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I posted this story here a couple of times as I was going through it but this part is over so I'll trim it down.

I wasn't looking for anyone. A woman from my job added me on Facebook and we instantly hit it off. Same sports, same teams, same music, same sense of humor. I really thought the "one" had found me just like that. We played sports together, hung out and smoked together, saw the sunset, and held hands and kissed at the end of the night. The next morning she friendzoned me saying how she isn't ready to date anyone. We didn't speak for 3 months I couldn't be just friends with her. She messaged me wanting to try again about a week ago. She promised she wouldn't lead me on for nothing this time because she was ready now. Well she pretty much did it again. We went and saw the sunset again and I held her hand tight the whole time. I went to kiss her at the end of the night and she said how she still isn't ready. I couldn't believe it. We talked for an hour. Heart to heart. Eye to eye. She couldn't hold back the tears saying how something in her subconscious won't let her be with me. I pleaded my case the best I could but she wasn't having it. She casually texted me the next morning and then re enforced how she felt by saying she just doesn't think we're a fit. I took it bad the first time but damn this was like a nuke. That feeling of rejection and not being wanted by her triggered something deeper in me about how my father isn't in my life. She doesn't want me in her life, he doesn't. It's a stupid correlation but at the time I just let it all out and sat on the ground in tears. I texted her this morning saying how I've accepted it and that if I can't have her that way at least being there for her as a friend is the least I can do. She understands and just wants space for us now.

Cont:

So I decided to just try and move on and meet another woman. I re downloaded Tinder just because and within three swipes I had a match with this beautiful black girl. I had to say she's black because it's simply not my type. I'm not racist. Just when I think of women I go for white girls or spanish. Thing is within five minutes of chatting I realized this girl right here is different. This awful experience I just had set me up to meet this kind and caring woman. The last one was just too damaged and couldn't be with me on a deep and emotional level. It turns out my closest friends girlfriend has met her. She was telling me how I have to be really careful because I'm going to fall in love with this girl. She said she had never met her before and was crying over her boyfriend in the parking lot and she had come out to console her. My friends girlfriend told me I belong with a girl who can feel on this level. I just don't know how I feel about her herself. I poured my soul into this last girl she was everything I wanted looks wise and we just clicked. One night of texting this girl we already have a bond I can't give up but I don't want to be a piece of shit if I don't feel how she looks. She's beautiful it's just not there right off the bat for me and it scares me.

How do you guys deal with moving on to the next person? I compare every woman to the first girl...

>>17391482
Google sunglasses for face shape. I think your face would probably go best with round shades.

>>17391482
>>>/fa/

Thank you guys

>>17391474
Well for one, while I get having principles is important, its a petty thing to fall out over games.

I wont say to abandon him as if he is a good friend its not worth losing him over. Talk to him and since you are at it, uninstall the bot. That said, maybe you should move away from video games? I am assuming you are young as this is pretty mild stuff but do look towards other hobbies.

If you are young, dont reply and leave this site for your own sake. If not, both you and him may want to grow up.

Your friend needs to grow up. In fact, he doesn't really sound like much of a friend at all to me if he'd drop you over something like that. Move on.

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>>17391492
Well... I know it's just games but they're important to us. Is the way we get along.

24, he is 25.

But indeed, I feel he shouldn't care. He has strong principles, tho.

Bumpin
Pls guys, just need a second opinion before I continue anything

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>>17391567
Double bump

>>17391450
well anon from my perspective in what you said she's just waiting for that special someone to take her away since the other guy is just ignoring her like you said isn't practically thinking that she's an important person in her life. I think she's trying to communicate with you just to keep her company since the guy she's interested in left but that doesn't mean you can't make a move on her if you get her to like you again to the point she wants you. You didnt like her before and now you like her?

Not a fem, just someone who took a lot of ibuprofen and plays a lot of sports.

Nsaids won't stop you bleeding. They do the opposite. Almost like a less shit aspirin.

>>17391446
Now I don't know shit about med in general, but I'e read Ibuprofen acts on the hormone prostaglandin (responsible for the contractions to shed the lining of the womb) thus, besides relieving inflammation and pain, can sometimes (!) or for some people (!!) affect period flow as well.

Again, this may not be true for some. Maybe quite the opposite, I don't know. At a first glance, it may seem true in my case. I'm curious how/if it works for others.

bump, i guess it´s not so popular or known?

>>17391427
diabetes?

Maybe you'd want to consult an actual professional about this one, not people on an imageboard.

>>17391427
It's autism

>>17391419
Where do you even find these people?

>>17391419
A common scenario you might find more comfortable - you and woman alone in room begin making out. Husband slips quietly into room to watch once you are engrossed in action.

>>17391464
I get approached sometimes, I approach other times. Dating sites and bars.

>>17391498
Pretty smart actually. Mix a little booze in the mix and it would be alright.

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Answer me you stupid fucks reeeeee

>>17391414
be funny

>>17391633
I used to be funny back in highschool , the class clown but I lost contact with people and been through so much changes that I lost it, now I want to learn other aspects of being fun to be with.

>>17391356
You don't. You let her go.

Why would you respond to that? Or even accept random people?

>>17391356
Be the weirdest man ever and reply to her with the most creepy thing that comes to your mind.

>>17391337
Ask parenrs/family for a small loan? Otherwise just apply for a credit card or two. Even if you have shit credit, they give those things out like candy. Why did you agree to have the car fixed when you knew you wouldn't have the money? You can buy a cheaper car for that amount that will still get you from a to b

>>17391337
Dude, you don't have money? TOO BAD. Take the fucking bus, beg for a ride from your parents, friends, siblings, family members, take the train, WALK, BIKE, ROLLER BLADE. That's your biggest problem? That you got yourself into a shitty fucking car accident and need a cushy, air conditioned ride to your cushy new job? Fuck off.

2,200 is a big ticket to fix a car.

Can you tell me more about the vehicle for better judgement?

>>17391325

Almost every girl I know thinks it's the creepiest shit ever.

>>17391329
I mean, I don't think girls really give a shit.
If you're with a girl for some time and she's chill and likes you a lot she'll probably be chill about it.
I mean my ex was completely fine with it and even wanted to fuck around with that, but she was slightly kinky.
In conclusion everyone has a fetish, and as long as you're BOTH openly cool with sexual exploration, you should be good

I have a major foot fetish (specifically the smell after sweating without socks on all day) and I have noticed something in my years.

If a girl never wears shoes without socks, never wears flip/flops, etc, she will not be into feet.

If they wear open toe heels and flip flops you have a very good chance she at the very least, wants you too look at her feet.

>>17391314
Just wait 2 years and you'll be golden.

Its a tough call and really, without visual context, while not justified, appearances could make sense of it. Maybe you look particularly old and she young?

From my view while I wouldnt openly shout on the street, seeing a pair like that would have me suspicious. Its the social impression, she is young and naive with a much older guy who is into much younger girls. The gap in maturity would imply a hint of manipulation.

I personally would break it off unless you or your family are well off. Today teenagers are extremely immature and not ready for relationships proper, especially not with a 20 something. It will invariably lead to sex, what happens if she decides not to take the pill or lie about it to be "frisky" and falls pregnant? She is a teen, they are capable of things. As for you, why someone so young? On paper it implies you are young in mind and may need to mature.

For her sake I would look towards ending it, she needs to mix with her peers, as do you. There isnt much else I can say.

Irony is the opposite would probably be praised even for the girl.

>>17391314

It's pretty damn weird at that point, dude.

Although I'm older than you and still think 16 year olds are hot, I'd never admit it to friends or family, and dating one? Well, it's not legal anyways, but I got enough shit from friends for having my Tinder search window accepting girls under 21. I wouldn't date one.

I think, no matter what you do, you're going to look predatory, like you're trying to take advantage of her inexperience. We don't know enough about the situation to make that judgement, but it's going to happen. If this girl is that worth it to you, I'd just accept it and know that for at least two more years, people are going to judge.

Best way is to grow a pair, honestly man

>>17391605

Yeah bud it's harsh advice but those people above me are right. I met a girl out of the blue and we fell for each other instantly but when it came down to it she couldn't bring herself to date me. It even happened again when we tried months later. I simply refuse to speak to her now it's not worth the heartache. I compare every girl to her and always wonder if anything I'll ever have will be anything close to what we COULD have had. Just gotta move on man. I see her share stupid shit on facebook about relationships everyday knowing I just can't give it to her. Just meet new woman and chase that feeling you feel now.

>>17391303
Syria

i also have dry lips and i dont know how to "fix" them

I used to have this when I was a kid and in all my school pictures I had a red cracked line under my mouth like a third lip! Keep a bunch of really good smelling balm on you at all times - the smell will make you want to put it on and keep some in your pocket wherever you go. As for under your lip, invest in some Sudocreme - it heals cuts scabs scars and burns really quickly. If you cant get that, find an antiseptic healing cream and it should do the same thing.

>>17391304

I'll try the Sudocreme. I keep lip balm with me and have to put it on all the time like every 30 to 60 min.