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Relaxed anons, how do I loosen up? How do I stop being a control freak and trying to have power that I obviously don't have over everything around me?
How do you get over the fear of letting go entirely?
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I recommend this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Power_of_Now
Should be able to find a torrent or a copy at a used bookstore. Basically rehashed Buddhism but it really puts things into perspective.
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Alan Watts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Qptyt0-S9U
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Take LSD
Not even kidding.
Part of the trip is the ego death.
Where your identity stops mattering.
It's been shown to help PTSD. Surely it'll help you
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Say it, give your best advice 2016-03-21 23:23:39 Post No.16943386
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I want to try something new:
>give your best advice about anything that changed your life in a preferaly big or maybe small way.
it should be things that people don't even question about. something that you found out by accident, that is just a realy handy tip in your day to day life.
or it could be "note-to-self" stuff about stupid shit you did.
whatever be creative, this is 4chan, do what thy wants.
Your Fortune: 4chan/adv/
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don't go to 4chan
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/thread
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goddamnit fuck you 4chan. I thought this could work
uuuh
is there a way to bounce back from this
an episode of HIMYM had me feeling extra passionate
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Only in learning from the mistake and never doing this again.
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this is my ex btw
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>>16943357
+1 for Windows Phone.
Yeah you can bounce back, as a friend. Women's attraction to men is like a light switch, on or off. THey aren't attracted to their friends.
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Please help me /adv/
I think I am slowly losing the ability to converse. The more I talk to people the more I feel like I cannot think about anything else than memes. I try to keep up the conversation with interesting or relevant stuff, but it always ends in me thinking about memes. Whenever I see or hear something that resembles a meme I just feel like mentioning the meme itself. My closest friends are familiar with most of the memes but I know that if I bring up something closely related to memes I will just sound stupid. What should I do to stop my obsession with cancer stuff that only me and other random faggots on the internet find funny?
plz help fast
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>>16943352
>What should I do to stop my obsession with cancer stuff that only me and other random faggots on the internet find funny?
Spend less time on the fucking internet?
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>>16943352
Why don't you get off 4chan and the rest of this craphole Internet.
"I can only think in memes".
What the fuck is it with these 1st world problems?
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>>16943352
So spend less time obessing over memes and your mind will find new things to consider, and eventually discuss with others.
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Does it matter that I'll never know if any of her feelings were genuine? 2016-03-21 23:11:26 Post No.16943343
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Does it matter that I'll never know if any of her feelings were genuine?
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I could write pages and pages about this, so I'll try to keep it realtively short. A few years ago the closest thing I've had to a relationship ended. She was my housemate's ex-girlfriend and I've always been very private/defensive, so for these reasons I tried to keep my distance from her. But she was so insistent in trying to get to know me, and seemed desperate that I like her. And over time I did - she became my closest friend, the only person I felt I could be completely myself around. We eventually started hooking up, and things were perfect for me. It was the summer holidays after uni, we were talking every day, and I finally admitted to myself just how much I liked her. Then out of the blue she started fucking a guy she'd met on vacation, and told me we wouldn't be hooking up again in the new year.
Obviously I got angry/emotional, and demanded all sorts of explanations from her. At first she gave me the usual "You'll meet someone much better than me..." shit, but eventually she said that she just didn't have those sorts of feelings for me and never would. I couldn't reconcile that with the way she'd been acting (i.e. making the first move all the time, acting crazy over me) so I demanded to know if it had all just been to get back at my housemate, and she denied it outright. However, later on that year when the dust had settled a bit she did hook up with him again, it ended again, and she eventually met another guy who she's been with since.
It's been 3 years and I've asked her not to contact me again so that should be that, but I just don't feel any closure over the situation and it still fucks with me today. She answered all my questions, and I still have no idea which bits were truth and which were lies. I still have no idea whether she ever felt anything for me or if it was all an act. How can I stop being so affected by this situation?
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That's the thing with closure, she answered all your questions but you still don't feel good about it. You meet so few people that this one had a more significant impact on your life than it normally would. I think she probably told you the truth, she didn't feel the same way and besides she was never your gf. Not to beat a dead horse but if you would of asked her to be your gf you might of known sooner. You still hooked up so you're better off than a lot of posters here. How to forget about her? It's been three years dog, meet some new people, you'll never know if you were a rebound or not and after all this time what does it matter?
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I can relate to your story and here's what i learned
closure is a lie, you can't get closure
understanding women is impossible
in my situation i tried to contact her months later asking dumb questions seeking 'closure' and it did not even help at all. You will not get the answers you want
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>>16943582
This.
Also, even if you do get answers, you won't know whether to believe any of it or not.
Later you'll come to a more balanced acceptance. It fades with time.
Pls /adv/ tell me a rly cute way to ask a girl out to prom through text. I'm rly in need of this.
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'hey bby wanna go prom? x'
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Asking in person is way cuter.
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>>16943348
I knoww
But she's leaving for this week and spring break so I won't be able see her and prom is right after.
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I got a girl's number on the train earlier after she noticed my top and we started talking
WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO? Do I just say hi? Ask her out for coffee straight away? She was p cute, help me adv
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>>16943329
Dude, there are like 1000000 steps, you think we can go through every one?
"Hi, I have to build a car from scratch. Wat do?"
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You were given the number for exactly one purpose: to call her with an invitation to do something fun. Coffee can be fun if you have a nice conversation, or you get the cups to-go and walk around together. Or you can invite her to a more structured activity. The point is that the number is meant for making plans. Everything else you could use it for happens while you're enjoying those plans together.
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>>16943329
Call her and continue the conversation you were having for a bit and then ask her out.
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Moving to boyfriend's state 2016-03-21 23:04:01 Post No.16943321
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This goes to anyone who has moved before, and especially anons who've moved to a different state within the US. And maybe I wanted to vent a little. Sorry if jumbled. Will tl;dr at the end
I'm gonna do it someday. Finally gonna do it. Can't stand the distance. LDRs never work. The money I have will never be enough but at least it's something (as of this writing and after a time frame of 6~ months of saving, I have a little over $2000 USD. Dem retail wages). My boyfriend lives in Arizona and I live in Pennsylvania. Can't stand the distance anymore. Currently because of daylight savings time we get even less time together, since we've got a time difference of three hours now. This translates into two hours or less with each other every day, as I like to go to bed at a certain time to be able to wake up at 6am (I like to get my sleep since I don't/can't take naps).
Realistically what am I looking at? What do I have to chance once my tires roll onto the AZ border? I know I have to change a bunch of stuff regarding my car, such as registration, insurance, liscence plate, driver's license and emission test. But what else?
My plan is to keep working at my current job (I work at a major retailer where I can simply transfer to a different facility after a period of time). Once I've worked there at least six months I can transfer. Then I just want to get in my car and go. Throw in all my important belongings and just go.
Help? Advice? Warnings? I've never moved before on my own.
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>want to move to my boyfriend
>he lives in AZ I live in PA
>how do I prepare?
>what do I need to know?
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>>16943321
You guys will break up within 2 months of you moving.
Good luck w/that.
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Wait, is long distance the only thing your relationship has ever known? If so you're totally fucking retarded for considering this.
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If it happens, it happens. My mind isn't focused on a thought like that. We always fix/mend ourselves and we never stay mad at each other for long.
If we fall apart, at least I wouldn't be in my boring rural state anymore. The only good thing about PA is it's beautiful springs, summers, and autumns. I have no close ties with anyone here, not even family.
>be me
>meet 10/10 asian chick
>realize you are way to beta to have a chance
>talk for about a week
>she strait up tells me she likes me
>thrown back af
>start dating for a few months
>gets pretty neat
>she just stops talking to me all of the sudden
>i dont know what i did
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100% chance she was not 10/10.
And you probably did something, you just don't know what it was.
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>10/10
Bullshit. Probably closer to a 4 or a 5.
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Did you fuck her? Also, didn't she become progressively colder before dropping you off? It would be too weird if she didn't imo
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Is it pathetic to jack off to photos of your ex? We broke up a year and a half ago and I'm still on a dry spell. I broke up with her, but the way I handled it for the first few months was like I was the one who got dumped.
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>>16943240
nigga there are a million
billion
trillion other things fap-worthy, and you choose your ex?
what the fuck is wrong with you?
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>>16943240
Its pretty pathetic to jack off when you are lonely, the fact that they are pictures of your ex makes it worse.
Stop looking at pictures of your ex, delete all of them that you have, stop jacking off to pictures and put some effort into meeting women, you will stop feeling lonely and you will stop your cycle of feeling shit.
The only pictures you should have of your ex are any mega important ones you can't help her being in like a prom photo or at someone else's wedding that you like to see pictures of, delete all of the others.
Just remember that YOU dumped her for a reason.
Source: I dumped my exgf of 5 years 16 months ago but I was able to man up after dumping her because I'm not a beta faggot.
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>>16943259
Cause I was in that, but you can't say the same with porn stars
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You're right. I'll just have to persevere; I'm pretty autistic so I've had 0 romantic prospects in this whole year and a half
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Should I go through with 23 and Me? 2016-03-21 22:24:15 Post No.16943214
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Should I go through with 23 and Me?
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I suffer from ADHD and none of the current FDA approved medicine can treat my condition thus I'm seeking alternatives and my life is at a halt right now. If I were to gets parts of my DNA sequenced by 23 and Me it could allow me to quickly and effectively treat my condition through supplements, meds, and Nootropics. I'm very concerned with what will happen with my data, I.e. being sold to insurance companies, advertising companies, government angencies, etc. Does anybody know of an effective alternative for DNA sequencing to treat my ADHD that won't sell away my data? Will it even matter if I use 23 and Me since when gene data is relevant entities could get your data just from a family member? I'm really conflicted with 23 and Me aiding in my treatment and my privacy
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If you feel like this could be beneficial, what could actually happen if your data got into someone else's hands?
What could they do with it that would impact you? Because I assume the answer is "absolutely nothing"
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>>16943220
For example, let's say black women over 40 have an increased risk at developing breast cancer, insurance companies could raise the cost of insurance for all black women over 40 based on this genetic occurrence
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>>16943214
As long as you don't mind Jewish lizard people sequencing your DNA to create new neurodegenerative preservatives in your Cheetos and 7 Up, go for it!
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I need some quick advice. Snooped through my bf's phone, found some videos and pictures of him having sex with his ex (while they were still in a relationship, I can tell by his facial hair length). Is this dump worthy? Do all guys in relationships hold on to their ex's naked photos/videos? It looks like he recorded it recently from his cellphone off a computer screen.
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>>16943210
>why were you snooping
>porn of ex while they were in a relationship
>Should I dump him
Nah, he should dump you.
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>>16943210
I hold on to old nudes/videos as trophies and for dry spells. When I'm with someone new, there's no reason for me to go back to those. There's also no reason for me to delete them.
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>>16943221
He left it behind and I got curious.
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When does the anxiety go away? 2016-03-21 22:14:24 Post No.16943189
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When does the anxiety go away?
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I just started dating for the first time in my late 20's, and I feel anxious all the time. I can't sleep or concentrate from worrying. Is this normal? Does it mean I don't like the other person, or is it just my own mental hangups?
Meeting this person is a terrifying feeling, like falling off a cliff, but with some enjoyable moments. I keep having the urge to run away from dating. I tried asking my one friend, but she said she enjoys seeing her significant other, so I feel abnormal. I can't pinpoint anything wrong with the relationship, but I don't feel right either. Do I just need to wait it out?
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I don't think the anxiety is normal but I had the same thing and it went away with time and experience so yea just push threw it
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If you just started dating, of course you're going to be nervous.
It's normal, don't worry about it. With practice it goes away.
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>>16943200
How long might it take? It's been about a month. If I don't feel wild about the guy yet, am I wasting his time?
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Where do I meet a girl like this?
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>>16943182
That gym she's standing in, apparently.
>he said, knowing full well that gyms are kryptonite to 4channers
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>>16943187
>didn't he realize that on 4chan the board /fit/ contains full guide how to be obsessed with healthy life style and is full of other fitizens.
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>>16943187
Yea that exceeds my limitations.
>be me, male 19
>friend of mine invites all of her friends to sleepover
>invites me, the only one male
>13:1 ratio
>going to a town, 1h away our city, home alone and full of food
>everybody is bringin booze and weed
>18-20 is the age of all grills
>i know 6 of them, really hot college typical rich girls, the homeowner included (her birthday)
>being realistic i can fuck one of them if i want, but don't know how
wat do? no fear
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>>being realistic i can fuck one of them if i want, but don't know how
nah man they think you're gay
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>>16943197
This desu. If she invited you to a literally all-girl sleepover she thinks of you as a girl.
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>>16943197
That's an interesting point. They see you as completely non threatening, either gay or up to your neck in the friend zone.