Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2956. page

>>17903059
wow what if your blanket caught fire

>>17903059
get a dog

>>17903065
He'd wake up, I'm sure.

>>17903079
I can't, my living situation is scarcely stable as it is.

Part of being mature about sex is realising it's not a big fucking deal; do it or don't but don't put it on a pedestal.
Just try and enjoy yourself and be safe

>>17903048

there is no right or wrong answer. a lot of people say they regret saving themselves for someone special because in their fairytale romance mindset 'someone special' means the person they will marry. and thats just not a thing these days, and it wasn't what it was made out to be back when it was.

that being siad, just one night standing someone can also be filled with regret. gay here, moved to hollywood, lost my virginity to some guy on craigslist. felt great, but it wasn't even a passionate hook up or anything like that.

like the anon above said though is you realize its not that big a deal. its regret the same way i regret getting a burger instead of the chicken at the restaurant i went to last week. its a regret like 'oh i should have put my contacts in this morning'.

it sucks, but its hardly something to really worry about. ask for the guys face and see what happens. if you find him attractive, consider going for it. or just wait.

the big thing here is that you /dont/ need to lose it. i mean at some point sure, but its not really about your first time so much as about your every time. if your 'first time' is whats holding you back from having a fun sex life, then by all means, go lose it. but to just lose it for the sake of losing it then not have sex again til you move kinda defeats the purpose of losing it.

am i making sense?

>>17903168
>>17903168
When I say special I just mean I want to have feelings for them. I guess it really isn't that important and I should get over it but it's easier said than done.

I know I don't have to lose it, and even though I am insecure about still being a virgin it doesn't really bother me that much. I probably wouldn't have sex again until I move because there are just not that many attractive people that live around me.

I'm also really shy and awkward and get anxiety around people so I feel like even if I do it it might not be an enjoyably experience because I'll just be nervous and anxious the whole time.

I also don't want to get and STD but don't want to be the guy who asks for your medical records. And i'm also a really small guy and am afraid if he wants to do something I'm uncomfortable with I can't really stop him.

You're making sense though. It's just a lot to think about for me even if it shouldn't be.

It's your girls fault not the niggas why fuck him over

The cops 100% already know they are either letting him pass or need conclusive evidence.

>>17903208
Nigga gonna try cuck me lmao nah karma bruh

>>17902966
wow

how did you ever make it thru college if you hate programming so much ?

for sure i got damn tired of continually having to learn something new to do the same old thing

when was your last physical ? see a doctor be sure to get TSH blood test thyroid problems can cause severe lack of energy

maybe try a less competitive company ? i did contracting for years & some companies are total grinders like microsoft but plenty of corporate computer jobs are very slow paced still very good $$$

>>17902966
If you make a decent salary, would/could you hire like a maid/personal assistant that you could also fuck?

Sounds like a decent triple whammy for bills/house cleaning/stress relieving

>>17902966
>health insurance so fuck consulting

fail

almost all consulting firms have health plans

otherwise get your own individual health plan that's what i did blue cross blue shield etc

>>17902963
It's whatever you make of it.

>>17902974
So in aggressively correcting the course of my life. How do I know what I'm doing is right? After all it seems like I've only ever made the wrong choices

>>17902985
That is way better than thinking you've always done the right thing and are delusional about what would be wrong

>>17902961
get it together and decide what's more important.

sounds like you just want to party all the time

>>17902973
I don't party, I admit that. I'll pour a drink to keep me company and then that one wants another and the next thing I know I'm too drunk to go to work.

>>17903005
stop the boozing that will destroy you for sure because it reads like you can't control it

>>17902790
why don't you try it ?

>>17902802
I'm looking into it.

>>17902790
Peaceful at first, but you will slowly succumb to cabin fever like emotional spiral.

>>17902784
No. It's vapid and indicative of poor coping abilities. Focus on something more constructive like your hobbies and professional growth. Flings and install will only make you feel hollow and even more lonely.

>>17902792
what hobbies

>>17902808
That is entirely up to you. Find something you're interested in and run with it. Put all of your energy into it that would otherwise be used looking for a quick fuck.

>>17902782
That's 3, but this should really just be stickied so we stop seeing the same faggot threads from 16 year olds over and over.

>>17902782
It's so amazing how the simplest things to follow in order to lead a happy life at often the hardest for people to do.

>>17902782
communication + honesty = healthy relationship

>>17902723
STFU idiot

>>17902832
Helpful

if you have your GF to crash at, sure rent out your room/flat and give it a try. Maximum is that they tell you not to do it anymore.

>>17902677
>My question is should I expect any other less desirable reactions on the way? I believe I probably didn't need it in the first place. The stuff did wonders for my anxiety and I probably had some form of depression, but I don't think the chemical balancing thing is a necessity.

you're headed towards a total epic fail

your docs would not have prescribed the meds if they did not think you needed them

depression & your mental illness will slowly sneak back into your life and likely 2-3 months from now you will have lost your job, failed out of school, pissed off everybody near you

>but I don't think the chemical balancing thing is a necessity

this is a major symptom of you nutters

beliving - i don't need the meds i can deal with it

it's bad enough you will fuck up your own life big woop go for it & do the human race a favor

the problem is you will leave a trail of victims - if the rest of us are lucky 1 of them will teach you a permanent lesson and you will learn the hard way to stay on your gdamn meds

FU

>>17902851
>your docs would not have prescribed the meds if they did not think you needed them

Lol

Some people really do need SSRI's or anti-psychotics

A lot don't

All SSRI's ever gave me was erectile dysfunction.

>>17902643
You know some people never have sex in their life right? They live perfectly happy healthy lives.

>>17902643

At this point, your insecurities are worse than any lack of experience you might have. In practice, the first ten times you fuck are more or less the same in terms of ability, so it wouldn't be hard to find a girl with roughly your same experience. Just stop focusing on imagined futures and live life. The more you live, the more you'll attract girls.

>>17902655
But I really want to have good relationships... If possible a couple of them before I need to find "the one". Men in my country don't get married until they're 30+, but that still only leaves a bit more than 6 years, is that even enough?

>>17902601
You must be very boring if your only selling point is your penis.

>>17902601
>if your girlfriend fugged a 9 incher any time in her life theres literally nothing you can bring to the table.

Speak for yourself. Some of us can hold a conversation and know at least a few sex acts beyond "penis in vagina".

>>17902605
Youre lying to yourself if you think grils dont care about it. No matter how many flips and helicopters you do itll never compare to the nein eincher

>>17902557
No. Why would you worry about your legs while the composition of your whole body is more important

>>17902557
Fat as fuck. Lose the legs entirely holy shit!

>>17902559
what about the composition?

exit bag

>>17902491
If you're worried about pain, you're not ready.

>>17902491
Lay down in front of a train. You won't know it hurts, because you'll be instantly crushed.

This requires a lot of courage, though. It's going to be scary as fuck. Which could be considered pain, I suppose.

Anyway, like >>17902549
said, you're not ready. Suicide is for those who have hit absolute rock bottom and don't give a fuck what feels like what, they just want out.