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Guys/girls
Where do you go on your first dates?

test

>meet dude, instant chemistry, really want to friend
>He's pretty smooth, lays on the moves.
>Tell him I'm not sure I want to jump that line too quickly, because I am really interested in being his friend and usually I find when I go too far too quickly with guys I never hear from them again
>Insists he feels the same way, he still wants to be my friend too no matter what
>So we fool around
>Couple days later, never hear a word out of him. Decide to send him an fb message.
>Half hearted replies, short messages, but not just outwardly ignoring me. Conversation dies quick because he's not really putting any effort into it
>Few more days pass, he makes zero contact with me. Send him another message asking if he wants to hang.
>"I'll let you know. Here's my number though"
>Never get a text.
>Occasionally he'll like my status. Otherwise, he doesn't talk to me.

So I've been played right? He ain't ever gonna really be my friend or meet with me again. I should just cut my losses and move on right?

I'm at a loss because his actions seem weird to me. If he wasn't interested in me at all, he would just ignore me right? He wouldnt bother to even make small talk?
I don't have many friends, and I've never really done much hooking up, idk what's normal for this shit. It's only been a week since we met the first time, but I just feel like he has no interest in talking to me based on the short messages and the fact that I always am the one initiating. Is this normal?

>>17989923
To the zoo

Guys and girls

How do you feel about our new janitor?

>>17989962
Who?

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To girls, mainly.
How do I approach a female in a public setting without it being awkward as fuck?
I'm not that kind of guy, but I'm becoming more and more desperate.

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Why do women in the modern day seek self assurance from society that they are strong, independent and just like MALES. But they claim that you should be proud to be a WOMAN and you shouldn't conform to males?

hi gf cuts herself. says like half of all girls do it. ummmm is that anywhere close to correct?

>>17989997
your gf is 15 and no, of course not. I would seek help for her.

To girls

Opinion on cheating? Have you ever cheated? Ever been cheated on?

>>17989923
almost always coffee. but I love coffee.

>>17989925
hmmm I'm going to say that he's not that into you. from experience I know I've accidentally led girls on just because when I'm not interested I don't even notice the things I'd do that lead you on. likes etc. when I am interested then I am much more invested in my 'disinterest'/hard-to-get-ness. if that makes sense.

>>17990011
Absolutely terrible. No. No, thankfully.

>>17989993
Only dumbo feminists believe that honestly. It seems increasingly unpopular. >>17989997

>>17990011
Shittiest thing you can do, theres absolutely no reason or point in doing it, it's not that fucking hard to just break up with someone.
Never cheated, I don't think I have been cheated on. Possibly with one dude since he rebounded a tad quickly after our break up, but I have no other suspicion or evidence.
Having been a cheater in the past is an instant deal breaker for me as well. If I was dating someone and found out he cheated on one of his exs I'd dump him.

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>>17989997

>>17990003
>>17989997
This.
Cutting is only acceptable when the they are legit in pain (War trauma, PTSD, Addiction). Anything else and she's an attention whore.

>>17990013
Yeah thats what I'm guessing. Idk why he would give me his number. Maybe its because fb tells me when he's opened the messages so I can tell when he's deliberately ignoring me? idk.
Wish he would have just been honest up front. I'm more hurt that I got my hopes up for a prospect of a fwb, you know a FRIENDs with benefits and all i got was a ons.

>>17990046
Whoops didn't mean to quote that last one. Kek but I guess it's kind of fitting.

>>17989962
Girl here. He's ruining the board

Is there a shortcut for getting laid besides paying money?

I don't want to deal with bullshit and I want to be conservative with my money.

>>17990076
Escorts are probably the least bullshit for the cheapest price honestly

>>17990011
It fucking sucks, there's literally no reason to do it. If you're unhappy you can break up. Anyone who cheats is a piece of shit.

No

Yes, and it still bothers me

>>17990076
Have an ounce of confidence, take care of yourself, and learn to smooth talk.
You can get free pussy

>sitting in statistics class
>this girl comes and sits next to me
>says hi and asks me if I did my assignments and homework
>asks for help on the homework
>says her boyfriend usually helps her
>convo progresses and we ask each other's major, can relate on courses and profs we took
>she's one year older than me
>she's glad because she almost dropped the class
>end of class, she sits right next to me and asks me a bunch of stuff again
>say I don't know, but get her number
>she tells me to please text her so she has my number
>she goes to the prof for help

Then I texted her and got no response back. Shit I wasn't even going to hound her. Maybe she dropped the class already, I wouldn't know.

Just makes me feel bad I made the courage to text her but no reply. Maybe I should've just given her my number instead

Did I fuck up? She has a boyfriend and everything. I wasn't even gonna be her free tutor like she expected me to, but it would've been nice getting to know her

>>17990165
she have a bf and by the story you told us, she's clearly using you, drop that bitch asap and concentrate on your own school work.

>>17990178
>she's clearly using you, drop that bitch asap and concentrate on your own school work.
Yeah that's what I thought, but the fact that she didn't reply just kills my self esteem

I try not to befriend girls like that anymore

>>17990178
>she's clearly using you
tbf she made that clear. once she found out I'm in STEM she acted like I'm good with maths and should be able to help her out. Wtf I'm not a free tutor

>>17990165
No one texts back on those texts because the propose is to get the person's number..

She mentioned her boyfriend first thing so you wouldn't hit on her.

>>17990237
>No one texts back on those texts because the propose is to get the person's number
Is that why? I still feel defeated lol

I know she has a boyfriend but I still felt a connection somehow

How can I talk to reserved girls in college when I'm shy too? The classes are so big and it feels impossible to make friends let alone talk to a reserved girl.

>>17990287
If she's sitting alone, try to sit next to her and talk to her. Chances are she wants a classmate too

>>17990292
Is that usually the case? I'm just afraid she might not want anyone to talk to her.

>>17990313
Yes it is usually the case, unless the girl somehow has friends who skip, or friends who take the same class with a different prof.

Literally just try. Most loners would be happy

Girls (And guys)

Just how significant is this age gap?

My friend (19M) is talking to this girl (28F) who we all think is interested in him. But we don't know how a relationship would work in this case.

>>17990316
There's only that particular class. It's a junior level class but it's my first semester at a new school. I feel awkward being the one to approach when I don't even know my way around or have new friends. I guess I got both to lose though...

>>17990313
I believe so too. Like when I walk into a class and realize I don't know anyone in it, I go sit by myself but secretly pray someone will take me in if only purely so I have someone who can help me with homework/group work. Too shy/awkward to try to wedge myself into someone else's group myself.

No harm in trying. On the off chance she really is just like "fuck I just wanted to be alone" then she'll probably make it pretty obvious to you quickly by keeping your conversation curt, trying to kill it as fast as possible so you'll leave.
Take the initiative if you like her, start up a convo, but if you get the vibe she's trying to end the conversation and get rid of you, then I'd trust your instinct.
>>17990324
I wouldn't be able to do it, but different people handle shit differently. I'd keep your nose out of your friends business. If he wants that cougar puss let him try.

>>17990329
>It's a junior level class but it's my first semester at a new school.
Look at it another way: if you don't try now, you're gonna end up a loner next term and the next year

>>17990334
>I wouldn't be able to do it, but different people handle shit differently. I'd keep your nose out of your friends business. If he wants that cougar puss let him try.

I've been helping him with her for the past 2 and a half months with her. And she does look ~18-19.

>>17990324
That's pretty fucking huge

How to go for the first kiss at the movies?

>>17990342
Yea... It looks like the both are really into each other, but that age gap. At least the girl looks ~19. So it might not be the worst. Anyway, they are in college together taking the same courses

I want to fug this grill in my math class. She seems into me. Help with chatting and fuggin.

>>17990343
It's kinda hard, since your faces are naturally not going to be facing one another.
Dude I was with pulled it off by first getting me to cuddle with him in the seats, then he pulled that move where he moved my head with his hand to face him and went in for the kill.
Ballsy move, but worked in his favor because nothing floods my panties more than a cocky dude.

>>17990335
Well, when you put in that way... but still, something about her in particular really gives off a "I not allowed to talk to boys, only study" vibe. I'll give it a shot anyway.

I've been having a pretty decent conversation with a tinder match who complimented my appearance earlier (which is more of red flag for a scammer/bot for me desu).

She said that she was thinking of watching a movie, not sure which one. I said that La La Land looked good. Then she asked when the last time I had seen a movie was. I said that I hadn't been to the theater in a while.

I got " ;-)" back.

Is she trying to set up a date? Not sure how to respond.

>>17990354
Some girls just have a resting bitch face especially if they feel alone or stressed. A girl like that actually talked to me and she was the cutest girl

>>17990365
It's not a resting bitch face. She sits really proper and and is so calm it's a bit unsettling. But at the same time she sat away from others.

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Went on a date for the fist time in a few years. If a girl keeps putting her hair behind her ear/ showing earings, isnt that supposed to be a good sign/body language?

>>17990378
Crows are attracted to shiny objects. She's testing you to make sure you aren't a dozen birds in a human suit

>>17989925
>is this normal

It's shitty, but it's frecuent. If a guy manifests sexual attraction for you, 8/10 times there's no chance he will be happy with just being your friend. And if he says he is, there's a good chance he's lying to you and/or himself.

>>17989997
No

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>>17990380
Good thing I am a Raven

>>17990367
Well she might as well just be avoidant, but it's usually easy to tell if she is

>>17990396
For real though messing with her hair can either read flirty or nervous. Not really something to go off of

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Girls: Would you say the majority of men who approach you are at least in the same "league" as you? Or do plenty of men who'd you consider fairly less attractive than you approach you as well?

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Girls: a new girl started working at my side job at a restaurant (2 days a week). She's super shy and cute and I was thinking about talking to her for a bit then asking for her number.

I think she's shown signs of liking me as I frequently catch eye contact with her (not sure if I was looking first or her) and sometimes when catching eye contact she smiles at me and I reciprocate.

Would you be OK with a guy asking for your number if you didn't know him very well? Should I go about this a bit differently since she's so shy?

Any and all help would be greatly appreciated!

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>>17990405
I figured she might be nervous. I finally met someone as socially awkward as I am. She apologized a few times for being nervous. I kept telling her its fine.

It was a really strange date. It was a blind date, and I was having a rough week and didnt prep well. I am pretty average looking, but my clothes and hair was pretty frumpy borderline hobo. She was very pretty and dressed up. I kept wondering why she seemed to like me.

But I gave her my number, she texted me and wants to hang out. So I am cautiously optimistic.

>>17990464
Good luck man.

>humans are highly sexual creatures
>getting laid is difficult even with average looks despite the large amount of non-ugly/non-fat girls there are
>there are literally books dedicated for the basic natural task of fucking
>prostitutes are insanely expensive
I mean it does make sense whenever I think about it.

But it's just so ironic.

Fuck this gay earth.

>>17990411
I'm not sure how to objectively rate myself in terms of looks so I don't really know if a guy is in my league or less attractive than me. I think most of the guys who hit on me aren't more attractive than I am though. I'm curious to hear other responses.

On the other hand, do guys usually stick to hitting on women in their league?

>>17990411
Great question man, I also want to know that. Are we as a gender aiming too high?

>>17990411
Okay, I don't get approached because I'm not all that attractive BUT I do have a few super pretty girl friends who do and from what I see and hear it looks like if you're a 10/10, you're going to get approached by all the 10-1's. If your a 6/10, you'll get approached by 6-1's etc (with some scattering here and there, obviously. Which is good I guess, way to be brave, but on the other hand she's definitely going to talk about how gross you are if that's what she thinks

>>17990511
I'm not sure. I see myself as a reasonable guy. Slightly above average in looks and I know that I can't get 8.5+ girls. But often times I do see guys who I think are punching way above their league and think to myself "how delusional."

>>17990544
That's what my intuition tells me too. 8.5+'s probably get tons of guys thirsting after them. Under that it's probably much more reasonable.

>>17990554
Yeah that's where I think a lot of dudes get the "women are all vapid whores" thing from. Bruh, she's a ten who works out every day and only eats kale and you are a basement dweller with mustard on your MLP shirt. How did you think it was going to go

>>17990425
I wouldn't want a guy asking for my number so soon, but I'm also pretty reserved and not the flirtatious/outgoing type. But since she's shy too, she may feel the same. I'd try to befriend her first, just talk to her when you see her, find out what she's interested in, etc. If I were in her situation I'd feel uncomfortable if you asked for my number when I don't really know you, that feels like a commitment to talk to you regularly.

>>17990580
Thank you I appreciate your insight. That seems very reasonable the only problem is I only work those 2 days. I'm pretty sure she usually works those same 2 days as well. I'm just worried that I may not see her to often and i'll be honest she simply has almost all the attributes I like in a girl(quiet, sweet, apolitical) so it'd just be a shame if I lost the opportunity.

When would you as a shy girl feel comfortable? My original plan was to get the number, talk for a bit then ask her out. But maybe that'd just be a bit too much for her so soon.

This is of course assuming she likes me. Which who knows?

I caught feelings for this close friend, but she doesn't want to see me. She's too tired, which kind of makes sense as she usually is very social yet introverted, and just went through a busy period.

I've seen what she's really like under that social butterfly act, and that's the person I've grown to like. How do I convince her to meet me and that she doesn't have to put on the tiring act?

It's been months now since we last met, yet she's still texting me daily. My plans to go out are met with a tentative "I'm tired."
I just want to stay in and quietly read or play some vidya together. Is that such a challenge to an introverted person?

>>17990411
I'm a guy and I only aim for girls considered less attractive than me.

It sure is easy, but it makes me a kissless virgin because I realize they're too ugly for me

Tell me, what do all the red pill types want? They don't like women, but when women say they don't like men much and don't want to date them they say 'give them a chance'. What do y'all want?

>>17990608
>she doesn't want to see me
that's the reason

her being "tired" is just an excuse

>>17990604
>When would you as a shy girl feel comfortable?
Probably when I know we have common interests and you seem to have a pleasant personality. A lot of the anxiety of being asked for a number would stem from not really knowing anything about you, I want to know what I'm getting into.

>>17990608
What are her texts like? Does she tell you about her day? Are they long? It sounds like she considers you a friend but has an idea that you like her.

>>17990621
Alright, thank you for your insight.

So there's a girl who I've know for just a little under a year, her and I are decently close and everytime we spend time together we cuddle, now I've developed feelings for her, but I feel as though I've waited far too long and missed my opportunity.

Could I get some opinions on this, and whether I should quell these emotions or act upon them?

What advice is there for a guy that has basically no experience with girls but has managed to get a girl to like him enough to make out with him when kinda drunk?

So I met a girl through a friend. We dont talk to the friend anymore, but I recently started hanging out with this girl more often.
Time flies and we hang out every week. She has a boyfriend, but things have been escalating, as some say I guess. We snapchat almost daily now, we hang out weekly, she's laughing at the dumbest things I say and do, and other little things. We were playing billiards and we bantered and messed around with one another physically. We didn't make much physical contact, but we poked each other with the sticks and shit. We smoked and stuff.

Anyways, she snapchats me early in the morning, then once again, but in the afternoon. Her in her workout clothes, with her ass bending a bit out, with a long ass caption.

Im getting a bit worried, but is it possible she may have a liking of me? Her relationship is LDR, so I'm guessing she is looking for my dick or is she just enjoying herself with me? She rarely brings up her boyfriend nowadays. Only to mention dates that are nearby that are semi-important.

>>17990615
Every once in a while she'd ask me to meet up by herself, though. Not much of an excuse then, it would seem.
Though those moments are so far apart that I decided to post here.

>>17990622
Usually they're a witty take on something that happened to her or how she feels about something. Her responses are low-effort at times, but those initial texts are mostly thought out and filled with smileyfaces

>>17990511
Yes

https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/page/14/

>>17989979 never in my life has it not been awkward as fuck. Let the chick approach u first?

How do you Girls feel about ass eating? (as in done to you)
My ex never complained but I feel some women won't be too comfortable if I wanted to do it to them without previous warning.

>>17990076
Tinder, let em know right away you're just tryna fuck, time & $$ saver

>>17990378
It means she was nervous

>>17990673
>https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/page/14/
Holy shit female hypergamy is real...

>>17990411
90% of the time guys who approach are not even close to my league.. 10% of the time they are out of mine. Just say no to everyone always it works out fine

>>17989925
He wanted dem poontang, you acted as a entitle little princess and just considered you were too much of a hassle to deal with.

There is no bigger insult for a man than a woman telling them that they should invest time and effort in them while at the same time saying they are only looking for a friendship.

So I told a girl I liked her awhile back. She didn't want a relationship. We've become even better friends at work and I get the vibe that she's attracted to me, has agreed to hangout, we just haven't set it up yet. I think I messed up my chances of a FwB situation because I already have feelings and she knows it. Yet shes agreed to chill alone at my place with me? Im a late bloomer so idk how game works these days. I'm 23 and she's 20.

Is it rude towards my boyfriend to go on a cruise with coworkers that are all men? Most are married too. I will have to sleep in the same cabin with three of them because it's a cheap offer.

>>17990694
find someone else.

>>17990704
Yes, it is. Though he might be ok with it though. Some guys are ok with that kind of thing since he has done similar things too

>>17990704
put yourself in his shoes, would you consider it rude if he went to a cruise with coworkers that are all female?

>>17990688
But how do you know what league you're in? Are you sure you're not rating yourself to high?

>>17990720
If that article that anon posted is true then yeah she probably does.

Who knows though maybe shes a babe?

>>17990717
Hmm no. It lasts less than 24 hours and I just want to buy cheap candy for myself and cigarettes for him. I don't drink and it's not like that, these are grown men with families. Well I hope he tells me if he feels uncomfortable, I am afraid he won't tell if he is because he wouldn't want to tell me what to do or make me sad.

>>17989925
>So we fool around

This was your mistake right here. I never just "fool around" with a guy I want as a platonic friend or boyfriend. Although desu when a guy is sexually attracted to you the chances of being "just friends" are pretty slim

>>17989925
>So I've been played right?

Lol I like how this is such an outlier event for women like, "whaaaaaaa men can also flake and be dodgy? whaaaaaaaaa"

Yeah he's clearly not interested. Have some self-respect and quit it with the double texts.

>>17990720
>>17990726
Most people would like to think they are more attractive than they actually are. It's hard to resist this urge

>>17990730
>am afraid he won't tell if he is because he wouldn't want to tell me what to do or make me sad.

or because he really likes other options for sex and his freedom.

>>17990746
Huh?

>>17990411
i'd consider myself a 7/10 in terms of looks and most guys i've dated and/or been hit on by are approximately around there or lower

if you're a girl then it's pretty easy to tell what "league" you're in based on who approaches you. if you're only ever hit on by ugly dudes then chances are you're uglier than you think you are

>>17990673
> the average-looking woman has convinced herself that the vast majority of males aren’t good enough for her, but she then goes right out and messages them anyway.

This is why online dating is a sham. You're just way better off talking to women online than worrying about taking professional pictures and including a cute dog in there.

>>17990730
you are not putting yourself in his shoes.
You are just twisting the situation to justify it with your own ideas.

If I were told to my gf that she was going in a cruise like this, I won't speak against it, but I'd feel deeply disappointed at her.

>>17990778
>but I'd feel deeply disappointed at her.

Why though? Not the person you replied to but I'm a woman in tech so 99% of my co-workers are male. However most of them are either a) married or b) unattractive. I'd feel pretty offended if my boyfriend didn't trust me enough to do team bonding activities with people I clearly have no interest in.

>>17990730
>grown men with families
lol ALL of them? absolutely no one else on this trip but married men (who are probably sexually frustrated) and one woman who somehow decides to join the cruise?
NO other women?? and you are still considering this?
Do you have common sense of a 12 years old?

Other anon is right. If your bf is ok to this he's likely fucking someone else.

>>17990794
>team bonding activities with people I clearly have no interest in
He trusts you but he doesn't trust the people in your office whom he probably never met.
Not to mention, everything you mentioned could fluctuate depends on the emotional and horny level of the people involved, it's just a complex situation with an unpredictable outcome that a rational man would rather avoid.
It's also not uncommon for women to cheat because they are put in similar situations and started "feeling" some way they never felt before with their bf lol

>>17989856
Guys/girls

My ex of 6mos broke up with me abruptly a couple of days ago and yesterday I noticed a weird...lump around my genitalia. I'm getting it checked out soon but from a quick google search it could be an STD, but it could also just be a general infection

Should I tell my ex now or wait until I get an actual diagnoses? And should I ask if there was another woman? I never suspected him of cheating but the breakup did come pretty quickly after I questioned his relationship with one of his female friends

>>17990794
it's not like I didn't "trust her" but if you are asking whether or not going to a cruise like this is rude to him, it means an option exist and you are effectively choosing a bunch of guys that you see every day and spend most of your time with anyway over spending such time with your boyfriend.
As I said, disappointing.

>>17990813
This is the dumbest, most immature thing I heard.

If you trust your partner then shouldn't matter if you trust the people around them. Part of trusting someone is also knowing that they'll properly reject advances when the time comes.

>It's also not uncommon for women to cheat because they are put in similar situations and started "feeling" some way they never felt before with their bf lol

Who hurt you

>>17990797
He is not fucking someone else.

>>17990826
>effectively choosing a bunch of guys that you see every day and spend most of your time with anyway over spending such time with your boyfriend

Once again, that makes no sense. First of all, literally anyone who has a full time job will see their co-workers more often than their partners. Second, are you seriously saying you'd be disappointed if your gf wanted to spend some time with her friends or co-workers instead of you? It's perfectly normal that in a healthy relationship your partner would occasionally want to spend time without you

Honestly the number of insecure, codependent people on this board baffle me

>>17990818
Ugh, you sure know how to choose them don't you?
If I were you I'd wait for the actual results, no need to make a big deal over assumptions.
Regardless of whether you do have or not a STD the appropriate chain of actions is cutting contact, asking for explanations is pointless at this point, he just ditched like a cheap whore and you are running behind his tail? nah. Don't give him that pleasure..

>>17990834
>First of all, literally anyone who has a full time job will see their co-workers more often than their partners
that's the point.

>>17990846
>Ugh, you sure know how to choose them don't you?

The thing is he didn't seem like the cheating type at all :/ He was super introverted and barely had any irl friends, we spent like 3 - 4 days of the week together, and he said he hated casual sex because he had performance anxiety

>he just ditched like a cheap whore and you are running behind his tail

Not really running behind his tail, just think it's responsible to let him know in case he might have an STD. I don't want the poor girl he fucks with next to get it too

>>17990834
You usually don't sleep in the same room as your coworkers though.

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>>17989856
lads or grills

>sitting down eating with some people in this cafeteria
>notice this girl sitting diagonally from me
>saw her look at me once, meh whatever
>continue to talk shit with friends
>look over again and shes looking
>but this time shes staring at me while talking to someone, I'm looking back and I refused to break eye contact so it went on for about 10secs and she eventually breaks

This isn't the only time this happens either, I've caught a different girl looking at me whenever I walk past her in the hallways every single time, I have some other incidents where similar things have happened as well

what the fuck was this? what am I suppose to do here? Am I suppose to just smile and nod or try and talk?
I'm a /fit/ autist so cut me some slack if i was missing an obvious thing pls

>>17990854
We won't sleep in the same bed idiot

>>17990853
lol are you implying the girl he cheated on you with didn't give him the STD in the first place?
Also, considering that he (assumedly) gave you an STD without a care in the world, what makes you believe he would be more mindful with other women?

>>17990857
post a picture of yourself and I'd tell you exactly what was going on.

>>17990866
>lol are you implying the girl he cheated on you with didn't give him the STD in the first place?

nah i mean in case he starts dating someone else

>what makes you believe he would be more mindful with other women?

i mean, if it's a curable STD like chlamydia I assume he'd at least want to get it treated first before having sex again. i just feel like not informing someone they might be infected is irresponsible on my part even if he decides to be a douche and not do anything about it

>>17990827
>If you trust your partner then shouldn't matter if you trust the people around them
wow you're actually retarded.

I hope I don't have to explain to you that a person has no control of the environment and people around them.

It's kinda amazing someone this dumb and irrational found their way around the internet.

>Who hurt you
Well I'd love to continue this conversation with someone with at least average intelligence.

>>17990874
nah, fuck him.
You shouldn't have any consideration with this guy.
Odds are he would be telling people you gave him the STD and that's why he left you.

To girls'

What do you think of /fit/ guys, in general? Both in terms of /fit/ 4chan users and just muscular men.

>>17990921
they're ok.

>>17990857

Sometimes this happens to me as well, I could get on a train and in the entire carrier it's just me and one girl and we're just exchanging stares, I know she's looking at me and I know she knows I'm looking at her yet nothing happens.

Later I always feel like an idiot cause I think I should say something but never follow through.

You should at least try and say something. Easier said than done, I know.

>>17990921
I tend to assume that they don't really have much to them other than "I go to the gym"

>>17990921
Cool, I want to go to the gym too

Girls,

Is the "confidence and personality matters more than physical attractiveness" a meme? Seems too good to be true. Have you seen any examples of unattractive men (short, minority, skinny, fat..) succeeding purely through personality?

>>17991057
No. It's scientifically proven. Look it up.
Yes. I know plenty of 'unattractive' guys who have no problem getting girls

>>17991057

>minority listed as a negative

lol

>>17991057
Personality matters more than physical attractiveness as long as I am somewhat physically attracted to you and it will make you hotter in my eyes
If you have a great personality but I'm just not physically/sexually attracted to you at all, there's not much to do

>>17991057
I'm a girl and every guy I liked was because of their personality. Some were considered ugly. However if a guy is too unattractive his personality won't compensate. For example I'd never date someone who's fat.

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I hope I will get good insight about this
Last month at the new year's party of my building, I realized there are two very pretty girls living above my floor. Talked to them, one is graceful and quiet, and her intelligence is hard to gauge (call her A) and the other has got to be the most fiery, outspoken and a bit abrasive pretty girl I've met (call this B). Naturally I am immediately more attracted to A. After that party I met them more often, and I didn't hide my interest in A. And B has been really mean to me, she even called me a "fucking creep", "weirdo". That made me want to date A even more, so I asked her out. She said ok, but she was busy with exams so we haven't set a date. One day later, I went to their room (to hangout with A if possible, hope this is not "creepy"), B opened the door. She was wearing a see through dress, and A was at school, so I was about to leave, B still insulted me (calling me creep is like banters at this point) and asked if I want to come in. This is where I screwed up...Yeah so I went into their apartment and fucked B on their sofa, in the kitchen and finally in her bed, three times in total. That afternoon. I was really horny. But I still want to date A. Any viable strategy at this point?
Would A be pissed if she knew what happened?

>>17991057
If you are completely, 100% unattractive there's no amount of personality that can make you hot in my eyes.
On the other hand, I got absolutely crazy for guys who weren't so attractive objectively and felt very attracted to them because I loved their attitude or their sense of humour.

>>17991121
>Would A be pissed if she knew what happened?
is this a rhetorical question kek

>>17990921
In my experience - nice to look at, boring to be with.

Then I can imagine that there are dozens of fit guys who are smart and nice to talk to.

>>17991121
why dont u just date B since clearly u cant keep ur dick in ur pants long enough for A

Ladies:

Short context here.
In March last year, my GF broke up with me, while she was studying abroad. She then had an accident where she had a major back injury from. Meanwhile I was travelling and we had some contact here and there, we reconciled things when we were both back home. We saw each other at a party already and when I was drunk, I didn't take that very well and the next day I decided to say to her that I don't want any contact whatsoever. Last week, we also saw each other on a party and while we had eye contact, I just froze there on the ground and ignored her like she wasn't there because I was too afraid to make a move. I left the party earlier without saying a word and just cried my eyes out back home. Later, I heard that she was feeling quite sad because I didn't even say hi. Neither did she.

The point is here: I'm doubting if I ever want to have contact with her again, and the main reason behind all this is that I am afraid of falling in love with her again after the whole stuff that happened. I'm afraid that if I ever get to have a little bit of quality time with her again, I just can't help myself and just forget everything that happened.

I'm a person that tried to do everything well during the relationship, and I often got the feeling that I wasn't enough for her, or that I did everything wrong. Why would I be the one now to rekindle contact again, just in the very, very small hope that now, this time, everything will be fine?

tl;dr:
Should I rekindle contact with ex in order to make things OK?

>>17991121
You're a scumbag

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>>17989925
>go too far too quickly with guys
>So we fool around

Need a little advice predominantly girls, but guys can definitely help I'd say:
>19 now still a virgin
>was one of the first out of my friends to get a bj (when I was 14)
>I was nervous as fuck and it was on a bench in a park in the middle of winter
>would go from rock hard to semi every time she took it out of her mouth
>couldn't finish
>got props for awhile but as my mates started getting some themselves it turned into a long running meme
>laughed along with it and made fun of myself for awhile but it sort of cut deeper than I expected
>throughout the rest of high school never really had the confidence or a bitty I was interested in enough to go all in
>this meant I've never really had girls over or really just never had a friend who was a girl, and of course never had a gf
>I get along with my mates' gfs well, and would consider them all good friends; but it's not like I've ever hung out with any of them individually for longer than 5 mins

Fast forward to now:
>want to finally lose v plates at least
>preferably would like to meet a nice gf at Uni or at the gym but that seems to be wishful thinking
>considering just downloading Tinder and getting it over and done with, might even meet a decent girl
>problem is that I need to bring a girl around to my house, which I've never really done
>sisters both just go to boy's/bf's house because that's the norm, plus our Mum is a little weird
>Mum is a teacher that only works 3 days a week, so besides those 3 x 6 hour days she's at home
>one sister is always at bf's and at Uni so that's good
>but other sister is always home because finished Uni and unemployed (good investment)

Girls sort of expect to be invited over to the guys house right? How do I get more alone time? And how should I hang out with a girl? It's the norm to talk for awhile on Tinder and then just go get lunch and fuck right?

Help me out pls

>>17990647
Just go for it. If you cuddle and you haven't talked about your feelings she probably has some too. If not what's the worst that could happen?

>>17990654
next step : try to get her to make out with you when sober

>>17991162
>>17991156
I really like A and it's ridiculous that one moment of weakness before we even go on a date would affect my chance.

How ofter are girls into anal and soft BDSM?

>>17990859
Honestly this whole thing doesn't sound worth it. Is this short cruise whatever thing really worth going on if it'll make your boyfriend uncomfortable?
If you are really that adamant on going and don't care about what your boyfriend thinks then maybe you shouldn't be with him.
This goes both ways, if you think it's unfair of him to not trust you/he'd be upset if you went and as you say there's really nothing wrong with the whole situation then then maybe he shouldn't be with you.

>>17991198
Lol, that's not one moment of weakness. You even said you fucked her 3 times. You suck

>>17991204
I asked him and he was okay, he is going to give me money to bring him stuff from there. He is confident so he doesn't worry.

>>17991203
Dunno, but I am
I'm yet to try anal though

General question:

I'm still infatuated with this girl I had a short relationship with. I think about her most of the time and I'm forcing myself to ignore her because seeing and talking to her was making me sad and miserable.

She still wants to be friend with me and is friendly even tho I'm treating her like shit with this no-contact crap. I dunno if she still likes me deep down because no sane person would want to remain friends with a person like me after this.

I fear of losing her forever if I confront her so I chose to remain alone and quite and wait for my mind turbolence to pass. I feel extremely guilty tho, what should I do? I'm afraid to talk to her and even look at her because I'm trying to regain my composture

do girls who are bisexual put just as much emphasis on penis size as straight women?

I only ask because bigger is often seen as more masculine and you would think bi women would prefer a more feminine dick.

possibly wishful thinking on my part

>>17990612
They want to be loved just like everyone else. The red pill subscribers are all just people who got fucked over by their lack of understanding women.

They are afraid of being hurt, therefore they hurt others in order to keep themselves safe. They aren't cowards, just hurt people that need a hug and a reminder that not every woman is the devil.

Also never ask vague questions like what do X group of people want. Do you realize how incredibly different people can be? Go talk to them and learn what they want. The answers may surprise you.


T. Guy who has been hurt by women but doesn't give a fuck anymore.

>>17991213
I am actually proud that I have the stamina to pull that off, hence I mentioned the details. She was really mean to me and I hate her, even as we were fucking she still kept insulting me, calling me names and said I would never have a chance with her roommate. I was enraged and horny, so I kept going until she squealed again and again. When it was finally over she was expecting a kiss lol. Fuck. Off.

>>17991231
I am bi and I have a fetish for micro penises. Best size is average but big is the worst since it hurts. So less than 15cm is best. T. European

>>17991246

>big hurts

but do some women get off on/enjoy that

>>17990662
She is either using you for attention, or she wants your dick. Luckily for you, she wants your dick.

LDR are bad for this reason, no physical connection while you both are away from each other. Which means someone else can swoop in and provide that physical stimulation. Want her to fuck you? All it takes is strong enough physical stimulation and a weak enough person.

So the ball is in your hands, turn her on further if you'd like. Just be prepared for the backlash.

>>17991252
Yeah of course. But there are women like me who don't enjoy it.

>>17991257

if they only had bumperstickers for that shit

If a girls knows full well that you are in love with them, and they say they have feelings as well but can't do anything because of priorities, is it safe to assume that they dont actually like you if they dont bother talking to you at all? Like if texting plummets after you admit how you both feel, is it safe to assume it's fucked if the texting stops completely?

>>17991265
They don't need them. For the billionth time, if you have her naked in your bed she is okay with your size. She has felt the penis by then and doesn't mind the size.

>>17991121
sauce on the blond?

I suspect my girlfriend is a masochist. Kinda want to test it through, any tips?

My first thought is to slap her tit while eating her pussy. Is that a bad idea?

>>17991121
>I hope I will get good insight about this
kek

>>17991274

o reilly... well I don't have any experience in that dept

>>17990361
You ask her out. Is this seriously a question? Like even if you weren't on Tinder that would be an indication to ask her out.

>>17991192
bumping for a reply of some sort

What happened to a sense of modesty in girls.

I can't scroll through any social media without girls posting nothing but half naked for no other reason than attention. It's honestly something I personally find really unattractive.

What's the logic behind this? How are girls even ok with it?

>>17991395
Who cares about what you personally find unattractive?
Everyone has preferences, but you aren't really the ultimate judge of girl's behaviour that can decide how girls should act.

Everyone loves attention, they make you feel valued. If you are a somewhat attractive girl, you can get tons of attentions online by posting pics of your body. You can even become famous or make money out of posting yourself on instagram and facebook.

Honestly, why shouldn't I be okay with it? It's their life, I unfollow people I find uninteresting.

My boyfriend has been extremely off for the past week or so. He's not instigating sex (regularly did this before), he's quiet and subdued, pretty spacy in general and just not very happy.

He assures me that it's just a phase, he's just feeling a bit down and that things will improve. It's our anniversary this weekend and we have a lovely night arranged, then we're on holiday shortly after. I just feel like maybe this is a bigger deal than he's letting on.

How can I handle this without asking him the same thing again and again? I have faith that he'd tell me if there was anything else at the heart of it, but I can't quite shake the worry.

>>17991435
>
You dont have to do anything. Its as he said just a phase.

Men are people too and we also have mood swings.

>>17991436

Yeah but this is something that happens every so often and results in zero sex with no real explanation. He's normally super affectionate but when he's like this, I feel like he's really distant from me.

I hate it when he's sad and I don't feel there's anything I can do to help.

Girls, is there any polite way to approach a girl and ask her out, ask for her number, ask for her name when you're at the gym?

There's this girl that frequents my gym, looks reallllly good, I think she might be single, looks the same age as me (19). I just don't want to be a Chad and be like "hey baby can I get your number!" But every other way just seems creepy, I don't want to stand by and miss a chance I might have had though.

I'm decent looking and keep myself in good shape, I feel like I've got a good chance with this girl but besides the fact I don't know how to start a dialogue with her... I've never had a gf and the only girls I'm really friends with are friend's gfs; I've never really hung out with a girl, or gone on a date.

Don't have to answer this whole cry for help, but a little advice on approaching her without being Chad/creepy would be nice

>>17991445

you can always go gay if it bothers you this much because all men are like this.

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Yo how do i escalate? I'm getting numbers and shit now but ya boi doesn't have the cash to be going on dates every week. What can i do to seal the deal here without taking her out somewhere expensive or something?

>>17991451
She's a teen girl anno domino 2017. You don't have to leer and throw pick up lines at her for her to realize she piqued your romantic and/or sexual interest if you approach her.

Life is too short to stick to rules about not approaching people in x or y place. (Barring some situations like her mother's funeral.) What IS a rule you should 100% stick to is that you -try- to talk to her.
People are awkward and hate awkwardness. We have entire social dances worked out to avoid social discomfort. So you can't expect her to just flat out tell you to back off or leave her alone if you strike up a conversation, only the most assertive and/or tonedeaf of girls would do that right away. Covertly however, she will still communicate to you that she's not interested, by not looking at you and/or not meeting your eyes, turning her body away from you, being cranky or short when responding, not asking any questions back or in general not saying anything to prolong the conversation. THAT is your real rejection to tell her have a good work out, bow out and not talk to her again.

As long as you keep a check on whether she's receptive, it doesn't really matter much what you say. I'm not a gym person but I wager something like commenting on that you've seen her around and asking if she's happy with her progress/goal achievement stuff would be a good opening. She either shoots you down or engages you and if she engages you, you have a natural thing in common to discuss because you can share your own experience (or tips to motivate yourself, stuff like that).
Pretty much the only thing you should not do is out of nowhere critiquing her choice of work out or form or something, that can be pretty patronizing.

Good luck!!

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This is going to sound very strange.

I'm a brown guy from a Muslim family and over the course of this year I became a very outspoken Trump supporter. I haven't dated anyone in over a year. This woman who lives in the same city as I do added me on Facebook and started talking to me. She's two years older than me, a slim French-Italian woman, very good looking. To be quite frank, she intimidates me. She asked if we could meet to have lunch and discuss politics. She likes most things I post, and most of my profile pictures even though I rarely talk to her these days.

I have a lot of social anxiety. I know this sounds very retarded but I don't have a very good relationship with my family (they don't even want to talk to me anymore). I guess having a very beautiful girl come on to me who also happens to love Trump just feels... too good to be true?

>>17991456
Do you want casual sex or a relationship?

If casual sex, you shouldn't be taking her to expensive places to begin with, it's both too big an investment for you and it makes you look like a cold douche leading her on long enough for her to spread her legs.
Instead either target girls you naturally run into in your day to day life (and flirt with them there - just teasing, goofing around, banter, get her in a huff a bit) or have to rely on being sexy enough based on just looks/demeanor and texting for her to want to sleep with you. (Protip: if you sext her, never focus on either just the image of piv or of eating her out, those are the most played out tropes, instead focus on vivid details like how you want to whisper dirty stuff to her from behind or pull her hair. Show interest in her fantasies/kinks and if you get any material use that to your advantage.
Also if you send pics for the love of god no straight up dick pic. Make her work/beg for it, sexy is all about the build up.)

If you want to make her your girlfriend, go on cheaper dates. Rollerskating in the park, a free event, and after so many dates inviting her over for a romantic home made dinner at your place.

>>17991121
dat;s hot

>>17991452

If all men are like this, I'll just take your word for it and be extra nice while he's feeling a bit off. Thank you :)

>>17991458
No one here can tell you whether or not it's a joke from friends or whatever, but I'd say it's better to find out than it is than to wonder forever whether it was legitimate. Just meet up in a public place. If shit's real, okay, you might fuck up a bit here and there but keep in mind technically you have the upper hand for already having caught her eye.

>>17991464
Not all men are like this. But your boyfriend is and that's all that is relevant here frankly. People have their personal ways of dealing with stuff, it can be a fine line between reaching out and wanting to support them and not respecting that they need space.

>>17991458
kek I heard there are group of thugs who assault Trump supporters but I thought only really desperate loner bites their bait

>>17991466
>>17991474
To be honest I don't think it's a joke. I've been talking to her since like March, seen various pictures of her. She doesn't look like a model/catfish or something, just a good looking girl. Also the city I live in is not full of retarded liberals so I seriously doubt there's some gang of people who want to beat me up.

she literally aggressively asked me "So when are we going to have lunch together?". I think she's recently single and wants to date

Girls, am I being incredibly shallow and unrealistic for not wanting to date women who are more overweight than me? I'm have an average bmi, and I don't mind a little thiccness; but I can't see myself having sex with noticeably overweight women.

>>17991483
uhhuh go ahead what are you waiting for lol

>>17991121
Are you telling me B looks like the blond
>

>>17991411
I guess it simply confuses me how it doesn't at least feel kinda wierd to have everyone you know and then some see your half naked.

>>17991489
No. And no self-respecting woman is going to want to date someone, a bond rooted in romantic and sexual attraction, who actually is not attracted to her.

Having said that, that it's a fair standard to have doesn't mean it will leave you with many options. If you're a charming, friendly guy who's a good conversationalist with a wide variety of interests, then not wanting to date some fat woman is a literal non-issue.
If you're anxiety ridden, have below average looks and are stuck in a rut in terms of mental growth and improvement in your life, and are not naturally in a position to meet a lot of new people, then it's very possible that only fat women will display interest in you. Doesn't mean that you should act on that or feel like you should "settle" for it, if anything it means that you have to increase your own attractiveness as a partner.

What are some general signs of interest in girls? Are they even remotely reliable? This girl giggles at every one of my shitty jokes but she's like that with most people so it doesn't mean shit. She plays with her hair when I'm around and does that "mirroring posture" meme thing but I don't really give much value to those things. She's normally pretty shy but she when we talk she seems more enthusiastic and talks a lot about herself when I ask her questions. How do you pick up on "chemistry"? My gut feeling tells me we have some and I feel some kind of 'tension' when we're next to each other but that could be 100% one sided. What are some clear signs I should be on the lookout for?

inb4
>ask her out faggot

I will, I just feel like she's not really comfortable going on a date with me right now. She has never dated anyone before, she's very close to her group of female friends and she's the kind of girl that likes to keep things private. I will ask her out as soon as possible, I just want to get to know her a bit better and I think I'll also need to do some social maneuvering (trying to get close to her friends mainly).

>>17991395
For one thing, most women don't actually do this. You just suffer from perception bias because a woman -not- posting risqué pictures doesn't pop up on your radar, only the ones that do. I have not in my life had a female friend with as much as a bikini picture on her social media.

Having said that, what people are comfortable with is purely cultural. Like how no woman would walk around in the streets in her underwear, but being in a bikini somewhere is no big deal at all. Whether we feel exposed or provocative has more to do with what we perceive as normal than with hard logic, what we see around us is the only frame of reference.
We live in a world where you pretty much can't advertise a product without including a naked woman or couple in an erotic setting. Where videoclips are littered with near naked women and every big block buster contains some explicit scene, let alone the steamier series. That makes people less sensitive towards nudity and changes what we see as normal.

As for why they do it apart from not seeing it as bizarre behavior because of the above - to feel powerful, to feel sexy, or because they get off on showing off their body while it's healthy and tight. That's something of all periods of time, but it takes a more "dramatic" shape now. Look at a clip like from Nancy Sinatra's These Boots Are Made For Walking - we look at that with today's norms and think whatever, it's a girl in a cheekily short dress. But back in the day that was also very provocative and openly sexual. So it's not the desire of (some) women itself to relish in their sexual power that has changed, but rather what they need to do to feel like they are being wild.

>>17991505
This is provided that she is doing it for the "right" reasons. It is also just a way to quickly get compliments if they are feeling insecure... and because of the extreme, extreme focus on appearance nowadays many young girls are afraid that they don't deserve to exist (or to be loved or committed to) if they aren't sufficiently sexy.

>>17991457
Thanks for taking the time to write this, really appreciate it.

Asking about her progress/motivation is a good idea, could spark a lot of interesting conversation. And I totally agree that people coming up to you about "this exercise is better," or "I heard this form was better," is fucking annoying. Unless you're doing something seriously wrong then people should just leave you to your own devices.

I guess I'm just scared of starting something I have to commit to, or just plain old scared of getting rejected. I know it's pathetic to blame your upbringing for your problems, but in this case they have a lot of correlation so it seems.

My parents were always fighting when I was a kid and ended up separating when I was about 12. Dad lived by himself and we all lived with my Mum so I never really had a father figure. Not to mention my Mum has been miserable for as long as I remember; never wanted to do anything as a family, barely left the house, would pretty much never let anyone come over, would always guilt you into not leaving the house. I could go on and on and complain.

My plan has always been to finish Uni, get a job, become self sufficient, not have to worry about all my bullshit family baggage and actually start making MY OWN life. But I don't want to miss out on enjoying the next 3 years of my life just while I wait to finish Uni; I've already wasted most of my life being just as miserable and gutless as my Mum.

I just want an okay job, a small comfy, cosy apartment and a decent gf.

And it's 3 years until I get a degree so I can get an okay job and a house. And in my current situation I struggle to even talk to a girl just because I don't want to burden them with my shit.

I think I'm just a pussy that's too scared of everything. I should just make Tinder, talk to a decent girl, invite her over regardless of who's home and just see where it takes me.

I'm sick of being so fucking bored and miserable, fuck

>>17991504
>How do you pick up on "chemistry"?
Starting with this one. There's general chemistry and sexual chemistry. General chemistry is what people refer to as having a "click": conversation flows easily and naturally, you fall into a comfortable dynamic in terms of who talks and who listens mostly, a short silence doesn't feel awkward, you have natural overlap in your sense of humor. Basically when two people who don't know each other can joke around and chat about a variety of stuff almost right away that means they have great chemistry. Other signs are both smiling/laughing a lot, having that enthusiasm that can make you jump from topic to topic, becoming really interested in what they think about some new topic once you learn their opinion on other stuff... basically that it's both comfortable and there's a lot of energy between the two of you, an upbeat vibe.
Sexual tension is more difficult to describe. It boils down to both sensing and implicitly acknowledging that you're attracted to each other. Eg an example is, you're sitting opposite each other, she goes to cross her leg and her foot brushes you. She flushes a bit, not because anything really happened but because any physical contact becomes more loaded and meaningful if there's strong tension. You realize she is blushing a bit because she felt fluttery or was reminded of touching you in general or whatever, and smirk at her in the moment of silence before she gathers herself and continues talking.
This is just one example, there's many different forms. Most experienced people can tell when the sexual desire is mutual and once they feel this it's relatively easy to spot signs of arousal. A really common one is the man no longer really hiding that he's low key checking the woman out, and the woman not trying to hide that she notices.
But sexual tension can also show in flirting, a lingering look after laughing together, anything really.

>>17991517
Please note that neither this chemistry nor sexual tension need to be present right away for something to work out. Some people are too shy, guarded or have too poor social skills to pull this off right away.

Here's some more signs;
>she asks for your opinion on her appearance or grooming; fishing for compliments
>she is highly interested in what you find attractive in other women, bonus points if she adjusts something like her hairstyle after you said it would look good on her or you like that specific look
>she tries to do nurturing, semi-romantic things for you like texting you good morning/goodnight texts or "just thinking about you"-texts, brings you homemade baked goods or food, fusses over whether you are cold/hot/sick, fixes your clothes - looking after you when sick is a HUGE one
>she shows a startlingly keen memory for trivial shit you told her
>she subtly points out things you have in common, especially at a younger age doing the whole "it's like you're my big brother" or "we're work spouses" is quite telling
>she puts extra effort into her looks when you meet up with her (dress instead of jeans, make up or heels if she normally doesn't do them)
>you have a lot of inside jokes, she has a nickname for you and vice versa
>she shows off her domestic skills to you, eg by showing pictures of stuff she baked or made/decorated, tells stories about how she looks after her sick pet(s) or babysits
>she randomly shows up in a lot of places where you are
>she is attentive, always going out of her way to do you even the tiniest favors (like bringing along a cup of coffee for you at work if she goes to the machine)
>telling you vaguely sexual stuff: that her favorite dress doesn't fit around her hips anymore, for example, or that she loves a clothing style that doesn't flatter her because her tits are too big

>>17991504

Are you old enough to post here? Board is 18+.

"Chemistry" and shit are fancy words for something pretty simple: Reading Social Ques. Ask her out, be rejected or get a date, and learn more about this process. That's all there is. The more you do it, the more you'll learn.

She seems interested in you as a person, maybe as a friend, maybe as more. Only way to know is ask.

Girls
Is there like some specific gestures and stuff that you do when you talk to a guy you like or someshit like that?

>>17991515
Honestly I relate to feeling like you are committing to all sorts of things, or being afraid to get tangled up in something. But at the end of the day, most people are happy enough in life and not so desperate/insecure that they want to take their time as well and not jump in a relationship with a near stranger right away.

In fact, speaking from that side I greatly appreciate it when a guy is open about not knowing where things will lead right away. Sure, some men just try to play popular/player by acting like you're one of the many girls they could have and that's obviously a vaginal quick dry. But if a guy is simply being sincere about that he's taken an interest in me and he wants to see how it feels and works between us when we get to actually know each other, that is vastly preferable to the guys who act like they are dead set on making you their girl. The latter puts a lot of pressure and expectations on you, the former leaves things open ended and allows for whatever happens in the moment. You don't have to make a big spiel out of asking her out, provided all goes well. "I really love talking to you and would like to properly take you out for some coffee some time" does the job. By taking her on a date you're not agreeing to a relationship or even a second date. If she feels otherwise then that's on her and she can enjoy the consequences of that attitude for the rest of her life.

It's good that you realize your background shaped your current attitude in this. But that's why I vouch for leaving tinder for what it is for now and just seeing if you can talk to the gymgirl. Even if she shrugs you off, it's a win that you will now forever know that you're not missing out on something by being too "pussy", and that you set your mind to something and did it despite being nervous.

>>17991535

Is there such a thing for guys?

>>17991524
>looking after you when sick is a HUGE one

I might have fucked this one up badly...
In first year uni a female friend did this and I thanked her with rough sex through out the semester, and then I asked another girl (long time crush) out during summer break.

>>17991537
Not to mention this real life interaction with strangers becomes less scary the more you do it. At a certain point you really start to internalize that as long as you are polite, pay attention to what they communicate to you and are not pushy about any personal motive, any "doom scenario" has to do with them flipping their shit over nothing. Which might be uncomfortable but not nearly as bad as actually having been the antisocial one.

And tinder's still there if it doesn't work out, after all.

>>17991535
Yeah sure, but it depends too much from person to person. Some girls giggle, blush and fidget, other girls get a pokerface and become sarcastic because they freeze up being confronted with the person they like, or they are really paranoid about their crush showing.

So I kinda fucked up. So I decided to break it off with my girlfriend but I pussied out so I had the genius plan to cheat on her so she dumps me ( I didnt I just said I did) she forgave me. Im kinda confused on what to do at this point, I feel like that gesture reaffirmed my love for her but at the same time is it just fleeting feelings? I mean femanons whos been cheated with, would you really be okay with it?

>>17991524
>>17991517

Alright, that was really helpful. If that's what chemistry is, then I believe that it does exist in our relationship to some extent. About the touch thing you mentioned - sometimes our arms or feet touch but I usually dismiss it as an accident and move on. However I just realized that I'm always the first one to pull away - maybe next time I'll casually keep touching her to see how she reacts. If she doesn't move her arm away from mine that's a good sign, right?

She hasn't done basically anything like the signs you mentioned in your second post though, other than the split-second lingering look. I guess we're not very close yet, and she's really shy and doesn't open up to other people too much I feel.

>>17991546
She's not really okay with it. She loves you too much to lose you and probably came up with rationalizations ("she seduced him into it, he was drunk and would never do this sober") to shield herself because the bare knowledge that you betrayed her period.

You are a bad person who did not just cheat, you cheated as a conscious strategy you deemed was worth sparing yourself something uncomfortable. And the least you can do is break up with her and let her find someone who will treat her right.

>>17991553
Yeah definitely. Either pulling away like she touched an electrical fence or not pulling away at all are very promising. The only response you don't want is that neutral moving away with no hurry that people typically do when they don't give it a second thought.

It's hard to say, what I mentioned are universal signs but individuals are going to differ. Some women actually cramp up around someone they like and become -less- flirty, bubbly etc. But obviously most people also just do that when they don't like someone or have less chemistry with them so it's never exact science.

Honestly the most telling sign is when she treats you differently than other people and you cannot think of a reason for that.

>>17991559
Isnt leaving her kinda fucked up? I mean she said she understands.

>>17991568
No, it isn't. Firstly there is no saying that you won't get bored of her in another few weeks, so feeling more affectionate now is hardly something to go by.
Secondly, of course that's what she says. The point is that even if it's true, she SHOULDN'T understand. You screwed her the fuck over. Unless you know that she has zero jealousy and simply doesn't care as long as you're her partner, she is bluffing by saying it's fine because she is so desperate to keep you. That is not healthy, it is an attitude that will eat away at her soul over time.

>>17991572
I mean I didn't actually cheat on her I just said I did so cant I just say " I was joking"? or do I really need to break it off because its "Unhealthy"

>>17991578
Oh Jesus man. Can't believe I managed to miss that part. Wow. Yeah you put yourself in a shitty situation.

The thing is that you can't just leave it at "I was joking". At least, maybe if it happened half an hour ago. But otherwise I don't see how you can get out of explaining that you were trying to make her break up with you...

>>17989925
i did the same with a girl i meet cause she started to act weirdly and to answer your question, yes it means he doesnt want to be close to you, i just cant tell you the reason thats up to him. I'm sorry for you, cause that is a dick move and i feel bad for doing something like this also. i would ask him about it, maybe he gives you a straight true hearted answer

>>17991538
sincere smile

>>17991537
>>17991544
Thanks so much for your help, I might just muster up the guts to spark up a conversation with her and see how well it goes. If worst comes to worst I'm just going to be honest and maybe me being nervous and not knowing what to say might come off as a cute compliment in a way. If in an alternate universe a decent looking girl approached me and was a bit nervous and didn't know what to say I know I'd take that as a huge compliment so hopefully it works both ways

I feel so sad that this is closest thing I've had to support and comfort in months, maybe longer. Fuck, I just want a girl I can trust and talk to honestly and know I'll get the same in return.

If this doesn't work out hopefully the new Uni course I'm starting this year will have some decent girls to make friends with. I did a semester of Computer Science last year, there was two girls in all of my classes put together.

My landlord is a 24 yo pretty woman, but she's married and her husband is frequently on business trip. So there are usually just two of us in the apartment. I have a fwb but landlord said the rules don't allow visitors (lol is this common?), and sometimes, especially when it's bad weather outside she would unnecessarily remind me like "hey there are only two of us here, turn off the light when you leave the room" (or sth like that) or sometimes she asked about my shoe size, quite a few times she commented about how I am the same size as her husband (height wise, but I have zero muscle)...that's not all, she ALWAYS wants to come into my room whenever there's an excuse to, like to "inspect", see if I damaged something (?), I mean wtf, they rent it out to me so even if I did she just takes my deposit right? plus when inside the only things she would focus on is (a) my underwears (b) cum tissues (c) the desktop background with two women kissing. I had a slight cold on Sunday, and asked her for medicine, I was totally back to full health that night, but two mornings in a row she knocked my room's door to check on me at 7 AM (this was right before she usually left for work). So I had to open the door with morning wood, and I tried to hide it by only peeking my head out, and she fucking pushed the door open because she thought I was hiding something, wtf, until she saw that I was trying to hide my erect cock she gasped and walked away. I was close to actually fuck this woman, many night walking past her room I heard moaning and vibrator sound, this is clearly a horny fertile woman who needs to get dicked, but I wouldn't risk being killed by her husband. Now I am wondering does she actually want to cheat on her husband or maybe there's an alternative explanation for all this from a woman's perspective?

>>17989923
on a walk or out for a beer, usually the latter. girl
>>17989979
as a girl who approaches guys all the time and loves being approached, i can't really say because a lot of women don't really want to be approached kek
>>17989993
only feminists
>>17989997
no
>>17990011
i have cheated once but i was mostly dragged into it, it was horrendous and nothing's ever felt worse. i would never do it and i would instantly break up with anyone who has. kind of biggest dealbreaker ever for me.
>>17990313
usually is the case
>>17990324
it depends on the people 100%. i usually date men that are around 4-5 years older than myself but have also dated people my age. it's all relative and subjective.
>>17990343
don't do it at the movies. it's fucking shit
>>17990361
it's a date, but movie dates are shit btw
>>17990378
no. it's very inconclusive evidence. means nothing
>>17990411
i have been approached by people i found out of my league, people in my league and people under my league. i do not consider myself highly attractive.
>>17990425
fuck the number thing just ask her to go for a walk sometime after work just to chill/talk.
>>17990608
lol she's not introverted get past that shit, she just doesn't want to see you
>>17990647
lol go for it wtf
>>17990654
talk to her? know her better? maybe you'll like her for more than just her seemingly liking you.
>>17990679
i don't like them, you should ask the woman before doing anything of the sort
>>17990694
uhhh ask her again what her feelings are
>>17990857
you should try to say something
>>17990921
it's not personally my thing. kind of the only body type i dislike, to be honest and /fit/... cancer
>>17991057
i have dated very objectively unattractive men for their personality and loved them very much and grew very quickly if not instantly to find them very beautiful because of their personality. it if definitely not a meme if you look for someone similar to you rather than objectively desirable.

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>>17991633
Honestly the only thing that outright makes me think she wants to fuck you is being loud with masturbating. The rest is possibly a spiel because she's attracted to you, but if you leave out the masturbating part then it mostly sounds like they need to rent out the room due to financial reasons, but are not actually comfortable at all (or she specifically is not comfortable) having a stranger life in their house. Eg the "focus" on your cum tissues/underwear could not be fascinating but rather a stern stare hoping to embarrass you because she feels it's rude to have no shame about spilling bodily fluids around what's ultimately her house.

As for whether it's normal to not be allowed visitors, no, that's pretty Nazi and anything thing that makes me feel she's just sincerely hyper controlling. Not being allowed sleepovers is fairly common, but no visitors at all is not a realistic demand and if she wanted to cockblock you then not allowing you sleepovers would be fairly effective already. Plus she could of course knock to see if you need anything if you have a girl over.

I can't read her body language or see how she looks at you which is pretty much what would sell me on either point being the most important. However keep in mind that sexuality takes odd forms and being prissy about you and being horny for you don't exclude one another. It is very well possible that she is thinking about you while masturbating and getting off on the power she has over you, over having this (maybe in her head sexually frustrated) single man in her home, but she has zero desire to act on anything or is not even attracted to you to the point of wanting physical stuff. It could be a sexually charged powertrip basically.

I would talk to her about boundaries. Pushing the door open when someone is explicitly showing just their head crosses a line.

>>17991121
you literally have no chance with either
>>17991161
get some closure in the sense of talking about things and keeping minimal contact but there should never be a thing between you again and you will never go out again. never see each other again on purpose but don't ignore each other like little fuckin kids.
>>17991192
nah man it doesn't HAVE to be your place and it depends on the person if it's all 'talk a bit, lunch and fuck'. if you want that then yeah that can happen i guess.
>>17991203
i am not into anal but being a switch i'm fine with softest bondage. you should really just ask each girl you fuck man it's not that tough
>>17991223
nah you'll never be alright in her eyes again after that sort of shit, you fucked up
>>17991269
yes it's fucked
>>17991280
do something very soft at first and ask if it's okay. if she is definitely turned on, then yes. communicate ffs
>>17991395
the logic is that you have done it to yourself. you have surrounded yourself with women of only that kind and so are only ever seeing that kind of women.
>>17991489
kek everyone has preferences and that's fine.
>>17991535
i make intense eye contact and smile as genuinely as i can. i might wink. but everyone i know tells me i'm pretty autistic in my ways with men so i don't think i'm so reliable, but i'm still one example of a girl so here i am
>>17991546
fuck that shit no, never
>>17991633
simply don't do that. shit idea. this isn't the movies m80

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>>17991640
Also I forgot to include this, but yeah while it's obsessive to inspect your room, it is understandable that if you did damage something because of careless behavior, she wants you out before you potentially do more damage and the deposit doesn't cover it anymore.

I'm chatting with a girl I really really like, but she seems like shes not very into it. We get along fine and have a lot in common, she seems like a cool and decent woman but like I said, she doesnt seem as interested as me when it comes to talk.
Im aware that shes probably talking to other guys too, but the thing is, is it really worth to keep giving it a shot? I havent been as attracted to a woman since I broke up half an year ago, and I feel like i have nothing to lose too, but is it really worth it femanons?

>>17991681
Do you mean literally chatting? If so, just cut to the chase and spend some time together in real life, that will give you a much better idea of whether there's potential.

If not, I'd abandon ship. It's pointless to try to convince someone to like you. People are perfectly capable of having a soft spot for multiple people at once, she might be talking to others but I doubt that's the reason she's not as eager as you are.

>>17991687
Thanks for the quick response.

Thing is, we started talking on Tinder last friday, and we have been chatting since in Whatsapp, I really thought about inviting her out, but from what I know about her, I believe shes wouldnt like to meet someone so soon, shes more into serious relationships for example, and is shes up for meeting someone, I believe sje would like to wait some more for that.
Thats what my guts tells me though, maybe Im thinking it too much and it could actually be a good idea, you think so?

Excuse my spelling mistakes.

>>17991703
No problem. The risk is that you keep investing your time and effort in her while she's never going to be up for more. Also potentially growing more attached during that.

But you have only talked for a very short amount of time so I'd give it at least another week. If you see no progress, ask her out and if she says no, leave it at that.

Protip: if you don't already, try to talk about personal stuff. Not sexual or past relationships or whatever, a good opening is asking whether she's an only/middle or youngest/oldest child and how she feels about that. Basically try to push past the initial small talk phase and get straight to conversing about life, see if that eases things up.

>>17991634
That is true. But I would think it is definitely a bit pushing it if the guy is still a teen and the girl is almost 30

>>17991710
same, but, well if they share a mindset why not

>>17991640
>>17991656
Thanks, I did not consider how uncomfortable it is to have me living in their house. But because both her and her husband have always been very friendly towards me, perhaps they want to look cool to younger people. I didn't list all the incidents before but I have (just now) come to my own conclusion that this woman wants to have more physical contacts with me than necessary, the door pushing was just one example (she saw that I was half naked half asleep and she thought I was trying to hide something lol), there are many more, when I was showering, or when she was peeing without closing the bathroom (...). But I really hope this just stops at fantasizing, and nothing really comes of it, because it is a lose lose for me, if I fuck her, I risk my life, her husband is a gun enthusiast, if I don't fuck her when she comes onto me, I would likely be kicked out. And we're in SF, finding a place with better rent is impossible.

Girls, shitlords need love too, you know?

>>17991708
For the time we have been talking, we have talked about quite a lot of personal stuff, how we are personally, our past experiences, tastes, and life in general, and I noticed that we have a lot in common really, which is why I clicked with her very quick (I dont usually do that, it takes time for me to click with someone).

I thought the same, about giving it a few more days/week to see whats up and from there decide what to do. I even think about waiting for her to start a conversation, but I always end up saying hi, and from there we used to have some long and really interesting conversations.

Im not a person who does this normally, if it was a different girl, I would have moved on inmediately.

>>17991715
Nah I think they were hoping to build a good rapport with you. It is insanely uncomfortable for them as well to have a live in tenant they don't get along with. Possibly because of your location and position for finding a place to live, they feel very free to impose their rules/expectations on you because you have no leverage to pack up and go somewhere else anyway, but still want to be on friendly terms with the person staying with them.

People are really complicated and from what you said there's several angles I could see working with her behavior. First of all, it's a possibility that she's sexually frustrated now that husband is gone, and she "indulges" by doing these covert things. She could be getting off on the idea that she's frustrating you, that you're fantasizing to her, maybe even that you're in love with her, without actually wanting to cheat. I feel that men are often so caught up with "scoring" that they tend to see anything that's not sex (or not a date or making out or whatever) as noise that apparently didn't mean much. Many women have a more relaxed and wide range of little interactions that get them off and fulfill their purpose without needing to be more. If the roles were reversed many men might feel emasculated at housing a young woman who probably goes out to get fucked elsewhere, and is off limits for them. This woman has a husband who is going to pound her into oblivion when he returns, and might be sexting her all the time about how much he desires her. A little private flirt within that secure position is just a welcome breath of fresh air, not something you desperately want to turn into more.

So that's a possibility. As for the stern landlord behavior, there's also different explanations. Perhaps they are purely to satisfy her curiosity (or even just smell your personal scents) and the bitchy attitude is trying to mask her personal interest by playing up the part of home owner.

>>17991654
>you literally have no chance with either
Yeeeaaah joke on you A still replies to my text, so B hasn't told her.

>>17991721

1) This is not a real question. It's rhetorical, hence, not useful to the discussion.

2) "Needing" something and "Deserving" something are two different things. The world doesn't owe you shit.

>>17991743
/adv/ is getting too unfriendly.
;_;

>>17991738
It is also possible that she's afraid you caught on to her sexual gaze and being so anal about everything regarding the room is her way to warn you that she's not going to cut you any slack as a tenant just because she feels attraction.

You also didn't include your own age. I am her age myself (or well, turn twenty four in a few months) and in case you're significantly younger... someone who's twenty four is no longer a teenager but also not necessarily an adult by any stretch. It is thoroughly possible that she doesn't plan on cheating and will do something on impulse, even though she'd be making a risky bet. It also sounds to me like she feels she needs to assert herself firmly as the person in charge, maybe she's afraid you won't respect her authority. Especially if you are older she could be nervous about telling you what (not) to do.

So basically no definite answers. All you can do is play it with caution: never give her the impression that you look at her that way. Obviously there's no perfect control over how you look at her or smile at her or anything, but if she tries to say something explicit or openly flirty, look at her blankly and ask her what she means. If she has a good head on her shoulders she'll realize to tread carefully because you are not going to be her partner in crime and cover for her if she makes a move on you and she'll likely be too scared to take the risk even if she wants to.

>>17991745

What would the right answer be?

"Don't worry, just keep acting up, be a teenager forever, and demand someone loves you. Keep strong on the edgy edge, shitlord!"

Sorry, /adv/ is for Advice, not Validation.

>>17991728
Honestly at this point I'd choose between asking her out or telling her cheers but you don't feel enough interest from her side to continue talking.

It's completely normal to have a bigger investment in some people than in others and to put in more effort if you do, but that also only makes the risk bigger that it's going to cause you a disappointment/hurt incomparable to what you got out of this whole arrangement.

>>17991753
You are completely right to be honest. I will ask her out during the week for the weekend to see if shes up for it. And from there I will see whats best for me!

I hope this doesnt end in nothing too, but thats more up to her than to me at this point.

Thanks for listening and for the advice, It really helped me to clear my mind a bit.

>>17991747

Thank you. That was helpful. I will do exactly what you said. And yeah I definitely fantasize about fucking her brains out but I mostly masturbate to my female friends, which is easier because I have more materials.

>tfw see my ex walking out of class alone
>she has a 9am class in a room across from mine
>say hi to her
>she blushes and gets touchy with me, asks me what class I had
>tell her I'm going to the library
>she is too, but it's not like I'm gonna follow her
>before I could even say bye, she steps back and calls her friend
>I just walk forward and find my spot, didn't even turn around to say bye to her
WTFFFF she's treating me like some creep

We weren't dating but we took many classes together last year, and we were pretty much seeing each other. She even tried to ask me out for valentines day

Why is she acting like this?

Girl I'm interested in is a Christian and recently compared me to Jesus Christ.

Is this good or bad?

>>17991578
>I mean I didn't actually cheat on her I just said I did so cant I just say " I was joking"? or do I really need to break it off because its "Unhealthy"

Just own up.

Stop being a chicken and be honest with her.

Tell her you were being a coward and you made all that stuff up the truth is, this just isn't working out...

You care about her, and want her to know that this is not her fault, and that's why you lied and tried to take the blame, but you just don't feel the same way anymore

Or whatever.

Don't be a shit person. It's better for her to be broken up with clean, than to have hangups with all this shit being dragged out, or have her develop some complex's and trust issues (because that's what happens a lot when people think they get cheated on)

If I am a misanthrope, who am I going to date? There are no misanthropic girls.

>>17991798
Why would you want to connect with a human being when you hate people?

>>17991806
not him but I guess it's cheaper to get sex from dating than prostitutes?

>>17991783
>christzoned

>>17991807
It's cheaper but if you don't love or even like that person I don't think a true "misanthrope" could stand going through all the other relationship aspects which make up a far bigger share than sex even in a highly sexual relationship.

>>17991711
I guess. At least they both look the same age. So it could help a bit

>>17991806

Because he only bitter, not a real full-time misanthrope.

>>17991806
>>17991813
Because not all people are bad. There is 1% of good people.

>>17991807
That's debatable. But sometimes I feel like not giving up on trying to find a good person.

>>17991823
Yeah that's going to be very hard. Believe it or not, most girls are not going to particularly like you seeing their friends and family as unworthy of the elusive 1% that you happen to belong to.

Basically stop being a judgmental cunt if you want folks to like you. Not that hard.

Girls:

Is the putting "x's" at the end of a message an intentional thing you do to try and make guys like you more?

Or is it sub-conscious?

Feels like deceit. Like I wouldn't send kisses to an acquaintance just because they want a favour.

>>17991838
Many women just have a set ending they use for everyone but people they are on distant terms with.

I have lots of female friends who might not even hug me after seeing me in person, but end texts with variations on xxx.

Yeah sure it can be used to make a guy think but in my experience it's just a default setting for most women. And once so many do it, it becomes more neutral as well.

>message her during day
>"ok"
>she keeps messaging me at night and talks non-stop
>both on vacations
reeeeee women I like sleeping early

>>17991851

Tell that to her. This isn't facebook.

Why would a girl text so much if she wasnt interested?

I met this girl through some friends and it seemed like we had a good connection. We hung out a few times with friends and eventually I got her number. We text a lot, all the time. Daily. And its initiated on both sides, sometimes the convos are only a quick back and forth, sometimes they last hours at all hours of the day and night. Yesterday I hungout with her and had a few drinks and told her I liked her and if she wanted to go on a date with me. She said no, she didnt see me that way. I was disappointed, but not heartbroken. We continued to hang out, obviously a little awkward but we still ended having a good time.

The thing that sticks with me is why I never seem to be right about this stuff? This has happened a few times with me, not necessarily massive texting, but I feel like I click with a girl and then when I try to take it further she never wants to. I'm not repulsive, a 6 maybe a 7 if i lost 30 pounds or so (I carry it well and workout). I've never been successful with women and I just dont get it. From what I can tell people enjoy being around me, I get invited to hang all the time, im a pretty funny guy (being the fat kid growing up molds your personality that way) maybe I can get a little too loud and high energy, but its not the worst flaw to have.

Is it really just a numbers game? That I just havent found the right girl? I guess I just want some insight into how I might be approaching things the wrong way.

How do i give positive encouragement to a girl who's honestly not very good at what she does?

>>17992024

If she's at least improving, tell her she's doing better. If she's awful and not improving, say something like you admire her dedication and determination.

>>17992051
lol

Girls

What is/are the sluttiest thing/s you have done?

>>17992074
Had sex with my long term boyfriend with the lights on

>>17992085
Oh jeesus you dirty little slut

>sitting in library
>girl I was seeing last year asks me to eat lunch with her together
>tell her I have a class to go to (I did), but it's linear algebra so I could've just checked the notes later
>go to class, still don't know anyone and too shy to say hi to potential friends
Now I'm even more depressed than I started today

Should I ask her to eat lunch together another time?

>>17991280
Pinch her nipples. Bite her neck. Slap her ass.

>>17992085
you need jesus

>>17991721
The only people why use shitlord unironically are retards. You don't want love from any girl who does that.

>>17991823
>>17991798
Misanthropes are bad people

>>17992074
It depends on what you mean by slutty. Everything I've done has been when I was over 18 with my one (and current) SO.

Are there any girls that would date a nihilist that (metaphorically) doesn't care about anything?

>>17992085
I bet you like holding hands

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What is it with women and scallops?
Everytime I go out to eat seafood with women, you always want scallops. Nothing else.
I mean, yeah, they're tasty, but there's like, more than just scallops out there. Why not try the salmon, or the redfish? But no, you want scallops, and I don't get why.

>>17992184
>(metaphorically) doesn't care about anything
Wat?

>>17992184
There are probably other nihilist girls out there. Though I don't know I feel I've met any.

>>17992207
Wat even. I've never had scallops in my life. I want to try them, sure, but I eat a ton of seafood and never scallops yet.

>>17992184
*tips fedora*

Is it ok to tell a girl i really prefer her with short hair?

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>>17992221
What, you mean like any girl on the street, or your girlfriend?
Cause yes to the latter, no to the former.

>>17992227
So by interpolation, that's a maybe then.

>>17991783
what the shit hahahaha
>>17991798
yes there are
>>17991988
yeah, look for similar people and you'll find her eventually. and then another her, and so on.
>>17992074
almost sucked a dick once
lel
>>17992115
yes
>>17992184
*tips fedora* yes there are but you're too edgy
>>17992207
what are scallops even
>>17992221
depends. don't say you REALLY prefer her with short hair. just say you liked it better casually. don't make her feel fucking ugly.

Should I talk to a chick at the gym?

There's a tall thin girl who I find cute and wear ostentatious workout clothes. She works out when I do in the middle of the day. I always reckoned that guys who hit on girls at the gym were pathetic. And I find girls to be generally annoying at the gym for this reason, they just feel in the way as I have to not look in their direction lest I be rude. This fucking annoys me, especially when they come up and start doing shit right next to me so that 180 degrees are basically off limits to look toward.

But I have a bit of an affinity to this particular girl. I don't know why but I like tall thin girls.

How rude would it be for me to introduce myself?

I'm good looking and 6'2".

>>17992247
>Should I talk to a chick at the gym?
no

>>17992207
I just had scallops for dinner.

They taste fucking good and they have a delicate flavour, so your breath doesn't smell like fish after.
That's it.

I also had other seafood for dinner, tho, if it makes you happy.

>>17992269
Should I wait by her car with a ski mask on she she isn't intimidated by my good looks?

>>17992294
Dont forget the cholroform to ease her anxiety of finally meeting you

I enjoy a lot of somewhat homoerotic films like Midnight Cowboy, Merry Christmas Mr Lawrence and Brokeback Mountain.

Is this a redflag to women? Do people think i'm gay?

>>17992318
nah mate

>>17992371
Right, one more thing.

If i sometimes have romantic thoughts about men i'm close too, but not sexually attracted to them, but sexually attracted to women. Does that make me gay?

Think i feel this way since i went to an all boys boarding school at a young age and have an intense focus on male companionship and camaraderie.

This is kind of a question for guys and girls: Say you worked with a girl and you had a pretty big crush on her for about a year. For a short time, she was single (you weren't able to ask her out because... reasons) but she ended up dating a coworker. Now say they recently broke up and your crush on her has mostly fizzled out, however you still like her as a person and find her physically attractive, and you've become friends with the now ex-boyfriend. Now say she might be flirting with you a little. Go for it? Like is it worth the awkwardness with the friend/ex for a girl you're only moderately attracted to? Guys, how would you react to this in either situation? Namely the ex-angle.

>>17992399
hmm i doubt you're gay, but don't worry too much about it, no need to put a label on yourself frankly. doesn't sound like anything bad
>>17992400
why would you go for it

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>>17992399
Kinsey scale, my man

>>17992406
She's pretty attractive and is a good person. Plus I've been single for a very, very long time.

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Girls

what would you rather want your bf to wank off to, softcore (glamour models) or hardcore (pornstars)?

"none" is not an option.

>>17992555
Anything that's not CP/Snuff Porn/Beastiality/Furry Shit

>>17992582
>Bestiality

God dammit. When will more people just acknowledge that watching a dog knot a woman and pour cum into her for half an hour is hot?

Girls

In this age of texting, is it gonna weird you out for a dude you've been casually texting with to actually pick up the phone, chat a bit, and formally ask you out?

>>17992555
If it's cp, bestiality, furry, etc. then that's a deal breaker. If he's trying to chat up girls who post naked pics/videos then that's also an obvious deal breaker. Outside of that, I don't care, because I'm the only one he best be fucking.

>>17992622
No, on the contrary that's hot.

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Guys,

Does it bother you if a girl has a hairy anus?

>>17992713
It'd be very odd for me to judge someone on that, since my anus is excessively hairy.

>>17992713
Well if I have no idea how you look nude, my dick is hard and I'm in the act to fuck you I'm not going to stop because you have body hair.

But if I'm gonna be honest I prefer women being shaved off all hair except on the head.

I don't think you would like neckbeards on guys.

Don't get what the big deal is, you can easily shave it off.

>>17990394
>>17990692
>>17990736
I mean, for the record, I wasn't looking for a strictly platonic friendship at all.
I was ok with being FWB's, you know, so long as the F part of fwb exists.
I'm ok with fwb, just not ons. That shit just makes me feel sad and used.
>>17991168
Yeah that was kind of the point of why I was mad. I told him I've moved too quickly in the past and it's bit me in the ass, so I wanted to be slower with him. And he tells me no, I can move as fast as I want and nothing will change on his end. But then it did, he basically just lied his way into my pants. Which fine, shame on me for ever believing him, I'll take the lesson with me and just never bother trying to talk to another dude again.
>>17991601
I'm just gonna ignore him. I wasn't that invested to try and pester an answer out of him in the end. It was probably premeditated from the start, this ain't my first rodeo. There are plenty of dudes who will tell you whatever you want to fuck you, that's just life.

>>17992736
>I don't think you would like neckbeards on guys.

I don't mind how hairy guys are. Also I know I could shave it off but isn't it going to be really painful and irritating when the hair grows back?

>>17992736
>you can easily shave it off.
Well, that depends.
Like, my asshole takes to shaving fine, puss does not. I've tried every hair removal known to man. Shaving, waxing (professional and at home, with 3 different kinds of wax), only thing I haven't done is the expensive lazer removal.
Same result every time. I get a horrific rash that looks like I have some sort of mechaAIDS and is far worse looking than the hair itself.
So I've resigned that I will never have the cute bald pussy I'd love, I'll just have to keep as trim as possible

>>17992745
>isn't it going to be really painful and irritating when the hair grows back?
Yes. And also, it's impossible to fart silently.

>>17992745
Go ask your local pharmacy, there are products that make it easier.

>>17992748
Did you do it yourself only? Test going to some that does it professionally

>Try to message to a girl on a dating site and start with "Hey what's your name"

>"My name is obvious"

>Named herself some normie level shit but decide to joke and go "Alright obvious it's nice to meet you. How're you doing?"

>"Bye"
>Blocked

Ladies who was in the wrong here

>>17992799
>(professional and at home
Been there done that. Take my word for it when I say literally everything.
I'll probably even give the lazer a try someday when I have a real job. Not holding my breath though.

Though frankly, if I'm gonna drop cash on cosmetic surgery I'll probably just save for the labiaplasty I desire much more lol.

How do I get over her...

She hurt me so bad
She told me to leave so I did

But she keeps trying to talk to me now, and if I cave in she and respond she soon becomes neglectful again

So I leave again and she keeps trying to bait me to come back.

I'm so hurt and drained

>>17992555
Whatever he prefers, as long as it's not any of the things other people mentioned

>>17992745
I shave my ass just fine no problems. Thinking of trying waxing soon too.

>>17992622
Depends on the chick.
For me, I can't do phone calls. They just creep me the hell out and I avoid them whenever possible.
Best form of communication is in person face to face, and I would prefer it be the bulk of our interaction. But in a pinch I prefer text over phone call.
If I were in your shoes, I'd text to meet up and then lay out your feelings in person.

>>17992555
idgaf one way or another.
>>17992221
In those words, probably not. If it were a good friend or gf, saying something like "I liked your short hair better" or "I think you'd look really good with short hair"
But something about the phrasing of "I prefer you with short hair" sounds kind of demanding. In the end, it's her hair. If she wants long hair she's gonna have long hair. You really don't have that much input in the decision at the end of the day.

If this person is not a close friend or you aren't putting your dick in her, I'd keep the comment to yourself period. You don't matter at all really.

>>17992207
lol wat.

Side note, I don't think I've ever had scallops but my dad is like deathly allergic so who knows. They might kill me too lol. I did inherent my mom's allergy to this certain antibiotic after all.

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matched with cute muslim girl on tinder. Got her # and we're going out to lunch on Friday. Is there anything I should watch out for?

>>17992400
>>17992419
Help?

To girls, If your boyfriend bought you something you don't normally wear would you be offended?
I like knee socks, but most girls don't wear them.

>>17992994
Nah, I mean I wouldn't promise I'd wear it but I'd appreciate the gesture of a gift same as anything else.
However this does sound like more of a gift to you than her ;P
Which that might change my gratitude slightly, but I still wouldn't say I'd be offended or hurt.

>>17993006
I wouldn't just give her the knee socks, I'd give them to her along with stuff I know for sure she likes.

>>17993016
Have you discussed the kink before? You might want to before you buy her shit.

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>>17993026
I don't have a girlfriend, I'm just imagining what would happen.

>>17993039
Oh kek. Well yeah, it's probably better to just discuss your kinks. With a relatively tame, zero risk one like that, she'd probably be more than happy to entertain your fantasies without you trying to subtly hint at it.

Is it a good thing if a girl sometimes talks to you like she might a puppy or a toddler?

For example, she speaks clearly to everyone else but talks to you in like a mushy baby voice. Not in a condescending way like she thinks you're retarded, but in a way that makes her seem cute (I guess?) Is that a good thing?

I don't have much experience with girls flirting with me, so I'm not sure how to feel about this.

>>17993073
I suppose it can be flirting, but goddamn that's the most autistic form of flirting I've ever heard of lol.
Girl's got spaghetti hard.

She might actually think you're retarded though, that's still a possibly too.

>>17993085
It's probably not like how you're thinking. It's kind of subtle. I just thought she had an accent for awhile until I heard her talk to someone else around me. Plus she only talks at like 80% her normal volume to me, too.

>>17991256
I mean, no problem with me if we do fuck. Her boyfriend is in the AF while we are joining a different service. She just recently left for his graduation, but after that it's back to never seeing one another again forever.

So I'll step up my game I guess.

>>17989856
I had heart surgery a year and a half ago. The heart itself is okay, however my chest wound is still unhealed for reasons nobody is quite sure of yet so I'm always wearing dressings over it.

Although I had a girlfriend after the surgery and have had sex many times without too much difficulty I'm still somewhat insecure about dating and especially sex for practical reasons. I guess its making me feel vulnerable to have a physical weakness in such an exposed area, which to a further extent makes me feel less masculine.


I know it sounds silly, but I'm just interested to hear what females would honestly have to think about it if they were on a date with a guy with an open wound on his chest (Give it a couple months it'll be healed I hope). Would it be at all fascinating or charming in any way?

>>17993073
A lot of introverted girls do this. It seems to be their way of communicating.

Females
How you would react if a guy told you he had the following fetishes (I don't have them, treat each one as a seperate occasion)

>Farting

>Feet

>Femdom


>Vomit

>Tickling

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I think I asked this in a past thread but couldn't stick around to wait for an answer.

Do girls find male sex toys weird/creepy or a turn off or something? Or do they see it as normal?

Does it become worse if you own multiple toys, or only if you've got some giant collection?

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>>17989856
Girls, how could I tell if you were trying to avoid me or not talk to me?
What could I do to fix the situation?

>>17992974
A bomb.

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Guys. What do you tell your girls when they have trouble making you come from bjs?

>>17992399
iktf

I had a crush on a dude once but never thought anything sexual of it. Shit was fucking weird.

>>17993410
give me ur money so I can go to prostitutes

>>17992400
Fucking chicks from work is always a bad idea.

I'm doing it right now though. Go with your impulses bro. I knew I needed to fuck her and I am not staying at this job or in this town more than another year.

If yoh do it just be ready to destroy work relationships and possibly your job.

The maintenance guy at my job is friendzoned by this chick and he fucking hates me. I heard him whisper "this fucking guy", under his breath today when he saw me.

>>17993668
would it be ok if he wants to fuck you? also how about anal sex?

>>17993672
Nah, I'm sexually straight for the most part. Although I might have taken a blowjob, but not touched him. He was just 6'1" and model skinny/ pretty plus a really nice guy. I'm currently fucking a chick with big tits regularly. I'd say I'm like 1 point away from bisexual on the kinsley scale because of this. I like the idea of being gay but I'm not gay enough to ever go through with it and I don't find masculinity sexually attractive.

>>17992555
Softcore or, even better, hentai/doujins/literotica (because they are my own preference).

Hardcore porn sucks, chances are the actors miserable, exploited druggies hating every minute of it and that's really unsexy to me. I'm not dumb enough to expect a guy not to watch it, but I'd just ignore it rather than take an interest in it like I might with his other forms of fap material.