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Treat her like how you would wanna be treated if you were in a wheelchair

Personally I'd want them to push me really fast on the back two wheels in the mall when I scream "MAKE THE JUMP TO LIGHTSPEED"

>>17900604
see that's funny, but again, i don't know if she'd appreciate jokes at her expense or be offended.

oh fuck my life

also
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FUCK YOU HIROSHIMA

1) Hiking trails could be a good choice. Not that we brought here there for dates, but my Alzheimer's-ridden grandmother was in a wheelchair and always loved hiking trails.

Her feelings towards her condition, and her comfort levels with things like being seen in public, are things you can either learn as you go or ask her about. I don't think there's anything wrong with directly asking about these things. One's feelings on these kinds of things are very individual. It might be a slightly awkward or uncomfortable conversation, but it can make things go more smoothly in the long run.

2) I wouldn't ask about this early on, since it might give her the idea you're more interested in sex than anything else. If you two ever have sex, she'll likely bring this up herself if there's an issue with her feeling down there.

3) If she's capable of moving around by 'driving' the wheelchair, I probably wouldn't mention it, at least not for a while. At some point, though, I would ask her about her feelings whenever the time is right and the trust is there. You can't assume someone's sensitive and self-conscious, but you also can't assume they're not. Again, one awkward conversation to avoid further awkwardness and hurt.

I'm going to assume like you spend every day alone.

>>17900566
Alone in your room with your blinds closed indulging again in escapism.

Mooty moot, swiggity swooty? Is that really you?
Either way some sort of drug should be involved, whether it is alchohol or not.

>I was too lazy to do the busy work in my first year of college
You're not ready for college.

I was in your position. Each year I kept saying "ok, this time I'm going to take it seriously," and each year I slacked too much and got fucked over by attendance and homework policies.

I'm going to assume you're in college right now because it's "what you're supposed to do" and not because you have a specific goal in mind. Take a year off, look at what work is available around you, figure out what you'd actually be ok doing 8 hours a day for the rest of your life, and THEN go back to college with a goal to work towards in mind.

>>17900583
(not op)
yup, i did just that
im 30, i have zero social life and i'm barely getting by working at a restaurant for a living. all the while trying to figure out what the hell i wanna do with my life.

retake it right away op, idk how can you fail first year calc, i literally studied 2 days before the exam without attending any classes and got like 80.
get used to studying from week one though, otherwise those bad habits will follow you during the whole run and the "study before exams" will get harder with each year cause some courses build up on previous ones and you need to know the material fairly well

>>17900622
i dropped out during my last year of college cause i refused to take a break or rethink what realistically i can handle with. been depressed since then and did basically nothing except working part time to pay the rent.
29 now, starting to get out of depression finally and do something with my life, it's so sad to face reality. idk if i can lift myself up, kinda lost faith in what i'm able to do because of past experiences

>>17900538
stop fucking flirting and leading them on, bitch

Are your initials TB?

I'm going to assume you're female.

Men and women approach friendship and romantic relationships differently and this can cause crossed wires.

While women typically have personal emotional support from a network of friends, men rarely do. Male friendships are typically focused more around diversion and shared interests than an emotional support network; Men see emotional support as something an SO provides and not friends.

When you share something personal with them and ask for their emotional support, to them that is a romantic action. If they reveal something personal and require your emotional support, that too is likely romantic in their minds.

Be more aloof with male friends you're not romantically interested in. Don't engage as their emotional support. Don't seek them out as emotional support.

>>17900530
>summer going into senior year

you're still making noob gains, bitch
literally a single step above dyel-tier

>>17900530
We'll have to workout a lot together then

>>17900530
Squatz 'n Oatz

>>17900524

by posting good content, and preferably original content. when you do post content someone else posts, you have to do it better. i wanted to go into this critique hating you, but i can't cuz at the very least, your voice has potential, so ill give me honest two cents instead of flaming you for not so subtly spamming adv.

the REAL problem here is that you have been posting for only 5 days and are bitching about views. when i first started i got as many views as you did, it took months to tick up.

and thats all they do, slowly tick up until the right video just goes viral. not in the sense that its on the trending page, but somehow it shows up in more 'suggested' pages because a lot of people liked it at the right time and watched it til the end. something about it resonated enough early on to make youtube want to promote it over the other garbage.

your voice is actually more emotional then most of the creepypasta narrators like bebusta or lazy masquerade. however some parts are hard to hear. you certainly sound cute and fun though. the problem is you mumble a little bit so a few words come together, and i have yet to hear you narrate anything important (as the audio on your creepy video sucks and im not sitting through 15 minutes of 'i do drugs') so i dont know how well you will be able to narrate the climax to a story. mostly because im not sitting through 15 minute long stories to find out.

the stories you posted all seem obscure. if you want people to happen to find it becuase of the story, pick famous ones. even if they've been narrated a thousand times before. the trick is to narrate htem beter. not monotonously. to think of it like acting, like soemone in a movie telling a funny story. you need to deliver the punchline. not just say the words.

>>17901148

also, post shorter videos. no one wnats to sit through 15 minutes for someones first video. there are tons of funny copy pastas that can be done in under a minute. also, wait til you post more videos before worrying about views. most people arent going to subscribe until they see that you have lots of content. what makes someone worth subscribing to is watching a video, seeing they have more of the same, and wanting to see what comes next. when you have only 5 videos and all the videos are vastly different theres no reason to subscribe or check out other content.

and an extension of that: stick to one kidn of video. at least for now. people like dedicated channels. tehy can grow and spin off to other htings later, but at least for the first month focus on ONE kind of story.

that being said, dont focus on psychedlic stories. why? because its a shitty demograph. you're expecting people who take serious drugs to want tos it through multiple stories that are way too long and then subscribe?

humor sells the easiest on youtube. horror does pretty good too.

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>>17900515
>Where should I go to school? Are there welding jobs in Seattle?
These aren't /adv/ questions, these are Google questions. Good luck though

>>17900520
I have been googling it, but I would like someone with a little more know how to help.

There are welding jobs everywhere. A lot of my fellow welders travel around the world doing work. One friend just got a full time gig in Japan. he's a huge weeb, so good for him.

Go for TIG welding. It is more precise than MIG or Stick welding, but the pay is better and it's much more rewarding. It's also fun when you get good at it. It's so satisfying to do a perfect bead that looks aesthetically pleasing.

When I was looking for schools I checked out Lincoln, one of the huge trade schools. The TIG welding program was 100+ students per class, so very little hands on instruction, 20,000$ tuition, and 900 hours of class time.

I can't believe I almost went for it.

I kept looking and found a local community college offered a TIG welding program. Basic course 3 months, advanced course 3 months. Two nights a week, 6-9 PM. Tuition? 3,000$. Same certificate that I would have gotten at Lincoln. Sept-Feb 2 nights a week..

There was only 12 kids in my class, so whenever I needed help the instructor would have me join him at his table and guide me through the process. I'm so fucking glad I didn't go to Lincoln.

There are trade job agencies that exist who can literally get you a job in seconds. Immediately after I got my certificate, I went to an agency called Randstad. Not recommended, but I needed a job right away. Luckily they hooked me up with a good job. 40 hours a week. I went in to the agency with my resume, filled out some paper work, took a piss test (I used synthetic urine because I enjoy weed), and they said "okay you start here on Monday. Bring steel toe boots."

I was amazed how simple it was. Now I have great pay, 401k, vacation time, paid holidays, all the perks. Great medical and dental.

I sometimes have to do MIG welding, which isn't that bad. The fumes are annoying, but we have good ventilation. You get burned once in a while but it builds character, and you won't get burned nearly as often if you wear gear.

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Not only were you exposed too early but the way your father explained it as a threat to not do it, instead of explaining why its destructive, it was wrong too. He was shaming you for something you haven't even entertained doing yet? Sounds like he's a little fucked up.

Get some therapy it might help you.

>>17900496
eventually I read comics like wolverine were rapists never really got their comeuppance, like sabretooth. It made me uncomfortable.
Then after that, when my dad left as I was 12, I saw horror movies were aliens ahd demons raped and imoregnated women. I was so freaked out yet confused, this gave me a pregnant fetish.
Over the years I get pissed off by the usual rape in comics and movies and anime, then eventually my girlfriend gets raped by a fat fuck in January. I find out in may and that's where I lost my mind. I wanted to hunt and kill him, yet months later I wasn't as angry about it. The rapes in fiction don't even affect me anymore. Hell, I think I'm losing my mind. Recently whenever people get mad at a fictional rapist, I fear , what if they were me? And i get defensive in my mind. I Dont like my mind now.
I can't get therapy
And please don't tell me to kill myself or something, It's not like I have hurt anyone or intend on doing so.
I'm afraid to accidentally touch women in the train lest I mistakenly be branded a pervert.

As someone with a drinking problem and a gf: I like to blame my problems on others because I know deep down that I'm the problem and it hurts.
Unless you're actually abusing him or something of that nature assure you that you are a very tiny slice of the pie that contributes to his problem and that while seemingly noble it would be to leave him so he can get better, it will not contribute to much change

My suggestion is to have a talk about the relationship and ask him if he really feels that way
Be completely honest like you were here just say it to him

>>17900463
Do you think I'm doing some positive in his life and making him happy? I do talk to him about this and he assures me that I am a net positive. I am worried that he's deluding himself when he says that, though, (maybe my low self-esteem is contributing to that), because he is also lonely and wants someone to care about him. What if he is just trying to make it work with me while he secretly resents me? I really hope not.

self-medication is extremely common in those with above-average IQs or any kind of stress or anxiety disorder

This sounds less like problem alcoholism (binge drinking, having 5+ drinks in one sitting every day, blacking out, etc.) and more like self-medication alcoholism (1-2 drinks a day, no desire to black out).

"Drunk words are sober thoughts" is bullshit.

If you think leaving him wouldn't make his drinking worse you're wrong.

On an unrelated note it also sounds like you have some extremely serious self-esteem issues to work through.

If you're worried about how he feels about you the answer is to ask him, but that won't work very well if your self-esteem is so low that you don't believe him when he says he wants you around.

Use Bing Rewards, get a $5 Amazon gift card once per month. Buy as much cheap ramen as possible.

dude just get a job as a cashier and live with your parents or some roommates. Buy your tendies on the cheap from sams club.

>>17900484
i rather not go outside but jobs from home suggestions are fine, also way too old to live with parents

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>>17900353
YOu have taken the first step OP, by realizing you are going off the rails. The next thing you need to do , I think is work on your sleep. I think stress is keeping you up, so its a bit of a vicous cycle. Google getting a goods night sleep. Have a walk before bed etc. you do need to talk to your friends and say that you are having a shit time- they will help. Tell them whats going on. They probably dont realise you need help.

God Speed OP>

Fuck nigger did you actually get into an MD/PhD program?
>I need advice on that pls hlp

Dude those things are hard to get into tell me more about that if you've got ambitions like that you'll be fine ma

>>17901520
Thanks, starting on sleep might be a good idea since I won't have time to fap, though I'm afraid I'll just end up not being able to get up in the morning. Maybe I'll also start making appointments in the morning to force me to get up and go to work early.

>>17901570
It was hard, and I was doing really well too (top of my med-school class before the PhD break, aced all my M.Sc. exams, fantastic lab and PhD adviser, lots of great ideas). That's why I felt life was so perfect before everything started falling apart a few months ago.

>>17900263
Ahahahahahahahahaha faggot!

Hacking? Hahaha are you talking about texts? The company should own every text you two have sent. During trial they can be retrieved. Learn how you can get those records from your company. All you need is his num

>>17900377
I assumed she was talking about some discreet fuck app that he was probably deleting and re-installing each time.

Maybe you could get download records from the app store to see how many times he installed them.

Elaborate logical reasons

The moment you accept you are fully responsible of your life - and therefore, fully at fault of your situation (contrary to blaming others, or blaming the system) is the moment you will be able to start improving happiness.

Happiness is the lack of negative situations. What are you doing towards reaching that happiness point in your life?

>>17900258
>Whatever you do, do not kill yourself.

Now let's see them logie raisins so we can help you out, anon!

>>17900250
Also, very curious about people's opinion on self harm, and self harm marks for/on males and females?

Wasn't sure if I should of made a post on /b/, to me /adv/ seems like the proper place to talk about such things considering most bottle up their crippling autism to shit post on this board unlike SOME BOARDS

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>>17900250

I'd date you op.

(unless you're male)

>>17900250
I met my ex on 4chan. It was a multiyear abusive whirlwind.

in studies, people can accurately determine if you are gay by looking at only a small segment of your face. maybe you are gay op

>>17900378
Sounds like a shitty study

>>17900467
Sounds like you look gay op

You either walk with the wrong crowd or has the body language and dress like a faggot. There are dead giveaways the trigger the gaydar of faggots, they're not approaching you randomly