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>>16944977

Its like this for everyone dude.

You arent an accountant and you arent lame. Money will be tight.

Its not so much you cant handle your money as it is wealth disparity. Wages too low for cost of living and what not. Go check out what rent was compared to average income in the 70s.

This really isnt your fault. Get angry and vote.

Also cut the booze.

Also wife and i make 100k a year together. This isnt angry butthurt talking. This is been there and educated in poli sci talking.

>>16944987
I feel like I should at least be able to figure out how much money I have an allocate it appropriately. I figure that out and then it all vanishes before I move it to each thing it was allocated to. If I broke even, okay, but I'm not even hitting what I plan out, which usually has surplus.

>>16944997
For that you need a spreadsheet.

Track every penny you spend for awhile.
See how it adds up.

Do you pack lunches to take to work? Smokers?

Do you shop at expensive grocery stores?
Seemingly small allowable personal purchases?(that game on steam you wanted on sale for 10 dollars).

>>16944940

Casually work into an unrelated conversation that you would rather get married later for whatever your reasons are. Make sure he knows you mean it, but also say is casually enough that he doesn't worry.

just say yes, and be engaged until whenever you're ready to be married.

engagement is like a reservation of the girl, it was invented since males are simple, a ring on the girls' finger is like a sign intended for the guys that says "do not fuck"

>>16944940
>but recently when we talk about that he has been vague and secretive about timelines
So you think he's going to propose? Jesus christ, women are so delusional. It's just as likely that he's thinking of dumping you if that's all you're going off of.

http://skidrowbulimic.blogspot.com/2016/01/trams-doll_1.html?m=1

>>16944888
What are you doing wrong? Fuck, how about everything.

Nobody is interested in you and that's all you write about. that's the problem.

If you wrote about topics that other people were interested in, commonly called 'common interests', then maybe someone would pause to look at your blog and make a comment.

But all you write about is:
- how fucked up you are
- how fucked up your life is
- fucked up depressing snippets of you and your life

The perception I get, of you, is you're an overweight or extremely underweight girl (or even TG) who has a ravaged face and ravaged ugly body (ravaged by fat or not enough weight). You are mentally ill and unable to function within or engage with the real world.

So. Get out of fucking special snow flake preservation zone and join the real world. Get ride of the piercings or whatever ugly body mods you've got and get a job. Meet people. Smile at them. Let them talk to you and you may just find your life is fucked because you're the one fucking it over.

Just you.

If you've had a hard life then go and use that experience to help others. Otherwise stop seeking the attention and sympathy you don't deserve.

No you know why you've got no followers and not even one comment.

>>16944865
Stuff like this happens all the time just make sure she doesn't tell anyone

>>16944865
Stuff like this does happen all the time
But people get v& all the time too

So the question is;

Do you feel lucky, punk?

Its only wrong if you get caught

>>16944861
It was always a thought in the back of my mind with the others i have met, but i never felt a connection like this with any of them.

cant exactly give you advice if i dont know what went wrong in the first relationship..

>>16944869
Long story short, it turned into a entirely physical relationship on her end, only wanting the D, then she claimed rape when we went south, and fucked my friends and then started humping the neighbor, who turned out to be her ex, and i just never knew, and no one ever said anything. If you desire more ill go into it, but I honestly just dont feel like typing it all out.
I lost my screen caps of it when i went to a new comp or i would post them and make life easy for you and i.

>>16944831
>should i tell his therapist?
what are you 12, secondly like his therapist would actually listen to you, if anything that sort of behavior may even cause a therapist with a sense of humor to inception him out of being your friend. But who am i kidding you are just some nosy asshole up in someone elses business so why the hell would you listen to me ?

>>16944852
Thanks for the warning, friend. I have a diagnosis of my own. I didn't feel comfortable doing that in my imagination.

I just hate to see him think he has aspergers and not know what to do with himself. That's not me being an asshole.

>>16944852
>>16944855
I guess I should try bring it to him next time he's asking me for help with it.

>>16944824

>>16944847

1,260 lesbian vs 1,147 according to good reads & good reads has most every book
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>>16944810
Go to uni

I'm not very smart and last time I was too depressed to get out of bed. I never made it to class in the morning. And I had no friends, no purpose.

>>16944828
I can't actually help you but this is where I am now. I miss classes even with plenty of sleep because I just don't get out of bed. No motivation. No friends.

>>16944748
Prostitution

>>16944748
>dosh
>apartment

You mean flat.

male:
> making apps

female:
> making apps
> camwhoring

I suppose it would be too much to ask, for you to go outside

You try to find out why you obsess over somebody that clearly doesn't think you are bf material. You try to find out why she thinks you aren't. Then you ponder hard over this and make APPROPRIATE changes. Usually it boils down to low self-worth.

>>16944740
Don't get involved.

>>16944780
Deep. Not OP but I appreciate this comment. Having a hard time moving past a casual fuck that didn't want more, and this made things slot into place. Thanks

You're still in an ok position, just follow up with a call and explain you're interested in her but seriously, and not in a way where you might take advantage of her depression

You cried yourself to sleep over a chick? You need to get mentally tougher and not give a fuck.

>>16944744
It's an exaggeration/figure of speech. I felt like an absolute fucking retard though, that part is true.

I'm at a similar place in life and I'm considering becoming a CNC operator/programmer. I was great at programming in high school and I like to build things. Apparently those jobs are in pretty huge demand and they pay well. Same goes for OTR truckers, but that comes with a specific lifestyle. I've also considered welding and locksmithing.

Also how much more am I limited if I only have 2k saved up and can't drive?

>>16944766
A lot. 2k is okay for backup savings but having a reliable vehicle and the ability to drive is pretty important, unless you happen to find a job on a quick bus route. Are you currently working full time? I'm at a dead end restaurant job working 40-60 hours per week and I can afford my own apartment. If you're with your parents still, try saving something like $400 a month and once you have a comfortable cushion, buy a craigslist beater car.

>>16944704
keep yourself busy with other things
don't let yourself be alone

>>16944704

Exercise. Find something to do other than masturbate. Most men masturbate before bed cause it gets them tired enough to fall asleep, replace that with push-ups, or read a book till you doze off. That's how I got off it.

You're just being a prude. You don't have any drive or motivation anyway.

Just let it go. It's like you're trying to bring up drama where there doesn't need to be any.

Let it rest. Does it affect your relationship in any way? What would the benefit be of telling her?
I know the feel. I'm all for honesty and not keeping secrets. I know how it van make you feel separated from one another. But those things have a place and a time. You don't seem to be ready to tell her, so don't force it. Maybe one day you will tell her and you both laugh over it. But now doesn't seem to be the right time. She want's to spend the rest of her life with you. If you hooked up with a milf once should NOT have that much of an impact. There should be enough cushioning of things she values about you to not make her rethink her decision over something so small and unimportant. Tell her when you feel ready.

>>16944682
What happened before you met does not count. Don't ask her about her past and don't tell her about yours.

>>16944660
he was acting more normal today. i didn't see him in person, but through text.

lately he has been yelling at me more, that's why i feel lke he might break up wih me and ive been expecting the worse. on our anniversary, he seemed really unhappy andi kept asking him why, he said he wasjust tired. then eventualy on the car ride home he snapped and screamed at me in a way that was scary.

he said he wouldn't let it affect us the night before after i finally got him to talk to me, but im scared it will lead to break up, and it feels like theres nothing i can do. he says he trusts me and he knows id never do anything, but he was hysterical crying, and i can sympathize bc i probably wouldn't wanna be with him if he kissed someone else in the one year time frame of us being together either. but idk. i just feel so awful. id just for once want this to work out between us....

>>16944664
you both sound completely toxic.

even in your clearly edited version of these events, i can see how crazy and jealous you are.

and i can also see that he's the same way.

get one of your friends to kiss him or something. an eye for an eye. you guys sound just petty enough for something like that to work.

>>16944672
i am pretty jealous over him, its true. im trying to not be like that anymore, you know?

i mean i wouldn't call how he feels about what happened jealousy. he probably feels betrayed. but i think hes overreacting because i broke up with him, i could have done a lot worse, most girls wouldn't tell him-part of me wishes i never told him...

and no that would never work ha. mybe he is jealous. idk. he seems mad/jealous when i was ordering my food from the waitor wen we went out to eat and stuff like that. maybe its just me but i feel like he was and does idk