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leave a note telling somebody where you're going in case you get shanked or whatever. seriously.

>>16944561
You could ask to meet at a public location. Maybe bring a friend. Make sure the device turns on before you pay for it.

>>16944561
It's probably stolen. Much more likely someone stole it and wants a quick dollar than someone using a psp as bait for their blood lust vampire rituals, you're not lucky enough to find anything that interesting.

I hope this is bait. Really dude?
I love my bf to bits, but when i'm horny and he's not around i watch all sorts of stuff. Get over it. It's just her (weird) fetish.

>>16944522
What would make you more comfortable about her fetish?

>>16944539
Oh, and to add:
You could make vids like that for her too. I tend to get turned on the most when something about a guy reminds me of my bf cause it's more "relatable".

>>16944492
one in the hand is worth 2 in the bush.

>>16944492
What type of future do you forsee with the long distance girl?

Bruh, stick with the long distance. Don't simply jump because of a new chick pops up.

Think anon. What exactly does that say about the worth of your long distance relationship if you just leave?

>>16944476
It's an AAS yeah I know. I'm doing something similar but desu I already was working in it when I went to get something more formal.

What I mean is, at least the way I see it, is that college and education are really only there to reinforce what you're already interested in and are doing on your own.

It's why the people who succeed are usually the ones that are already doing shit beforehand(self taught programmers, tinkerers, artists, etc)

I dunno, in the end your success is on you. Make music or don't because you and I damn well know how many "musicians" are on soundcloud and how many get into it any day and if you can't even beat the bottom of the barrel then really, what are you doing?

>>16944485
and don't give me that "MUH DEPRESSION" bullshit because we can pull out all the people who attribute their musical success to it.

>>16944489
What do they teach you?

>starts lifting
>is considering self help

it IS a fucking gateway drug, next thing you know you'll want to "inspire" people with your generic bullshit.

It's just people writing stuff down that they think helped them on a personal level. Aslong as you don't see them as guides you have to follow religiously but instead take one or two things with you that peaked your interest you're good. Look at it like you see /adv/. Juat a bunch of other idiots that think they have the secret to everything. Everybody knows stuff about a topic that you don't know yet and that might be helpfull for your own happiness/success/wellbeing. Sometimes it's things you aready do/know, but seeing it written out and in order is helpfull at times. It helps to make some room in your brain cause you know you can always go back and read up on it again if you feel confused. Just give it a try. Don't pick a book just becausr it's hyped. Find one that catches your eye. For me, i have to really think that thw author is somebody i want advice from. If an ugly fat old lady tries to tell me about how i can have the best body ever i'm going to be sceptical. Or if a new-age guru tries to tell me that all i need is love i'm not going to read that. Be picky. It's as if you can choose from a wide range of "mentors", willing to let you in a bit on their thoughts. Nothing more. It's as if you have a long and intense talk with a friend. They might have a point but aren't always right.

>>16944527
Helpful, thanks.

Helium

>>16944472
Pick some form of exercise, running or lifting or swimming or trecking or riding or something.

Do it untill you puke.

Everyday for a week.

It's less painful than killing yourself.

You will most likely feel slightly better, good enough to move on to fixing your shitty brain, which is causing you pain for no logical reason.

Dude, don't kill yourself. Life gets better I promise. I know I sound like one of those faggot liars that just says that, but seriously senpai, you can make it better. No one can help you but yourself. For realz tho, you'll get through this (:

Don't beat yourself up over it (figuratively or literally). Relapses happen. There really isn't anything quite like that endorphin rush and feeling of release from cutting, so even while you may know it's not cool, the urge to do it can be pretty powerful. Sounds like you have chronic stressors and then the acute stressor of your camera bag going missing was the straw that broke the camel's back. You're reverting to destructive ways of coping because your regular ways are insufficient, and in the past, the cutting seemed to get you through.

How deep are the cuts? If it looks like you might need stitches, you should go to the ER or a doc in the next 12-24 hours if you can. Otherwise just keep them loosely covered so they stay clean, and monitor them for signs of infection (warmth, swelling, pus).

Here comes the part you may not want to hear. Consider seeing a therapist. Campus counselors may or may not be able to help you long term, but maybe stop by and see one anyway. They can help you figure out if you should see a regular psychologist or not.

Whether you decide to see a counselor or not, you must do whatever you can to reduce sources of stress in your life. Even if it seems impossible, at least try. If there's a class you can get away with dropping or sloughing off in, do it. If you have a friend who's always getting on your nerves, ditch them.

At the very least, you need a support system, people you can turn to when shit goes downhill. Friends, parents, siblings. If you can't turn to any of those people, then you should definitely find a counselor, because humans aren't made to bear shittons of stress all by themselves. Yeah there's a lot to be said for manning up and dealing with life, and college is a good place to do that. But cutting is a sign that you're mentally overloaded. There's nothing wrong with asking for help, so do it.

I hope things get better for you OP, I used to cut in college too from the stress. Shitsux.

>>16944464
If you want a girlfriend, let me give you some advice and tell you there's nothing more unattractive in a man for a woman to know that he cuts himself either for attention or out of emasculation. My advice? Fucking. Stop. Now.

>>16944499
This.

Plus.... not just unattractive to women but unattractive to everyone.

No employer is going to consider a cutter or special snowflake for a real job that pays good money. They see you as unreliable and unstable.

Likewise friends see someone who cuts as weird and they avoid getting you involved in their normal activities, worried you'll flip out or hurt yourself over some minor meaningless drama.

Cut yoUr Nonsense ouT.

>>16944456
Just the one you're sticking in her. Godspeed OP.

Don't eat anything heavy.
Poop and pee everything out before.
Stretch!
Have water, towels and wipes ready.
It's lower than you think.
Bring condoms and wear them.

>>16944456
Never verbally ask her for anything, just do it. Never ask to change positions, and for the love of god do not let her take control in bed.

I have to take a shower before I go to bed here. I'll be back to check your replies in 15 or so.

You need help. Seek therapy or support groups in your area. Do you have a friend or family member that you trust that can hold on to your paychecks and your debit/credit cards?

You may feel that this is how your life will be forever, but it doesn't have to be. You are almost halfway in changing things around - knowing you have a problem. You don't have to wait until you hit your rock bottom to start to make a change in your life. The next steps will be hard, but you can fucking do it. You need support and not people in your life to enable your habit and take advantage of it.

>>16944452
It feels impossible but people obviously come through. Thanks for your encouragement.

I think part of the fear comes from having been laughed at and ridiculed to my face by these men and taking it politely and laughing along with them (which made it only funnier for them) because I was afraid they'd stop. I was afraid they'd stop taking my money. That is so humiliating I cannot describe it.

>>16944405
send them a cease and de-cyst order

or see a doctor and stop asking 4chan for advice that requires a medical license

>>16944413
Kek

But I've already seen a doctor for 3 years with no results and more treatments than I can count, I am asking if people have found anything through their own experiences.

>>16944405
in general, cysts come back if they've been drained but the sac remained in there. if you dermatologist wasn't properly removing them, you had a shit dermatologist.

I wonder the same. ;-;
>bump

>>16944400
Maybe if you had sex you'd know.

>>16944400
Lack of emotional attachment and/or high libido.

>>16944369
Do what you want. It seems this specific girl has lots of cons. You've already had 4 or 5 chances.
Another will come and then you will too.

>>16944390
Ayyy

>>16944369
your problem is that you re being too picky about what you see in a girl, I can honestly say that looks don't make the relationship.
you need to be accepting of other peoples intrests/personalitys and shit.

It's not strange in my opinion, especially if it's a fat woman who smells like a bag of SICK.

I'm sick of these fat moaning holes, they need razors stropped on their fucking blubber, they need their teeth hammered out, whores, voids.

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>>16944367
I usually smile and say hello, all cute and alpha like. Pic totes related.

>>16944355
Whoa chill, its just a car and money.

7.5 is heaps for a car anyway if you're talking dollars, just get a second hand one.

>>16944366
Without a car I can't keep going to my shit job. I've tried looking for a week solid and everything is marked up 10k and beyond so it literally doesn't matter where I look, that's the baseline. As of now I have 3k. I'm pretty sure my insurance will come through but the third party holding my car may be holding it hostage because they don't like that I took out my speakers from said wrecked car. They're after market so it shouldn't be any of their business.

>>16944376
shit happens. be glad you're not crippled from the accident.

>>16944296
Did you or your partner do it?

Probably they are bored in the relationship

Do more stuff together and make it exciting, if their attention is going to another person then you should try to put more effort into making your partner feel wanted, excited, ect ect.

I am a man in a relationship with the woman I am going to marry. We've bought a house together because of a particularly good deal coming up through family - it's that serious.

I've been away from her for a month, and she has been distant in terms of communication because she is very busy. I don't blame her. I love her and think she's perfect. But I struggle with depression, and it's never been as bad as it is right now.

I've started talking to another couple of girls to pierce through the loneliness and pain. If, in this situation, I met another girl who was great i might develop a crush for emotional support reasons. That's one scenario.


If you're simply asking why you have a crush on someone else while in a good relationship:

because A. you're human and B. you aren't entirely fulfilled in your relationship.

Talk to your partner.

>>16944384
Do I tell them I have a crush? It's stupid. I don't see this person and we only communicate through Facebook because they live on the other side of the country.