inside rule. The schizo just got out of the psych ward after 4 months. He sits in his apartment with the door open and mutters to himself in different voices and giggles. It's creepy. Obviously I can't bring my son here.
The shares bathroom was also a mess when I signed, but I was told the tenants would clean it before Io ed in. Surprise, never happened.
The night I moved in and all of this became clear to me I immediately asked for my money back so I could leave. I knew it was breaking lease but under these circumstances I wasn't sure what else to do. After pulling teeth, I managed to get my deposit back, and the landlord promised he'd give me the remainder of the rent once they found a new tenant.
Problem is I need the money I have them in order to afford a new place ASAP. I know I lucked out getting the damage deposit back but this place is not at all what was promised to me. I posted an ad myself and have gotten more responses than the landlord has, and showed the place to a couple of people already. Unlike the landlords I actually cleaned the place and made it somewhat presentable. However I'd much rather just get my money back and be on my way. I've only been here three days. Is there any way to go about this?
I know I'm a retard but I have very little experience in all this.
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>>18384618
You move in. You give the crazy guy lemonade antifreeze and the pot head you call 911 on him for whatever bogus reason u come up with
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>>18384618
what's wrong with finding a 2 bedroom place with a roommate?
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>>18384631
That's probably going to be my next step after this.
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How to stop being jealous on other women? Although I think I'm good looking and other people always told me I am, even other women, I still think of myself as physically less attractive since I have small chest. I can't overcome this jealousy and I find every woman more attractive than me a whore. This is destroying my relationship because I always degrade other women in front of my bf in order to feel superior and I'm even ready to physically harm some woman if I ever catch her talking to my bf in that stupid flirting female devilish way. Porn is another thing that completely destroys my self-esteem and I feel like a worthless piece of shit, severely depressed.
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>>18384604
You have a small chest but do yourife that dick like a cowgirl. You have a small chest but do you let him face fuck you. Maybe you wake him up with your mouth on his dick. Don't let the small chest thing get to you. You make it up in other ways
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>>18384604
You sound deeply insecure. Go to therapy.
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Well first off, don't compare yourself to porn stars. Secondly, there is nothing wrong with having a small chest, plenty of people actually prefer it.
Something that helped me get over internalized misogyny is actually becoming friends with more chicks. If you have a "not like other girls" mentality, stop and go hang out with other girls with similar hobbies to you, and start seeing them as people and not succubus trying to steal your man all the time.
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So I unintentionally fell for someone I've met online. How do I get rid of this feeling?
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>>18384329
Stop talking to them and move on with your life.
Otherwise, try to see if you can turn this into a relationship.
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>>18384329
you get the fuck off the internet
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>>18384339
I stopped talking to them but they are almost constantly on my mind, even when I focus on something else, the moment I finish my task they appear in my thoughts again
It's kinda distracting
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Should i lose my virginity to a prostitute? Is it lame?
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>>18383948
Not lame at all. Hell my own father took me to a prostitute so I could lose mine. Get it over and move on.
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>>18383948
If you are doing it 'because you want to 'rid yourself of virginity' then yes its lame
if you're doing it because you want to fuck, then no it's not lame
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You probably won't be getting your money's worth if it's your first time.
scared of coming out to my mum as trans
tips?
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Come out to your mom as trans
What she gunna do? Beat you?
Probably going to be tough but it will be worth it.
Does she over react? Is she a bigot?
Need more info OP
Discribe your moms personality and how do YOU think she will react?
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Take some low level anti psychotics. If you're still "trans" then we'll talk
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>>18384169
>FtM
Why?
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I'm [23/m] and I have trouble navigating my unwanted Asian fetish 2017-06-04 11:48:39 Post No.18384106
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I'm [23/m] and I have trouble navigating my unwanted Asian fetish
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It is perhaps time to admit to myself that I have a subconscious racial preference towards Asian women. It doesn't manifest itself in watching anime, an unusual interest in Asian culture, or any other aspect other than the fact that I find Asian women more attractive and my history of dating corroborates my preference. I don't like them for stereotypical reasons because I'm a submissive man myself and I prefer dominant women; I like them because their aesthetics somehow appeal to my senses and I end up gravitating around them.
What should I do? Asian fetishism is quite stigmatized where I'm from, but I wouldn't want to hide it from future matches. I suppose the only logical follow-up that I can think of is having a discussion with my potential match about this and ask her opinions on it. I assume she'll feel objectified or replaceable, and it pains me that who I am should hurt anyone, but race is a very sensitive issue in the current political landscape, so hiding it seems unfair.
Anyone has any thoughts/experience about this? Please no bully
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>>18384106
Why would you even bring it up?
It is normal to have preferences, even strong ones. Just date those you prefer, you don't need to make a huge issue about it.
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>>18384106
Sorry bro but you're getting lumped in with the vaguely sexist/racist dudes who want to marry asian women because they're more submissive and demure than westerners.
Just shut up about it
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>>18384112
How can I even keep it a secret though? If she asks me about my previous dates, the past three girlfriends were Asian. Then she'll ask me what's up with that and what should I do? Lie to her all throughout the relationship when it's obvious I'm lying? Same with lying about my dating history--there's no way to keep it a secret without lying, so I thought it's best if I'm upfront about it early in the relationship rather than letting her find out and have an argument later on where I have the lower moral leverage for having kept this from her.
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Go see a specialist they said, you will get better they LIED... 2017-06-04 10:20:56 Post No.18383953
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Go see a specialist they said, you will get better they LIED...
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So I have depression, OCD, social anxiety and probably more than that, also I have thoughts of killing people by running them over with my car or shooting them, and then killing myself.
I was told all of this will be gone or at least I will be able to keep myself in control more if I will see a specialist, and it's actually even worse after ~6 visits.
All this does for me is show me how much of a fuck up I am and my life was, and thus puts me in depressive mode even more. Today I just want to get out and kill people.
I also was taking antidepresants but felt like SHIT physically after them so I said fuck it, I don't have enough stamina to take these shits that may not even help me.
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Godspeed, Anon.
You've popped your programming cap. Manchurian candidate style mind control. You're the false flag Trump will use to declare Marshall Law and suspend habeus corpus in order to round up all the Muslims. This plan has been in the works for some time. The CIA should be real proud.
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>>18383953
consider psychedelic mushrooms and/or LSD with directed therapy
you can rewire your brain to avoid the compulsive thought processes.
Both drugs increase connectivity between areas of the brain that normally don't communicate, and research has shown this is a way to break the repetitive firing of neurons associated with anxiety, depression and obsessive thoughts.
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>>18384009
This is the worst possible advice you could give a mentally unstable person
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I had sex with a prostitute with a condom 2 days ago but now I'm pretty sure I feel my penis burning. I mean it doesn't hurt but I think it's burning and my abdomen kinda is tingling with a slight pain. I'm freaking out. Do I have aids now or what?
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>>18383826
>banging a hooker
Not HIV but most likely a form of herpes and probably even chlamydia based on your symptoms.
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>>18383826
AIDS/HIV doesn't burn and takes months to actually become visible to a test. Also the symptoms aren't that acute in general
You might have a urinary tract infection or the clap.
Go to the Dr.
that being said, go again in a few months to exclude HIV.
Don't fuck hookers without condoms dude
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>>18383829
when does death knock on my door?
>>18383832
i wore a condom.