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ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything 2016-03-22 04:37:01 Post No.16944325
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ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything
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2016-03-22 04:37:01
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical act/moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely. Preferences differ.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
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There is an event I'd like to ask someone to in two weeks. Should I just ask now, or wait until it's closer?
I feel like if I don't make contact I definitely won't be contacted either. I don't know if that matters, though.
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>>16944339
Errr... Why would you wait?
So they can have less time to prepare/more time to make other plans?
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>>16944344
Sorry, I should have given more info.
I asked to hang out recently and got a very generic "I'm busy" answer with no follow up. Just like I'm busy, let's hang later.
So I'm worried asking so soon might be weird? But I guess if it is that just means they aren't into me, which is information is like to know anyway.
I'm thinking seriously about getting in to teaching and/or educational work for children. Part of the reason is because I like kids and I've had some good experiences with volunteer work and part-time jobs along those lines in the past. The other part though is that I feel like it might very well be the best (only, even) way for an introverted weirdo like me to meet the kind of woman I'd consider (and who might possibly consider me) long term relationship or even marriage material: smart, compassionate, gentle, intellectual, nerdy.
Is that an unrealistic hope? Is my head stuck in the clouds? Do a lot of people meet (or make) significant others doing this kind of work?
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I'd say yeah. I'm currently going to uni to become a teacher, and there is a good amount of ladies in my classes. Some aren't really nerdy at least not the kind of nerdy I am, but generally they are nice. Sure some are bitches, but you run into those everywhere.
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>>16944103
Teacher here
DON'T DO IT!!! DON'T STOP STOP STOP!!! IT'S NOT WORTH IT!!!
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>>16944161
B-but anon working with kids makes me feel like I'm not a parasitic piece of shit
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Why wont stores call me back? 2016-03-22 01:32:35 Post No.16943812
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Why wont stores call me back?
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2016-03-22 01:32:35
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I applied like at 3 places last week and never gotten a call back. Does this usually happen or do I just have shitty luck?
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It's you who needs to call them.
Though going in and talking to someone in person is always the best idea.
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>>16943812
It's normal. Either they've got someone and they won't call you back or they get a weeks worth of applications and they pick the one they want.
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>>16943812
Most employers build up a few resumes for a position before hiring. They don't just call back because you came in. Keep trying.
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feeling suicidal... I don't like myself. my depression has caused people to leave me. I don't enjoy anything in life ... can anyone give me reasons to live/make me happy?
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You have FOREVER to be dead, trillions of years you'll be dead. No reason to start ahead of time.
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>>16943493
>I don't like myself.
Maybe you have a flawed idea of who you are? Would be a shitty thing to kill yourself because you don't like something that isn't even there.
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>you don't like yourself
Idfc just become super introspective. Do shit for the experience, by becoming suicidal your framing yourself in someone else. Disappear into the woods for a few days or idk take a week long sailing trip if you're done with being a human then explore other aspects of the world, why waste a life when you could pull a Chris Mccandless and hell maybe someone will write a fucking book about you and kids will know your name long after you actually die thinking about how cool it would be to have your life
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What are the chances someone in a relationship falls in love with someone else?
I know this girl and shes in a long distance relationship. We see often each other, she usually texts me everyday. We laugh a lot and we can talk for hours. She obviously likes to spend time with me and so do I. She also said she likes me.
Is she into me or am I more than a friend to her? Or what does a normal friendship between boy and girl look like?
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45%
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>45%
whatever you do, don't make her cheat.
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>>16943418
she just wants a companion, to get though them lonely nights
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Planned Parenthood(STD testing) 2016-03-21 20:50:46 Post No.16942930
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Planned Parenthood(STD testing)
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2016-03-21 20:50:46
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I think I have a STD and I can't let my mom know. So I was planning on going to a planned parenthood clinic and getting tested. If any of you have been here before please tell me what to expect. Like what is the process like, what do they ask?
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>>16942930
They'll probably do a pelvic exam and tell you if there any obvious red flags they can tell you about right away. Then they'll probably stick a swab up your vag to get a sample of vajoogoo to test. It'll take about a week for the results to be in. If they call later than a week/never call it's probably good news but follow up to be sure. If they call back sooner then it's probably bad news
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>>16942930
And they'll ask general stuff... How long you've been sexually active, how many partners you've had, when you think you contracted the STD, stuff about your period
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>>16942944
When can they schedule you're next abortion.....you know the norm.
You could always just go to a normal gyn for a far higher quality of service.
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How do stay motivated?
I simply don't prepare for tests or exams if I'm sad. Thoughts on dropping, constantly watching anime, playing vidya and rotting in parents basement are weirdly tempting. Completely spoilt brat, yeah. Though shit is persisting. It doesn't wear off for two years. And I can't fight it when it's particularly strong.
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Stop being a fucking fagot and just do ur work. When u see that ur gonna live in streets and starve in the future cause ur a lazy bum and did nothing during the "preparation stages" of life, you will see how much of a fagot you were.
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>>16949792
I try this way of motivation, but I am so disgustingly bored with life in some moments.
Wishing I could fall asleep and never wake up.
It's fucking shameful and ungrateful, but I keep dreaming about it.
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Once you get in a position where you have to drop out of college, change majors, or can't get imployment, you'd do anything to go back to where you are now to do work you absolutely hate, and actually enjoy it.
It's a very real outcome you will likely experience.
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ok, i need a reality check
>dating bf for 6 months
>he has a close female friend that he regularly sees
>they only do stuff on their own
>he once showed me something on his phone and a message from her popped up. there where kisses and hearts
>he has random selfies of her on his phone (he showed me one)
>he goes to her house and uses the sauna there - WITH her
>he once low key told me that she is his ex
>i suggested that she joins us when we went out as a group so i could get to know her but she refused (as he said, i don't actually know if he even asked)
>on the other hand he has cancelled plans with her to see me
>he is very nonchalant about the whole thing
>he doesn't act secretive about her but isn't very open either
>he seems to not see ANYTHING wrong with being so close friends with an ex
>otherwise he is the best bf ever, no complaints
what do? i am on a wild ride between wanting to stab the bitch and feeling like i am paranoid and they really are just friends.
to make things 100% worse, i am extremely awkward. i can't bring myself to just talk to him about the fact that she makes me uncomfortable.
pls adv... i urgently need somebody to just talk to me about the issue. he's currently with her and i am not feeling well at all. in fact, feel like utter shit.
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Yeah he's fucking her on the side. 99% probability (I pulled that statistic out of my ass). But really.
Even if he's NOT fucking her, he obviously has so little regard for your feelings that he refuses to treat you well. Do you really want to be with a man who "doesn't see a problem" with being in a sauna with his ex girlfriend AND he doesn't bring the ex around to allay your fears?
A man who isn't hiding shit would just bring her around and the two of you could talk about the fact that they are using the sauna together... why? because that's how people act when they give a shit about their partner's feelings.
the fact that he's cancelled plans too? my god woman you gotta run, run now before you get absolutely shat on.
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You're allowed to be uncomfortable about this, and it's perfectly reasonable. You should talk to him and tell him straight what you feel and why. If he continues to act like this, he's not only acting shady, but he's also disregarding your feelings.
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>>16949734
>the fact that he's cancelled plans too?
Not OP, but he cancelled plans with his ex to see OP
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Where do pure dominant women like Esdeath-sama exist? Advice on finding one goes here
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Love and finding a partner for you is difficult, and mostly a game of chance. The absolute best advice I can give you, is that if YOU find a woman attractive, go and speak to her, and you will know if she is right for you.
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can you describe what you mean without using fictional characters?
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>>16949424
Domineering personalty where she likes to take charge of activities and is fiercely loyal
>>16949423
I know the majority of women aren't dominant and that's what I want though
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So my boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago and I was devastated, it wasn't ugly or anything, he said it was him not having enough time to spend with me and that he's going through a rough patch in his life (mainly financial).
I think I can make him understand that we can have something special, because I do love him and most of our time were happy and enjoyable times.
He still wants to be friends and we're having coffee in a week to sort everything out.
So I read up online on what to do and the "no contact rule" came up.
I started yesterday and this morning he texted me, "Are you feeling okay, Anon? I'm worried about you." I didn't respond so like an hour ago he sent me a message on facebook asking if I got his text.
Should I let him know that I'm okay? I'm not sure if I should make an exception for the rule just to let him know I'm not depressed or anything.
I /am/ going to a big even on Saturday, hoping to take some pictures and upload them to facebook that way he'll know I'm doing okay.
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....fucking yes are you seriously asking this question?, just because he broke up with you doesn't mean he doesn't want to be a part of your live or if you matter to him or not, and this no contact rule did you read that in a fucking how to deal with a break-up site?
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>>16949348
I read about it on a "how to get your ex back" website... it's about not letting it turn into a friendship. You're supposed to have zero contact with them for a month so the dust settles but I'm gonna see him next week... I really want him to stay with me... I'm really desperate but I don't want him to see that
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Do you know anyone who has done this and it worked out? I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago but I still text her every day.
Oh and you should totally tell him you're fine. He's just gonna think you want nothing to do with him and he's going to move on.
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Tomorrow I might do speed for the first time, but I haven't tried a drug like that before.
So I wanna ask, how dangerous is speed, and assuming I'm not a fuckup that overdoses it a shit ton tomorrow, how will it be?
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Why do you want to try it?
It can be highly addictive, it can cause MANY health problems, and it tends to make you act like a crazier, stupider, meaner version of yourself. I've never seen someone's life get better on this shit. Stick to weed, moderate amounts of alcohol, and the occasional psychedelic when you really want an "experience"
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>>16949127
Neat name for a drug.
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>>16949136
Disregard this faggot.
Speed on its own is boring and won't do much to you. Do it on a night out while drinking with your buds.
Check erowid instead of /adv/ next time
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My mom is 42, Im 19, and my stepfather is 36.
She has been married to him for almost a year, and as time passed I started to develop feelings for him. I know its super fucking strange but I feel helplessly in love with him and even though he treats my mom good, I can kind of sense it may be mutual... (ie. we cuddle very close on the couch and I sit on his lap a lot and can feel him getting excited)
I've tried to tell my mom that I think I might have a crush on him and she just plays it off like I'm just a fucking kid and its cute or something... she'll just laugh it off right in front of my face.
I have told my boyfriend, and at first he said some really racist things (stepfather is black, we are white) but now he is just constantly upset with everything I do but he is desperate to make things work. However, ever since I caught feelings our "sex" usually just ends up with him going down on me.
I like my bf, and I'd like to keep him around because he is a sweet friend but I know I'm hurting him tremendously.
I'm just so confused about what to do here... I honestly can picture myself having babies with mu stepfather but I feel trapped... like there is far too much at stake. But the heart wants what it wants? What now?
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>>16949017
OP is another cuck troll
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The heart wants what it wants is weak shit quoted by people who need an excuse to rape children.
What you're doing is dangerous for everyone and yourself. It's not going to work out between you and him, long term. Just isn't. I've thrown good relationships away for very intense (but likely temporary) feelings before and it's never a good idea.
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>>16949017
>Let's play a game: How many lives can one girl ruin just by getting horny?
I'm a virgin and I have a fleshlight. Typically I need only about 3 or 4 minutes to cum, but there are also moments I need less. Now I'm insecure if I would have my first time I would also not last long enough. How can I get to the point to last longer? Can I use this toy to increase my stamina?
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We should have a betting pool on how long you last when/if you do the real thing. I put the over/under at 75 seconds.
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I have a flashlight and a girlfriend and I thought I was in the same boat but most of the time I can't finish with my gf so she'll use the flashlight on me to finish
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>>16949014
I'm gonna go the other way. I'm gonna bet he gets nervous and has trouble maintaining an erection, and doesn't cum at all
in fact I'll go double-or-nothing that he attempts to fake an orgasm
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My girlfriend of four years or so won't have sex with me anymore, she claims that I'm the most satisfying lover she has ever had and that it's her depression that's causing it but I don't know what to fucking do I'm as supportive and as nice as I can be regarding her depression the problem is that it's making me fantasize about my ex (whom would have sex with me very often) pretty regularly. It's been months now and she rejects all my advances. We are about to get a home together again so I can't just throw my hands up and say fuck it because that'll just ruin her life and I can't do that to her.
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>>16948981
Perhaps counseling is in order. Hurting someone for the sake of your own pleasure is a big no-no so make sure those thoughts stay as thoughts. She needs therapy and for you to stick with her through it. Hell, even offer to go to the therapy sessions with her.
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>>16948995
Oh yeah absolutely, I won't cheat on her, I never have and never will although she has cheated on me twice before.
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Major red flag. She's cheating on you.
It's been a long time, /adv/
The backstory: About a year ago, I started casually dating a girl. The relationship evolved, we moved in, etc. Now she's pregnant. I'm 23 years old and she's 19.
Now. I recently came into about $20,000 in inheritance. I've not yet shared this with her because, despite our time together and the fact that I do care for her, I really don't want to spend the rest of my life with her.
We're having a kid now though. And despite how much I'd like to start a new life, now I can't. All of me is saying to stay in it, share the money, and give the kid the best two-parent life I can. I/We might not always be happy but it's probably for the best.
I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for. Advice/commentary/anything. I just need some sort of feedback on what others think of this.
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I wouldn't parent the kid. I would do ANYTHING to get out of it.
How far along is she? Can you talk her out of it?
What would happen if you were honest with her about how you feel?
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Once you have a child, you're pretty much fucked. You only have the choice if you ruin your own life by staying with her, or ruining hers and the child's by breaking up.
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She's about two months in though she's adamant about keeping it whether I'm there or not which leaves me with two scenarios.
1. Leave and be a deadbeat dad. (Technically I'll be paying child support but in the child's eyes, they won't have a father)
or
2. Accept my fate. I'm a fatalist at heart and though I wish things were different, this is what I've done and this is what I'll deal with.
If I spoke honestly about all this to her, the reception wouldn't be too warm. I'm sure the outcome would be much like option #1.