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Just don´t play any games. Being overly eager isn´t the best (spamming), but it´s MUCH better than leaving her to wait for a text just because someone thinks some rules apply.
Not texting her might actually make her uncomfortable too ;)

And take her as you would any other girl. 10/10 doesn´t have to do anything with her personality, treat her like a person, not a manequin and you should be fine

>>16943976
>I later texted her Barman vs. Superman and she said she was game.
>I asked a 10/10 hot chick out for Friday

Did you have tickets you ordered in advance? Are you talking about next Friday?

Because going for opening night of one of the most anticipated movies of the year seems a bit.. ambitious...

>Do I text her at all during the in between time?
Do what you would normally do.

>Do I act differently because she's really hot?
No.

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>>16943976
Don't force it. If you have something interesting to say to her or need something then by all means do it, since it can only help. However, if you don't, then you're better off not saying anything at all.

Hopefully you are missing on some sort of important detail on the meetup, like you haven't agreed on a set time, you don't know where she lives, etc. This will give you something to talk about, even if it's all that you say and the conversation does not go on for more than three texts or so.

>Do I act differently because she's really hot?
No, but if bringing it up to her at some point beforehand will ease your mind then I would do it. You could say something like how you're surprised that she's meeting you here because you thought she was a little out of your league in a way. This is, assuming, that this is a romantic sort of date and you should also consider the (although unlikely) possibility that isn't romantic.

If you have real chemistry then you should be fine. If you feel that something it's p, then say something about it to her, but don't give her the impression that you do not like being around her. Don't give her the idea that somethings up, and if you say something that could potentially give her that idea then make sure that you are calm beforehand.

I don't know if you are awkward when it comes to physical stuff (handholding, hugging, etc.), but if you are then keep your mouth shut and just calm yourself down. If you feel awkward, it's only because you are overthinking it because you are overthinking it and allowing yourself to feel awkward. I don't know if this applies to you, though.

The most important thing is to just enjoy the moment.

I'm an 18 year old guy if you feel this is important to know in some way.

>>16943944

Women don't like guys who can't drive, it's pretty simple. Women like guys that have something to offer - and honestly, you should feel the same about women. I wouldn't date a girl who couldn't drive or take care of herself, personally. I know there are guys that will, but they're going to end up settling for the lowest tier of girls, and they'll probably end up in a situation where the couple doesn't have a future.

The thing is, a lot of people in your situation look at a car the wrong way, like it's just a status symbol. It's not - it's a representation of freedom. If you decide you want to go across town for something, you can, without having to plan a bus route. If there's an emergency, you can be right there for her, rather than having to bum a ride or catch a bus. If you want to take a weekend trip, you can.

If you lived in a city like New York, this wouldn't be as valid, but you've already said you don't. You're basically like a little kid, at this point.

I take the bus often.

I yet to see women taking the bus.

To me. Taking the bus is bad if your going to take someone out.

Rent a horse if anything lol.

Old is the new

>>16943968
what is this smelling load of bullshit lmao

son, women won´t probably give a shit if you take the bus or not, try to use Uber or something like that

It'll be better for the dog, but she'll still cry and whine at night. Nothing you can do about it.

>>16943931
That all sounds fine, but ask about her normal care. What time is she walked and fed normally?

Just follow that, it's fine.

As for sleeping your solution is sbsurrly fine. She won't like it, but she's a dog. She'll be ok in the morning.

>>16943979

She's fed and walked at times that are totally incongruent to my life, but luckily when she's fed she doesn't really eat all of it immediately, so as long as I fill up a bowl for her, she'll get around to it eventually.

She eats at like 1 PM and midnight (roommate works swing shift). Similarly, she's walked between 12-4 PM, and 1-3 AM. At least once a day, but twice a day 3-4 times a week, unless she gets to go to the park or something and have a big workout.

>>16943908
proper grammar would be a start...

Self assurance,
confidence (not big ego)
self-sufficiency
many interests
looks (anyone can have them to a degree)
ability to talk and present themselves
good manners

Personality:
>caring
>loyal
>fun to be with

Body:
>a nice ass
>a healthy body
>cute face

These are the major points, I guess. But for a short thing it all comes down to the ass. I'm a dude btw.

no,

>>16943897
I'm taking classes here and there and it's been really fun. Gets you gen ed credits and keeps your mind sharp for when you decide what you really want to do.

>>16943897

You can take two years of general education, getting a lot of requisites out of the way. If you haven't figured it out by then, then yes. It might be a waste of time and money.

>>16943895
Maybe he thought that the bathroom was a ruse, your way of getting out of the situation?

To be honest, it'd be best to just ask him. If you want do be in a romantic relationship with him, you're going do have to learn to communicate your feelings. That said, I know I'd have difficulty bringing up the subject so try something more subtle. Make a gentle move with some physical contact, show you're interested and it wasn't a one-off thing.

If you're good friends, I'd hope he'd respect you more than to see how far you'd go out of fun.

Thanks for the sincerity of your advice and response. I know the obvious thing to do would be to bring it up and ask. I've done this before though with someone else, and it backfired. Makes the guy feel pressured to define what we're doing. So, I'm honestly scared to do it again. I really don't want to mess this one up! I like him a lot! I don't even know that he knows...I try to play cool. Playing overly eager is horrible. Makes you seem needy and clingy.

>>16943980
Well, it sounds like he was into you too. So if you really like him, it'd be worth making some sort of move soon while you guys are still tugging at the boundaries of your relationship.

I completely get not wanting to have a conversation about it, I'm horrible at that stuff and it could scare him off. As cheesy as it sounds, I'd parrot his 'tell him if he goes too far' line back to him and do something flirty. That way, you're vaguely acknowledging the previous situation without pushing it and letting him control the situation. If it doesn't work, you can play it off as a joke. If it does work, only downside is you won't know if he only likes you physically and that could screw up your relationship.

What is the horrible secret?

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>>16943862
That I fucked up in uni which they paid around $3k for, for the second time.

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>>16943873

Why would you let your parents down? What kind of shit person are you OP?

>>16943829

just don't be an asshole about it

Will being an asshole accomplish anything meaningful? If you answered "No" to the previous question, don't say anything.

Well simply tell him that you think for some arrogant reason that you have the right to tell him how to spend his free time and money and judge him based on an animated game about beach sluts (also I agree that game is retarded and clearly I'm as obnoxious as you are)

Anyone?

Get a bike on Craigslist or Facebook sale pages. Then you're not dealing with the hell spawn that are car salesmen

>>16943791
former car salesman here

>find motorcycle online
if (you like price)
then:
>go to dealership with cashiers check for advertised price
>say "I want motorcycle for X price, here is my cashiers check."
else:
>don't go there


very simple procedure


if you're "financing" you are an obvious sucker and they will realise this and WILL capitalize on that fact no matter how hard you try to fight it

same goes with cars

>>16943775

Uh, aspie? No, your feelings are completely legitimate. I've been in the same situation as you, only with the genders reversed, and it's completely legitimate to not want contact with your ex. Only thing to do, in my experience, is to be brutally honest: "I have no interest in being friends, and don't contact me further. Bye." Especially with her talking about hooking up with other people, that's incredibly immature and mean-spirited. Just say no and block her. EZ

What's the problem? If you don't want to message someone you just don't (but you might want to tell them first). If they keep messaging you and the notifications annoy you then use the block button.

>>16943785
It was mean spirited, I was her first so she's become this way and wants me to know this.

I just don't know if I'm over reacting. I'm a little nervous too because I'm not great with girls.

I will tell her to lay off anons

Seen this? http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07187tc

>>16943781
no-- do you know where I could pay to watch this? I live in the US

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>>16943769

>just want perspective on general experience of what people seem to call manic depression or bipolar disorder

We are not mental health professionals and are nowhere near qualified to diagnose you with anything.

Even if someone here was a mental health professional, a few green text lines is hardly enough information to make an informed guess.

You need to go see a psychiatrist and get a full evaluation. This is a medical question and should be addressed with a medical professional

they're supposed to do that I think.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Modified_atmosphere

why would you think you would catch a disease?

>>16943834
Well, bulging or hissing cans are a sign of spoilage.
The worst thing about them is that they are perfect environment for bacteria producing botulinum and botulinum poisoning is the last thing you wanna get when eating canned food.

Since bulging cans were always considered spoiled and there is no clear guidelines about MAP cans I have no freaking idea whether I just gave myself a poisoning or just overacted.

Would very much liked to hear from someone who knows for sure but seeing lack of information on the web I wonder if the only people who know are the ones making that food.

>>16943865

If you had botulism you would fucking know it. You literally would have trouble breathing and speaking, probably couldn't stand on your own and would feel like you were going to die. It can be fatal too depending on how bad you have it.

i work night shift and all my regular clothes look pretty shitty.

so on nights off ill go out to the grocery store in full uniform and if anyone mentions it i'm on my break.

rather than being some crazy guy out in a grocery store at 2am. i love it though. no lines, the self checkout guy has literally checked himself out--huge fat bald slob but he's extremely nice.

>>16943748
Flight attendant uniforms are sexy. Nobody really cares.

>>16943748
Your friends poke fun because they're friends.

The stares are because people really want to walk up to you and ask "Where are going?" "What's it like?"

You're seen as having a cool occupation.

It could be literally anything. Don't stress over it.

>>16943736
Not really stressing (well the first days maybe a bit...) It´s more of a research for the future...

maybe hes busy
maybe he doesnt want to seem too needy
maybe hes thinking you might not be into him
maybe ....
why not suck it up and try to keep the conversation running if you like him? if hes responsive its all good if hes not you know what you're at

>>16943707
get an unlisted number, re-register to the do not call list, and don't give your number out again. that should help.

I just accept the call and leave it on the desk. I've never really got the fuss people make.

>>16943707
As phone scum , politely tell the caller you wish to be on their do not call list. My company calls people that call on advertisements . These people forget they called, scream, don't say they don't want the service so we call them right back.