I'm a lifelong N33T with unpaid student loans in collections, unpaid medical debts in collections, unpaid traffic tickets in collections, and an unpaid fine from breaking a lease, also in collections.
I've never held a job for longer than a couple months, I have no skill set, no degree.
I haven't had sex that didn't involve a cash transaction in a decade.
In the past two years I've had 5 psychiatric hospitalizations.
What should I do with my life?
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The world needs heroes, anon. Especially those with a rags to riches story.
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>>17556780
How are you posting here
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>>17556780
declare bankruptcy and get a low-paying unskilled job that's pretty comfy and just do that for a while.
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Need some advice here please. 2016-09-11 12:49:02 Post No.17556740
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Need some advice here please.
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My girlfriend and I are pretty rocky right now, and it's because I won't lie to her, and when I do, I immediately correct myself and say how I really feel or think about it. Do I just stop being honest with her and make her angry about being lied to? Or, do I keep being honest and have her be angry with me because I told the truth?
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No, fuck that whore.
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>>17556740
More information: She's doing sorority stuff at her university, and she really wants to do it. I told her the truth, which was that It really didn't bother me whether she got into a sorority or not. I told her how I felt about it, and I wished her luck with it anyway, is there anything reasonable to mad at me about with this? Granted I worded it badly when I said it.
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I am so confuse. Hugh mongous wot m8?
The hell did she get mad about? Did she say??
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Is moving out of your parents home worth it? I live with my mom and while she cooks dinner every night that's about all she does. Is it worth it to be living on your own at 18 in the middle of the city?
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Yes, the independence makes it totally worth it. Btw where's the pic from?
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>>17556727
Depends on what your definition of "worth it" is. Yes, it's worth it if you want to grow more independent and control your own life. No, it's not worth it if you're not prepared for the constant financial struggle that comes with it and if you are unwilling to do housework.
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>>17556727
If you have a job and enough money to afford both having a place to live, maintaining it, feeding yourself, getting to/from work, so on and so forth, it gives you a lot of freedom and independence.
However, beware.
There are many pitfalls and dangers of adult life, and one can easily go astray and fuck up in a very short amount of time. Whatever you think it's going to cost, imagine it's going to cost a good deal more than that. Always ALWAYS pay your bills on time, never ever fuck up in regards to them, because that's going to fuck you over hard.
Don't go to university unless it's free or you're going for a very specific thing that is essentially guaranteed to get you a job, and the last thing you should ever consider is taking loans for -anything-. If you possibly can, avoid all loans, even if it means buying a $1000-$2000 car. Don't underestimate your expenses, don't overestimate how well you'll be able to handle expenses. Live cheaply and you'll reap the rewards, don't be frivolous with your money. I could keep going on and on but basically, just be fucking careful and don't wreck your life.
Hey /adv/
Idk I just need to get this shit off my chest
I just fucking love her dude, she's the most perfect thing in my eyes and I don't know what to do, we used to talk and we got really tight but now it's gone quiet. I feel like she's forgotten about me or the classic fucking friendzone came and fucked me over but yeah, that's my rant.
It's been around 3/4 of a year since we last talked and idk I haven't stopped liking her since I met her. One of her friends did mention that she said something about it feeling awkward that we don't talk anymore since it was a day to day thing for almost a full year and we both loved it and that apparently she thinks I'm funny and regards me as close to her
What do you think I should do?
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Why did you stop talking ?
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>What do you think I should do?
Let her go. If she's mentioned it being awkward, then she's figured out that your feelings do not match the way you act around her, and it's creeped her out. I'm sorry, man, but it's over. Let her go, and resolve to be straightforward and forthcoming about your feelings with the next girl.
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We had a group chat but we used to dm each other, but once everyone in the group moved on it all kinda just stopped
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>26 year old male, average looks, employed with a full time steady job, literally zero matches on Tinder
>26 year old female, average looks, employed with a full time steady job, three kids, tons of matches on Tinder
How do I stop being angry over this?
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Stop using Tinder
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By realising it's Tinder and therefore meaningless.
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Pussy has higher stock value than dick in our society. Dicks are very cheap, basically, they are given around free to anyone willing to take. Laws of the market, unless men will start to value themselves more and not be such pussy hounds, then things might be different. But all this virgin stigma and forever alone shaming stuff won't make it easy.
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Looking for a music video
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Hey I didnt know where i should post this but i need ur help adv
I cant really remember it, but there were 2 people, a woman and a man singing and many animals appeared on the video. like a parrot, and the blue man group were also dancing there.
Anyone know that song? I'm really thankful if someone would know it.
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"Blue man group" song cameo
Search that. If that yields nothing, swap song for music video
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Actually hell the appearance might even be listed on their wiki page, check there too
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>>17556646
tried, couldnt find anything
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there are so many of them, ugh
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I've been bullied the whole of my childhood and in my early teens. My mother is an alcoholic who enjoyed crippling my mind for being unsuccessful at school. I just finished high school with straight A's and I'm going on to college to study humanities, even though I know it's useless, but I there's nothing else I'm good at.
The problem is that I have an unsatisfiable inferiority complex. I want more and I want revenge on the people who hurt me in the past and on everyone happy I see around. I don't really know if it's a problem or not, since it keeps me going.
Got drunk yesterday and recovering, so I thought I'd just get this off my chest.
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>>17556624
DESU revenge is only good if you get it right away.
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>>17556637
Agreed. Revenge is a dish best served hot, not cold like every moron and petty failure keeps telling you.
Plus you'd have to spend 10 years on torturing the ones you hate if you truly want it to be a quality revenge, otherwise they completely got away with it. They get to beat you up for 10 years and you get to beat them up a little harder for 1 day. See where I'm getting at?
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How do I stop men trying to do sexual advances on me?
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get your hair done like this.
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>>17556596
Gain weight
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>>17556613
Shitty cropped candid shot, but is roughly what I was wearing the last time a guy tried ro coerce me into taking his dick in my mouth.
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I had sex last week with my boyfriend with a condom. After we started, the condom popped and then we quickly put on a new one. Im pretty sure there was no pre-cum, and if there was, there wouldn't be any sperm cells in them, correct? Because he didn't ejaculate before this since days prior. Also, for some reason when I go to pee after sex, there is this white substance in the toilet which looks like sperm, but theres no way because we used a condom. Im sure it could be my cum but, its white? I just woke up, and when I wiped after using the bathroom there was white discharge which I rarely ever get. My boobs are also a little sore.
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How long ago did you do it?
>Im pretty sure there was no pre-cum, and if there was, there wouldn't be any sperm cells in them, correct?
Wrong.
>Because he didn't ejaculate before this since days prior
That actually makes it even worse.
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We had sex about 8 days ago. And I'm pretty sure he ejaculated the day before actually.
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>>17556589
You could be pregnant.
Wait till your period, and then if it is late take a test.
Next time condom fails, get morning after pill.
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Someone uploaded paint videos of a character representing me with my full name back in 2011, he refused to take them down. I sent a privacy violation request to YouTube, but they refuse take them down. I read their privacy guidelines and the video clearly violates it. What do I do? It's extremely annoying, when I google my full name, the videos are the first results. The paint videos are humiliating in nature.
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A-Anyone?
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Complain again to youtube, use the words racist and offensive a lot, don't worry whether it actually makes any sense or not, just use those buzzwords. YT has started transitioning down the full SJW route like the other cunts now. Oh hey there's an idea. "I'm trans and this racist hate speech portrays me as a gender I no longer identify as and it's very offensive!!!" ought to do the trick.
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>>17556633
kek, if I do another complaint they will ban me.
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What do you do if someone cheats on their SO with you? Are you just as bad as the cheater?
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>Are you just as bad as the cheater?
If you know that they're in a relationship and that by getting with you they're cheating, yes. Arguably more morally degenerate.
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Maybe not as bad, but definitely shitty.
>>17556541
>Arguably more morally degenerate.
One of the major differences is he's not breaking a promise. When you're with someone you're promising to be faithful, and the cheater is violating that. The other woman or guy is just enabling that decision.
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Morally, you decide.
Do you know of their relationships? Is this happening constantly, with the same or different partners, or just a one-off?
if it becomes an habit, you'll get more attention from would-be cheaters and their cucked spouses, can become a problem unless it's your fetish.
I feel like I'm getting more retarded by the day.
I was always that weird kid and that always bothered me, much more so in recent years, but I never really did anything to go and change it. Also I was (am?) fairly smart, and knowing that helped me cope with my weirdness.
I hoped it would get better with time and once I got into college and stuff, it briefly did. Still far from being normal, always partially excluded but much better than it used to be. And then it went to shit.
Since I transferred colleges 2 years ago I've been loosing my little social skills. I can no longer keep up conversations I used to be able to, I'm becoming an increasingly boring and uninteresting person, I feel like I'm forgetting how to walk or sit properly, I'm unable to make friends and I'm always procrastinating and less motivated than ever (and I've never had clearer in my mind what I need to do and why).
And also I'm feeling dumber by the day. I usually would understand all of my classes, have the right answer before most other people, and lots of smaller stuff that I can no longer do.
There are a lot of small things that sum up, and while I've been sadder I think I'm in a worse shape than ever. Dumber, more awkward, less social skills and less motivation than ever.
Fuck I'm worried. I want to blame it on some kind of disease, tell myself it is just paranoia and everything is as it has always been but I know that it is not the case.
It is just me being lazy, unmotivated and awkward, and not only failing, but going backwards with my insignificant attempts to get better.
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Depression, apathy, pessimism. These can take away from your capabilities. If you care about your situation at all, then you'll seek help for your problem.
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>>17557461
This.
Also, just to get an idea: when was the last time you read a book that wasn't required.
I find that people who feel dumb/are getting dumber/etc tend to get uncomfortable when that question is popped.
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It must have been about two years, "Godel, Escher, Bach". I started "The Name of the Rose" last year I think, but the ridiculous amounts of Latin put me off.
To be fair that kind of question always bothered me, even before I started feeling this way. It implies the amount you read is directly tied to your intelligence and since I haven't read much since high school it upsets me.
Also I think it has something to do with dedication vs intelligence. I'm an intelligent person, but absolutely not a dedicated person and when confronted with the fact that intelligence by itself is useless (whereas dedication by itself is the only thing you need to change your life) I get sort of defensive. I guess nobody wants to admit to be a lazy fuck, so I try to take shelter in what I already have...
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I need stability and security in my life anons. I have this crippling issue where I feel zero security, stability, home or family unless I have an S/O. So fine, I get a girlfriend and can keep her for years, so far going on 4 years. Great. But then everything I consider stable happy secure life is tied to this one person. Moreso, unless I'm actually physically with this person I basically feel nothing but unhappiness and occasionally anger, and I CRITICALLY neglect myself and my surroundings until I get to see my SO again.
Worse, the slightest changes in how my SO talKS or acts or communicates creates vast reverberations across my emotional landscape of anxiety and deep panicked fear. I had a deplorable abusive neglectful home life until I went to college 5 years ago.
Can anyone help? I want myself, my home and my mind to be balanced and tranquil and to find this stability, security and strength/peace within myself
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I can relate to lots of that. You familiar with the psych terminology "fear of abandonment"? Could maybe be tied up with that. Steer clear of all the Borderline (BPD) stuff, you'll get a lot of hits on that because fear of abandonment features prominently in that one apparently. A self-help style book on codependency might be worth a read. Wish I could help you more man.
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Checked. Thanks anon any help is appreciated
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>>17556555
Looking into this anon, definitely strikes a chord. Especially "object constancy". However, would this explain my emotional and mental total hibernation in the absence of my SO? Even if it explains my fear, terror and lack of intrinsic security, stability and comfort
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Help me /adv/. YouTube keeps recommending all the Jojo spoilers and I can't watch the series for a month. Is there anything I can do to stop all the spoiler recommendations?
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You can turn off recommendations in your profile settings I believe.
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>>17556484
you can erase your past views so that it doesn't suggest you jojo themed videos.
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Well, you know, you can read the fucking manga.
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I started dating this girl about 3 months ago. My best friend and I met her together and I could tell from the start we were in competition. The girl liked both of us, but I won. I'm pretty sure he still likes her and it makes me angry. They both speak way too fondly of eachother and she cares way too much about him. I can see by the way he acts that he still likes her.
However, my friend and I have been through so much together. He is like a brother to me in many ways. I don't want this to ruin our friendship but I feel immense anger and jealousy around him now.
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Congratulations. You ruined your friendship over a girl.
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>>17556507
All I did was date her. Its not my fault he is in love with her or something... hows that my fault? I wish he didn't feel this way, but I can feel the tension between us every time we are both together now
not my fault. I love this girl. wouldn't you be angry and pissed if your best friend still liked your girl 3 months after you started dating her?
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>>17556510
Clearly you're too emotional to discuss this properly, so I'm not going to waste my time arguing with you about this.