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Do you love your SO?

>>17990094
>>17990094 I guess so. I have a need to feel needed and that's fulfilled in our relationship. I want my SO to be happy, I'm actively working to add to that happiness and it didn't require any significant drawbacks from me other than time (duh.). When my SO does something for me I feel appreciated and happy. Dunno really, if that's what love is then yeah, sure I do.

>>17990132
Do you care about your SO? Imo it's fine to have a few "issues" about your SO as long as they are not huge or a big part of who your SO is.

As for defining love, I'd say you love someone when you can't imagine life without them. Do you think you'll be able to spend 60 years with him/her?

For the bedroom issues just tell your SO that he/she is already amazing and that you think that the vocal part would just spice things up.

You could probably talk about most of your issues with your SO. Just be sure that you don't sound like you're belittling your SO with your shit about conversation.

How long have you been together?

>>17990028
If he wants to do something nice for you, let him. It's not up to you how he spends his money. You need to tell him about your money concerns. That you're in a bit of a tough spot and would like to just chill at home for the holiday.

Again, if he refuses, let him do whatever he wants. If you want to feel bad or guilty about it, that's up to you. But you shouldn't. He's his own person.

>>17990028

talk to him, and get serious. tell him you love him and you love that he wants to do something special but tel lhim if he REALLY loved you he'd listen and just do what you asked. you still want Vday to be special, and with him, and romantic. you can stay home and make him a nice dinner and whatnot.

but get serious. you have to get serious or he will just take it as playful 'NO DONT SURPRISE ME :D' banter.

>>17990027
You're only as old as you feel

>>17990027

age is just a number. we stop thinking of you as 'young' once you hit about 28, but age is a scale for a reason, you will always have older people thinking of you as youth.

regardless of age it doesn't have to define what you do or how you act.

>>17990058
This.

I was coming to say around 28 as well, though.

>>17990017
What I do

When it comes to video games, put up a camera irl, and record yourself being toxic

Watch it, and realize how autistic you look when you rage.

When you start getting agitated, remember the video and what you looked like when you were angry.

Helps me anyway

>>17990143
10/10

Best way is to stop using the internet for anything other than necessity. Cut yourself off from the things you overreact to.

I doubt you'll want to do that, so I guess the best way would be just developing the maturity to let shit like that go. You already know it's stupid to lash out, so just stop responding to it. There will always be crappy LoL players and idiots with opinions. Can't be helped.

>>17990014

>should i kill myself

no

>problem resturned

whats the problem?

Is it a problem you have no control over? (ie: cancer)

>>17990031
>>17990021

My father's alcoholism. He is transplanted and going back to drinking is a death sentence for him. After 35 years of drinking, the only thing that ever got him out of it was the fear of dying when the docs told him his liver was gone, but i guess this isnt enough anymore.

We hardly have any money with him sober and working. I cant possibly sustain a family of 4 alone

What was on the torn piece of magazine? Pics?

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The envelope was also ripped

Younger generations have sex earlier, all of us ''older'' folks know it. But who cares.

Hey you're not a virgin anymore, why would you even care.

>>17989991

Because I'll never know that feeling. I know "it wasn't that great." But I'll never know what it felt like to be confused and hormonal. Now If I'm confused and hormonal I'm told to "grow up," and "stop being immature."

There are plenty of people 21 and over who are still virgins. Its not a contest to see who can lose it faster.

>>17989976
start looking for some one else now so the separation thats going to be coming soon in the future isn't as bad.

It's all over so get ready, whenever you are have one last good time then part ways.

Asking the partner to fuck other people is a a trap: say yes, you're a cuckold, say no, you're still a cuckold because she's gonna do it anyway behind your back, and when you find out it's "your" fault because you didn't say yes or some other bullshit trying to put the blame on you.

probably b8 but ill bite
tell her its over and give her some time to move out

Women get hornier at 30ish if you can handle them. I'm also 8 years in with my gf and we're currently 29. Frequency had obviously gone down a bit, not only because of our age and relationship time, but we also have more responsabilities to tender to

But the quality, oooh boy lol

>>17989963
I have heard married people have sex. dry land is not a myth.

> In early 30's / femanon
> In r-ship. Engaged
> Together over 6 years
> Meant to be getting married - but in no rush
> Sex is boring & mundane.
> All depends on the person you are with. Boring person, little sex is given. Interesting and decent in bed. More sex I guess.

Is this a bait thread or something?
Go on /soc/ and post in one of those "rate me" threads. Ask for advices on what you could improve (lose weight, new haircut, etc...)

>>17989956

by trusting yourself. or posting a picture. that is all. there is no other advice.

>>17989970

this is bad advice actually, /soc/ rates people higher or lower than they should based on what kind of rating they want. if you have a baseline of attractiveness they'll rate you higher. if you're ugly they will just call you ugly since they dont care about oyur rate.

they rate you higher cuz they want you to rate them higher.

Make a cool/funny valentine video for her. But you need to sit down and actually plan this out so it's not simply "Hey babe how are you! Happy valentine I love you"

>>17989959
Yeah that's why i want to think of this 2 weeks in advance. I'm an introvert and I've never done any stupid shit on video but I'm thinking of toughing it out for her

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>>17989980
If you can get a fake mustache or something and dress up like a cheesy picrelated or Ron Burgundy character, and be extremely over-sensual, and somehow get a guitar so you can sing a cheesy song about her, she would absolutely love it. Especially if you're an introvert

Lol I was just getting fingerprinted for my job earlier today and some fucking dumbass druggie came in to do his drug testing trying to pull the same shit as you're thinking.

The people who work at these places have seen every fucking trick in the book, they know what to look for. You aren't going to fool them. They were back there gossiping and mocking the dumbass while they were taking my prints.

For starters, they were commenting on the temperature. Dumbshit stored it, and then tried to desperately warm it up to piss temperature in his car, overshot it and heated it up too much. You are likely not going to be able to get it to the perfect temperature and maintain it. They were watching the dude like a hawk and noticed everything he did.

Have you tried not doing drugs if you've already been busted by the cops for it once?

>>17989967
I don't even smoke that often. I just hate the idea that they get to dictate every little facet of my life now. They already told me that even a minor traffic violation like a speeding ticket could violate probation and send me to jail, which is ridiculous.

>>17989951
Don't be an idiot and try to beat a drug test.


It's not like labcorb. The police are not stupid, They have seen every trick you can google or dream up.

You really think "security" isn't going to be tight at a probation office? lol


You do realize if you violate probation once you can get maximum penalty? Which is a year in prison in most states where marijuana is illegal.

Well first off the first girl was never interested in you. She just wanted more followers. Also don't say things like "I'm surprised you messaged me".

>>17990004
Makes sense, looks desperate?

I'm guessing saying shit like "you're cute blah blah" should be forbidden too right?

>>17989941
Work on yourself and improve everything about your life (looks, knowledge, finances)

PS; the only way to not be a shy introvert is to step out of your comfort zone. No other way around it.

You sound like someone that really needs some vacation bro. Get away to a beach resort in Cancun for a week or 2 if you can.
Works for me

Also since I can't admit to my friends. Man oh man do I want to like. be dead. Or at least not go on living.

>>17989937
I feel like if I take even one day off everything will unravel and then my coworkers will see how badly I do my job. Which, on the one hand I want - but also I don't want. I know that I will make a mistake somewhere at some point and I want to make sure that I can correct it without a moments notice. Nights, weekends, whenever.

Ask her what household appliance she would be if she had to choose. When she asks you, you say that you'd be at washing Machine, as you would make her panties wet all the time

b dat good mayn

>>17989936
>>17989996
thanks lads, I forgot to b myself