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You're pretty much me. I don't know what to say other than talk to girls like they're dudes. Dudes you wanna fuck.

1. learn how to hold a conversation, and examine why it is you can't hold a conversation. you might simply be nervous, or maybe your life is lacking something most people have.

2. dating women who you don't already know like you can be emotionally draining and a shot in the dark. lots of women will flirt and then either ask you on a date or make you feel really good about yourself and ready to ask them on a date.

I'm not a very good looking guy, and I'm not very educated either. I'm not tall or strong or talented, yet there's always someone around. Maybe you have a problem socializing. That's most likely the issue.

>>17819252
I mean I've made it a point to try and not mess with girls I already know because I already know girls I do know don't wanna date me. I wouldn't say I have problems talking to girls because I talk to alot of them but that usually dosnt last long for some reason. I mean after 5 years you just sorta end up feeling like maybe you're not worth it or ugly and develop self issues and I thinks that's starting to be the case like wth why not me? I've seen uglier dudes than me score with less but idk things aren't working.

>>17819215

Private or public identity?

>>17819215
What the character in the comic doesn't realize is that the pieces you choose are what makes your identity.

decide what you believe and don't believe, what you like and don't like. find determination and build talents.

>>17819195

>Am i getting old or it's just depression?

Neither, its just you being a shithead.

It sounds like you're fed up to me. Depression would be an extension of that like not even having the energy to describe your reasons for disliking something. I am a pretty cynical person and have been through years of depression and I can tell you there is definitely a huge difference. I fucking hate the world because a lot of the people who run it. However I love it because of the few that inhabit it and the nature the universe brings

>>17819202
well, almost every day i have few hours of "fuck this fucking world", but in the morning i'm just fin and in a perfectly good mood. Would be great to not be that random

Does he even have the cold blood to listen to you?
Cause if not, I don't see how talking about it will help, if you're both hotheads, you'll never manage to discuss calmly about anything serious.

>>17819230
He's not an hothead, quite the opposite.
But he's just gonna play the victim, look down and mumble to himself, and then he'll just keep doing what he's doing.

>>17819259
Does the rest of the family knows?
That sound like a dirty secret kind of shit.
Maybe you can try to talk to him a bit, and once he lowers his head and the mood gets quieter, mention in passing that if it gets too out of hand for you two to handle you'll try getting help from the rest of the family.

If they do know, I'm totally out of idea. Sounds like he's addicted to sex so he probably won't back down easily.

help me

>>17819165
She is interested but if you snooze you will lose this one. Ask her on a real date

how do I do that, any tips? Also, what should I do if I meet her ex or something

i work in automotive and have known a ton of germans who have moved over here and gotten citizenship this way. engineers, sales, purchasing, project management, etc.

i think it's easier for germans than most because germans have a lot of international factories.

> Go to US

> Min 7+ years for citizenship

> Get citizenship after 10 years living

> Think's it's great

> State Department can now extradite you from any country it wants

> Income tax abroad till you roll over and die

> BEING AMERICAN (Nevermind anything else)

>getting sponsored by a company is the only way
We also hand out green cards if you get married to a citizen. If you're female, you can charge people up to $10K to bring you over as a wife. Expect to get dicked by some divorced autist for a few years, though.

>>17819075
I have never had a oneitis but I have had my gf leave me after she cheated with my best friend of 4 years. If you were dating this girl you could be upset but if you never even made a move on her then there's no one to be mad at. Now you've learned life's most valuable lesson. If you want something go get it never settle or wait for thing to just happen you need to take what you want in this life

>>17819080
I did make a move, I was at a disadvantage because of age gap.
It's irrelevant now.

I don't care that she's fucking some other dude.

But it hurts because I know this guy

>>17819082
>age gap
How old are the people in this story?

Sounds like she wants the perks of a relationship without the relationship if she really liked you she would have at the very least kissed you that night

>>17819057
Yeah, true enough. She's not normally flirty though, and neither am I. I kind of come off as an ass sometimes even.

You're being used like a tampoo. she'll ditch you asap her relationship gets good again.
you can now 1. just leave her be with her shitty bf.
2. Take her away from her bf by being smart.
if you're intereted in second choice lemme know and ill teach you how to succeed.

>>17819013
Hold up you engaged to someone you've known less than 10 months? How sure are you that this is a true story?

>>17819013
>Pic
That is some unhealthy shit m8.

>I want to see him burn, however, I'd like not to go to prison.
At least you're halfway rational in not throwing your life away for this. At this point there's not a whole lot you can do except be a passive aggressive little shit and at most mildly inconvenience him.

If he tries to come back into your fiance's life, sure, get a couple friends with bats, gloves and ski masks, brutalize the fucker within an inch of his life, rob him (a mugging, no house invasion, too slow and too hard to make an emergency exit with multiple dudes) and split up.

Don't speak during the encounter, let one of the lads do that and make sure he knows nothing about /why/ you're beating the fuck and make sure he seems to be the one in charge. Burn everything including what you stole and what you wore, have the others do the same, and then forget the night happened.

>>17819013
>My thinking was to catfish the shit out of him from a burner phone and multiple fake fb accounts.

There might be more to the story than your fiance is admitting. You should reconsider your relationship and be prudent above all else.

>>17819005
Don't cancel the event. Just tell them he's not feeling well if he really doesn't come out.

Why doesn't he want to see them?

>>17819011
He just doesn't like socializing unless it's with the guys he grew up with. I understand as much, but wish he would at least make an appearance tonight.

A relationship is about making compromises to accommodate your partner it's pretty clear he is unwilling to do this for you. A grown man who would rather hide in his room than try to make his wife look good in front of her boss is not a man at all. Hiding in his room us something an elementary school kid does.

You expected too much

>>17818929

You didn't tell us a single good thing about her. You mentioned her interest adding "but she is cool", so you clearly think they are kinda downsides.

So you messed up by being a judgemental asshole. She noticed.

>>17818929
Tinder is a fuck app that gets you past the first cut but when they meet you in person when they decide to fuck or not. She didn't fuck you so give it up. You are acting like a guy entering a traditional relationship and these girls don't want a relationship. Meet. If both like what you see, fuck and go back to Tinder for your next hook up.

What is so fucking hard about this?

Would you rather be sickened and frustrated or lonely with potential to find better friends? With the knowledge of what you want in a friend, do you feel you would be lonely for long? There are many fish in the sea.

Furthermore, sometimes a decent into darkness is needed, so that you may see the light for what it is truly worth.

<<17818923
I've been in the darkness my entire life...

>>17818882
I don't understand.
Do you think that a person needs to know exactly what you've been through to love you?

get over yourself, everybody struggles for things they really want in life

Really, get over yourself.

No woman will ever know the struggles you went though? Please. Stay the fuck away from women if that's your attitude.

I'm a little up my own ass too, OP. I'm bitter that I've had to fight so much harder than other people (in general, not bringing gender into it) to get what I have. I, too, just want people to recognize that. But it doesn't make anybody unworthy of me because they didn't have to go through what I go through.

I found someone who can empathize, who can understand, even if they didn't go through it firsthand.

If you need someone to pat you on the head for putting yourself through bullshit to attain some arbitrary accomplishment...call your mother.

>>17818852
It depends on what she thinks. Personally I wouldn't consider it real cheating but it would still be incredibly disrespectful.

I would advise you not to sext and instead fuck your girlfriend some more.

>>17818852
yes.

>>17818871

Even if it's someone I have and never will meet?

I can relate anon and wish I had the answers. dont kill yourself though. Find something to work on, personal goals, helping others/ volunteering, get a pet dog? anything! self hatred is somthing we all have in common as human beings but can be worked on through helping and caring for others. I hope you dont do this

>>17818847
Hey man, try contacting some old friends on fb, tell them you'd be interested in hanging out. They might just think you like being alone and don't want to bother you

>>17818857

The most fucked part is that I"ve done all that anon. I have hobbies, music, I've gone overseas to volunteer at orphanages for months at a time, I have a cat.

I don't know what's wrong with me, I think there is something that I can't scratch.