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>>17992721
Just undergraduate STEM is the best pay wise. If you want to make $$ go to med school.
But if you do something you don't like then you'll hate your life and it's not worth it.

>>17992721
>I'm thinking of taking some time out to work

Smart man. Don't consider this a "gap year" either. Get a full time job, move out of your parents house, and support yourself for 2-3 years. I don't know what degree you should take, or if you should go to a technical school instead, but a few years in the real world will give you a better perspective.

I have long argued that we shouldn't even be giving student loans to anyone under 21. It would cut down on the number of kids taking stupid programs like gender studies and political science if they actually had some experience working and paying bills before going to school.

>>17992721
What kind of work environment do you want to be in?

Office setting, or a more dirty/hands-on sort of thing?

>>17992693
Some can be good. Here's a way of filtering out the crap

>experience
They actually went through depression, substance abuse, or whatever

>age
Don't want some kid fresh out of college thinking he knows everything

>women
Women are horrible listeners especially for men

>whether or not they subscribe to some feminist or left wing beliefs
Nothing to add here

>honesty
You want a guy who will tell you like it is and not beat around the bush

>>17992703
Not op, but similar question.

So why would I pay anyone to listen to me bitch, when there are plenty of assholes here on 4chan that fit that bill?
What does just bitching do to help me with my problems? This is why I hate the idea of therapy and shit. Like, talking fixes nothing. I can talk all day long, I still am fucked up. I know I'm fucked up, so give me a step by step plan to fix it. Therapists can't do that shit, and feels like nobody can if the drugs fail.

>>17992693
psychologists work with psychiatrists to form a complete care team. A psychiatrist doesn't have the time to sit for a fucking hour a week with all of their patients/clients.

>>17992680
Flu medicine

>>17992680
Drink a lot of water, I would really recommend Vitamin C tablets, they will make you feel a lot better faster. you can get them from most supermarkets/pharmacies. get ones that are 1000g tablets (they dissolve in water) drink one a day and you will feel better in no time :)

>>17992680

hey anon i have a cold too. i use zicam to cure it fast, it speeds up the cold and reduces symptoms. its homeopathic. there are generic brands for cheap as well.

if you feel you just need a day of relief, go to rite aid or whatever and get any nasal spray that says oxymetazoline. im legit not lying if you have a congested runny nose that will make it stop in less than ten minutes, you will feel cured as far as your nose is concerned.

one use lasts 12 hours, and you can take it up for to 3 days. after that it will just make your cold worse so only use it on days you really need it.

>>17992669

>im just too ugly

we wont know unless you post a pic. but you sound incredibly simple

I feel the exact same way, I always see people around me getting gfs so easily, and it really bothers me that there isn't a single attractive girl that I know that isn't a sout and goes out with all of my friends, it's not going so well.

>>17992674
I can't post a picture of myself, but, those that really matter at all? Like, I consider my self average, but girls are like fucking "meh" about me. I try to converse with them, and they just give a fuck and I don't know if I just have bad luck or I'm the problem.

How I'm supposed to talk to women, how I make them interested on me? How I'm supposed to "clic" with girls if they don't give me a chance

Get banned

get banned

get v&

this isnt how it works.

you will always be their baby, no matter how old you get. you should be thankful for having loving parents like that because its not always like that these days.

its great that you want to make your own decisions though and the way to it is not by changing your parents. what can you do? take the initiative faster than they do. it sounds like youre playing with the idea of moving out or at least travelling for a while. i did that after school and it helped me a great deal realizing who i am, as cheesy as that sounds. if you can at all muster the courage to do something like that you could achieve your goal of being treated like an adult right away.

>>17992661
that makes a lot of sense now. You know I always thought being independent meant completely doing your own thing, being on your own and not really being committed to anything.

I guess I haven't really haven't found that thing I want to commit to yet. I'm kinda just wandering around reacting to people a lot of the time, so i'd like to stop doing that.

>>17992685
it never really ends for many people, this search for a purpose you can commit to. its nice if you find yours, but dont forget that the seeking itself also has meaning. try to not let life in general break you i guess, even though im not taking my own advice here.

OP you're already having doubts and you know im going to tell you to cut it off. Don't be the emotional crutch, if she was reasonable person she would be adult enough to dump him or sort it out for herself but instead she uses you for attention. Lots of people are interested in Psychedelics/Drugs so don't think she's special, you will meet a lot of like minded people. I think this relationship only benefits her and you would be better focusing on yourself and other people that you can be friends with thats mutually beneficial.

>>17992673
Thanks I see your point.
If this were truly so, I would cut it off completely. The thing is, she is technically not doing anything to provoke me being a 'crutch for her', we rarely write or meet. She doesn't call me up to talk about her bf / is needy.
>So I feel like it is something I am imagining or something like that.
and I do not know why.

I know people who do psychs, but I am rather specific when it comes to psych-partners. And she is better than other partners I have had before (psych-chemistry).

>>17992711
Gut instinct is very important and you should listen to it, if you have a bad feeling then stay away. This feeling is also bad if you're considering her for a trip partner because if you have this subconscious suspicion of her it will manifest when you trip and it won't be pleasant (it happened to me before)

>>17992574
jfc talk to a professional.

>>17992574
Get a fucking job you fucking waste

>>17992585

What if crime really is the best way to have lots of children though? I found this online that says criminals have more children:

>Convicted criminal offenders had more children than individuals never convicted of a criminal offense.
http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138(14)00077-4/abstract

Ultimately the only reason you don't commit crime is FEAR. Fear of punishment. But if the outcome is actually better (more children) then, LOGICALLY, it is a better thing to do, isn't it?

Put yourself in live or die situations; go be a drugged up prostitute in Serbia, fight a war against some African warlord, shit like that.

>>17992545
It's going to sound lame, but since I'm stunted socially, I try to put myself in the shoes of characters I've read in books, and apply it to real life. This allows me to feel how they feel, and in turn helps me to feel their ideals or morals. In this way, I am able to beat apathy and become sympathetic to other people.

>>17992589
Wow, this is some autism. But w/e floats your boat mang.

>>17992515
I can't imagine you're going to the bar enough or eating out enough that cutting down your tips would save you a more meaningful amount of money than simply cutting down on the amount of tipped services you consume.

I tip 20% everywhere unless I really like the server. I think the rule of thumb is 200% of the tax.

>>17992526
"you double the tax, not the tax of Romania."

>>17992489
honestly i don't believe the IRS checks up on this shit unless it's completely obvious, but, just do what ever is cheaper. if your dad claims you on taxes and gets caught its his fault anyway.

What disqualifies you?

>>17992489
a dependent is someone who receives more than half of their support from you. are you that to our dad? i.e. do you pay rent/cell phone/car payment/insurance/food? any or all of the above?

You can file taxes as a dependent. It doesn't fuck you to do so.

>>17992466
ahahahaa

That poor guy

>>17992466
>Do i owe him sex?
No.

>is he expecting sex?
Probably.

Do what you want.

Youre a bitch

But hes a dumbass that deserved it

It doesnt matter, women dont read it.

All that matters is your first picture and opening line

>>17992450

Just something short and sweet about who you are and what you're looking for. Don't write a novel or a sob story. If you can make it stand out by being witty or funny somehow, then that's good.

Men and women prefer honesty. If you're looking to fuck people, say you're not looking for anything serious. If you're actually looking to make friends then Tindr is a hookup app and you will get nowhere with it.

>>17992437
You could always do like every other dependent does and bang his friends while he's away.

>>17992443
kys

>>17992446
Sorry, just a bitter prior service guy who got cucked. Don't mind me. GF expressed the same sentiments.

>>17992381
This post + picrelated = creepy

Masturbate for 1-2 hours multiple times a week

>>17992381
Stop doing whatever it was the felt really good to you for a bit.

I don't mean pull out, I mean go faster or slower. Whichever feels more "meh"

Then go back to what you like.