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Last week Saturday, I decided to surprise her and come over because I was nearby for something else. When I arrived, I saw them sitting at a table, chatting. This smelled a bit weird to me because I know that the guy is no longer working at the café next door (because it was closed). Without accusing my GF of anything, I asked her if he still comes to her café regularly and she responded that he now works in another café nearby and often comes over to have a drink. She read my thoughts, but I forgot about the incident.

Then, Thursday morning, she invited me to accompany her to her café in the morning, so I could have my breakfast there. We went to the café together, she opened and after sitting there for two minutes, the guy walks in, sees us, turns around and leaves. She tried to stop him, but he was already gone. When she saw that I was having a bad gut feeling about this, she said that there is nothing to worry about. I thought it was weird for him to come over as soon as she opened the café and asked her whether he knew her shift (she doesn't work full-time). She said that he comes to the café every morning to have a coffee, no matter who works, and that he will soon start working at her café because he would earn more there (which I know is BS because she is working for minimum wage). I told her after the incident that it is my problem that I am jealous and that I will address this in therapy because it is unfair of me not to trust her.

Then last weekend, her mother visited her and her flatmate. And apparently, while the three were sitting together, she told them, in a boasting manner, about me being jealous of this guy. I know from her flatmate because it is one of my best friends (my GF doesn't know that her flatmate told me).

Everything is fine. She is super-attached and we're happy, but somehow, I can't get rid of my bad feeling.

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#1) I find it completely wrong of her to talk about this in front of her mother and her flatmate. She knows about my past and that I'm being in therapy for it. I also did neither make a scene nor did I demand anything and immediately told her that me being jealous is something I have to deal with, not her. Nevertheless, she decided to make me look bad in front of her mother and her flatmate in order to make herself feel better.

#2) I do not have a problem with her making friends, but find it weird that she didn't even tell me once, although they both seem to meet frequently, and that it was by chance that I found out. It might very well be that she did not tell me because she felt that it would make me jealous (and, admittedly, I do not really
want to know about everything), but given that they know each other for a few months and seem to sit together frequently, in my opinion the correct thing to do would have been to tell me. (Also, each time I saw them, she
never introduced me, but only got up from the table they were sitting on and ignored him.) So, it looks like the two are having coffee together multiple times a week without me knowing (which some people would consider to be dating, if it wasn't for the fact that she is working in this café) and I don't know what to make of this.

Any advice? Am I wrong for having a bad feeling about this? At this point, I find it hard to judge whether it is my personal handicap or whether I should find this suspicious.

Tl;dr

you're an adult
no one can cry rape on your behalf

>>17492152
But it happened when i was 17, and the law of Tennessee says that even consentual sex with a minor is statuary rape. And my dad wants to press charges

Your dad is an asshole.

Do it while he's sleeping

>>17492116
>trying to make your bf become jew for you
Just break up.

>>17492116

Yeah it is disgusting I know exactly how you feel. And the smell of it is just eww.

To be honest sex feels better with a circumcised guy, and giving a blowjob is a real pleasure.

Maybe you should tell him with circumcision he can avoid a lot of STD ?

Porn stars do it for a reason, it's not only for religious purposes !

>>17492102
Hate to be mean, but if you can't figure out intro calculus the first few times, you are going to do very poorly when the math gets more difficult and more theoretical. Try a less math dependant major like commerce or an easy social science.

>>17492102
Swallow your pride and go to community college and learn the pre college math first. I have done work as a chemistry TA and it honestly really sucks to tell 1st years who are trying their best that their real weakness is that they don't a sufficient understanding of algebra to be able to pass the subject. For example some of these people struggle with things like rearranging an equation like n=c*v to find one unknown. All the tutoring help at college can't help you if you've got an 8th grade level of background knowledge for a college subject.

>>17492102
Here's the problem. You get taught something - anything (it could be math or grammar or French) - and for some reason you don't get it. So you take the course again or see a tutor, and it is taught again IN THE SAME WAY YOU DIDN'T GET THE FIRST TIME, and so you don't get it again.

By that time your brain has closed that pathway down, and every attempt to teach it to you the same way will just be blocked in mental self-defense.

I had the problem with some basic grammar rules until someone went at them in an entirely different way that my brain could latch on to. Try to find someone who can throw out the calc textbook and find you a new way into grasping the basic concepts.

>>17492080
Look into history, maybe some art classes for electives if it teaches art history and wall, pillar or bridge structure.

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>>17492085
>literally the opposite of what I asked for
are you stupid or something

>>17492100

Figure it out for yourself dipshit

Since you have nothing to lose, join GhostSecurityGroup and perform cyberattacks on ISIS and other terrorists.
Not only would that give you a purpose in life, but you would actually do something that is useful for the society, and maybe even start feeling better.

Not only did you miss out on the good parts but you missed out on the terrible stuff as well. You are posting about this but it could as easily been. I'm in love with a whore who's cheating on me pls respond. The grass isn't always greener mate

>>17492099
Lose the whore. AT LEAST YOU HAVE BEEN ACCEPTED BY WOMEN ME.

>>17492058
you're alright buddy. normal kid. better looking than 70% of humans for sure.

>>17492058
you aren't creepy
what do you have going for you?
are you keeping up in your studies?
managing your money well?
staying healthy and in good shape?
are you funny/interesting/charismatic?
you want to answer yes to these questions.

>>17492058

You look okay. The hair cut doesn't suit your face and the glasses are a bit awkward, but otherwise there's nothing wrong with you. Just work on your confidence and you have nothing to worry about.

>>17492057
Put a TLDR at the end

p2

My morning routine Is now nearly robotic. I wake up, moisturize ( Have purple bags from insomnia and depression), 100 jumping jacks, an hour on the treadmill, shower, walk to work, smoke about half a pack In that four hour period. Get to work and pace around watching tickers and sitting at my computer. Everyone here hates me because I was brought In on a "special" exception. So I make more than my boss. I don't know how I can keep living like this. Coworkers ( Everyone Is close knit ) want me to go to high class parties with high class people. I used to be a socialist. I don't know how I got here. But I just want to make It out alive. And I don't think I can without anyone In my life. I come home, smoke about a gram of weed, drink nyquil and jerk off. Then shower and sleep. I've lost all my empathy and sympathy. I don't know If I can feel anymore. Homeless people ask me for money every day on my walk to work and I just avert my eyes. The only human thing I do Is check on my elderly neighbor and get her groceries If she needs them. And I don't know why I even do that. Have I sold my soul to the devil? its starting to feel like it.

>>17492065
I don't think I can even begin to tldr this.

>>17492054
invite tyrone over so he can test your gf out before he takes her. wouldnt want to leave him unsatisfied.

>please respond

Check her internet history and make sure she's not lurking /r9k/

>>17492054
so the answer is to use a known site for women to find guys to hook up with. Bullshit

>>17492048
depends. how feminine is his dick?

>>17492048
is this penis envy or it give you a woody

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVxZKOhLPco

>>17492040
I think you need time off studying until you find out what you really want to do. Any subject area will be difficult to do well in if you're not genuinely interested.

>>17492040
Can you go to a different school?

>>17492055
it doesnt really matter to me what i end up doing. i just want a relatively stable career

>>17492076
i could try to apply, but with my GPA i doubt ill find something

Just don't talk about it.

Do your thing, flirt, hook up, mess around. Leave it at that. Don't invite her to meet your friends, don't invite her to meet family, don't talk about other girls either. Whenever you hang out, it's just about you and her and that's it.

Nobody wants to feel like a whore, so don't make her feel like one by saying "I just want sex, you are cool with that right?" because you are just saying "I see you as a whore."

If she tries to bring you into her world (meet friends, family, etc) and you aren't comfortable with it, then you can say you are busy and she'll get the hint. Maybe that will end the sex, maybe not, but we are talking maybe 3+ months after you first start fucking around so you are fine.

Just don't bring it up yourself.

>>17492009
>So my question is, what's a good plan to letting her know that's all I'm interested in?

If she really is that much of a tramp, then telling her that you're not looking for anything serious and should be fine and gets the point across.

If she's actually looking for a relationship and wants more than sex, then there's nothing you can say that will make it work out because she'll want more than sex while you don't.

>>17492009
Check out Tyler from RSD and the Gambler.

androticsdirect.com

Either buy or torrent the book called Magic Bullets. It's written by Sinn and Savoy.

imagine women are car salesmen and your jizz is money.
a surplus of money gives you a certain air of confidence that salespeople can detect.
you're more likely to consider your options and seem less desperate.
and vice versa, if you're broke you're basically looking for a bargain or have no intention of making a deal. they can pick up on that too.
so save your money.

>>17492036
I'm not looking to learn how to attract women or get better when it comes to dealing with them.
I just want to decrease my sex drive so that I lose interest in women altogether.

>>17492038
well then keep beating your meat.
you literally want to go against your biology. keep that in mind. it may be why you feel like shit.

Why not go to a Victoria's Secret with her?

Body stockings.

>>17491965
She wants it to be a surprise and I kinda want to buy something without her input for once.

Edgy

0/10
too over the top, try again

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