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>>17818293
>Hope you're feeling alright. Lemme know when you're good to hang out

Then go do whatever it is you do. If she arranges some shit, then she's interested. If not, don't worry about it.

>>17818293
Take it down a notch for a couple days. Don't be cold or anything, just let her text first and don't ask to meet up unless she suggests it. Sounds like she gave you a soft "no" twice in a row, don't go for the third strike just yet

>>17818302
From what I can tell girls literally never initiate stuff so I feel like telling her to let me know when is a bad idea

>>17818308
Well yeah those were no's but they were as soft as it gets because she had other shit going on

I've got one text sent to her with no response "sounds like its pretty rough" I sent like 40 mins after I got hers, and I never got an answer, combined with her saying she had been laying in bed sick and I think she passed out

If I get a text from her tomorrow/whatever (saturday) going "yeah it sucks" or whatever what should I do?

I mean like I shouldn't have to spell this out to her, lets do this thing

I guess I could wait until sunday (if I get no texts from her) and ask her how shes doing, but I really dont want to wait that long

I suggest just giving it a go. Worst that can happen is she rejects you but so long as you deal with that graciously nothing else bad will come of it. Way easier said than done I know..

Try and act as if you're almost certain that you're going to die tomorrow. That might help you realise how trivial and weak the things that are holding you back really are.

>>17818273
Am I thinking about it too much though when I have the thought in the back of my head "If I do this, and if it doesn't work, she's gonna think I'm a total fuckin creeper."

>>17818389
>Am I thinking about it too much
yes.

are you a creepy person? no? then why worry about someone thinking you are? in the end, the only opinion that matters is your own.

>>17818218
Drugs. Seriously.

>>17818232
I can't afford a drug habit and I wouldn't even know where to get them.

My former weed man is working at the same place as I do now, because there's no way to support himself with plants.

just amp that shit up broo its that easy.

>>17818197
if you have time to post stupid shit on 4chan
you have time to go out

>>17818213
A quick post on 4chan isn't the same as going out to some social event, plus it's free. In short, go fuck off.

>>17818197
Been there OP. I have no idea how. One of them suffered with me for sure. I love learning but goddamn did I hate school.

You have to turn yourself into a goddamn robot it seems.

one suggestion is to eliminate wasted time.
an exercise: record how much time you fritter away on 4chan, facebook, video games, etc. in the next week. I mean the truly frivolous minutes scrolling through this or that marginally interesting news story or life event of someone you've lost touch with. even an hour/day of wasted time could at the end of the week total 6 or 7 hours you could have spent with friends on the weekend. I think that a lot of the people who seem to have it all do sacrifice socializing or manage their time very well. probably a mixture of both.

Plastic surgeons will do anything if you have the coin

>>17818168
How much coin would I need?

a raptoroplasty would cost you around 10,000 usd

Fuck her one last time and tell her that you are dumping her as you cum inside her asshole. Then kick her out

>>17818145
Not an option. I'm very much in love with this person, I've never opened up to anyone like this. We get along amazingly, have common interests. Would you answer change if you thought I was a femanon and my NEET boyfriend was the one I'm talking about?

If you are a grill then fuck him in the ass with a strap on then dump him

>>17818110
It's not that they can "smell that you're a virgin", it's that you care about it way too much. It literally does not matter, and you only think that it does because you've been exposed to the "you're a wizard at 30" mentality on the internet. This simply isn't true.

Plus, (most) girls don't go to parties to find boyfriends or hook up. They go to have fun with people they know. Same for bars, or any of the other "typical" hook-up places. They don't work. If you are going to meet someone you genuinely like and who genuinely likes you, it'd be somewhere where both of you are expressing a common interest. An art gallery, online playing games, whatever. But, again, if you're forcing it, it'll never happen.

I'm ugly, awkward, and have no-social life. I just accepted that I'd probably never date, let alone marry. I just didn't let it bother me, and didn't try to get laid/go on dates/have female friends. I even turned down advances from a girl who I simply found unattractive. One day I was just chatting with people on a forum (not 4chan), and struck up conversation with someone. We talked for hours, and just clicked. We started emailing, then texting, then phoning, then video chatting, then flying to meet each other. That was 5 years ago, we're still together. She's wonderful.

Just don't force it, and let it happen on its own. If it does, it does, and it it doesn't, it doesn't. Don't let yourself care. Focus on yourself, doing things you enjoy.

>>17818837

Why not force it?

the world of internet dating is you friend. It's literally soooo easy

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>>17818045

i also have bipolar, recently coming out of a depressive spell. if you choose suicide, you will hurt people waaaay more than if you stay alive. i know from experience. bipolar IS treatable, you CAN find goodness in your life again. hang in there. take it one day at a time

find some things that will calm your senses. some nice candles, a hot shower, a good workout, your favorite album. write a lot about how you are feeling.

are you on meds? if you are, they may need adjusted. if you aren't, you should probably see a psychiatrist.

you need zyprexa

Anon, you need a new medication.

Source: bipolar since 12, 24 now.

Something important i learned recently:

Feeling suicidal is traumatic. It can give you ptsd. It might take years to fully recover.

Try at least 2 new meds for three months each, and a new psych for 3, and if you still want to die, go to a hospital. If that doesn't help, and it's too hard to be alive... Well..

>>17818030
sounds like it's time to break up anon.

>>17818030
dump her you cuck

>>17818030
Yep

Why are you switching universities?

>>17817987
That's the thing. I'm not sure I should, I am genuinely not sure if home is what is killing me inside or because the course is shit or because the friends I now have are insufferable and painful to be around.

>>17817985
you seem very negative

I married very young and then early in the marriage had an abortion. We just weren't ready. We weren't financially ready, emotionally ready, our relationship definitely wasn't ready. We were married but we weren't "settled down" we partied a lot, traveled a lot and had our own issues we had to work in to make our relationship work. 6 years later we had a baby, three years after that another perfect baby. Good jobs, own our own home, the relationship has never been better, and we knew exactly what kind of parents we wanted to be, and how to work together to make it happen.
Statistically this is common, women who terminate a pregnancy young, end up being better, more financially secure parents in the future. We did it for America. We don't need anymore fucking poor people.

>>17817957
How old are you guys? What's her career situation?

If you really want to stay together, you should just get married and keep the kid. For most couples, the first child is a "mistake," nobody ever feels ready.

I'm totally pro-choice and everything, but when my girlfriend had an abortion I just couldn't look at her the same way anymore. The relationship never really recovered, it ended badly a few months later. I was really in love with her before that.

It's not like I judge her for what she did, I think it was just on some instinctive, biological level. She got rid of our baby, and that felt like a definitive statement that she didn't take our relationship seriously. That whole "meant to be" feeling was just gone. I know it's dumb, but that's how I felt.

>>17817970
>>17817976

we are 24. im applying to grad school, she is trying to get back into school.

I'm not ready to be married and she is trying to see someone new. we've been fighting but she'll leave and say she misses me. apparently its a two day procedure for the surgery... what is the risk she could never have another child?

>>17817827
Delete the cookies and stored data in your cellphone browser.

>>17817827
Stop using AdBlock for 4chan on your laptop, it causes errors for adv

Retard

>>17817871
why adv specifically? I have the same problem.

Also side note, why isn't legacy captcha available for standard posting?

Make a mini documentary about Panamian culture with a spanish text to speech program.

>>17817810
Current events?

try to suck yourself off

best two tips

don't overthink any of this
take some risks

that's all

>>17817733
Fuck, you're right.

I needed to hear that, thanks. ;_;

>>17817743
also ask someone to slap you and cut your shit you sound like a pussy

>>17817702
you sound really autistic, and she sounds really dumb. i wouldn't worry about this too much– this relationship was doomed from the start

>>17817702
idk you coulda asked like, why, or something

"dating is too much work" was her rejecting you softly. You responded very strongly.

It doesn't matter. She didn't want to date you, and you didn't want to be friends. It's over now.

Good on you for asking, but dial down your response seeing as your own reaction bothered you.