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>>17815516
please help I tell my spouse I'm so upset I want to die and he falls asleep while I'm talking to him but I can't actually kill myself because I created life and have to be responsible

If you're not going to leave him, cheating on him or getting a really intense hobby is probably the only way to feel human again.

You want your kid to grow up with your marriage as a template?

>>17815516
GO TO COUPLES THERAPY

The best thing I can tell you is to stop thinking about the future so much. Live day by day and try to best yourself each day. Say "I will get double my score in tetris today."
Don't question yourself and stay busy enough to not let doubt effect you.
You will dread. It's going to happen but I promise that if you just keep working at your goals it hurts less.
You will be lonely. Stop looking for attention and affection from others and make your life simplified and straight forward.
You have to make a schedule if you want to use your time the best way you can.

Books that can help (I recommend a kindle desu):

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover

Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength by Roy F. Baumeister

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Busines by Charles Duhigg

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield

>>17815649
I can't fucking deal with it.

I'm going to be watching all my friends graduate while I'll still have another year left.

I feel so terrible for letting this happen.

>>17815509
Graduating a year late is honestly not something to complain about.

So many people take GAP years, change majors, defer due to an injury, etc.

I graduated in 5 years because I broke my leg.

I had a few friends who got delayed by a year because they chose fashion school and didn't like it their first semester so they had to drop out and start from community college. It's honestly not that bad. You have a good GPA and you need to stop comparing yourself to others.

yep

Yes, they didn't tell you that in school?

>>17815504
short answer: yes
Long answer: you are a fucking moron.

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ok I read your story, what advice are you looking for?

That job didn't work out, but there's nothing to be done about it now so just keep looking until you find something that does.

>>17815500
Did you work for Amazon?

>>17815498
Fucking kys and smash that mouth fedora. When I see vapers I want to punch them.

>>17815498
I went with the cloud beast instead of bb, usually the atomizer you are using is a variable in cloud content

>>17815498

*tips*

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you must be a woman. everyone knows the guy who really engages with her is the one who's worth it

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>>17815495

Does it matter?

You sound smart enough to continue fucking him until either one of you cheat or get bored

Eat a bullet

If you like him????

What kind of question is this?

"hey about that career yeah don't do that you are bad at it"

>>17815493
:/

Internet echo chambers are emulating villages from days long past. It's fucking hilarious, not to mention poetic.

OP, let's roll with the village analogy for a bit. You are obviously the worldly older brother that can actually see that she sucks. Others around cannot. You as her direct kin has a duty to teach her about what you believe is real comedy. If you don't know or can't explain and are just cringing, then just keep your mouth shut and let her crash and burn.

>>17815493
i found that funny. dont crush her dreams you jealous prick. what are you mad you arn't the one getting attention from grandma?

>>17815487
Two kids go to school. One earns an A, the other earns a C. If the difference is that the child with an A's family is supportive, while the child with a C's family is abusive; did the child with an A earn their A?

People support you for a reason; be that professional, romantic, familial, or platonic. If you don't feel like you've earned the A, at least strive to have earned the support.

>>17815496
That's pretty smart. I'm too wrapped up with what I did/earned/made. But I don't think it's giving my life any value. Maybe looking past the support of others led to my being unsatisfied with my own achievements.

so what does this mean, I am actually a product of my environment? The self made man is never entirely self made?

Now that I read it over, it does seem obvious.

>>17815549
I've been through something similar with ritolin.

>so what does this mean, I am actually a product of my environment? The self made man is never entirely self made?
Not wrong or right. IMO the self made man is somebody who, while a product of his environment, is also capable of shaping himself from it as he needs. Though an opinion is an opinion.

I turned myself into a failure because I had the A kid's support, but was too afraid of success, what would be needed to reach it. Please don't make my mistake.

the one with the biggest dick

>>17815407
fuck all of them rawdog and stick with whichever one knocks your indecisive ass up

Depends on a lot of things. I am partial too the last one because it's pretty much my situation, except reversed. We started dating six months ago over the summer, and she told me she's been obsessed with me for a long time. She goes to school about 4 hours away now, but I still see her once or twice a month.

Just leave her you cuck. Also why the fuck would you work while she sits at home if you don't have kids anyway?

>>17815392
your wife is a conniving bitch and I would drop her like a watermelon falling from the eiffel tower

>>17815469
>>17815451

Wel, there you go. I need to fucking learn to drive and then I'm kicking this bitch the fuck out. I own a car...and don't know how to legally drive. That's my stupid ass fault.

i live in japan, i can redeem it for you : )

Use a VPN and mask yourself as someone in Japan.

aloha nihao, is your friend tanaka-san, in osaka! give money arimasu~will exchange yes

usaf

your fellow airmen become your friends, brothers and sisters, your sergeants your fathers and mothers, all there to help you through anything in your life

i joined at 21 and got my life together

>>17815361
I'm too much of a soft cunt though and a sad bitter loner who can't relate to many people.

>>17815386
Not USAF guy but sounds like you're making excuses.

you sound like a child
do you play with toys and vidya?

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>>17815440
No. I usually read, write and make attempts to do art on my free time.

>>17815473
Stick to what you know? Read everyday about your job and how to do it better? Develop a hobby and work hard at it to achieve something?

I don't know OP. Your question seems too vague. IMO, having a general sense of "non-deserving" might be you subconsciously thinking your life is too easy, but it also might be that you have confidence issues.

If I were you, I'd find something difficult for you and try to master it. It could be anything: a hobby, a sport, another job; anything.

I would also read about your job to become an expert in it: start looking for projects to take on to further challenge you.

The best way of combating a lack of "deserve" is to do something that makes you feel deserving of your surroundings.

It's kind of crazy because it's entirely psychological. You just need to force yourself to read, and to keep reading. I'm thinking about this a lot now and I don't understand it but it's difficult to get the ball rolling, but once you do you're in the zone. Basically, it's easy to do so don't worry.

If it helps, you can think about your situation. If you read for 2 hours a day, before long you would have finished that entire shelf of books, you'd feel fucking amazing that you read all that shit, and you'd likely be going out to get more books to further that. Hell you might feel so inspired to write, or do something else meaningful with your life. If you carry on as normal, you won't get to this point and you'll likely feel very similar the entire time.

Also, it helps to break things down. A massive bookshelf full of books feels daunting, but really we can break it down into books, then into pages, then into words. After all, reading is just one word at a time, reading this post you've already read more than two hundred words.

The same thing applies to shit like drawing, learning languages, exercise, or anything. We always look at the result and think "Wow that's so amazing, I could never do that!", we always give ourselves the big goal "I want to be able to draw photorealistically!" or "I'll never be fluent in Spanish" which can be over-bearing. Drawings are a collection of lines, to which a few rules are applied, languages are a collection of sounds, to which a few rules are applies, buildings are a collection of materials to which a few rules are applied. Small things really add up over time.

>>17815332
my friend, i love video games too, but you need to quit if you want friends and to breathe fresh air. not gyro basement air from last night.

>>17815384
That's a cool way to look at it. It's not so much finishing the books that I care about, but eliminating the negative influence of the internet from my life. Regardless of which site I choose, they all make me pessimistic and unhappy, but too entertained to do something else. I want to live a lifestyle offline, but with no money and a PC it sounds difficult to maintain.

>>17815403
I think you can have both, but I agree to an extent. That's why I made this thread.

i guess no one...

>>17815327
nope, you never really get over it. eventually youll cover her memory with enough other stuff that it no longer affects you, but the feelings and memories never completely disappear.

She's not going to call you back, and even if she does, it's just not worth trying again if you broke up on bad terms.

It's been exactly 14 months now for me, and i still think about her from time to time, wonder what she's doing, if she misses me, if she's thinking about me.
But that's probably because i'm a useless NEET, so i don't meet other people and don't do anything else with my life. The first few months were the worst, i had depression, lost weight and shit. I loved her very much, being in love with someone for 5 years, then dating for 2, thinking you are living the dream only to get dumped like you never meant anything is no joke man. One night of depression, i decided to go for a ride to clear my head, on the highway i accelerated to 120 mph and seriously considered crashing on a wall and be done with it.
Today i look back and think about how stupid i was to even consider wasting my life for some bitch who doesn't want me.

What i can tell is to forget her and move on, no matter how hard you still like her and think it all will sort itself out, don't do this to yourself, this is your emotions trying to control you. You know it's over, move on.
Don't ever love someone more than you love yourself unless it's your child and even then there are exceptions, remember. Work on improving yourself, learn valuable skills, build a nice career, make money, meet people, make friends.

Focus on living a fulfilling and interesting life, one day a woman worthy of your love will appear.