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Imagine how disappointed your parents will be if you never give them any grandchildren.

living away from home does that to you.
I had the same feelings in the service.
you want to be there but you can't risk sacrificing everything you've worked for.
your parents just want to know that you're happy. make something of yourself and show them how well they raised you.

I'm also a parent.

>>17490524
How did you get into your career? Just curious?

Go to after school tutoring sessions in the library, visit the teacher after school for 1 on 1 sessions. Or start your own study group to go over problems together. Teachers who everyone says are dicks will be more lenient if it looks like you try to get extra help or show that you're studying hard. AND if you struggle as much as you say, but you spend the whole class talking to someone else or being off task, then get ready for a dicking. "I was asking him about the problem!" Isn't a good answer. Ask the teacher first.

I'm sure plenty of people gave a shit. You don't go into teaching because it's easy or especially fun: you go because you like kids and want to see them succeed. If a kid fights you when you try to teach a lesson, sometimes you have to put them on the back burner for a bit because there are 29 other kids who really, REALLY want to learn. They want to help that one kid, but usually they throw a fit as soon as something is remotely hard or requires them to put more than the minimal amount of effort, and the teacher has to decide between babysitting this weak-willed kid or move forward with the rest of the class who is putting forth an effort. If you need 1 on 1 help, then come in when the teacher has time to devote attention to you and only you.

>>17490512
Are you below your 3rd at uni? If so, you have plenty of time to make up for it!!

>>17490577

I imagine he's underage b& if he thinks that "having no chill" is a legitimate scale for gauging a teacher's effectiveness instead of holding students to standards that the real working world will hold them to

>>17490502
Win her back?

What hapened?

>>17490502
>my loves
Stop thinking life is a fairytale and move on. Sluts will always be sluts.

Thanks for absolutely no information. Please hold while I pull a specific solution to your problem out of my ass while knowing nothing about you or her.

Until then I'm gonna go with this:
>don't

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$60 at most.

No more than 20-30 bucks. It is neither hard nor time-consuming. Get her a pair of nitrile gloves.

>>17490496
about tree fiddy

>>17490491
Yeah, Anything can be an addiction, drugs, ideas, even fetishes.

I think they might have the same psychological addiction as other drugs.

You see, with something like Heroin, you do it because it chemically makes you feel good and you don't want to deal with stress and hardship. Food, video games, marijuana and gambling can do that just the same. It's something that relieves stress.

If you do it too much, you forget how to cope with stress and negative feelings. Of course, with heroin (or other hard drugs) you have to deal with the physical withdrawals of pain, tremors, etc etc. This makes you feel bad and you don't want that, so you do Heroin and you feel fine again.

Food, video games, marijuana and gambling, might not have the same physical effects, but when you're stressed/overwhelmed/feeling negative, you will often have a very impulsive gut reaction to reach for these things because they make you feel good.

So, in short, there are some psychological dependencies that are really up to the user to overcome on their own. This comes more naturally to some, but it's all the same in the end.

>>17490491
You've just flawlessley demonstrated your lack of knowledge there mate.

Cocaine isn't physically addictive. Unlike alcohol or heroin, it doesn't cause physical changes to the brain. It's purley a psychological addiction, which is more akin to a compulsion like gambling or porn.

If you accept cocaine addiction as a "real thing", you can't class the others as something seperate.

Its always ok to do drugs. You are going to die alone regardless if someone loves you or not.

I love you.

It's not morally wrong to do drugs, it's just stupid because it's a distraction from your problems, which stops you from dealing with them, prolonging them, potentially making them worse, and making you complacent about your subpar life. Don't be a pussy, go through the fire, fight through the pain, and you'll come out the other side better than you ever thought possible.

>>17490466
uh smoke more weed and drink less. That'll do the trick, it works for me.

>>17490468
Ignore this degenerate
>>17490466
>i know im desperate because jesus
If you are truly serious and have Jesus in your heart, prayer and a will to change is all that is needed my good Christian brother. People who can't quit, don't actually want to quit.

>>17490466

what? i mean i had a binge when i first started we all do, but its not like we take some extra special stop to reign it in. you just reign it in.

to stop doing something you have to stop.

>>17490461
kill yourself normalfag

collecting is a hobby
it's collecting porn a hobby of yours?
if not, I think you may be addicted

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Boyfriend put me through this mind game where he told me he thought I was beautiful, then the next week that he wasn't that attracted to me. Fucked me up rather badly, and I'm still worried that my current boyfriend may suddenly find me not attractive.
She should have never pushed her insecurities on you, I did this to my ex, haven't to my current bf. By doing this she helped you feel like "hey maybe she could be better." If someone constantly tells you they are ugly because they are fat, chances are at some point you'll start to agree.
Talk to her about not pushing insecurities on you, how you want to talk to her about problems but if she constantly tells you how insecure she is it makes you feel mixed emotions. Try to put it in the nicest way you can, I can't think of a nice of saying it because it's truly just you dun goofd.
After that slowly try to encourage her to work on herself, cook healthy meals together, ask her to exercise with her, comment on celebrities hair styles/clothes and how she would look cute with them, take her shopping for clothes. Simple stuff.
If you're in love with her you gotta give her your all, and if after trying to encourage and be there for her doesn't work, it's time to bite the bullet and tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her that you love her, want to be with her forever etc, but you aren't as attracted to her anymore and you want her to work on that with you/your help.

>>17490448
bump

I would do blood tests and look at slides all day if the pay is there.

>>17490554
I think its only around 50k.

It's perfectly normal. Good on you for having the courage to ask the driver.

You are doing a nice thing and seem like a nice person. I'm sure if you try some other ways of meeting people you will make friends easily.

>>17490433
The thing is, I get along with people fine. I enjoy serving because of this. I've never really have had friends though, I enjoy talking with them but not establishing friendships. it's hard to explain

Thats awesome! At least you look to create friendship which is great and not weird at all

>>17490416
It's a good thing she doesn't work in customer service, otherwise you might be misreading her work mandated friendliness.

>>17490423
The first part was just the setup paragraph. I don't care if she thought I was special or something, I work in customer service as well so I know how you have to be.

>>17490416
Just fucking go and ask her about the shoe to order. If the conversation turns friendly and personal go ahead and ask. It's not like she'll scream rape and call the cops.

>>17490403

Don't start a club or anything, whatever you do.

>>17490408
I don't even plan to start a club. I was hoping there was an existing club that I could join.

>>17490415
Don't worry OP you will make friends.
Btw top tier taste
SP is my fav anime

>>17490383
Yeah I don't have a good relationship with my parents either.
I'm a rape child because here in this country, women can't abort. my mother hated me every living day out of her life

Because of this I had severe depression as a child. Paranoia and other things.
She hit me. Shit talked me and a lot of other things.


I came out a sad person but I came out ok I think

OP I know it's hard that other people seems to have everything but you need to learn to be happy with your own self
Parents are not everything ok?
Of course they help in an ideal situation but life has a lot of good things to offer.

If you ever have kids remember these feelings. Maybe your kid won't know how to appreciate them but you knowing is enough

Being a rape baby sucks ass btw
At least I was born a woman I'd hate to have a penis

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>>17490404
which country do you live in incidentally? I'm curious, sorry to hear your story.

Why are you so glad to be born a woman? Usually I think it's pretty nice being a man.

>>17490427
I'm from a really boring country called paraguay. (Where people wouldn't let a 10 yo abort. Btw she was also raped)

I hope you don't dismiss my advice just for that.
I Wouldn't know about being a man but I like being a woman.
Anyway OP. Just trust yourself. You don't need to be gloomy or curse your life because of your parents. Just focus on yourself.

If you have to feel bad then do so. Feelings are not good when they are opressed. That could make you feel worse.
Just make sure to let yourself be sad if needed be but after that just try to stand up and work on yourself again.

It gets blurry because you're drunk

Don't drunk so much

that's the alcohol being pumped to your brain.
just sever your carotid.
ezpz

If you don't get drunk your vision won't get blurry.

You're asking how to swim without getting wet.

Oh and I am working on cutting my ties with my family. My sister / mother are literally nuts, they just call me to peck at my life choices and try to get me to change what I am doing. That's what led to me being so nuts.

I'm gonna make a book recommendation. I'm normally not big on self-help books, but there's a book called So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport. Basically the point it makes is that there's this idea that we're all supposed to "follow your passion", but in reality what you need to do is follow your ability. In order to be successful you need a marketable skill, and in order to have a rare, valuable skill, you need to work to develop it. The truth is, you're not predestined to do something - choose a field you're talented in and develop that talent/ability. I recommend stopping the third major (if it's appropriate... maybe in your case there's an excuse, but you'll have to decide that) and just start working toward building your career in one of those paths. If you don't commit to one path, you're never going to get very far in any of them. I know PhDs who haven't accomplished much of anything, and I know high school drop outs who have fantastic, enviable careers. The variable: they focused on a skill. I'm going to diverge a little from the book and advise you to choose whichever path you think you'll find most fulfilling, and invest in that. But beyond that, I think it's just time for you to get going with the path. Maybe stop thinking so much and start doing.

We all go through periods where our interests shift. Sometimes I want to start a punk band, other times I wish I'd developed myself as an artist. The thing is, don't let those moods distract you - pick one path that's actually feasible and that you have some real ability in, and go for it. Invest everything you have into it so that you become one of the few masters of it.
The PhD I mentioned has his degree in mathematics. He lives in a trailer park because he never committed to any clear path. The high school drop outs I mentioned: one is a friend from high school. He did a few odd jobs, then while working at a restaurant he discovered that he was fascinated with alcohol...(wait for part 2)

>>17490410
he became obsessed with learning all the different mixed drinks, and is now becoming quite the wine connoisseur. He was so committed he's now co-owner in the fanciest bar in my hometown, and has learned all about the accounting/business side of things (we're in our mid 20s). My other example is my friend's dad. He was a burnout who would hitchhike around the US and skip school. He got into hiking mountains. He became so committed to it he now guides famous people up hikes because he's a well-known guide, he's gone up Everest more than once, and he gives motivational speeches. They both had a path they pursued.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against education. I'm a grad student myself. But you need to choose a path if you're going to get anywhere in life, and most people never get anywhere because they're paralyzed by indecisiveness and complacency, which dooms them to mediocrity.