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Is this pasta or something?

You're not this stupid, right?

>>17555959
have you tried double checking the picture in the internet? it sounds like a scam desu

>>17555959
Link the pic, it might help us determine a course of action. You know, in case someone recognizes it.

>>17555956

Look at that carrier. How would it do without its AEGIS cruiser friends once the P-800s start coming in? How would it do without its F/A-18 friends once SU-34s and TU-22M3s start dropping ordinance? Who would tell it about how to avoid potential problems without its prop AWACS friend?

Same thing with you.

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I've learnt to live without them mostly

It's not fun being around other guys

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>>17555967
>>17555968

I'm introverted and very close with family. Let me ask you this. Is it better to have shitty friends you argue with half of the time, but the other half is fun - or have no friends?

>>17555930
I feel you OP
I have the same
I haven't figured how to deal with it either

>>17555930
Stop masturbating so much, faggot. Shit, fucking with your head, mang.

>>17555930
Find hobbies that are stress-relieving.

Give yourself some "you" time, that is also productive. Remember that you don't have to be the best if it's something that you actually enjoy.

Also the defeatist thoughts and consistent pessimism are most likely a symptom of your depression, causing anxiety and further stress.

Build some self-worth. I can't speak enough about starting a small side hobby that you can build and practice and be proud of. It could change your life.

>>17555929
It just bothers me so much as to why I have a strong urge to do drugs even though I've only drank a few times. It's the only drug I've ever done, and it was just wine too.

>>17555929
I was like this, I was a loner who REALLY wanted to try drugs

Your aversion to LSD in particular seems very arbitrary to me and you clearly know little to nothing about drugs, which types there are, and their affects

OP don't do drugs. Just don't. Get drunk every once in a while yeah sure whatever.

I used to be like you - I wanted to try shrooms, acid, dmt - they fucked me up. I'm different now and I want to go back

Don't do drugs, they aren't an escape from your current shitty reality, they just bring you into an even worse reality from which you will want to escape, and it will hang over your shoulder as long as you live knowing that potential reality exists

>>17555981
I'll try. I like talking to these people but it's so hard to think avoid thinking about drugs when they bring it up. I admit I don't know much about drugs, or at least I think I don't know very much. And when I said I'd try any drug, I didn't mean stuff like lsd/dmt. I dislike the sound of those for these two reasons: lsd trips seem super long (and also the mindfuck), and i've read about dmt a lot on /x/, and it doesn't seem fun. If I were to want to try any drug it'd probably be weed, and as stupid as this sounds, probably ecstasy, oxy, and heroin. I wouldn't mind AL-LAD as well, as I heard it's mostly a visual experience.

Just trying to clarify things up, sorry about that.

By the way, thank you for your advice anon. I really appreciate it. I just had to get all of this out of my chest. It doesn't help that I'm a closeted faggot as well. I was thinking about going to therapy (for the OP, not the faggotry kek) but I'm afraid I might stress out my father too much.

Come on adv, help me

>>17555896
I don't see what is your problem?
What advice do you want?

>>17556010

How would you deal with my situation?

>>17555895
If you aint ugly as shit and alpha enough they'll give up trying to be friends with her.

Worst case you gotta tell them to come round the corner for a hot sec

>>17555895
My best friends are a couple, I like hanging out with the dude for dude stuff and talking to the girl for other stuff and she likes me like a friend and that is all.

Here is the thing, there was a time when I had feelings for her, I didn't act on them but I had them.

My advice would be to treat each case differently, maybe she has a guy friend who flirts with everyone so it's fine. maybe she has a guy friend who hangs around sometimes and then disappears but she treats him nice enough. Maybe she has this guy friend who hangs around her too much (orbits) this is not fine.

Beware of the friends who are too close or too fond of her. I know because I was that friend once.

Regardless of what you do or think, only your girlfriend has a say in having guy friends so I would suggest that you talk to her about meeting her friends (girls and boys) this could be a good excuse for you to notice which male friends are "uncomfortable" around you, those who have feelings for her will feel this way around YOU.

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Of course it's not alright.

>>17555869
Stop fapping with her on your mind.
Actually, stop fapping entirely, that's your problem.

>>17555892
I'm currently doing nofap for completely unrelated reasons
Maybe that is the reason why?

just choose to stop thinking about her retard

Ikr? you can actually choose where your mind goes, who'd have thunk. its kind of the fundamental building block of human and will and shit

>chad doesn't like me
>better break up with my boyfriend then
Fuck off.

>>17555867
Not her, but how would you feel if you realised your girlfriend still had feelings for a guy she ultimately chose you over? OP would be doing the best thing if she broke up with her boyfriend, it's not fair on him for her to stay with him when she's in love with the other guy.

>>17555880
The fact she went with another person while in love with someone else, and/or had a chance with the person she loved by decided to date a different bloke, still paints her as the bad guy here.

>>17555812
In all likelyhood, your feelings are probably mutual. Express to her that you're getting these vibes, and that you want things to go back to the way they were because there isn't any romantic chemistry between the two of you.

Always in these situations, just communicate how you feel fully and things will be fine if your friends are the least bit mature. If they can't deal with the fact that you're not happy in your relationship, then fuck them.

>>17555831
Thank you, that is really really good advice. I think I'm gonna wait a bit and then try that out the next time I can. I agree with you, being honest feels a lot better.

If I end up getting together with the New girl I like, should I tell her I just got out of a relationship? Because right now she doesn't know, and i think it would make her feel awkward. If I don't being it up will I be okay? I wanna be honest but I don't want her to think I'm a cheater for flirting with her while I was in a relationship.

its clear your current girlfriend isn't going to be long term and being with someone just because you're afraid to break up with them is no way to live (although there are many relationships out there like this)

Sooner rather than later you need to break up with her and it'll be a tough conversation but you'll both get over it and move on. It's more a matter of picking the right time to do it..

Kill me please

Leave. Clubs are fucking dumb, I don't know why you went in the first place.

get as drunk as possible as quickly as possible

It's the only way

Make friends with other moms so you can hear from them what they do to deal with this. And/or just hire a babysitter for a few hours so you can go hang out with your possible new mom friends. Also, you've got family, why not go on a vacation in which you dump the kid on them and run around doing whatever you want for a week? You only feel chained down because you're bored and lonely having nobody to interact with but drooling crotchspawn and an exhausted bf, it's a normal part of parenting and it'll get easier when the kid is older, but for now you gotta network around and figure out how to cope.

Why the fuck are you asking 4chan about how to balance a social life, a good relationship, and successful parenthood?

>>17555767
If you can live with your family and get yourself a job, why can't you ask them help you with the child so you can get yourself a job, even if it's a part time in the evenings after they get off.

If your husband works closing shift, that should mean he's available in the mornings. You can use this time similarly if your family is not available or close to look for a part time morning job. You could also see if you're eligible for some tuition assistance and take a class or two in the mornings or evenings so that you are making some advancements in your life, even if only baby steps, and don't feel like you're stagnating.

Leaving your relationship is unfair and selfish, and will lead to nothing but years of hurt, pain, and anger between you and your spouse. Whether it was a mistake or a decision, you two made the child together, and running away from your other or your child is nothing short of childish itself. No matter what you do from this point forward now that you've brought your child into the world, you will never be "starting over", only stepping backward. You have ways with work and compromise to bring yourself up and move forward as well, again even with those baby steps, and that's where your focus should be, on making that work first before you look at bailout options as your decision.

Having children out of wedlock is degenerate. You crave commitment and knowing the outcome of your new child. Get married to this bro and focus on the outcome of your child's life.
You're not you anymore once you have kidnon, you're now kidnon' mom.

A cuck

confirmation bias

sunk-cost fallacy

>>17555750

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Shameless self bump

>>17555588

You expect some magical answer? Join a gym. Work out. Don't get into matches before you are ready, or you will get punched in the head a lot and become an Alzheimer's cuck.

Also, you are way too fucking late.

>>17555728
>way too late
Don't be retarded.

>>17555586
stop being a pussy and tell him straight up

>>17555593
Is it really me being a pussy tho? Can we put the tough love 4chan edgy memes aside for a minute and really think about this?

Do I have to burn bridges with him? Surely there is a nice way to do this without having some beef between us.

>>17555602
I used to hangout with a couple of under scheming stoners in highschool. In my senior year I started really putting myself together but they would always text me or ask to hangout. I just told them I was busy and invited them to things I knew they wouldn't come too. They slowly went away and I went forward with my life. I didn't lose any sleep over it.

>>17555557
Chat and gossip with your close friends instead of asking strangers on the internet how to think for yourself.

This round of children is fucking themselves over getting a false sense of the world from the fucking internet.

>>17555626
>Anon says while on /adv/ of all places.

Honestly this has probably been asked all over the internet plenty of times. You should just google it.