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>>17989862
fuck no. don't talk to her for a long while, possibly forever. Especially if you weren't friends before, and by friends I mean good friends.

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>>17989862
Nah

>>17989862

Leave her alone. At least give it a few weeks, and even then, there probably isn't a good reason.

>first
Theres ya problem

>>17989861
no you dumb ass you were nervous, it was your first blowjob. It was also probably from an inexperienced person so s/he's probably not amazing at it.

>>17989861
>Is there something wrong with me?

Maybe you were stressed since it was your 1st time. It happens to all of us. Another option is that she gives terrible blowjobs (and a lot of girls do). Either way, don't worry about it and next time it happens, try to possibly lay in bed and relax/close your eyes while you hold her head

Guys/girls
Where do you go on your first dates?

test

>meet dude, instant chemistry, really want to friend
>He's pretty smooth, lays on the moves.
>Tell him I'm not sure I want to jump that line too quickly, because I am really interested in being his friend and usually I find when I go too far too quickly with guys I never hear from them again
>Insists he feels the same way, he still wants to be my friend too no matter what
>So we fool around
>Couple days later, never hear a word out of him. Decide to send him an fb message.
>Half hearted replies, short messages, but not just outwardly ignoring me. Conversation dies quick because he's not really putting any effort into it
>Few more days pass, he makes zero contact with me. Send him another message asking if he wants to hang.
>"I'll let you know. Here's my number though"
>Never get a text.
>Occasionally he'll like my status. Otherwise, he doesn't talk to me.

So I've been played right? He ain't ever gonna really be my friend or meet with me again. I should just cut my losses and move on right?

I'm at a loss because his actions seem weird to me. If he wasn't interested in me at all, he would just ignore me right? He wouldnt bother to even make small talk?
I don't have many friends, and I've never really done much hooking up, idk what's normal for this shit. It's only been a week since we met the first time, but I just feel like he has no interest in talking to me based on the short messages and the fact that I always am the one initiating. Is this normal?

>>17989781
pepto bismol

>>17989781

just vomit. once its out you'll feel better

>>17989797
I can't leave and buy stuff. SHieeet. Any home remedies?

>>17989768
"Hey, you retarded piece of shit"
Works every time.

>>17989768
>They say things like "hi love" , "hey cupcake"
No they don't.

Hey qt 3.14

>>17989761
You are feeling injustice because rich people get rich things without any effort
You worked hard for where you are and the idea that people get things better than what you have without working as hard as you hurts you

This is normal

There was this one guy. Named Carl or something
He wrote a whole book about that feeling

>>17989801
OP here

But I don't feel the need of getting things the easy way, I can imagine my family suddenly becoming rich and giving me whatever I wish and I seriously can't think of anything new on my life because I really don't want anything new, I seriously feel I have everything I need.

I don't like unproductive people, just like some people can't stand gays, liberalists, etc. I can't stand passive people, even if they are not rich but I am ok with that because we all need to hate some group, don't we? What I hate the most are people who don't do anything and get whatever they want, I feel as if their families were indirectly educating others into believing it's ok to do nothing.

>>17989847
Again that's normal.
You want everyone to suffer like you did

If you worked hard you should get something
If you didn't, you shouldn't get anything

This Carl guy said something about that
You may like what he said

>>17989724

a lot of people do. for different reasons. im going through it and everyone says jus to wait and take a break but its been almost a year and its not coming back, and they know very well its not just creative block, i had a literal brain stem injury that is affecting my life and they're all acting like its just some bump i nthe road when i cant even remember anything from yesterday let alone get my creativity wokring

>>17989724
25 year old here in a similar situation. You sound like you have depression.

Sounds like ennui.
You should try and do something new, or make some big change in your life.
Maybe something has been draining you mentally. Something that doesn't really interest you or that has become too repetitive, and in which you spend a lot of mental bandwidth.
I'm almost 26, and in a very similar position.

>>17989680

>state all your itnerst or be more clever

why not both? list a few real hobbies than tack on a joke.

>sincere about your intentions

i think despite people saying 'WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR?' girls dont actualyl want to know. cuz even if it s what they're looking for, it ends the chase.

more than anything a girl wants to be seduced. so to just say 'hi im looking to date' basically means you cant seduce them. they either have to fall in line, or get out of the way. realistically you dont know what you want. sometimes we find ourselves only having sex with a girl who we thought we could date based on her profile and sometimes end up dating the girl we picked for just sex.

so if theres a section that demands you say what you're looking for that you can't leave blank just say 'cute ladies' or something vague. if soemone asks just say 'im not sure. i like to get to know a girl a bit before i decide my intentions.'.

this has worked well for me. cuz even if you and her just want sex girls dont want to admit it. they want to feel like they gave in and let you have sex with them, almost as if doing you a favor, and feel like they turned you down for dating. to say 'just sex' implies shes not good enough to date, and even sluts dont want that.

>photos

usually dating sites /apps have a limit. if its less than 10, then go ahead and fill them all up. girls are more likely to connect with you if they feel they actually know what you look like. one photo, one angle doesn't do that.

try to get a friend or family member to take photos for you if you can. but if you can't then some selfies are fine. a balance is best. medium shot of you, clear face, really cute for the first. then follow up wiht some group shots, activity shots, etc.

>>17989680
>>17989709

also, thats one sweet ass pepe, mind if i download it?

>>17989680
>How detailed should they be?
Don't put too many details. For example if you say you like hunting and fishing, then you're automatically ignored by vegan and vegetarians. >Should you really state all your interests or should you be more clever/humorous.
Your pictures are more important than anything else. Put in some interests that indicate you're not some video games addict (ie: say you like to go out for treks, travels, go camping or weekend escapade. Bitches love that kind of shit)
>Should you be sincere about your intentions or does that turn girls off?
Simply say you're looking forward to meet new people and see where it goes.
>How many photos should you typically have Should they be active photos or are selfies fine?
4 seems ideal. One of them needs to be a group photo with friends and you smiling. Another one should be you in the nature or on top of a moutain. Try to have one with an attractive girl if possible. And finally you can put a selfie, but choose the right angle/lighting/clothing

>>17989622
Recently it's been even more challenging because of all that he has to say on Trump and his inauguration. I've been increasingly doubtful of the media so i'm having a harder time forming an opinion on any of it. This was my bad obviously but i snapped at him recently concerning how assuredly he was saying that Trump would be in office for 8 years and not 4. I said something like "What the hell makes you think you have this all knowing forsight to say these things". He blew up at me in a way i've rarely seen him do, and ended the call. I've barely spoken to him since sunday and he says he has a cold and mysteriously vanishes when I tell him i'm good to call.

It bothers me to talk in the self centered way i have in my OP and in this post but I'm really confused, and at a loss.

Tell him you're with her and that he's not my president.

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>>17989679
Jesus christ, i have a feeling that this whole fucking topic is gonna get derailed because of that second post.

All joking aside I would REALLY R-E-A-L-L-Y appreciate it the following discussion doesn't take place around the election

>>17989596

depends on what you're required to do for the night shift. if you have the option to get yourself an energy boosting beverage do so. if not, try to settle for any beverage or snack you can. when i need to stay up i just chug water.

if at all possible, stand up.

talking to someone also helps if you can. but agian it depends on what your work on this shift entails

>>17989601
My entire workday is dragging pallets. I get brief opportunities to check my phone when having them laminated (I won't even try to guess the correct english word).

So I am on my feet, dragging stuff, praying for quick death by forklift.

>>17989663

not much you can do other than ask for a quick break to chug some coffee and some sugar. that is really it. sorry man sounds rough

>>17989546
>thighmen above them glancing down and laughing
thighs are the best and that's the truth

>>17989546

Doesn't help, my dude. If I could choose to be into something "normal," I would.

>>17989480
It also fucks me up worse because when im feeling shitty and low I find myself chain eating fast food to feel better and it makes me fatter and worse off. Like I would have bk and taco bell like 3 times in a week.

>>17989480

thats what happens when you make romance / girls a motivation in life. cuz relationships are fragile, and romantic relationships are the most fragile of all.

a woman only makes you a 'better man' if you're still better when shes no longer there. otherwise she makes you a fraud.

its something a lot of people will enver understand but you need to want to change for yourself. a lot of people will claim this to be true, but they don't change. its just something they tell themselves and possibly think they believe, but if they really wanted to change for themselves they would.

otherwise its like saying you want to be an astronaut one day. if you actually wanted to be an astronaut you'd go do it. otherwise its just a fantasy, not a goal.

>>17989519
It worked well for a while though, like before she was introduced into the friend group I was horrible, I was cringey and just super immature, then I started to talk a little more to her and said wow I really like her but I want to be able to talk to her more, so I started to pay attention to how I acted, cleaned up the cringe, started to dress better, pay attention to small things. It started off I asked her a long time ago to hangout and she gave me a whole shit excuse of having positive and negative energy about people and it drains her unless people are positive and I was neutral so I didnt offer good nor bad. Now I can hangout 1 on 1 with her whenever I want and she is perfectly fine with it, in fact we have a blast hanging out and she sometimes likes to hangout with just me over others. BUT that isnt the case anymore it seems lol she's found a guy and is moving on once more from me. Hurts alot tho, I keep checking my phone hoping to see a text notification from her wanting to just talk or something, or ask if I wanna come over but thats just denile talking, I havent fully grasped the situation yet but ill get there someday.

You did the right thing.
You both deserve someone you perfectly click with in your own way.

She was your best friend, and that's why you love her. If you're sure that you're over her, which you should be, consider hanging out only as friends again.

>>17989471
I think I did the right thing, but I can't seem to stop thinking about her. I thought that once we break up I would be able to move on, but I'm stuck analysing the decision I made again from every angle. Is this normal? I also think that maybe if I was with someone else I would also get bored of them physically after a while.

>>17989471
op in similar situation but different.still with my gf. we got into a huge couple of fight around june last year. to the point where it was just volatile. she even walked out on me on christmas and new years i completely flipped my shit at her.

we're basically going on vacation for our anniversary, costing me an ass load. 7 days all inclusive 5 star. if we fight or dont get along i'm highly debating leaving. I'm doing the whole thinking of other girls and keeping in contact with some I probably shouldn't but I find the relationship lacking. that's probably what's happening to you. She wants sex more, I don't the attraction has dwindled because of all the previous arguments and now I know what she can become when we're not doing well.

They wouldn't be used if they didn't.

I use and I don't have any side effects. You have to try until you find one that fits you.

Benzodiazepines are very effective but they are extreme addictive and will change your personality and the withdrawals are hell in Earth and can last years. SSRIs can help too but hey will turn you into a robot, kill your emotions, and make it where you dick won't get up, which can last months or years after discontinuing the medication. I've been down the road and done it all. Your best bet is do it the best you can without drugs. If you must use the lowest doses for the lowest amount of time and use the drugs only if there is no other options and even then use it to help you until you can get by on your own. Good luck anon. If you have any questions I'll respond.

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Try Saint-John's Wort

It's an over the counter plant extract.
Works for me, and if doesn't work for you, try taking 3 pills or so at a time

>>17989356
>chad gets 2 stacies at once

wow I'm shocked

>>17989356
Geez. That's a fucked situation. I think you made a huge mistake crossing that line. Twice. If she didn't have a boyfriend, it would be way different.

Your friendship might be in jeopardy now. How serious is she with this guy?

>>17989375
Oh wait I misread this

Disreeeeeeegard me