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>>17492550
Jumping to your death

>>17492550
A massive explosion that destroys or incinerates your body instantly

>>17492550
Don't do it mate

>>17492510
Have a roommate you trust.
Be seen with a firearm.
Install an additional deadbolt (apartment complex will probably not be happy)
Cameras, webcam with cloud storage would be fine
Dinky alarm system, even if it's a buzz lightyear with a trip laser that triggers him to say "TO INFINITE AND BEYOND"

>>17492510
Ever heard of an alarm system? Niggers get super scared when they hear those go off

>>17492510
90% of break-ins are crimes of opportunity - the thief was passing by or out looking for someplace to rob and spotted an open door or window.

You don't have to go overboard. Just make sure doors and windows are locked. If it is a high crime area, add an extra lock. And mark your valuable stuff with the invisible ink pens the cops might even give away free. Most stolen goods are pawned quickly, and if your stuff can be identified under UV light, you'll get it back.

>>17492466
This question is dumb as dirt. Porn is not actually a betrayal of anyone's trust. A huge majority of married men consume porn, and very few get divorced over it. Fucking another human without your partner's knowledge and consent is a betrayal, and it wrecks plenty of relationships.

I know some mostly young, uptight people think that porn is just as bad as cheating. Those people are dumb and have bad ideas.

>>17492480
This is very legit. Tbh, found my dad's porn stash when I was 14.

>>17492466
Watching porn is something normal that all guys, even in relationships, do, and if a girl feels threatened by it that's a huge red flag against her.
Cheating is something that only scumbags do, and will lead to breaking up.

>>17492447
Love and sex are interconnected. At some point you're going to see her run off with another woman and it's going to torture you.

>>17492447
Why don't fuck her instead?

>>17492643
nopossible

>>17492439
>Plan another hangout with the boys
>Again, a week in advance
>B doesn't show up again
>Toward the end of our get-together, he message the group
>"Guys wtf you're hanging out?"
>"Where are you guys?"
>Tell him name of the donut shop we ended up at.
>"Dude I can't find it send me the address"
>Tell him to google DONUT SHOP NAME in CITY NAME
>"Dude I can't"
>Send him my location, I'm on Android, and he's on iPhone so it's a bit of a hassle
>He shows up, we hang for like 10 minutes then bounce

So at this point I'm starting feel like he's putting in significantly less effort into this friendship with myself and the group than the rest of us are.

>One day ask B via Facebook Messenger why he takes so long to respond back on GroupMe
>"Oh lol I muted the GroupMe when I was working out. I guess I forgot to unmute."

This certainly raised an eyebrow on my end.

>>17492440
>Another friend is about to leave our state for Texas because he got into a uni there.
>Decide to get a gift for him and have the rest of us sign it with some corny message or something as a going away present
>Start another group in GroupMe with everyone minus Texas guy
>Plan a bunch of meetings to give everyone the chance to sign the present
>I'm not sure if B has unmuted GroupMe, so I seperately message him over both Facebook Messenger so he actually gets a notification
>Propose a meetup date
>The day before the proposed date, I message him to make sure.
>He responds
>"Oh dude I've got family stuff going on, my grandma's going off the rails with dementia so we're going to her house on the day you suggested so we can find her a house"
>Feel sad af for him
>The next day --the proposed date-- I see a snap on his story of him in his house, rather than his grandma's.

>>17492444
>Propose another date for him to sign the ball, at this point Texas guy is about to leave.
>B actually responds punctually, and says he'll make it
>Date rolls around
>Send him a reminder
>He doesn't show up
>I message him asking him where the fuck he is
>"Oh sorry dude I'm on vacation in Georgia."
>What
>Ask him why he didn't tell me.
>"lol I forgot and I turned off mobile data for Messenger because I'm at the end of the month and my data plan's almost out"
>I'm fairly certain that Messenger uses literally kilobytes of data but whatever.
>Ask him the size of his data plan and what he uses data for instead
>"5 GB individual. Pokemon Go and Pandora"
>Ask him what his data plan is and how he utilizes it.
>"Pokemon Go and Pandora"
>Get frustrated and just tell him to tell me what he would write on the present, and I write/sign his name in his stead.

Maybe I'm reading too far into this, but I get the message that he values music and mobile """games""" than he does our friendship.

This sounds like bait. If it's not know that the problem is with you first, then with your uni and everything else.
You expect too much while being entitled to nothing.
You dislike stuff but do nothing about it.
You don't understand and don't even try to understand what people around you are thinking. You only see your point of view.

If your uni was really that bad as you think it is you could just leave it. But I think the problem here is with your mentality, not with the uni.

>>17492418
You need to research your school and see if its worth a damn. Assuming it is not and you aren't getting a full ride finish your semester and transfer to your local state school. Seriously man you don't want to be 26 like me still going to school. Take it seriously, do the mathiest thing you are capable of, and you will have a good futute. All these little problems will pale when you are older not making the money you could be making. Money doesn't buy happiness necessarily but it leads to more opportunities to persue it.

>>17492418

Concentrate on your studies, maybe join a club or organization that you find interesting, and try keep yourself busy.

College can be very mentally invigorating and rewarding if you play your cards right.

And I don't get your gripe about the chicks at your college, if its majority female you shouldn't be complaining. Not all of em can be that bad.

>>17492377

Check'd

Man look at dat core.

As for loving your sister...if she loves you back then I don't see the problem. Just don't let anyone that knows you guys find out and don't have children.

You may be so obsessed with your sister that you dismiss every other girl, but this kind of things don't happen very often. I can't think of any other reason for your situation though.

If this is really the issue then your obsession with your sister is really unhealthy and the only way (as far as I know) to get rid of it is to stop interacting with her and focus on other things (work, study, hobbies, physical activity, fiction etc). Even so it would take quite a long while and I guess stopping all interaction with your sister wouldn't be too easy or pleasant for you (or for her). There is no easy way out of it here, the choice is yours.

>>17492377
There are different kind of love.
The best you can do is confess this to her, if you feel something she probably feels that too.

Tell someone.

>>17492363
I've tried. Nobody seems to care.
My parents just laugh it off.
My friends and boyfriend say I'm just tired and stressed.

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Shit youve made me think now anon.

I was very openly depressed and anxious for around a year until 3 weeks ago. Since then, I have felt exactly the same, no change, but I fake my enthusiasm when out and about and I never realised it until now. Shit.

You need to find someone, anyone, that understands. So many people will just say "Stop being such an attention seeker" and it sucks because its their go-to reason. Whether it be a therapist or someone you trust, just moan at them about it. Don't kill yourself, life is too boring for that.

>>17492346
No ones putting a gun against your head and forcing you to drink soda. That shits rotting your teeth.

Drink free water instead and use the money you save to get laser tattoo removal or have it altered into something you prefer.

>>17492373
but the lasers bleach your skin. In essence ill be left with a white tattoo. I don't think I want another tattoo on me. I know its not good for my teeth but I cant frigging stop. I cant get a job because of this. I think I have developed some kind of body dismorphia or something except its like affected me by making me drink sodas all the time to stay happy. Tattoos ruin lives. How can this shit be legal?

Try drinking a fizzy drink to mimic soda at first, and gradually wean yourself off it?

I don't fucking know, I eliminated soda from my diet but I know people who are addicted to it. It must have addictive properties

A cocktail of antidepressants and anxiety medication

>>17492329
why antidepressants?

>>17492342
Antidepressants can treat a variety of problems, not just depression. Some examples are seizures and pedophilia, and other sexual deviancies by lowering libido

Why do you assume she would even want to do this?

>>17492284
Because women are sluts

>I literally dont see anything negative about it,

This says a few things about you.

1) you are more sexist than you think. I'm not a womens rights activist and I really don't care about the subject at all. I do think they can be just as responsible as men, but I don't lose any sleep over the "injustices" they supposedly face. You on the other hand are recklessly underestimating women. You genuinely believe there can't possibly be a woman out there more interesting than you who has her shit together better than you, who could easily steal you woman after fulfilling her every sexual need. This shows how recklessly sexist you are that you feel no threat from females at all.

2) It shows that you also have absolute shit judgment. You really can't think of ANYTHING negative about this? Anything at all? I know you're a wetback but no education system is this bad - YOU just weren't paying attention in school, to education or society around you, in order to form such shit judgment. You REALLY can't imagine anything wrong with letting your significant other fuck other people? The question answers itself, like seriously, it's beyond me how this needs to be explained to you. Can't see a single damned thing negative about? Really?

Honestly, feel free to do whatever you want. You're such a dumbass that I can guarentee you are going to fuck things up somehow. It's a miracle you haven't starved to death while lost in the woods yet, dumbass.

Ask what she wants

Well it seems she doesn't want to talk outside what she what's to tell me. One previous message was about something i fixed. Another about what I told her; her car needed fixed, and that's what it was. Another about a coffee shop I showed her carrying something she liked. Outside of that small talk is forced. Everytime i ask to talk she calls me ASAP. However we'll talk about us. Goes well. Then it's like it never happened.

I just can't think of a way to be blunt and not seem like an attack.

I'm kind of thinking..

"I'm just going to be blunt here. I keep trying to figure out the reason for messaging me. It's not that I don't like talking to you. It just tears my heart again. I tend to not to stay in contact with people that wouldn't give their time to hang out with me. What am I to do?"

Everything ends up sounding too emo. She sent that message about a week ago.

>>17492250

i haven't contacted him since, i was gonna sit outside his house and text and call him, but i just held back the tears and drove him.
i know that I'm not going to contact him first, but i don't know whats going to happen. i need a really good apology- what if i don't get one?

I'm just so confused because i love him so much, but i feel like the way hes treated me through all this is so wrong, and that i shouldn't be with him. I'm so confused and lost and hurt...

>>17492250
Break up, go see a psychologist and move on.

>>17492272
see a psychologist for what?

and yeah, like i really love him, but after last night, i feel like that's just a sign. he literally just went to psycho because i asked a question (again maybe it was annoying, but i was nice about it and was trying to cuddle and love him). it really hurts.

>>17492238
My main life objectives (disregarding more general stuff, like travel and fitness) right now are to become an ingenious game designer, an unprecedentedly good jazz percussionist and music producer, a decent enough writer and poet and a revolutionary linguist. I could settle for two or three of those, but each one of them is so important to me that I feel bad when I think of the possibility of any of those not being possible during my lifetime. I'm 20 and I'm nowhere close to any of those, and right now I'm being hindered by things like work and university, but I feel hopeful that I'll be able to slowly climb the plateaus I have set for myself. I suggest you start thinking not about your goals, but about the steps you need to take in order to make those a reality. Just be careful not to turn that into procrastination, which is what I have been doing for the past few years. Time is our precious resource here, so we need to start using it as efficiently and carefully as we can. Most humans waste a ridiculous amount of time on things that are ephemeral and not even enjoyable for them, simply because they are so accustomed to those activities that they either refrain from not doing it or simply not even notice that they are doing it.

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>>17492238
We're in similar boats, my plan is to become a certified personal trainer and use that for consistent income, and do everything else as a hobby till one takes off

>>17492192

Yes.

How old are you two? Why did you get married in the first place?

>>17492192
why the fuck did you marry a jobless individual?