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There's nothing you really can do, it's just how you're wired. If you truly want to settle down and be monogamous you have to put in the effort to stay faithful. If you can't handle this I suggest you wait until you're older and your hormones settle down.

You don't love women at all lol

>>17390470

You have a love fetish. It's a thing, I have it too

>asking women for advice about women

Hahahaha this dude. It's like asking flowers how to be a better gardener

>>17390437
I guess it depends on how and in what way they differ from you.

I have dated a south african (a boer actually). We shared the same values and the only cultural differences were actually quite amusing. Learning about their folklore and food.
There were a few differences in how we handle race, what with him growing up in a country divided by racial tensions and me growing up as someone who's never even seen a black person.

Right now I'm dating a romanian. I have not noticed any cultural differences, aside from a few holidays.

To be honest, I don't think I could date a cultural middle eastern. Even if he was super liberal, their customs, food, holidays etc. would still be too different for me to feel comfortable and feel comfortable raising a child in.

>>17390489
Where are you from?

>>17390492
Austria

>>17390432
Just be honest but don't rub it in.
Offer to help with his CV or applications, maybe he is doing something wrong that you can help with.

Well you can refer him to your place of work after you've built some rapport with HR if he doesn't find anything...

>>17390432
Be honest and don't brag, if they're a true friend they'll be happy for you. Times like these you actually find the true character of some people

If I knew the answer, I wouldn't be browsing random threads on /adv/ at 3AM.

>>17390509
Real. I feel u

>>17390429
The notebook is good, but prioritize it. Each night make several lists for tomorrow:

Things that absolutely have to be done that day or the world will come to an end
Things you want to get into the rhythm of doing every day
Things that really should be done tomorrow, if you can
Things that have to be done sometime, and tomorrow is as good a time as any.

Tomorrow, do them in that order. Getting the essential and important things done will make you more efficient but also boost your spirits - there are few greater pleasures than crossing something off a To-do list as done.

And tomorrow night make a new list for the day after, putting new chores in their right place and moving leftovers up.

>>17390409
Migraine.
Nausea.
Sick relative.
Menstrual cramps.
Family emergency.
Cold or flu, but you have to look the part the next day.

>>17390409
no one ever asks questions if you tell them you had diahrea

>>17390397
Don't bother trying to get any sleep. You've had this job for a week, and it's too early to start blowing shifts. If you have real insomnia, then you've dealt with this before. Just stay awake, then power through your work. Wait for your second wind to kick in.

>>17390397
Coffee is your friend. Don't blow off a shift you agreed to work after only a week of work.

>>17390407
>>17390415

Kk gonna power through

>>17390386
Erm, I heard cold showers are better for you. As far as shower length goes, idk, 10 to 15 mins, just don't overdo it and be clean

Use good soap. I like Dove and Avene. Make sure you exfoliate your skin prob once every other day. I recommend buying a Clarisonic, it's a bit pricey though. You can also use a Konjac sponge or a wash cloth.

For shampoo, just check if it has Sulfate. It dries out my scalp, so I get Shampoos that don't have it

http://pastebin.com/PArDyf2G

Read ^ for general info

How do you currently shower? Is there any reason that needs to change? Is there anything undesirable you want to avoid, or something desirable you want to achieve?

Aint broke, don't fix it. And if it is broke, troubleshoot it before just going to town.

>>17390438
Sometimes my back gets a super prickly itchy sensation. I think this might have to do with not showering well.
I figured this would be a good time to assess my whole technique.

Been on and off when asking for help but its been nice to get solid advice on all cases. Thanks /adv/.

Whoever told me to just enjoy when life gives you limbo is based af.

/adv/ helped me get my last girlfriend and also determine when it was time to break up with her. At least we try to clean up our mistakes, haha.

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>>17390312
You know it's against rules to post as an avatar, right?

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Also,

I'm 20 she's 19.

We both have pretty basic lives. Go to the same school and shit. Good family homes.

She's above average attractiveness desu, and there's a good amount of dudes thirsting over her. She communicates that.

She's always praising me and saying how much she loves me.

I just don't know how to approach her at this point

From what I gather from those texts is that you missed some signals to make romantic advances and she isn't dealing with that shit. If she says she wants to be celibate and sends shit like that to you (plus already not being a virgin) she is definitely looking to bend that abstinence.
Next time you're together and the mood is right go in for the kill

"everytime i turn you down the longing will grow deeper
I know how men work"

Is she blueballing you because she thinks it will make you want her more?

That's a bit of a red flag for a manipulative bitch if i'm honest..

No it's human psychology. You get less aroused because it's called sperm preservation. Your mind wants you to fuck another girl instead of digging your sperm out of the cunt you already visit. Biology is great. Have her wear a wig or something if you want 2 get a thrill. Pretend she is another girl. Sure to get it up

>>17390301

This.

You don't have to feel bad about it. Humans are not really biologically designed to be monogamous. But it does not mean that you should cheat or something like that.

You just have to mix it up a bit sometimes. Talk about different fetishes. Do roleplay.

Or you can go all in and suggest an open relationship.

>>17390330
oh hell no, i'm definitely not gonna cheat, I definitely feel mongamous and planning to stay that way even if it's not the human nature.

thanks for the tips. might look into roleplaying stuff

The customer service job sounds like your only real option. Sorry anon but with no emphasise in education your hands are tied. Either that or try a new course.

>>17390278
I definitely want to. Aiming for something in CS now. The issue is I have no viable point of entry. (At least thats what it seems like to me)

Canadian colleges are fucking weird. US colleges/unis are so much simpler.

Kill yourself but try and kill a political figure before you do it. At least make yourself useful

Drink yourself into oblivion and make sure to abuse your friends and family. Also make sure to do drugs and act out. Also if you could kill someone to take the pain away that would be good too.

>>17390234
pay someone to smother you in your sleep

Statistically speaking you only have a fifteen percent chance of succeeding in a suicide attempt, and if you survive your life will be changed forever for it. You don't want that. Either you die or you're gonna get fucked up forever.

pay someone to pay someone to smother you in your sleep

>>17390220

When someone cheats its not about the person they're cheating on, its about them. The same reason people don't go out of their way to bully people because the person they're bullying is inferior but in reality they do it because they themselves feel inferior and can only obtain validation by belittling others.

At the risk of sounding cliche, its not you, its them. Unless you're a complete asshole, then its you.

Meet new people who accept you for who you are, try dating again when you feel like you're ready, and tell yourself that you are worth it

it fucking sucks getting cheated on, I've been there

Best you can do is just cut contact with the cheater, and turn to friends and family for support when you feel like crap. It'll get better eventually, anon. I feel for you

>>17390232

This. I really don't get why people give cheaters a second chance.

Learn to love yourself more than you love your cheating partner