How do you get yourself to have other goals or interests than romantic love?
The only way I can ever motivate myself to do anything or go anywhere is a "maybe I'll meet someone nice there" and never the thing itself.
I've tried alcohol but recently the charm has worn off and it only makes my loneliness more glaringly obvious.
Find a interest that you genuinely burn for and let that become your #1 priority in life.
For me it's skateboarding. It might seem like a meaningless hobby but it has helped me in so many ways. It's my source of entertainment, my way of clearing my head of worries and stress and generally just what I want to do with my life. It takes the pressure off other things like love, work and everyday challenges.
If you haven't already got one, search harder, try new things, be open minded, try them out for a while. Perhaps you'll find that you burn for several things.
>>17389365
Like what?
>>17389480
I don't know man, drawing, biking, fishing, climbing, building, photography, cooking, writing, music, there has to be something that resonates with you on a deeper level. You have to find out for yourself.
>>17389517
I hate sports and exercise and I'm bad at music. I draw but it's not it. I still want to be loved.