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>>17491931
Stop sleeping on your back.

Me. When it happens, I close my eyes very hard and start trying to bite my lips to attempt to wake myself up. Its going to feel like you cant bring your teeth to your lips and even when you do it will feel very very soft when you try to bite.

The trick is to start over the process of moving to another area of your lips and trying to bite again until you feel like you 'woke up'.

>you will feel like being in a dream state when it happens.

Yep way too often...
Sometimes it's fine and I don't get too excited and can wake myself up but sometimes it's fucking nightmares and it's scary af..
The worst one I had was like this
>Waking up in my room
>Realize I can't move thus im having another sleep paralysis
>My door opens and a mixture of a ghost and a monster starts walking towards me
>Can only control eyes
>Close my eyes as hard as I can and trying to wake up
>Feel her breathing on my face
>Stupid enough to open my eyes only to see her face 20cm away from mine
>She starts screaming at me
>Close my eyes and suddenly hear wolves coming into my room
>Somehow manage to wake up

Needless to say I could sleep that night...

Best thing to do is avoid sleeping on your back and sides (although I never sleep on my back and whenever I'm having a paralysis I'm always on my side).
Try not to panic and move your fingers and toes until you wake up.

>>17491921
Huh? Am I missing something here? Why don't you just tell the doctor about how her new prescription is ruining both of your lives and get her on something else.

>>17491963
Are you a wizard?

>>17491963
She switched my wife from one med to Prozac. Most docs are all about antidepressants being a cureall, the VA kept bumping my paxil dosage when I was going through my shit.

So this is going slow as expected... Will check again in an hour or so.

Not enough information for us to know. Just give it a try, what's the worst that can happen?

I got to know my girlfriend through the internet and meeting on weekends once a month, and it turned out really well, now she plans on moving to me within a year.
So, if she's the one and you're the one, you will make it work. Only way to know is to give it a go.

>>17491906
OP continued:

I did meet a girl though, and soon she was my girlfriend. We would spend hours and hours without leaving my room, simply alternating between sex and sleep, sometimes we wouldn’t even eat and I wouldn’t remember it until it was dark and we were both really hungry. So, I did not make myself study, or catch up on the work, that time spent with her made me happy, and the assignments felt like a frustrating grind. She, on the other hand, was always a great student.
So as the semesters passed, I watched how she made new friends, and I failed to, even when I wasn’t in classes with my buddy anymore, I just felt alone, and kept pushing myself more and more into that loneliness, I would only talk to her in between classes (she has a different major) and during classes I sat there quietly, trying to pay attention, to keep still, to not feel completely bored, I simply wanted every class to end, even if on occasion the subject was interesting, I couldn’t bring myself to stay with the program.
I think the reason this didn’t seem so alarming at first, is because I did manage to make some new friends, good ones, but outside of college, they had asked me to play drums for their band, and it was awesome, I felt like I belonged in their circle, got to know their friends, got invited to their reunions even when I hadn’t gone to the same high school, and even with all of them being younger than me, they also seemed to love exactly the same music that I did, and not only that, but wanted to play it.

>>17491907
So my college blues didn’t seem so urgent, because I was socializing, only not there, I was learning new things that I liked doing and practicing, only not in college, and drumming always felt completely unrelated to my “career”, I felt like I would someday have to drop it, for having to focus on a “real” job, for doing more schoolwork, or simply for getting older and fearing that I mind end up still playing local gigs for more or less ten people by the time I was 40.
Almost two years after starting college, I broke up with her. We would always talk about moving to a different country, and the kids we would raise there, and our pets. I would have a bunch of cats, and she would adopt dogs. I never lied when I said I wanted those things, and sometimes I believe the possibility of having them is why I haven’t just resigned life. But I was so numb, I tried and tried to spark that fire in me, I would toss and turn all night asking myself why I couldn’t feel “love” as the raging ring of fire in my chest that I had felt some years prior, for a different girl. There was nothing wrong with my college girlfriend, she was, and is, beautiful, smart, dedicated to her goals, and always wanted to make me smile, we would go wherever I picked and she seemed happy to just be there holding my arm, but I couldn’t truly open my feelings, make myself vulnerable to her. I would also kiss other girls if I had the chance, I wasn’t cheating by having sex, but it was still cheating, I felt torn, on the fence, about whether I should tell her or not, the couple of times I did, I hurt her and made her cry, but instead of stopping or changing my attitude, I would simply keep it to myself. So, over these feeling of guilt, and being unable to “open up” to her, I left her, it was so fucking hard, I had no clear reason to, she hadn’t done anything wrong, on the contrary.

>>17491911
She would promise that things would be like the first days we met, always caring for each other’s attention, she would tell me that I was the most beautiful thing that happened to her, that I made her the happiest out of all the aspects of her life, but it just didn’t make sense to me, that I could brighten someone’s life so much simply by being me, without really trying. I could only give her reasons like “You want some sort of Disney magical eternal love and I don’t know if I have that to give” she would say that that wasn’t true, that all she wanted was me. So, both in tears, I left.
I tried to really get into my career with the resulting free time, I took a summer course, tried to keep up, but at this point I was trying to catch up instead, and I had no friends in my classes, a grand total of zero. I tried to socialize, to make jokes like I did with my other friends and ex girlfriend, but it didn’t work, sometimes I swear they would just stare at me like I had just walked in and didn’t speak their language. My band wasn’t getting anywhere, we would make plans and plans just to ignore them, plans to save money and get to a studio, to get jobs for that, to get more gigs, but we wouldn’t come through with them. So, one semester after leaving her, (two years after entering) I dropped out, my words to my mother were “I can’t take it anymore, I can’t go a single day more, all my life I’ve been the smartest kid in class and here I’m the stupidest”. She did of course try to prevent this and present me with alternatives, but I made my choice.

>>17491904
Almost liked a 4 year old instagram photo

Jumped out of a car going 55 mph on a highway. Was over two years ago. Haven't done anything since.

fucked a hooker raw

>>17491890
Alcohol. Invite her over to a watch a movie or animu or play vidya or something. Once you both are drunk enough, make your move and see what happens.

fwb? nigga lose your virginity first before playing with the big boys.

>>#17491900
Yeah I think that's how I'm gonna lose it but thinking for the long term like being fuck buddies with her cuz why not?
>>#17491898
I actually never met her outside work but I guess I can invite her, sadly she's not into Vidya or anime.

>>17491879
Why would people want to buy used underwear? Isn't that kinda gross?

>>17491885
i know but its a thing and you can make alot of money doing it but knowing how to get started is the issue

>>17491879
>making a second thread when your first one still exists
>>17488924

Fuck off

Go visit the men's rights subs on plebbit to find out why you're feeling worthless and do some reading on the issue. Like real books, written by smart people.

In addition, if you're white go spend time on /pol/.


At least that way you'll stop feeling worthless. You'll feel angry and get to laugh at the insanity of the west. Your choice.

>>17491895
>You'll feel angry and get to laugh at the insanity of the west.
I'd say the insanity of the world in general. I'm in a similar position op, depressed (actually diagnosed), but no reason at all. Seeing all the morons anywhere and watching people do stupid shit is probably one of the triggers.

I understand where you're coming from and honestly I think you just need to learn how to feel good about yourself and enjoy spending time alone. This can be done by cultivating oneself. Reading books, watching good movies (that actually teach you something or expand your mind), taking time and effort to create truly meaningful relationships with other people, finding something that you truly enjoy doing...etc. These things are important and might stop you from feeling empty and worthless.

>>17491844
>Can I make my husband's penis smaller by running estrogen cream on it?
No. Estrogen is known to stunt growth, but not to shrink things.

>>17491854
seconded

Sorry girly if it's too big you're outta luck.

>>17491844
don't know about OP, and my bf's size not really a problem for me cause I like it, a lot, but other women have heard he is well endowed and they hit on him all the time, even in front of me

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>>17491826
hookers

>>17491826

Let's be real you. You the typa nigga who sits with their dick our on chatroulette for 12 hours a day, fuck off mang

>>17491824
Kys?

You're already literally fucking things up and the kid hasn't been born yet. Why don't you break up with the preggers and just spend the next 18 years paying for your mistake? Or give it up for adoption and break up either way.

Or man up and keep your mouth shut, then take care of your mistake either way. Fessing up will not really help anything in the long run. Just remember what it feels like to not have integrity and pride.

>>17491824
>have pregnant girlfriend
>decide to cheat with some girl
>dick fails me, might be my conscience telling me not to fuck it up
>this obviously has no bearing, better flop about
>opt to call thumbing it in "borderline sex"
>regret it
You're a cunt OP, your gf and kid deserve way better than you.
You cheated.
Come clean and pray she forgives you, if she does, you had better not fuck up again, if she doesn't, then do right by them and pay for the kid and give them any extra support that is needed ie help pay their bills.

I grew up in a shitty broken home because my dad cheated on my mother the day before they got married (while she was pregnant with me), for years he tried claiming everything from "I didn't want kids that young" (27yo), that he was drunk or that he gave in to temptation, because the thing you want to do the night before your wedding is go out drinking.
Growing up dad resented paying child support and when I needed things like backpacks, shoes or clothes he would simply say "I give your mother money every month, tell her to buy it".
Fuck you, you cunt, you cheated, you know it, get cancer and a life insurance policy, your family will be much better off without you as you clearly aren't going to step up and do the right thing.

the reason you've only banged 2 chicks is because you're a fucking faggot. Tell your gf and deal with the consequences, you would want her to tell you.

It's a power thing.

>>17491805
Because rape is not AN ACTO OF LUST OR DESIRE. It is a power thing. The man, who hates women because they have the power to excite him, has to revenge himself by using what power he has - brute force - to degrade and demean them so he can feel superior again. It doesn't work, which is why most rapists are serial offenders.

>>17492249
Men rape men too, bro. Everybody rapes everybody, actually.

>Will a school accept me if I make myself look like a victim?
Of course they fucking won't.

>>17491777
Only works if you are not white

>>17491777
What cancers did you have?

>>17491776
You break up

Didn't read beyond the first paragraph

>>17491787
Can you explain why you think that way?

>>17491791
I read the rest, just break up.
Literally just read what you wrote.

How did she have sex with you if you were younger?

>>17491766
dude you need a thereapist. this is beyond the scope of random people on the internet.
you cant heal until you deal with it.

honestly i was younger yes but old enough you know