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1. Yes
2. It's not

Sometimes

>>16945276
>all women are the same
>all rough sex is the same
>all porn is the same

If those were true your question would make sense.

>>16945254
What do you want advice on? How to be self-confident?

>>16945272
I wanted to get everything out but some advice would be helpful
I don't know

pretty sure this board is filled with these kind of posts

>>16945285
yeye its is of course, and ya know its pretty funny when you see all the same whining about social life and stuff and ya know I am just like BRUH GO SEE A THERAPIST THATS ALL YOU CAN FUCKING DO.
At least I am a manipulating person annnddd soo I know what people want to hear from you and what can them make to like you finally, so maybe I can tell you some things about it what you have to be aware of, and the other stuff will go on its own.

>>16945230
yes, it's a scam.

>>16945230

nope nope nope nope nope

send him the address and phone number to whatever the people who enforce scams/fraud are in your country..make up weird name...and there you go

>>16945216
>he shot himself in front of his girlfriend.
I'd be mad at him too, he already sounds like a manipulative, dramatic asshole.

Best thing to realize is that your anger has absolutely zero impact on him at this point. A lot of times we hang onto anger and hatred because of a subliminal idea that it somehow hurts the person we want to hurt, but it doesn't, it's really just hurting yourself. And if he's the dramatic douche he appears to be that's what he would have wanted. Your best revenge is also the best thing for you - forget him and be happy.

Get counselling..or therapy.. Whatever.

Men are said to hold things in but IMHO women are much less capable of speaking about deeply troubling issues.

Try to think that the seed was in when his parents passed. It was just a matter of time. I think this is a good of way to think about everyone, so chill with people and be supportive.

>>16945231
>Your best revenge is also the best thing for you - forget him and be happy.
I don't want revenge, I don't want to forget him, and since he has been in my life for over 20 years I doubt I ever will.

I feel mad because he hurt his girlfriend, mostly, and my family and his friends in a way that I will never be able to explain. I am mad at him because he didn't ask for help. I a mad at myself because I couldn't do anything, I didn't notice anything.

>>16945237
>Get counselling..or therapy.. Whatever.
I am getting therapy. I feel a bit better, but I am still stuck.

It's kind of impossible to stop dogs from barking if they want to bark, really.

Or at least I've never been able to stop mine.

>>16945187
Don't leave them outside at 8 am?

>>16945188
Oh, people do that?

Then yeah they're rude.

Is that like social anxiety?

>>16945158
No. I have little trouble talking to strangers, but living with my roommates makes me more and more stressed as time goes on.

What do you avoid in particular?

Come on adv don't fail me now

It ends whatever you decide for it to end, it's your choice.

Maybe you will get together with second woman and live happily ever after.

Maybe your passion for second woman will fade and you will decide to keep first girl.

Maybe you'll cheat and lose both.

Also, keep in mind that if you get together with woman No.2, there is also the possibility that you may become bored with her as well after 5 years. You know, once you really get to know her and the initial infatuation and mystery fades.

>>16945210

Yea the grass is always greener. I'm afraid she won't be who I thought she was and I regret my decision.

One thing is that I was never really passionate for my gf. I think I was lonely. I don't carry her in my heart, don't surprise her with nice things, wait till last day to get her gifts for holidays etc.. I do love you and care about her. The intense heartache she'd feel if I ended it is something I couldn't bear inflicting on her

>Are you in crisis? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at +1 (800) 273-8255.
/adv/ isn't your therapist. We also are not a suicide hotline.

>>16945052
Those things never work trust me they never understand the situations people are in or even care really what's the point in calling those stupid places.

>>16945061
And you thought 4chan would care more? I don't see the logic. How is an anonymous imageboard known for being cruel to others going to care more than a suicide prevention hotline?

Come to terms with your deep seated insecurity. Establish trust, goodwill and eventually transparency in your relationship.

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>>16945010
>boyfriend

Set yourself on fire

>>16945019
how do i come to terms with them? I've been struggling with insecurities from past relationships for years. How do I stop feeling like I'm not good enough and then reflecting that onto my partner?

>>16944933
Bumpin'

I'm not a man but there's lots of advice here such as getting a different condom size. Do u normally cum during fapping?http://www.steadyhealth.com/topics/having-sex-for-the-first-time-couldnt-cum

>>16944933
>fucking emotions
This has nothing to do with emotions.
Stop fapping and phisically abusing your penis while doing so.

>>16944900
It is called the practice of carefully choosing some fashion style, manners of talking, behaviors, and so on with the goal of improving how you're perceived by others

How I got out of my awkward teen years.

>>16944900
Protective camouflage

Facebook is everyone's personal shrine to themselves. Simply posting pictures of your family doesn't necessarily mean that family is important to you, only that you want to show it off.

>>16944905
>Simply posting pictures of your family doesn't necessarily mean that family is important to you
Why the heck would you post something that is not important to you? Would a person who doesn't like Taylor Swift share pictures of her on Facebook?
>only that you want to show it off
I don't think so. The Anglo expats here seem obsessed with their kids. And their wives too, considering that they like to post pictures of their family with their wives in it as well. This English teacher I had likes to talk about his kid all the time even when it is irrelevant as fuck and bringing his kid to school events that are obviously unintended for toddlers.

Whites are generally all about their immediate family, but wider family is ignored. 'Family' to non-whites can include several generations, and cousins, second cousins, and more distant relations

>>16944850
Impossible to say. We don't know what any of the four people are looking for, and that's crucial information.

Relationships are designed to fill needs. If they fill the needs of both people, they tend to last.

So you've gotta ask yourself - what are the needs of the four people in your question, and can their respective partners fill them?

>>16944907
Well almost everyone on /adv/ said that a relationship with someone with young kids will lead to misery even if it does work out and almost everyone on /adv/ said that an age gap that is too big is unlikely to work out.

depends on the case

>>16944839
Go after what you want.

That's really the only difference, when you get down to it.

>>16944839
By throwing out simplistic and immature terms like "Alpha male" and "Beta male".

>>16944853
This is a pretty good advise, if when you understand what "get down to it" means.
Example: If a girl isn't interested in you, then move instantly on. Because why should you bother for her? She denied you, you can't get her, search for a new girl.
This behavior needs self-confidence, courage any many other characteristics too.

>>16944458
Honestly, go see a therapist. I'm not sure that you're depressed, but with this level of indifference (if I am to derive that correctly based on your description) should be something you talk about with a professional. It could also just be you need a change of scenery. It doesn't seem like you're too interested in your surroundings.

>>16944526
No. He should go to a psychiatrist, not a therapist. It's clearly a psychiatric disorder we're talking about here (most likely major depression).

I'm bipolar and I had very similar symptoms as you. I didn't even realize that I suffered from depressive episodes because I thought having depression is the same thing as just feeling depressed.
What you describe sounds a lot like a case of clinical depression at the very least, so go to a psychiatrist and tell them everything.

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