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>>17556985
how old are you?
I think you just need the right thing to watch/read.
some recs for you
movies
>the way way back
>little miss sunshine
>submarine
>mr nobody
manga
>molester man
>densha otoko
>oyasumi punpun
>bunnouji
>onani master kurosawa

>>17556985

>>17556985

Leave these things home and leave the house. Can't waste time on them if you don't have access. Cut down the time you spend online by doing this first and eventually you'll create alternative means to spend time out of boredom. Go to local library to read or something like that. It will take a while, but you can teach yourself time to get over old habits (i.e. phone/computer). Limit online time to an h or so a day and stick to it. Keep computer powered off when you're not using it and same with phone if you can. This should decrease the motivation to do anything with them, if it takes longer and gives you time to remember that you could be doing something more productive.

>>17557011
I need my phone to be turned on constantly because of work.

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>>17556984
blow up the planet and start again

>>17556984
move on and keep trying.

>>17556984
Remember, its just a dream. Not reality.
Keep on truckin'

Often times people catch on to me being a sociopath and then they make life really difficult for me. But honestly it's not even success i am worried about, I really want to experience love and happiness which is impossible. I have a BS in both Bio and Math, and I am 28 years old. But since I am so blank in general it's hard for me to succeed in social environments since people don't like it when you dont play their games and cater to them. Also man recently I met a girl and I really liked her but since I had no soul or empathy (underdeveloped) she caught on and moved forward. I am not a teen anymore but ever since I was 6 or 7 I am stuck in the "angsty teenager" phase. So yeah can anyone relate to me? give good advice?

>>17556965
Weirdly enough I think oxytocin is your best bet. You need to try and have a real loving relationship with a woman. Oxytocin is a neuromodulator that is released during intimate physical contact. Make sure to do lots of cuddling after sex because that's when it's at it's highest. It has the ability to undo emotional trauma like nothing else in the world can. It breaks down old pathways in the brain and allows new ones to form. It allows you to incorporate that person into your life, and into your very being. People can make adjustments for someone they love that they could never make in any other situation.

Hopefully you can reach this state of love naturally because I doubt it will work to force it.

Since I can't offer anything that would really help, I'll bump this thread.

Also, go out more and talk to a lot of girls. Might seem hopeless, but you never now.

And also, this >>17556983

>>17556937
>should I wait longer?
For what?
It's been a year. Are you waiting for a sign from god?

>>17556948
Don't really know just didn't feel right

>>17556954
Sorry to tell you this, but that's cowardice.

Look, if, after a year of knowing this girl, she hasn't given you any signs that she's attracted to you, she probably isn't. The chances that she is as cowardly as you and you both are just waiting & hoping for the other person to ask is very unlikely.

But hell, ask her out. You'll probably be turned down, and it's going to hurt, but next time you'll be wiser (and you'll hopefully get started on it a bit sooner).

>>17556936
You and your gf both need the support of living-with-cancer groups. Google for peer groups who support each other and organizations like Macmillan Cancer Support who focus on helping you through the emotional/psychological pain.

>>17556936
Good luck, anon.

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>>17556936
Hope all goes well, man.

meant to say that people keep recommending me the marines but i dont know if ii should

>>17556926
Put it to you in the form of a joke that captures the culture of each service branch...

Five guys arrive at a mountain training facility in Utah, each one from a different service branch. They're met by a receptionist sitting at a desk.

The marine goes first. The receptionist tells him:
"Good morning marine. Quarters are in the basement. Rat repellent and blanket will be provided. Fuck-fuck games begin at 0400 hours and continue until 1800 hours. Discarded MREs will double as rat repellent and meal rations. Oorah. Yut. Kill."

The army solider goes next:
"Good morning soldier. Report to formation 0600 hours, followed by formation at 0900 hours, followed by formation at 1200 hours, followed by formation at 1500 hours. Final formation is at 1700 hours. Hooah."

The guy from the coast guard goes up:
"Good morning, Coast Guardsman. Report to the frozen pool for kayak training and fishing lessons. Have a nice day."

The sailor from the navy figures might as well go next:
"Good morning, sailor. Quarters will be held adjacent to chow hall. You will be issued mustache trimmers, anal lubricant, and condoms. Please note the serial number for each item. Have a good day."

The guy from the air force goes last:
"Welcome, Airman. Report to quarters at your leisure. Hot towels and breakfast in bed will be served daily. Air Forces barracks also feature and on-site masseuse and catered food. Enjoy your stay."

>>17556961
so the air force has it better?

I feel like if i try to keep the relationship alive, im just stringing her along to a future that doesn't really exist for both of us.

Then again, I dont have the sex drive I used to and most of my time is really consumed by getting my business off the ground, so i dont spend time thinking about sex or chasing woman.

Id be fine with seeing her once or twice a week.

Also, im planning on moving out of state, but Ill have enough money to fly her out to my house, or fly myself to hers, to visit once or twice a month. However, shes the kind of gal that needs constant, reinforcement, and compliments

>>17556924
>I've been dating an older, single mother of 3 kids.
When you entered into this relationship, did you intend it to be longterm? If not, time to cut and run.

Once you put a ring on that hand, everything will change.

>>17556930
>Once you put a ring on that hand, everything will change.
thats what I hear. Id ont want to marry her and then have her turn off and be bitchy because she has me by the balls.

also, a second part questions:
what the fuck is wrong with me?

I grew up Roman Catholic but lost interest in teh church when i was about 13.

She grew up mormon and only started thinking about leaving the church after a bad divorce.

She doesn't like the things i like.
and some of that is why i love her so much.
she doesn't drink, which keeps me sober
anbd she doesn't smoke which has made it so much easier for me to quit.

however, she doesn't like R rated movies
she doesn't accept marijuana
she doesn't like dogs or cats or pets of any kind and I am an animal lover.

Shes always done what she was told and has done her best to stay in the good graces of the church, while when I was 14, i was stealing my parents car to pick up my friends and go-joy riding in the city....

there are so many differences between us, I ccan't for the life of me explain why I love her.

Is it just the sex? Has she been treating me so good in bed that I just refused to even consider all the differences that should by all intents and purposes make us incompatible?

we're we both so lonely that when we got together it was like a dam of emotion breaking for both of us?

was it simply lust on my part while she was falling deeply in love?

If we break up, its going to suck. I know I'm going to feell like shit for awhile, because we already had a few of, what im calling, 'practice breakups' and they felt like shit

what the fuck happened to me?

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>>17556920
>bitcoin mining
Don't bother. It's an entirely corporate gig now, mostly dominated by Chinese guys using specialized rigs in warehouses. You would need to throw in a lot of money into the right tech (which constantly becomes outdated), electricity costs, etc. To get an idea, watch this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K8kua5B5K3I

>crypto daytrading
That's not entrepreneurism. That's just finance, and the fringes of it too, given that altcoins are still the Wild West. Plus you'd need large funds to actually make reasonable profits.

As for being proper entrepreneur, depends what you want to do. Any area of interest? Any business idea that comes to mind?

hah, newfags, it would almost be funny if I didn't have my dick out running out of porn

>>17556920
>How do I become a successful entrepreneur?
>bitcoin mining and crypto daytrading
LOL, get rich quick schemes.
How to become an entrepreneur? Stop thinking like everyone else. You follower.

you're fucking crazy lmao

Satisfying sex is a really important aspect of most romantic relationships. You don't always necessarily need to do it a lot, but you do need to be on the same page, and have a situation that works for both of you.
Clearly, your current situation does not work for you.
Tell him that lately you're not satisfied and you'd like to have sex more. If he does, great. If he can't or won't, then maybe you need to think about other steps. Some people break up over this issue. Others find satisfaction through open relationships (which, BTW, is a tricky but perfectly valid way to go if you find a way to make it work). But that conversation needs to be the first step.

>>17556886
>is this a legit reason to break up?
Sure. Why not.
But, I'd probably talk to him first. Lay it on the line.

>>17556859
So here's the deal, my sister is so fucking selfish in my opinion. She doesn't give a single dime to help with financial assistance (I know, I ask mom every now and then). She used to give before like for 3 instances on my record. She goes home here every saturday and sunday. When she does she doesn't help with chores at all. My brother on the other hand doesn't do anything but fail subjects at college, idolize hiphop bullshit that in my opinion doesn't help at his attitude, he also doesn't help at all with chores on the house. My mom and dad I feel are not really confronting them about it especially my younger brother, maybe because they're afraid he might run away, also he does not listen to lectures about life. (cont)

I feel like they are just concerned for themselves and not my parents health and financial condition. I mean is it really too hard to put a little effort to help your parents? I know I have flaws as well in this (still living in their house), that is why I'm thinking of running away, well not really running away but just distancing myself from this situation but I'm afraid for leaving my parents? does this make sense, I need advice?

tldr; my siblings are fucking selfish assholes

thanks btw if anyone replies :(

will be lurking here for a while

Many guys would kill for a girl that loves them.

I bet you'll write me off as some anon or try explaining away your feelings. But I get where you're coming from emotionally and I know that being over-loved by someone is offputting. So let me ask you, what are you looking for from a girl if you're not looking for one that loves you?

>>17556854
First of all, >>17556867 has a point. That's an important question you need to ask yourself. But, should you decide to move forward with ending the relationship,
>Should I just wait for her to fall out of love?
This is a terrible idea. This will undoubtedly take longer than you think it will, and even after it does happen (IF it happens), she won't necessarily recognise it and want to end the relationship.
>Or tell her the truth? Maybe omit some details?
In almost any situation, the best policy. Sit her down and tell her that you've been doing a lot of thinking, and that you aren't happy in the relationship anymore, and you're sorry, and you care about her, but you don't want to continue the relationship. Then just be considerate. Answer her questions, leave when she tells you. Give her space. But if you've resolved to end it, DON'T compromise or go back on your decision. That helps NO-ONE.
>She doesn't really have any close friends so I feel like an asshole leaving her alone like this.
That's because you're a caring person. But it's an awful reason to stay in a relationship. Her happiness is not your responsibility. For her sake and for yours, end the relationship cleanly and quickly. You'll feel like an asshole for a while, but you'll get over it.

>>17556854
Love is not a feeling. Love is a choice and an action.

>>17556828
As long as you're reasonably attractive you're his type, go ask him out, you've got nothing to lose.

Is there a language barrier at all? Is he speaking a second language? If so that might be why he's so silent.

Or maybe he's a fag or shy, who knows.

>>17556857
I dont think hes gay another student asked him something and he mentioned his ex as 'her'

>>17557126
Then he's probably just shy or something or there's a language barrier for him causing the shyness. Go and ask him out and see how it goes.

>>17556801
Go to your local library and get some books on topics that interests you?

>>17556801
sorry son, there aren't many ways to become more intelligent.

However, you can become smarter (more knowledgeable, wiser) by giving a shit and obtaining information.

>>17556801
For the exercises, ask /fit/. Right now, if you're going to join a gym in the next 6-12 months, your best option is to do a lot of cardio, both liss and hiit (in practice, pace runs, but also sprints and similar), and fix your diet.

Stop being a lazy shit, sell the consoles and uninstall all vidya.
Spend the time you'd play doing some programming, since that's what you want to do. Hands-on, but related to your field of study.
The easy way to get 'smart' is to put in the hours. Work harder, but also smarter, if you can get a study group.

In general, learn to enjoy pain and frustration. The more (useful) bullshit you wade thru NOW, the better your life afterwards.
Saving up instead of blowing all your money on stuff you don't need, studying instead of playing, all the 'good' choices are about delaying gratification.
Sometimes you'll need some, because your mind isn't properly wired to delay - fix your mind instead, get in the habit and DELAY.

>What advice would you give any man who's trying to become fit just to hook up with women ?

Nice fedora- stop doing things for women, start doing them for yourself.

A trend I've noticed among the guys who seem to never be in a relationship is that any time they talk to girls, they always put them on a pedestal by listening to their every word and responding to them like they're dudes.

I remember one time my friend from the Virgin Islands and I took an Uber back from a casino and these two pretty attractive girls picked us up. I have a pretty easy time with girls because I'm a goof so I wasn't really trying but my friend was really getting into it. My friend almost never directly responded to the girls, instead just saying what he wanted to talk about. The conversation never delved into awkwardness because my friend refused to follow the logical path of conversation that the girls tried to lay forth. At the end of the ride both the girls (both of them. seriously.) gave him their number, and you know what my friend told me? He didn't even fucking take down their numbers. lmao.

Don't put girls on a pedestal. You're the guy, you're the dominant, leading force, act like it.

>>17556816
MOAR

By giving up

Could try asking the Amateur Game Dev general or reading their sticky on /vg/

>>17556792
This is something I have always wanted to do too. It's arguably easier to develop than most other genres out there and it can yield a good interactive experience if made autistically well. I think you should start with brainstorming. Think about what the general theme of the game will be and what elements you would like to see in it, then think about how to develop the game so that it fits the best with those things. For instance, Pillars of Eternity has a skill check system in place for its interactive narrative. Actually thinking about how you want everything to fit together and adjusting that as you make your game is usually the most important step in development, since fucking that up means fucking up the game in its entirety. Think about how many games you know that are ruined due to disgusting systems in place, and how some games worked out so well due to a single mechanic that perfectly fulfilled its role in the game.