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>>17902474
If he was cheating on you when he was a fatshit, he's definitely cheating on people now that he's fit. He's a shit person at his core, regardless of his looks. So any illusion of happiness you think he has, is false. His behavior will catch up to him one day, most likely in the form of a wife finding out he cheats, leaving him, and taking everything he owns.

If you feel bad about yourself, you need to get self esteem. You do that by working on your skills and using them to find happiness in life. Hobbies, job skills, people skills, etc. Don't have many skills? Go work on getting some.

And delete your social media. All of it. No excuses. You don't need it. Delete every account for 3 months. If after 3 months you feel you can come back to it without any problems, then do so. But until you can get yourself on the right track, kill it.

Seeing my enemies being happy motivates the shit out of me to work hard and be better in every way use your anger not your sadness only when you've learned to turn your emotions into a tool instead of a burden will you find happiness and peace of mind practice mindfulness and allow yourself to feel all emotions and realize they are just feelings like when you touch a different texture it doesn't define you its simply a response to a stimulus

It's funny that you ask this to a bunch of people that are literally sitting here obsessing over other peoples' lives.

What kind of advice do you expect from here? If you find a job and move out, then sure, there is a chance.

What do you mean by judged? Do they really judge you or is it just in your mind? Is it only about your family or people in general?

>>17902440
anxiety is something you over come, not run away from
if you're a socially inept neet I don't rec running away from home, it'll quickly turn into some sort of child trafficking event were you're never seen again

>>17902440
finding a job in the uk is literally so easy everyone moves to uk for a job which there is always, washding dishes that is

>>17902431
My philosophy is that if you want to leave someone, you don't need a justification for it. If that's what you have to do, then it's what you have to do. You might feel guilty for "abandoning" her but at the end of the day, you don't have an obligation to stay with her.

Now it seems natural to me that you'll want her back. I mean, obviously you loved her and shit and will feel pain from the breakup. But like any other breakup, that will fade with time. Even if it feels like it takes too long.

Objectively there's no right choice. Really, if you couldn't deal with her mental illness (which seems weird to me that it's causing her to not feel anything for you but I'm not her so I guess I can't judge), then leaving probably was the right choice. If you could and left on an emotional whim, then perhaps it wasn't a good choice. Only you could judge that though.

>>17902485
I didn't necessarily want to leave her, but I don't want a relationship where she keeps telling me things like she doesn't miss me or feel anything for me or gets mad at me for trivial stuff. She felt kind of toxic and she kept blaming her depression and my inability to handle it.

We would've had a great relationship if it wasn't for the way she acted when she felt depressed. I miss the good moments and I already tried to get them back multiple times, but I guess the girl I fell in love with doesn't really exist anymore.

>>17902595
>but I guess the girl I fell in love with doesn't really exist anymore.
Yes, which is why you should stay away. It's a natural response after breaking up to want your partner back, but you have to keep in mind that there are valid reasons that made you leave her. Don't get drunk with wishful nostalgia.

discussing is good.
getting in rage about someone not agreeing with you is not.
not being willing to give the other idea a try too is also not ok.

>>17902413
I'm quite open minded in them, and I favor actual arguments to useless name calling. I do not get enraged by someone not agreeing with me, and I often like to argue with those types of people, because discussions with them are less stale and are more interesting, since they offer some kind of challenge.

>>17902400
>I just an ego boasting dick?

yes

go into politics

practice this skill on forums not in real life

guy is my first everything

Tell him to stop with the loli shit and to watch porn outside of the bedroom. Men have high sex drives and unless you want to be riding the dick constantly, understand that porn is how males blow off steam. Most of what you're experiencing is overblown. If your mate doesn't hit you, fulfills most of his promises to you, pays the bills, provides food, and generally sticks with you then you have a good thing. You're not working, not pregnant, not engaging in education, and are lurking on 4chan. You have very little to complain about. Stop being a sad cunt.

>>17902363
wow lol Cant tell if you're 20 or 12

You have to fuck him more

>>17902321
porn is an addiction, it's not your short coming

>>17902360
Is there any way to help someone with a porn addiction?

and if there is, should I try and help?

Befriend uglier women or get a gf

>>17902311

Do you feel lonely? Do you have a girlfriend?

It's pretty obvious why you might want more and confuse a bit of attention for attraction.

>>17902317
Yeah I do feel lonely and no I don't have a gf. I don't confuse attention for attraction I have never even felt a little bit like they feel the same towards me. I don't even have to attracted to them physically the same thing happened with a girl who I wasn't attracted to at all. It's very odd

break up, cuck.

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>>17902298
>LDR
Why do people even bother with this shit. Talking to an AI is the same experience.

Break up, find someone close to you, date, be happy.

>>17902301
Thing is I still have feelings for him, otherwise I wouldn't be invested enough to feel angry about it

>>17902310
I've tried dating people close to me. Not only is it hard to even find one, but i find it hard to connect with anyone. Online there are so many people that it's easier to find someone I am compatible with.

*bump*

>>17902296

>psychiatric institute
>a surprise visit

you seem fairly clueless op

forget her and find some normal girl

or be a nurse for some sicko the rest of your life

she will meet some other goofball at the hospital and they will clik mesh in ways you will never ever understand, assuming you're normal which is a stretch i admit

>>17902877
Elaborate some.

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download spotify and sing the song

>>17902275
Sing or whistle it, record it on vocaroo, post it here or on /wsr/ and hope you're lucky

>>17902286
any solution without download?

>>17902287
thatll not work

Why did he do it?

>>17902277

Depression, blamed his ex-wife... Seemed pretty spontaneous.

>>17902280
Did they have children? How long were they married? Was he overwhelmed from heartbreak and stress of the divorce?

Oh yeah also i forgot to add i have long and thick hair that looks autistic when short, do they infest hair and if so how do i get rid of them?

Get flea medication for dog

Vacuum carpets/furniture and wash beddings

That's pretty much it. Fleas bite people but can't live on them/lay eggs on them, so as long as you make sure the dog stays flea-free, you'll be fine.

You have to get them off the animals and out of the carpets.

Get Advantage for the pets, they will hate it but it's the best way. Use flea shampoo on them, and buy a flea comb to clean them with.

Get some flea powder for the carpets and put it use it every night before bed. You will also need to vacuum regularly.

As for yourself, wash your hair, thoroughly; you can use flea-shampoo if it's really bad. Change your sheets more often, even if you don't see them in your bed or on your pillow.

If it's a really REALLY bad infestation call an exterminator.

I grew up in a house filled with pets and every time we had a flea "outbreak" we had to do all this shit.

>>17902198
Why can't you have your ideal?

Unless they died, there are no circumstances that block you from being with a person you truly love.
I went through all sorts of shit to be with the person I love and I'm happy I did. If you didn't make it, probably you weren't made for each other.

>>17902198
Stop comparing them with your ideal; how?

Kill her off in your mind. Stop looking at her social media. Stop voluntarily interacting with things that remind you of her. Stop contact with her if any.

Start doing these, and you should forget about her in due time. Plenty of amazing people out there in this vast world anon, don't hold yourself down to the single one you can't get.

>>17902205

She's with my best friend now. It's fucking torture. We have talked about being together and running away before, but it would ruin him. I have to just leave basically and I know it, it's for the best.

Your nephew (and the other 4 urchins he lives with) is pretty much doomed to follow the path of his ex felon father. There's nothing you can do. They're not your kids and parental rights are very strong

>>17902268
This anon is right about parental rights unfortunately I pity your poor nefew denying a child education is a terrible thing

>>17902156
>Is it possible to enroll my nephew for him with their consent, legally?
Yes, you can become his guardian and assume some of the legal position and roles. More often than not this requires your brothers consent and/or legal intervention in many places

>Broaching this topic to the family will be awkward, but I need to do it.
Fair. The biggest obstacle is him taking it as personal insult or getting insecure and responding with maliciousness or disinterest.
Standard rules of conversation, negotiation and leadership apply here: Explain your position and why you feel it would benefit him and the kid and some of the problems you're dealing with, explain your suggested solution and ask for his consent and help working towards it. Get your nephew on board too and bingo bongo. Talk it over with the school at some point after that too.

Can't speak for much of the admin details and legality but I wish you luck.

>>17902126
>can't even find the right board for this shit
Clearly double digits IQ.

>>17902144
Wow you're being a bit generous to OP, aren't you?

>>17902126
fuck off Patrick.