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What do you mean "it'll ruin her"?

>>17494056
It will look good on a resume and it will change her but doubt it will ruin her. There's all kinds

>>17494056
dont try to hold others back so they will stay in a relationship with you.

improve yourself instead.

if she just wants to be around other guys, maybe you should move on.

How did you not know you were going to be best man until now? Best man involves a lot more shit than just saying a speech

>>17494048
>>17494048
It was not discussed! And I hadn't done shit at all for the wedding previously.

It was literally, not figuratively,
>Uncle is going to walk me down the aisle. Been thinking about that for three years~
>You're walking me down the aisle
>"I'm what?"
>"You're walking me down the aisle now :)"

It's like she thinks we had that conversation before. But no, it never did. It was our uncle to me just randomly over some night like two months back.

Regardless, I was going to be a groomsmen though, because I wasn't previously walking her down the aisle.

Now sister tells me I'm the best fucking man and I need to prepare a fucking speech.


HOLY FUCK, I HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT IN IT NOW. MY SISTER HAS THE BAD HABIT OF VOLUNTEERING PEOPLE FOR SHIT AND NOT TELLING THE PEOPLE SHE VOLUNTOLD.

>>17494048
Wait, what else do I have to do?

Sell Plasma

>>17494054
any other options

>>17494091
Handjobs, gambling, go to a gaming tournament with a gun

The answer is: there is no answer.

>>17494033
I have felt just like that for a long time, but then I hit a void where I gave up trying and instead of feeling stressed because of my lack of willpower, determination and self reliance I just stopped caring, which turned me into an undefeated procrastinator at heart. I have to change, but I also lack the answer to this problem. If I were to take a guess, I would say that solution is to recognize our own abilities and limitations and try to not only do things for ourselves, but also to show respect for ourselves to face the objectives and challenges we have set. I believe the first step for us would be to

Good luck with whatever it is you want to do. Know that someone out there feels completely empathetic towards your current situation. Not that you need my empathy, but I have a friend I used to talk to about this sort of stuff, and even though he had a lot more willpower than me, knowing that someone else felt the exact same was good, especially since we both set extremely high standards for how we should live our lives, and how important it was for us to bring reality as close as possible to its ideal.

Have some nice jazz:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLg2dl25OrA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJ1xbgSob-4

>>17494033
>>17494464
>iktf

>>17494018

>Is a lot of arguing normal?

Why are you asking questions you already know the answers to?

What are you arguing about?

>>17494018
it's not normal. been together 8 years and we have disagreement but have rarely argued. We disagree, discuss like adults, come up with a compromise and move on.

Depends how much it really affects you. I would just keep doing what you're doing unless it is super serious to you.

I had an idiot gf once.
It gets to you after a while.
If you're the type of person that needs an intelligent person to bounce ideas off, then a dumb gf is going to piss you off really hard.

>>17494002
You absolutely have to respect a womans intelligence to love her. You can be realistic and practical about her mental abilities or personality, but that should never stop you from respecting who she is as an individual.

thinking of someone as smart is not the only way to respect their intelligence.

>>17493990

Rich parents helping you out? Medicine.

No? Engineering.

>>17493990
have any ...interests?
or career preferences..?

>>17494001
all interests that would be considered useless, art, music, film, literature, history, politics, etc. Thought about law but I know that's a death trap.

>>17493987
Friends with benefits. That's literally the only choice you have. Otherwise you can just donate your penis to someone who will atleast try to use it.

>>17493987
Im confused, so you do want a girlfriend without the expectation of marriage?

There are plenty of girls out there who dont see marriage as necessary.

With that said are you willing to develop and grow a relationship?

Spending more time with them, investing in them more emotionally over time, living with them, having a pet or child with them.

>>17494000

>Spending more time with them, investing in them more emotionally over time, living with them, having a pet or child with them

no, I don't want that.. I absolutely don't ever want children.

>>17493997

That whole thing doesn't seem realistic..

>>17493974

You are morally at fault here. Look at it from her perspective - if she doesn't have the money either, she is fucked in terms of being able to do school work.

>>17493974
there is a old saying. you broke it, you fix it. give her the money then you wont have to hear about the matter again unless gets gets dragged to court because you dragged it out too long

>>17494004
>>17493977
>>17493977
She did end up getting a macbook to perform her school work on. I do want to pay her back, but realistically that will not occur for at least a few months out. Not only that, but she's not the only person I owe money too, if action was pursued she would certainly be last in line. If she can't understand what I'm capable of and what can occur, then it's only gonna add more stress for her. She needs to understand I will try, but it's definitely not gonna be 1100 by the end of the month.

I haven't done anything because I think it's his problem.

No. I sell mine at the same price. Sometimes rent and other shit are more important than my concentration.
Mind ya own business how about ya go get laid instead of worrying about your roommates meds.

>>17493936
My buddy sells his Adderall for 7$ and there only 15MG xr, tell your roomate to step up his game

>>17493924
None of us are doctors anon. Go talk to them.

The goal of medicine is to heal you so that you don't need to take medicine and your body and mind can function well without it. If quality of life lessens at all, that medicine is garbage and you need to work to get off it immediately. Psychiatrist s who don't understand this and use medication as long-term/permanent treatments are garbage as well. OP, call yours immediately and tell them you want to live medication-free, if they do not work with you to find behavioural therapy and less invasive medicine as temporary solutions, find another psychiatrist or seek a therapist yourself.

>>17493925
Can't afford it. My meds are generic $4 thankfully

>>17493943
I've tried coming off my meds and all I do is sleep and have no mental capacity. It's wretched and the withdrawal is even worse

>>17493878

Index funds = good.
Mutual funds = mostly shit.
Both will fuck you if economy collapses. Neither try to time the market (index funds can't by definition, tracking the market and all that).

If your bank offers index funds, it might be fine, they probably just push shit mutual funds and bonds though. Do some research.

>>17493878
Use Vanguard. Go to personal finance or financial indepedent on reddit for more details. And yes index funds are pretty much everyones best bet.

>>17493891
>>17493892
What are some safer options besides index funds that might be good still? Bonds, CDs?

I'm still leaning heavily towards index funds but is looking at bonds or CDs worth it all? I bought a decent amount of both when I was younger but that's about it.

>>17493868

How much does the job in Cali pay? Get some shit apt somewhere and commute two hours each way.

Doesn't seem like you have any other options.

>>17493880
Roughly $2,200/mo.

My debts are a minimum of $1,185/mo.

My fixed costs besides housing are about $800.

I am considering living in the employee parking lot, in the back of my truck.

you really fucked up wow. how is someone so stupid? like why did you invest 115k into nothing at all? you didnt need to go to college to learn how to be a mechanic.

anyway, you have a computer so sell it. sell everything you own. everything. if you get that job find the most piss poor place you can stay at and consider a homeless shelter. if you live miles from the job then take the bus, walk or bike even if it takes hours to get there. cut out all unneed excess food; count calories so that you eat exactly 2000 or whatever number every day and only that. also theres nothing really wrong with making the minimum payments. if you could pay it back all at once then you wouldnt have borrowed in the first place

good luck retard

>>17493824

They're old pictures. He probably doesn't even remember that they're there.

He probably never even thinks about them.

On the one hand its a little immature for you to get all bent out of shape about old pictures. On the other hand, if you've asked him to delete them and he says no then he's being a little stubborn because deleting them is a meaningless gesture that will mean a lot to you.

If you haven't brought up the pictures with him at all that makes you an idiot and you have no right to be upset about some shit you haven't even talked to him about.

>>17493845
This.

Literally this.

Yes you're overreacting.

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http://vocaroo.com/i/s0jnb7wikVoN

it's so quiet

why are u depressed

why is the opinion of someone who unironically listens to nightcore worth my while