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19 virgin until I met her about a month ago.Started chatting with a girl, 18, we have a lot of things in common, music, movies, tv shows, humor, political beliefs even vidya.Always hoped to find a soulmate, someone who is with me from start to finish and she seemed to be it.We have sex one day,and after we start talking.She started having sex when she was 14. I was shocked and everything started to hurt.She had two boyfriends before me, both older than me, he was 21 when she was 14.I struggle with it,I can't look at her the same,I keep telling myself that it's only sex,It hurts even more because I really think she is the perfect girl for me,but others got to her first.

I am jealous of her first boyfriend.He got to have her when she was young, he got to be her first,he got to use her and then leave her.I want her but I want her 14 yr old version.I know that's retarded.I don't think that I'm in love with her,nor do I know how that feels, but I still love her,I care about her,but I keep getting anxiety pains, my chest hurts,my stomach hurts.I am now thinking that I should leave her, find a 14 old just like her as her first did,and have her just to myself

I actually talked with her about this,she said she understands me, that she loves me no matter what, that she would wait for me if I were to leave, that she would change the past if she could, that she never felt love like she does now, that she was a different person then.I feel like garbage, we talked about our future together,because I want just the one,I don't feel like chasing other women and I don't care for random one night stands.But I feel betrayed,I feel pain and I don't think I can keep on going

Tldr Should I leave the (almost) perfect girl because of her past and go chase for a perfect girl? will I find someone with her personality? exactly like her but virgin I guess.I am afraid and confused, I just want her, but purer and only mine

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Ok, this is a bit of my background:
>30
>no friends for most of my life
>clinical depression for a decade
>verge of suicide
>just a loner nerd hoping for a miracle

Some-fucking-how I decided a few years ago that I need to change this:
>lost weight
>made money
>got into some hobbies
>started traveling the world

A few months ago I sold everything I had and moved to the other side of the world, and for the first time in my life I have...a life. I have made friends here, I go out every day. Everything is great except I'm lame as fuck. Because I haven't done shit for a decade other than travel a bit, I don't really have anything to talk about. I feel like when I'm in a group people don't really give a shit about what I say because it's not something stupid to laugh about. The thing is, even my hobbies like riding motorbikes or photography or travel itself are not really topics people like listening about. I mean, it's cool when I mention them but the conversation lasts 2 minutes and then some fucker jumps in with the dumbest of topics and everyone gets so excited about it.

So here I am, worked hard for years to get here, and I feel like I'm as far away from my goal as I was when I had no friends and was spending new years alone in my room.

I don't really know where to turn from here. I'm not particularly good looking so I can't get away with just being lame but still respected like some people do. I also don't expect to ever be the life of the party, I just want to be happily average. Cheers for any suggestions you can offer.

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>gfs ex is bigger than me, both in height size and dick
>oh anon it's just an inch relax
>feel like she enjoyed the fuck out of that extra inch
I want to kill him and or myself, I'm green with envy, pic related he's also a beard faggot and I know she loves beard but all I have for now is sideburns and neck hair I'm 19 and still developing full facial hair.
Just recently she told me she wanted to use a vibrator because apparently I was going "too fast" but I'm pretty sure it's because I don't satisfy her. I have made her cum three times in one go in the past, but sometimes I still question if those were all fake. On top of that I wonder if she ever used a vibrator with him...idk he's basically better than me and I'm a huge downgrade from him to me for her, especially since he has a car money height a beard works out. I would genuinely consider killing him if I ever saw him in person, I feel like I'd be at peace in life. Anyway yeah just wanted to vent and hope some of you could touch on this

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My BF just asked if I wanted to come out with his friends for New Years. I was under the impression we were gonna spend it together but I suppose not. Not that I mind, I don't wanna keep him from having fun, y'know? I don't want to be THAT girlfriend.

I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder which I am getting help for and I'm going on medication again soon but right now I'm super stressed out.

I feel so anxious and scared at the thought of going but also feel scared about being alone on New Years. I'm almost certain I'll be fairly upset and disappointed in myself and probably cry all night.

I was alone on Christmas Eve and most of Christmas and it was incredibly depressing. I don't want to repeat it but at the same time, going out is terrifying.

It's a lose lose situation and now I'm just perpetually upset and uncomfortable and stressed.

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i'm a social retard so help me here /adv/

>talking to chick
>not really flirting but it would be nice to get somewhere with her
>she says she isnt interested
>thats cool, she's nice and i like hanging out with her as a friend
>she starts talking to me about guys she's fucked
>i sort of sit there uncomfortably
>i talk to her about a girl i got laid with last weekend
>she gets mad at me

I really don't get it.

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Tomorrow night a girl is going to spend NYE with me at my apartment. I'm nervous about it because I've only been with 2 girls before and I don't know how to make a success out of this. Jeez. I feel like calling it off but that'd be self-sabotaging.

Any tips? How do I make it a good evening for us? Pretty sure she likes me because this is date 2 and we matched on tinder.

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Help /adv/

I'm a young guy that has never really been sucessfull with women. I was the weird kid without a couple in prom, the guy that went through highschool without a girlfriend. When I was 15-16 I decided to change, started lifting in hopes of changing this to no avail (I'll post some pics of my body below for reference). I hardly ever get out of my home and social events are very, very rare in my life - something I'm not entirely content with but my crippling fear of rejection won't allow me to change. I've lost my virginity to a hooker but had no success with girls so far. Some compliment my body casually and that's about it. I won't be posting my face due to privacy, but I like to think it's tolerable, not 10/10 handsome but not a deal breaker either.

So I come to you for help. I have little to no standards, I'm pretty sure I'd be okay with a 4/10 girl with no real qualities. I'm not looking for a model, I'm not looking for an older/younger woman, I'm not looking for anything specific. At this point I'm just looking for anyone that's not absolutely abhorrent. The girl can be a virgin, a whore, I don't care.

So please give me your honest two cents. You can be a guy, a girl, or anything in between. Give me your honest opinion and tips to score.

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So a few days ago, I told /adv/ about how my mom was hooking up with other men behind my dad's back. So I haven't told my dad yet since he's on a business trip. But two days ago, my mom actually brought the guy she was seeing home. It was obvious they went to a club since they looked both drunk and tired.

They both started making out, completely unaware I was there. I couldn't stand it. The next morning, I came down to see my mom sleeping with the guy in our living room. I really need to stop this. What can I do?

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Seeing large families (7+) makes me so happy. And I just realised that all I want is to be a mother.

Where do I find a guy that wants lots of kids?

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>just made girl my gf
>however, we've had chemistry for years and had been dating for a few months
>currently lives in Japan but wants to move to America, and when she does wants to live with me
>I'd love to, but in my studies I've learned that statistically, living together before marriage guarantees fucking things up
>she can tell I'm not enthusiastic about the idea

What do? Women don't listen to logic, and certainly not if I cite literal peer-reviewed evidence

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Is there any point or sense in dating someone you're not really into?

I met this girl last summer and she still keeps messaging me despite of me forgetting to reply for months at a time. I'm kind of considering giving in.

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I think my son wants to have sex with me. I'm a single mom and I have 1 son who is 19 years old. We've always been very comfortable around one another -- He often sees me wearing less than socially acceptable clothing (shirts that show midriff/cleavage, shorts that are pretty short, etc.) and seeing him in nothing but boxers isn't a very uncommon thing. Maybe once or twice a month, I'll check the search history on his computer purely out of nosiness and curiosity and, and for several months in a row, I've found that his porn of choice is MILF and incest. Around the same time that he started taking an interest in this stuff, I've caught him staring at me strangely a couple times. Each of these times that I 'caught him', he acted embarrassed and awkward about it. When I stopped wearing somewhat revealing clothing, I didn't notice him trying to peek anymore.

So last night I ran to the store before coming home from work and he knew that. When I got home and went down the hallway, his door was cracked very slightly and he was on his bed masturbating. I rushed to the kitchen and started making very obvious noise, but he didn't scramble to close his door. It took a good 5 minutes of noise before he got dressed and came out to greet me. I think it's pretty clear that he wants something to happen.

How badly would it screw up our relationship if I did it?

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How easy is it to totally emasculate yourself in the eyes of a woman? Could a single episode of crying, or emotional meltdown caused by excessive drinking, completely eradicate a woman's love in an instant?

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Things aren't going well at my second job right now. It's a seasonal retail position and by the looks of things, I'm not going to be there in a month anyways. I don't like the job itself, I only earn minimum wage, my manager steps all over me, I don't seem to be getting everything since they didn't train me properly and working there just makes me feel like shit. How do I go about quitting? I've never had to do this before, What's the right way of doing this?

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How the fuck do I cure my social anxiety