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I really want to drop out of college, move to a city, get a job as a waiter or something, and focus on writing songs all the time and playing gigs.

There's a little voice in my head that tells me that isn't a good idea, but I feel like it's something I need to do.

Advice??
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not to be a dick but DOOO IT PUSSY. Probably might be the best decision you'll make in your life. Also can be the worst, but at least you took the shot if you failed. Half of the mother fuckers on this planet don't have the balls to do this. YOU HAVE BALLS JUST DO IT
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Depends on how old you are. 18-20 go for it, that's what you should be doing anyway. 20-25 is iffy. If over 25 you must not do it, that ship has sailed, you need to focus on getting a grown-up job.
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>>17861093
Do it. Its a dumb idea but its what you want.

College is a lie.

I dropped it and moved 3000km from home. The thing is, you dont know the future. For me one thing led to another and now im a carpenter and make more money than i could have hoped for with a degree. Jobs stress free and fun too.

Im writing this 600km from home and my girlfriend because i got a week gig out of town. Im getting $3000 this week.

Im trying to say two things...

College is a waste and your decision will start out doing what you truly want to do and open adventures and life and could lead good places.

Also get a skill trade.

Well... Maybe not now because trumpy is probably going to destroy unions aka the good pay... But open your mind to new fields.

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How can I be alpha male in High School? Or I guess pretend to be. I am already handsome enough but I have social anxiety or awkwardness like a bitch. What is a good start to stop being beta in high school?
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>>17861088
>taking the Alpha/Beta thing seriously
go back to /r9k/
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NOBODY IN HIGHSCHOOL IS A ALPHA MALE. Just go for it. IF YOU FIGURE IT OUT YOU FIGURE IT OUT. IF YOU DON'T YOU DON'T. Failing is way better than not trying. Just ask her out PUSSY
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>>17861111

nice dubs.


Dubs is right. Alpha and beta basically translates to guys who are happy with who they are, and guys who pretend to be someone they're not.

Be the guy who's happy with who he is. Communicate with people by sharing your inner monologue without hesitation. If you genuinely believe you are a good person and you can improve other people's lives, or just their day, people will appreciate you being around.

Don't worry about anything in High School, bro. It's all irrelevant within a few months of graduation. Everybody from my High School (graduated in 2012), except a couple burnouts, are completely different people. Most people even laugh about how they acted in High School.

Just focus on not getting arrested and passing all your classes, the next few years will be much easier if you can accomplish those two goals.

How pathetic will I be if I hire an escort? I'm really lonely and I keep fucking up whenever I go on actual dates with girls.

pic related is the escort I was considering.
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DONT, you have the skill to get girls to go on dates with you. You are probably asking out the wrong type of girls. Also YOU DON'T WANT AIDS SO STAY AWAY FROM THE ESCORT.
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Use a condom like you would or should with anyone and bang that escort. You can still date and perfect your technique. After I pull a used condom out of one of my girlfriends (someone else's) I NEVER bareback these bitches. Escorts are more honest than other women. You pay upfront and not for the rest of your life.
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>>17861233
>After I pull a used condom out of one of my girlfriends (someone else's)

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I have one more final this semester, it's tomorrow morning, and I feel like shit about it.

The professor has been as transparent with us as he can be about content; # of questions, type of questions, length, general concepts covered...etc...

I just suck at it. It's a required course. I have at best 2 hours left to study for it tonight, but nothing is sticking. I'd have a good chance if I could somehow memorize the problem solving in the HW/notes, as he mentioned that the questions would be nothing new, just stuff we've already done.

But I can't. I'm freaking out internally and nothing's sticking. What the fuck do I do?

>Subject is mechanics of structures
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>>17861048

Type out the 5 main formulas that will be covered.
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hey, my final exam is tomorrow too! but on turbine engines. I am screaming internally so much right now.... can someone whisper sweet things into my ear and tell me it will all be fine?
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>>17861061

I need 5 psi from 5 inches of diameter and at most double that in length. How do.

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How the fuck do I get over my past

>In middle school
>Bullied by everyone, including my best friend
>When I played Ice Hockey
>Bullied by my team mates
>Anyone who tried to be friends with me would get bullied
>In high school hockey
>Coaches son would make fun of my hairline, and get everyone to laugh at me, every fucking day
>Try and keep to myself in high school
>Everyone still makes fun of me
>Try and defend myself
>Everyone still makes fun of me
>Finally dropped out of high school

Now:
>Can't hold a job because as soon as any conflict comes about I just want to get the fuck out because of ridicule
>Can't pass college courses because sitting in classrooms gives me anxiety from fear of being ridiculed, and anytime I fuck up (do bad on a test or a paper) I feel like I'm going to be ridiculed
>I don't trust anyone anymore
>Always break up with any girl that gets attracted to me because I conspire that they're only doing it for pity, or some other stupid shit
>Can't walk out in public without covering up my head, I legit fear showing my forehead (it's not even that bad anymore, I have a decent haircut now, just people used to torture me about my hairline)
>Too afraid to talk to anyone
>Everyday I just want to sit in my room and kill myself

What makes matters worse is
>I know I'm really not all that unattractive, but because of my bullying my anxiety and the voices in my head tell me I'm a fucking freak
>I don't do bad in school just the minute I get a semi bad grade, I can't handle my emotions and I drop out of the class
>I'm a really hard worker but when I fuck something up I can't get over it
>I refuse to even talk to anyone anymore

My life is falling apart. I legit have the urge to kill the people who bullied me in high/middle school. I fucking can't stand this shit.
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Like how the fuck do peoples words affect me this bad. It's not like they physically assaulted me.

I'm trapped inside my head and it's tricking me into believing everyone wants to get me. I know it's all bullshit but I can't fucking control it. FUCK
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>>17861052

It isn't just words. It's the enviroment you were in.

School always sucked because it was mandatory, and like any underpaid worker, teachers are all too apathetic to really intervene.

So you're trapped, day after day, with no one to help you because "it's just kids being kids, they'll get over it", around a large group who's sought to alienate you and target you.
You've spent years second guessing everything because it was clear there was a target on your back. If someone is nice, you're forced to ask why? How does it help them hurt or humiliate you?

It's very similar to being in a jail, to people like us. Isolated, cut off from the rest of the world, loss of freedom.

It takes it's toll. You get paranoid, can no longer trust others. You develop anxiety and that turns into agoraphobia. You seek to be alone, finding comfort in very few places such as your bedroom. Isolated long enough, you may even develop cabin fever. Your social skills deteriorate further, and social interactions become an even more unusual occurrence ~ amplifying the anxiety when they do occur. Eventually, you can no longer trust even your own family, and feel uncomfortable around them.
It's very damaging and there is very little help for people like us. Worst, even if there is help, how can we trust it - when we can only trust ourselves?

Social anxiety and agoraphobia are some of the most damaging disorders around, simply because most suffers have to make life decisions that revolve around their disorder. Can't take jobs that involve too many social interactions, can't take jobs where you're out in public and can be seen. It's really difficult.

Can't help you OP. Not fixing it, but I can help you understand what's going on with you. I've been dealing with this a long time.
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>>17861083
Fucking shit this is literally me. I can't even trust anyone in my family except my parents.

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So my GF told me she wants to get nipple clamped and whipped the next time we see eachother. I don't have any nipple clamps and whips. Should I buy some?

Last time she asked me to choke her and press against her windpipe but I refused and I explained how it could collapse her windpipe. She told me to shut up when I was trying to explain because it was making her less horny.

I was also concerned because her mother kept calling over and over the entire time. I pointed it out to her and she said "don't mention my mom" obviously I was concerned because it was 5 AM and her mom was worried sick.

She asked me to bite her nipples and boobs so hard that I would leave a permanent mark so she can think of me.

She also wanted me to bite her neck. I'm also concerned about doing this because she wants me to do it REALLY REALLY HARD. And I'm afraid it'll pop a major artery or something.

She's into being bit on the clit, tongue, being spanked really hard, hair pulled, slapped while she masturbated. I feel guilty when I do these things but when she starts moaning in joy it turns me on because I'm happy I'm pleasing her. But I'm also afraid of hurting her.

Are there any girls on this board into this stuff? Can I have any tips?

Am I being beta?
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Youre girl is a hard masochistic slut take it or leave it
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>>17861026
>bite her neck
>REALLY HARD

As in puncture the skin?
If yes then have the disinfectant ready, cause thats one of those places you realy dont want infected. Remember human mouths are just as germ ridden as a dogs.

>bit on the clit, tongue, being spanked really hard, hair pulled, slapped
All pree normal. So just a person who likes it rough...

As to the choking, as much as she might want you to press the windpipe, you can get a much easier (and safer[aka less permanent damage causing]) and most likely more pleasurable feeling by pressing into the gaps below the jaw bone, both side, therefore constricting the arteries and stopping/lowering bloodflow to the brain. Some describe it as being high/a strong overwhelming pressure in the skull. (Also nice since if your hands are big you can do it with one hand. Allows you to do "other things" with your second) However i warn if she starts to flutter, aka seem like she will pass out, just loosen up a bit, slap her once across the face to pull her out of it, and do smth else for a while.

>Dont want to hurt her.
Oh belive me i dont either, however it gives me a cruel pleasure to know i can kill her at a whim, and she would probably like it.

But realy man its nothing compared to the even worse kinda girls. needles, barbed whips, starving. Alas ask more if you like or just take that what i gave you.

>guy btw soz. not one of em Felines
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>>17861026
Do what she wants, but get consent in writing first then put it in a safe only you can access.

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>have no friends
>hate going to the movies
>literally waited 2 months to see TFA
>dont want to suffer like that again

So I can go to a midnight showing but I'm aspie as fuck and hate people and dont want to be around them. Will I be okay going at 12am on a weeknight or should I just hide in my basement for two months so I can see it in an empty theatre. I dont think I can wait till next week either
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Go to an early showing a weekday at like 10AM. Usually little to no people
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>>17861002

>wants to see TFA

All hope is lost.
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>>17861018
Good idea. The theatre is like 5 min away from my house I might just drive over there and see wtf things are like tonight anyways. If that doesnt work ill try your idea

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I matched a girl on Tinder last week, she's cute, and we've been talking everyday. I'm not sure if I should ask her out or not. I think she'd definitely say yes if i asked her. I just don't know if I should. I dunno..
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Tinder was made for that, she's already open to it. What's the point of talking to her there forever if you won't ask her out?

Also always remember that matches are disposable, so make a fool from yourself and if you're rejected, just unmatch and move on
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>>17860961
Go ahead and ask her out. The fact that she's talking to you is a good sign, because most of them get so many messages that they lose track and they will quickly stop chatting if they feel bored by you or get distracted by all the other guys. I get a healthy amount of matches but most of them don't write back, it's frustrating.
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>>17860974
>>17860975

I dunno. I guess I just feel a bit intimidated? in a platonic sense I'm fine around girls. I have a few female friends. But, when it comes to "dates" or anything that's more than platonic, I feel intimidated. I'm 25 years old, and extremely inexperienced

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My manager makes me feel stupid. Not in the way that it actually makes me think I'm stupid, he does something else.

In essence, he makes me feel stupid/bad for asking questions. In a, "you should know this already" or "are you so fucking stupid you have to ask that?" kind of way.

He'll ask me about _____, something I haven't been told about or trained on, and then talk down to me or adopt a condescending tone when I inquire more about it.

Other times, when he decides to "train" me, he'll go "this is how you do ____", then he does the thing himself, " and that's how you do ____".
He won't explain the process, he won't tell me the correct way to do it, and if I have any questions he'll just give me a look and tone of voice of "are you fucking kidding me".
If I manage to get an answer out of him, it's a half answer. A very obtuse and convoluted "explanation" that dances around the actual answer, where I'm left to infer what the answer is based on his nebulous ambiguity. Of course I don't fucking learn anything and the cycle repeats.

Other times he'll just do something completely wrong (And I /know/ it's completely wrong because I've read the training manual and department references and procedures guide cover to cover), yet imply I'm wrong ("Uh, are you SURE that's how you do that?", "Go take a look at the _____ again", etc., all with the "are you fucking kidding me" voice+eyes)

he does the above two things with orders/commands too. He'll give me wrong information or won't explain it sufficiently, I do the thing wrong because I can't ask questions, and then the cycle of condescension begins anew.

I might be hunting for validation here, but does anyone else have experience with a boss like this? What can I do to cope? It's so fucking frustrating, I want to do my job well but when I'm actively discouraged from asking questions and can't learn shit, what can I do?
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>>17860956

Get a new job.
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You should discuss the issue with either another manager, or address it with the berating fella.

I am a manager, and I do my best to try to train people and help them, but there are those kinds of people who are managers and are complete dicks.
You'll have to talk to him or her about the issue. Unless he is specifically paying you, he can't really fire you.
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There's not really a way to win with these kind of people. You can do your best to cope, but ultimately you're better off finding a new job or a new position within the company that isn't under him.


How you cope with it depends significantly on where you live, since that determines the standard for employment laws and your employment contract. Someone who lives in the US in a "fire at will" state will have a much harder time than someone who lives in a country with strong employee protections, who can respectfully but confidently call out their boss for doing this and potentially threaten them with some sort of harassment claim or workplace grievance.

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Hi /adv/, I haven't cried in maybe 5 years.

This morning I got an email out of the blue from my ex who is now engaged. I hadn't heard from her in over a year, but she is the third and last person I ever truly loved.

My chest feels like it's burning inside. I really want to cry, but I don't know how. Any tips?
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Get drunk and watch emotional shit
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>>17860944
This
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Don't cry anon, order/buy a bunch of your favorite foods, buy some alcohol with atleast a minimum of a 50% ABV (vodka etc), and masturbate fucking furiously.

Just literally eat/drink/fap/shit until you feel better. (don't make yourself feel miserable but just enough to whereas when you finally get to sleep you'll be out like a fucking light, I'm talking like the "just went into a fucking coma" sort of sleep whereas you sleep 10+ hours, im talking the kind of sleep whereas you close your eyes at like 2AM and the next time you open them it's already like 3 in the fucking evening.

rinse and repeat until you feel good enough to continue on with life.
(ive done this countless times)

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So I have recently been diagosed with depression and anorexia.

Literally everyone I know keeps trying to fucking help me and it just makes me feel worse, like a nuisance or just another issue for people to deal with. I just really want to be left alone to deal with this by myself, but no one cares about what I want. What should I do? im honestly thinking about just dissappearing for a while until i get over this and stop being a pussy.
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Lol just eat more, you're cured
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>>17860916
You got that anorexia because you feel like you're fat and ugly or that anorexia that says food is disgusting?

If it's the former, go to the gym.
The bottom cause is that you feel shit about your body
The solution is body positive things
Like getting fucked
But that require at least one other person, so that's probably you
What you can do alone is work out

It'll make you feel good and increase your appetite

Cooking your meals yourself also helps
Because you're involved in every step you know exactly what you're eating.
You control what you consume
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>>17860916

>What should I do?

Go on a journey. To McDonalds.

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Are jobs that require degrees harder than jobs that don't require degrees once you learn the stuff?
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Define hard, idiot
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No being an accountant is easy as fuck but being a coal miner is tough
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>>17860865
Wrong

I'm going on a date in an art museum. What do you do at an art museum? Look at art and say, "Hmmmmm. Very interesting."
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>>17860848
I like going to art museums, seems like a good place you two might be able to bond over a piece. Try not to just look at the art for half a second and then run by to the next, really look at the art and maybe figure out what it's about, notice the small details. But to be honest, for a date, an art museum is good, but probably better if afterwards you take her/him to coffee or somewhere to eat and chat.
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Look up how to search for meaning in art before going. Most of the art displayed will tell a story or theme. Theres common themes in colors and symbols that will hint at what the artist was trying to portray. This is all useless information of you are going to look at modern art, in which case you can just pretned to see things that aren't there.
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>>17860861
Do the volunteer ushers actually know anything about art? Are they trained in the exhibit knowledge or are they only there for enforcing rules. The last time I went, I asked an usher about a tapestry, and he said
> Lol idunno I just make sure they don't touch the paintings

>I'm slightly thinner than pic
>5'8" 315lbs.
>there are fuckers at my school who are way more fat & annoying than me.
>they have gf
>I never even had one.
Wat do?
How do I attract people?
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>>17860811
Getting women isnt judt about looks its also about personality, and which is more important varies from woman to woman. The best way to get a girlfriend is to talk to girls and ask them out. You just have to get over your fear of rejection or embarassment if they decline your offer
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>>17860826
How the hell do I show my great personality?
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>>17860826
No. I want to find a real person not just a cheap fuck.

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Hey guys, are there any fulfilling and well paying jobs that aren't in a STEM field? It's not that I don't appreciate STEM, but I've always had trouble with subjects in that field, and to be honest it isn't my greatest interest and I don't want to force myself into a STEM job that I won't enjoy just because it's the "only respectable field"
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>>17860781

If you have to ask, the answer is no.

> but I've always had trouble with subjects in that field,

What, as opposed to filler classes?

> it isn't my greatest interest

What's your greatest interest?

>I don't want to force myself into a STEM job that I won't enjoy just because it's the "only respectable field"

You will enjoy it more than McDonalds or a call center.
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>fulfilling
Yes.
>and well paying
No.
>I don't want to force myself into a STEM job that I won't enjoy just because it's the "only respectable field"
Then do it for the "United States Dollars".
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>>17860781
I'm having a pretty good amount of fun as a security analyst. not really a STEM field but kind of because it's computer systems.

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