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Your immune system needs you to touch dirty things. By doing all this you are becoming more susceptible to illnesses , germs and it will be harder for your immune system to fight off.

>>16943696
OCD alert!
Try a psychologist or a therapist, they help with such compulsions ;)

>>16943714
But at least i'm not touching oily keyboard and mouse and can grip them properly

>>16943642

Not very likely. Humans are social animals.

May sound girly, but find something creative to do, long term. Like an online course of drawing or learning another language. Maybe write a screenplay, read or pick up acting. Or you can learn to cook or do some sport.

Long story short just find some hobbies and don´t stay out of touch.

And there may be some local communities too...

>>16943657
Yeah I should probably look in to some local clubs or something.

The other thing is this place is kind of a stepping stone. I shouldnt be here longer than a year and a half. So Im trying to think of it just as temporary. I want to just work on myself for now.

If I do well at work, I can move to any big city I want to.

Drugs are good only the first 5 times, and then you realize what they're doing. Drugs are confusing. The fix everything, but after a while begin to take everything away. Hey begin to consume you m8. Relationships with others as well as yourself begin to fade. Your focus is stuck on only one thing. After a while, when you're coming down of your high, you become depressed. Then it feels like the high is reality and the normalities are your mind's distortions of the world. Soon, life turns into just getting that next fix, which then becomes your life support. Just barely keeping you intact. You'll get in a cycle. You're already viewing sleep as beginning another horrible day. When you do drugs, you'll end up viewing highs as beginning a whole new state of self worthlessness and hatred. You'll do anything to escape the nightmare you've created. You'll know what it's like to both love and hate something that is so beautiful and yet so repulsive. Don't do drugs.

Watch anime

>>16943627
try cannabis before you turn to drugs, anon
it works for me

>>16943617
It's not a joke, shit's real.

>>16943617
It's a joke because she thinks you're gay

>>16943617

It's a joke because you're both retarded.

Have you ruled out more practical reasons like height difference or sweatiness? Otherwise, she may just see holding hands as a bit immature. Ask her.

>>16943608

Goddamnit that quote is depressing, thanks anon. Taking all I have to not go crack open a bottle of booze to that one.

>>16943916
Yeah mate we are relatively the same hight and I don't sweat in my hands, I thought it might be that she is getting attached all be it that she is moving away at the end of the month

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>>16943591
Well, you can stop being such a self pitying shit about it.

Once you've a accomplished that, realise that you have it backwards. That a relationship would be more trouble to you than to the other person, and that while you wouldn't be lonely you most likely also wouldn't be happy.

If you live your own life your own way you can achieve contentment quite easily. Compromise with another person is way too much of a hassle.

>>16943591

>18
>gonna spend the rest of your life alone
>on average has about 57 years to live

Yeah buddy, go live in the mountains and be a hermit and whine some more. Maybe you'll grow up in a few years.

>>16943632
I considered it an option believe it or not, however, I really understand that human beings are social by nature and have needs of their peers to have psychological stability, but I find it impossible to have a chance with the girls, if you knew me better would understand, anyway thanks for your advice

>>16943577
>Be nice
>Don't be creepy nice
>Don't be a dick
>Don't be creepy levels of anti-dick
>Smile
>Don't force a smile
ah I'm just trying to sound smart you'll do fine, friend, I've never been on a date myself. Although if stuff goes well, maybe I might go on one in less than two weeks? Who knows. I do have the tendency to suck. You don't seem to suck OP, so you go out there and be non-sucky.
It'll be fine and after that date you will have quality greentexts to post. Big hug.

>>16943630
thanks

but im pretty anxious and nervous

>>16943630
What does creepy levels of anti dick mean?

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>>16943547
Depends on what you need it for and what you'll be putting in it. I work in an office and I only have a notebook and a few pens, so a canvas briefcase suits my needs.

>>16943547
a man should have someone that carrys his shit for him, as he is too busy manning to be bothered with such things

http://www.offworlddesigns.com/bag-of-holding-engineer-bag/

This is what I've been using recently. Not the cheapest bag I've ever used, but it works great.

>>16943517
Cont.


These aren't teenage girls. The girls that laughed at me are almost mid 30's.

When I got home and was alone, I cried so hard. I don't know why. I was bullied badly as a preteen/teenager by girls just like this. I guess it just brang up a lot of emotion. I even visited my mom in the morning and cried in her arms.

I have never done anything terrible to my boyfriend's family. I always try to match everything they do to me with a smile. It just feels hopeless now.

I don't know what to do because my boyfriend's older family (parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents) like me and always invite me to their parties, and they get offended if I don't.

My boyfriend's male cousins say they have learned to never bring their girlfriends to family things because they know all their female cousins gang up on them. I just don't know what I should do. My boyfriend wants me there. He's had ongoing feuds with family and he just says it'd mean a lot to him to just go and stand up to them and just persevere through it. I'm at the point where I am so frustrated and embarrassed, I can't even look anyone in the eye. What do?

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>>16943517

>So, my boyfriend and I are in our mid 20s

This is the main issue here. The fact that your boyfriend doesn't stand up for you is very sad.

You let them walk all over you and so does he.

The only true thing you can say about people is that they will treat you how you teach them to treat you.

The fact of the matter is when someone slights you or does something out of line you need to confront them then and there, and if your boyfriend refuses to have your back then you need to find a new boyfriend because you can't spend your life with someone that feels comfortable standing by silently while you are bullied and insulted.

Its unacceptable, and its no way to live.

Stand up for yourself. It doesn't matter if it makes a scene, it doesn't matter if you don't get invited back. Show them that you have your dignity and you refuse to be their verbal punching bag.

If your boyfriend won't support you in this then you have a really shitty boyfriend. It doesn't matter if it is his family, you deserve better.

What the actual fuck.
Are you dating a baboon?

Honestly senpai bullying dynamics are the same ages 5 to 95. Being passive actually does not work. Next time you need to stand up and either start screaming bloody murder or you need to go for the neck. It'l look better if both you and guy go for your guns at the same time.

Don't think you can do that? Stop going.

Calm the fuck down. 25 is still considered young. And my fit 20 year old manager (im 20 too) is dating a 30 year old. It's quite common for women to prefer older more mature men, take advantage of that and go for the younger ones.

You had a reality attack.
You saw things as they are.

You want to fix it?
Well you can't fix the world.
But you can fix yourself.

Hit the gym.
Not even fucking kidding.
Go to the gym 3 times a week.

And you'll feel like a million bucks.
You'll see muscles come in.
You'll flex in the mirror before shower and see yourself strong.

Then you'll begin to accept that women might want you.
Because it's true, they will.

You have a job, yeah?
Then you're good.

Job+gym=Woman catnip.

If you're not into social groups, join OKCupid or Tinder or something.
Find a girl who fits your interests.
Being fit will make her want you.

And let me tell you, the look a girl gives you when she finds you attractive?
Jesus, bottle it and cure depression.

Also, going to the gym feeds itself.
The more you go, the more you want to.
Your body releases endorphins when you work out.
Endorphins=Endo morphines=Interior morphine

Girl here (26), and I know the feeling. It happens to everyone, just for different reasons (health, job problems, no normal guys above my age who are nice and single/without too many issues)...

Just don´t worry. Guys can take more time than girls in these things.

Anyway maybe try to find new people in a college/university, workshops or generally somewhere else than only bars and such? (Although some events might have even normal people there ;))

If he's going to have sex either way it way as well be safe sex.

>>16943484
He's going to have sex anyways. He's not going to go abstinent if his brother doesn't give him condoms. Be glad he's practicing safe sex.

Tell him to buy his own.

Embarrassment over what? The past?

The past doesn't exist anymore, it lives on in fading and contradictory memories tainted by your present attitudes and biases. You are literally worrying about nothing, and worse, you are wasting the present moment doing so.

>>16943481
I truly do understand this.

But all my distance relatives or friends just have that embarrassing image of me. I can't bare to face some of them.

>>16943504

What happened? Did you do something awful, get caught masturbating, or were you just a weird kid?

Get into government. $40k starting, barely do anything most of the time. Look into the non-police branches like DOT.

a minority of jobs require algebra or anything beyond it. your deficiency mainly limits your options thorough education you won't be able to get because math.

>>16943462

>Minority of jobs require algebra

I don't believe you.

i would continue, and then throw in the "we should go for some food " line.
>she says NO you play it off - "thats would be crazy"
>she says YES, job done

>>16943463
That's the sort of thing you should ask in person.

>>16943467
....this is why you get a girls number....tip for the future.

but seeing as this is a prom thing....man you at high school...just ask the damn girl

The person you think you are is miles away from the person most people experience when they interact with you.

>>16943449
Does this have to do with narcissism?

>>16943460

It can go either way, from the person who thinks they're the shit to the person who thinks they're a piece of shit.