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>>17389510
Do not talk to him about it. He will tell you when he feels he can. Do not bring it up before, it is violating.

Also, why bring it up to him like it's news? Like what the fuck are you going to say, "are you okay dude?" like no, he's not, but he's been dealing with it every day for however long since it's happened, but no he's not okay or maybe he's better, but he doesn't want to talk about it and it's in the past and he doesn't want to go back to the darkest chapter of his life.

Nothing has changed about him since before you knew, all that has changed is that you know. You are going to pretend not to know. If he ever tells you about it, you pretend that's the first time you ever heard of it? Do you understand?

>>17389510
>ex girlfriend told my ex girlfriend who told me.
wew

>>17389535
You got a point cap. I just wish nobody told me.

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>>17389502
>pic sort of related, this guy deserves to brag about his amazing carrots

>>17389502
i wouldnt eat those carrots, i know they are probably safr but they are giving off the "ill give you such bad cancer you better believe it" vibe

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>>17389506
>>17389513
You make a carrot big, and sorry it will get kind of ugly. Here's a record winning long one. They're grown in tubes.

>>17389497
I mean, it'll help. But if your face is covered in acne and is generally terrible, good luck

But being ugly in style would be better than being an ugly pleb

2/10, really?

I'm gonna need a pic to judge this one.

Honestly no. Don't dress badly or wear anything to make you look worse off.... But dressing good won't make your face look better.

Just my honest opinion.

Same reason 99% of female comics aren't funny...

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guy here

yeah idk, the thing about all this stuff is that its not men judging women for their weight or appearance, its women judging other women. It seems like most tastemakers telling women what men want are female, and quite often they get it wrong. Its a real shame too since so many women struggle with having a negative body image.

Most guys (not all obviously, but most) like a girl with curves and a bit of meat on their bones so long as its well distributed, clearly your fiance agrees with this.

As for the stuff with your family pressuring you, if they bring it up again just remind them that its your wedding not theirs.

Though you know, now that I think about this body image stuff it does go both ways to a degree. I think about all the guys who obsess over height and getting as jacked as possible, that stuff all comes from other men not women. Just out of curiosity, you're pretty tall for a woman, how tall is your fiance?

>>17389471
Other women fear me because I'm very accomplished. Most people fear me because I am accomplished. Like people always try to justify why they have poor habits or something when they are faced with my good one and I'm like, brah, you don't got to explain it to me, do whatever the fuck you want it's your life. Laissez faire, I don't care.

Alternately, should I discuss this with her?

If you have a chance, take it. If your friend is telling you to not talk to the guy just so SHE gets to talk to him, then to hell with her, she obviously doesn't care much for you, so you shouldn't care much for her. If you genuinely like the guy, then try to hook up with him. As simple as that.

>>17390006
This is what I'm thinking. I don't think I'm going to make any explicit advances on him, but if it were to happen, I would let it. She doesn't own him and he clearly isn't beholden to only her.

>>17389434

>I feel like he stares at me sometimes

He probably likes you if you're of at least average looks and have some common interests. Ask him if he's interested.

>>17389434
>I feel like he stares at me sometimes and I've skipped a pair of beats when I see him.
You made a thread here, like a day or two ago about your coworker staring at you.
I swear you people are either underage or sheltered af or just needy for attention, I swear.
This board is not your diary.

>>17389468
What? It wasn't me. And when I say "I feel" I mean it's just that, a feel, not a fact, probably my imagination. I guess that can happen to anyone, but because I like him I imagine that he stares at me but probably not.

It's a stupid question but kind of logical if you think about it, it's a simple ice breaker, one of the first things a person notices about you.

They probably just want to start a conversation anon, I know the question itself kind of contradicts that but people usually don't think that far.

they're just trying to be friendly and get you to open up a bit more

I'm a pretty quiet guy as well, I don't have many (any?) friends so I'm pretty awkward in social scenarios that sometimes crop up at work but I do open up a lot more one on one. It's something I've really got to work on.

use your imagination read books... it can be a great escape and improve your mental state

Why do you have to wait for events? Do something now

>>17389429
You need to change your life.

If you just live even to event, you'll never be happy.
You need to do something that makes existing worth while.

Some people find careers. Others find children.

>>17389328
im in the same situation but without the drugs. Lets hug~

>>17389349
sure wish it were that easy

>>17389328
Neeeever take opiates.
Drugs are fine but opiates are a fucking no go because they're literally a replacement for happiness.
They're happiness you inject into your arm.
You will NEVER feel happier than when you inject that shit into your arm.

Be a drunk like regular people.

Anywho, join dorky clubs.
They're mostly full of people who just want to make friends.
Most cities are full of them.
Do you have a chapter of "Beer Runners"?
They're a club from some American city I forget.
Anyways, they drink good beer and go jogging.
Mostly the beer part.

Life is pretty complicated, man. People aren't always clean-cut, simple, and predictable. What do you want advice with?

This tiny synapsis of the situation is not enough for anyone to truly comprehend it, by the way. You have more information than we do.

>>17389260
Excuse me.Story is longer.I've been into her, she had no couple when we met.A year later she contacts me (already met her current bf) knowing I was into her.We go out a few times, I tried to kissed her, she refuses but kept insisting on seeing each other.I took distance, she tells her bf about me.We talked, all clear like men.But always in a meeting she starts with this tricks

>>17389255
Bumping for knowledge

I've tried alcohol but recently the charm has worn off and it only makes my loneliness more glaringly obvious.

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Find a interest that you genuinely burn for and let that become your #1 priority in life.
For me it's skateboarding. It might seem like a meaningless hobby but it has helped me in so many ways. It's my source of entertainment, my way of clearing my head of worries and stress and generally just what I want to do with my life. It takes the pressure off other things like love, work and everyday challenges.

If you haven't already got one, search harder, try new things, be open minded, try them out for a while. Perhaps you'll find that you burn for several things.

>>17389365
Like what?

Dude get off the computer and go live your life

>>17389142
>is it not possible to get a good, decent, strong, clean, moral- obsessed girl like me?

It's possible. I'm like that, and I'm a girl. I think having one life partner is absolutely ideal, and that's what I want most.

But I have to agree with >>17389144
4chan, especially boards like /r9k/ and /adv/, are filled with negativity and will not help you in life. You should limit your time in places like these and don't let them get to you.

>I have very strong morals. I am an atheist, I believe in equality etc etc

*Tips Fedora*

Turn your computer off and get your ass outside. You'll only be stuck in this circle of self pity as long as you allow yourself to be - go pursue shit that interests you, since if you're so far gone, why the fuck do you care what others think about you?

>>17389129
Let's all love Lain.

how old are you?

>>17389126
Not drinking is a very good idea.

Education (either formal or on your own) is one of the conventional paths to being employable.

what happened to your last job?

>>17389227
I realize that cutting back on the drink is a necessary part of getting my shit together, education not so much it really isn't an option for me now age/money ect plus I live in a small poor town where a college degree isn't going to help me anyway.

>girl
>whale

Pick one.

Just ask her out some place to grab food, or ice cream, or what have you. If you can't see her in person, shoot her a quick "Hey" and tell her "I'm headed out to grab X soon, and wouldn't mind some company."

If she goes for it - awesome. Give her a time, and go for it. If not, pretend nothing happened, just acknowledge it and move on.

>>17389123
>I need a foolproof plan for asking out a girl, /adv/.
Welp, good luck with that.

Put yourself in a mindset where rejection is no big deal, then ask.