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>>17899285

It's generally frowned upon to date when you hold a position of authority over the person. Most universities have actual rules against this. I don't know if the one you work at does.

But even if it doesn't realize it's hurting your chances of future employment.

>>17899285
why the fuck are you asking us ?

ask the college where you work

conflict of interest etc

>>17899296
>But even if it doesn't realize it's hurting your chances of future employment.
How is that?

>>17899299
I haven't settled on a school yet

>>17899279
why did she dump you?

it sucks that you have an exam coming up, was quite unfair of her to end it now because its obviously gonna make it hard to study and her over her.

honestly, i think you should do shit that will take your mind off her like watch tv, play video games, go out. literally anything to take your mind of it for a little while. it will help at least.

i dont know if any of this will help but i dont know what else to say. i would be heart broken in your position.

>>17899279
Listen man, the next 10 days especially will be tough, but remember you've been working on school too. Don't throw it away because you can't keep your emotions in check. Study hard, ensure that you pass so you don't waste time redoing what you've done, then grieve for your loss. Do whatever you need to do and just let it all out. It's going to be hard, but life goes on and time heals all wounds. Focus on the task at hand.

I have been through a lot of shit. Bad childhood because of alcohlic father who beat me and my siblings.

I have been betrayed twice by my last two girlfriends and it happened also once during my exam times.

I am currently 25 and have a steady job, work out/eat properly and have a nice body. You could call me successfull.

Let me tell you this. There is nothing which will help you right now. Literally nothing, you will have to deal with that pain, and it will take time. Stuff like that hurts like a motherfucker, but now it shows what you are made of. Now it will show if you are a strong man or not.

Continue to do your stuff as best as you can do.

>>17899275
>being status concious

>>17899415
Acknowledging that "in doing what I want with my life and I'm gonna wear a naruto headband in public" is a shitty idea.

Status conscious

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>>17899428
Who gives a fuck

>>17899254

You might have some fungus there. Go to a dermatologist.

>>17899254
buy some lysol spray and spray your feet 2-3 times a day with it.
your shoes/boots/whatever might be salvageable but you gotta lysol spray the fuck out of them
replace all your socks

>>17899254
Throw away all of your socks and buy new ones at least twice per year. Get new shoes. Never walk around barefoot, not even stepping out of the shower. Dry your foot and step out of the shower into some sandals or flip flops.

>>17899192
Do it op. Just don't be an asshole and blame the world later when you hate your life. Don't play the fucking victim when you're old and crusty living in a shit situation because you decided to be a lazy fuck in your youth.

I went through the same exact shit OP.

It's simple, you are addicted. Stop playing video games all toget her, hell, turn off your computer in your spare time and go out. Simple as that, take a walk, read books, but don't sit in front of a computer.

Most men who have this problem masturbate way too much, it kills your drive to do something. Stop playing, turn off your computer and stop masturbating so much.

There is no way around that, life is harsh and calls for hard methods to make something out of yourself.

>>17899294
Not OP but any advice on what to do without video games? Taking a walk wont help you meet people and reading a book is the exact same antisocial recluse hobby as video games.

move out
your mom isnt the kind of mum that will support your ass any longer and it's only going to be tougher the longer you stay.

>>17899187
You sound like my brother
>I VACUUM CLEAN THE LIVING ROOM SO I CAN LIVE HERE
Nah, bro. I hope your mom throws you the fuck out. You've overstayed your welcome and you've been lucky she's been allowing you to live there. If she's voicing it now it means she's been thinking about it for years because you are most likely lazy as fuck and she's given up on you as a potential roommate because of how shitty you are at cooking or cleaning. Basically if you don't pull your own weight and then some, you can get the fuck out. My mom graciously let me live at home til I finished my bachelor's at 21 and then I moved out. In the meantime I held a full time job, studied full time, cleaned up after myself, did laundry, baked desserts for everyone, cooked a dinner maybe once a month (I sucked at cooking so that was allowed), was a pleasant little ray of sunshine whenever my parents saw me around, obeyed all their strict rules, and got up every Thursday to help her clean and detail the whole entire house.

Are you retarded? Why dont you just clean the whole house and do shit for everyone in the house, and not only think about you and your own fucking room. Your mom has a great point m8, dont be egoistic, if you do stuff in the house not for your own benefits then you could probably continue to live there no stress.

grow up srsly

what're you planning to do about money and buying things?

>>17899174
in australia we have a good welfare system

>>17899164
Your problem is you don't have any sense of self worth. You open yourself to the any piece of shit people who will look your way. Typically these are the assholes who shouldn't deserve anyone's time, however, because you don't see your own worth, you bite and in turn they bite you. Stop opening up to shitty people.

you dont have an end goal or a winning condition.
As long as you are living your life from one moment to the next there is no advice for you. This is why you will have problems on the job market, in your relationship and in porn.

Define where and who you want to be in 20 years, then you can decide what is the right course of action.

We cant tell you that, because it could be:
famous porn star
family
trap secretary in an office

>>17899122

That's actually an amazing answer, thank you <3

If I said I want my porn career and a happy family I guess you'd say I want to have my cake and eat it? :/ xx

>>17899143
it might be a bit too much to ask if you want that to happen with this specific girl, as she is already scared from what you are doing and things are already falling apart. But I don't see that goal as unreachable in general.

maybe you should check out someone more experienced, more kinky and a less monogamous kind of relationship, where it's ok to sleep around as long as the kids are yours and brought up well.

It can, but you have to be mindful because obviously you're fishing in a pond with both sexual and all around sadists. There exist people who want what you want but your average cute guy isn't going to get turned on by cutting a woman or breathplay.

Go straight to a fetish site to hook up or find a relationship. Make sure that within your sexual play, your partner respects your boundaries. Stick to safe words and safe signals for when you can't make noise (like holding something heavy you can drop). Make sure he does aftercare (snuggling and reassuring to transition from rough sex to everyday loving relationship and not cause nagging insecurity afterwards).

>>17899087
To be honest it can be difficult to make the distinction beween a true fetish and being less easily turned on by porn after a long dry spell.
Lot of people with a not very active or not active at all sex life have weird fetishes they wouldn't never to enact in practice.

>>17899101
How do you find the right person? I've done the fetlife thing in the past. And I've basically come to terms with only ever being with men older than me, but when I have found one that seemed like he might be good it doesn't end well. Maybe it's the aftercare thing and I need to emphasize that but they hurt me and I really like it during only to find them cold and mean outside of sex.

>>17899133
I've done this in practice. Quite a bit, at least in the past.

>>17899073
nothing? it's on the smaller side of the scale but not too small to please a woman.
and most women don't give a fuck about penis size, unless it's a literal micropenis or it's too big for them. so you're in luck.

>>17899073
The smaller below what is considered average, the greater will be the number of women who could be unwilling to have a relationship or to have sex more than once with you.
I don't have any idea of how bad 4.5 inches is, maybe it would be a deal breaker for 5% of them, maybe it's several couple digits % ?
There is nothing to do except trying.

Anal. Fuck them in the ass, all of them. No excuse to deny ass to a small dick

Don't be born with the genetic markers for psychopathy

It's a physical abnormality, not a personality you develop

Being a psychopath also doesn't necessarily mean someone is mean or bad or evil. It just means they lack certain emotional responses and empathy. That kind of person can still act morally correct based on intellect as opposed to emotion.

>>17899077
You're confusing psycoath with sociopath
Psycopathy is the exact antithesis they feel all emotions so strongly they can't help but act on them but either way it is something you have to be born with it doesn't just develop

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could

>>17899041
You can have a belief without constantly bringing it up. If you're beliefs are causing strife in your life it's an obsession not s political stance there's a difference

>>17899041
Sounds like you're just stupid and suck at argueing.

Here are some talking points for you:
>The cognitive dissonance of people into politics
Basically people that into politics are doing so because they are shitty people to the people they legitimately should be good to. Every one you meet is basically green-washing their egos because they are inconsiderate to people they know. That way they can still think they are a good person.
>They are trying to regulate others morality.
Calling people racists or using the term hatespeech unironically is exactly the same as calling them sinners. Trying to regulate other people's morality is wrong and no one has the objective answers to how to live life. The fact that these people are enormous hypocrites is just icing on the cake of how stupid they are.
>Traditional beliefs exist for a purpose
In the past tribal mentalities made more sense. Humans are tribal or pack animals. We operate as a meta-organism at a base level. The reason that people like people like themselves more is because of this. In our current luxurious surplus we have outgrown the need for such thought but it has not left our collective subconscious. A homogenous society is a stable and efficient one. People who do not recognize the value of tradition are fools who need to take five steps back and see the bigger picture.

Honestly, you shouldn't care what they do anyway. Just avoid stupid people like that.

First reply is right but apart from that, what's really the concrete damage that SJWs are doing? The real radical folks are a tiny screeching minority. Political correctness sometimes takes bothersome forms but hardly on par with most other problems in society.

>>17898908
fucking idiot

why would you do that man

>>17898923
Dad died recently, had some feels.

>>17898908
Fuck you man I lost a a friend bc the security guard was drunk at my old job when there was a robbery your supposed to be guarding people you should be shot

>>17898900
your friend is an idiot. soon as he started having feelings he needed to get out and if she is smart she'll cut him loose. Most married women cheat but want to remain in their marriage.

Fuck her, I would but I also caution you, do not fall for her

>>17898900
Nothing will happen to you if anything bad happens it'll happen to your friend not you

>>17898921
Probably correct assuming I keep my distance;

In that case: what do to friend not get murdered

>>17898915
She seems extremely flighty but the way they were talking her emotional support is my friend and not her husband

It's a bad fuckin' scene.

>we break up
What did you expect?

Personally, I think you should two should go your separate ways.
It will always linger in the back of your mind and ultimately cause another fallout.

Once a cheater...

>>17898852
Looking back I should've at the time I guess. It's been a year and we live together now.

>>17898879
Is it cheating though? We were off and on and she didn't fuck em or anything