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>>18290437
You are obviously not very good at suicide. Perhaps you should find a different hobby.

Seriously, your record VERY strongly suggests your heart really isn't in it. Stop trying for a while and consider that part of you that "chickens out." It is NOT cowardice, but a part of you that wants to live. Get to know it better. It's trying to tell you something

>>18290437
consider Buddhism:
what if you just came back?
video related
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCP9f0VicBE

>>18290437
>It's probably the 4th time in my life that I have tried hanging myself with a belt from a door knob

You've failed at erverything in life, even ending it, which should be the easiest thing in the world, given that it's inevitable and will end regardless.

Buy a shittonne of drugs and see what happens. Could die easier, could have a good night and get high and laid.

Either way, better than what you're doing now.

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>>18290425
Dump her. Disrespectful as fuck.

>>18290425
dump her you idiot. my girl is doing the same thing and coming home rn

>>18290405
Might be completely unrelated but mine lied about having them because she thought only sluts orgasm and didnt want me to think less of her.

make love to her and she'll blow you across the room.

most women dont like rough unloving sex, like you see in porn. its more emotional for them.

>>18290405
there sure is a lot of bait on this board today. /b/ must have escaped again.

Brother, please don't do this. Whatever pain you're feeling right now will be felt again by everyone who cares about you.

+1 (800) 273-8255

Talk to somebody. Talk to me if that helps. Just please hang in there.

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

>>18290367
suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do. don't be that guy.

it's not going to bring your friend back and it's just going to inflict the same feelings on your loved ones.

sorry for your loss. it's tough, but you must go on.

call the number in the other poster's reply, or talk to us.

>>18290367
Dude I know how it feels to lose your best friend. Mine died 6 months ago out of fucking nowhere. It gets better... it just takes time. You have to stay strong, your friend would want that. Suicide is for the weak. And you are not weak! You will push through this difficult time and it will make you stronger, trust me. Go talk to someone, don't be alone.

>>18290237
I guess I'll bump this with an example?

For example, I met this guy once in a summer class at college. Seemed nice, shared an interest in mythology, both discussed vidya, Oedipus Rex, etc. I sat next to him most of the time and we would chat on break. He wanted to write and some of his stuff sounded cringey but I was like "Eh, not everyone can be perfect." But oh man, if his writing was cringey, I didn't know what he liked.

So at one point, he missed his ride to another class (it was bowling and off campus) and asked if I could drive him. He said he would pay for my lunch and kinda hinted it would be a date. I happily accepted and went.

Well, he bought me lunch... At the local place on campus (off-shoot of the cafeteria). I guess that's fine? He didn't have a car but he could have suggested I go somewhere? Maybe I'm being nitpicky.

There he went on and on about this script he had in mind for a movie. I tend to be quiet so I was happy to listen.

It all went downhill when we started driving. I think bad writing came up at one point and I casually mentioned I liked bad fanfiction (think "My Immortal") and his eyes lit up. He pulled out his phone and decided to read out his favorite bad fan fic. Aloud. In the car.

It was a fan fic of Optimus Prime, R2-D2 and Slave Princess Leia being forced by Jabba the Hutt to have a three-way. Horrified, I focused on the road as he went on laughing and describing in graphic detail how Leia gave Optimus Prime a handjob with graphite to stimulate his metal penis, R2-D2 entered Optimus Prime's ass and saw pictures inside of all the people had been there, and I think Jar-Jar Binx's disembodied penis came into play at some point.

I dropped him off and said a half hearted goodbye. I was really, really confused and kind of grossed out.

I never sat by him again.

>>18290312
Related: I found the fan fic a while back
Proof: https://www.fanfiction.net/s/5714348/1/Love-Beyond-Circuits-Love-Beyond-Flesh

>>18290312
That's... weird. Some people have no social skills. Some really decent people have zero social skills. For what it's worth, I've been told I'm too nice all my life and I've had my share of experiences with people like the guy you describe. I've been on the wrong end of those experiences before because I don't have terribly good people skills myself sometimes. It happens. I can say I've never read porn aloud to a girl before. That's something else.

To your point, "normal" is a buzzword, nobody is really normal. Everyone has different interests and hobbies and what's interesting and weird to you might be opposite for some other person. That's why dating is a numbers game. And you just keep trying. Eventually you find one that clicks with you and you go from there.

Don't give up.

>>18290194
At this point I'm realizing I'm a total retard. I go outside before she's picked up she's sitting on the curb and I try to apologize but she's definitely not having any of it... So she leaves, I spam text the shit out of her all night before I fall asleep.. that's mistake number 2 (1 is losing my cool). But it doesn't stop there.. I keep texting her.. like all fucking morning and afternoon the next day until she finally just says "stop" and then I say we need closure and she says we don't because we only hung out a week. A lot of shit storming ensues and basically I end up sperging on her again and it ends with a "if you come to my work I'll call security" but at the very least I should say it had a lot of her trying to acuse me of being rapey (never been accused before) and a lot of "did you have consent?" kind of shit.. which is kind of scary.. but she made out with a 37 year old for drugs and wore a Jailbait T-shirt so obviously she has some fucking issues too.. Anyways. I keep texting her day after day on Tinder.. finally she blocks me there.. Messaged her on Facebook. Blocked. Snapchat. Blocked. Everything blocked.. She said she needed space and I didn't give it to her because I honestly felt so shitty and guilty and obviously still do or I wouldn't be so hung up about this. I don't know why I can't move on from it. I am sort of clingy after my recent ex cheated on me (that whore) so that has kind of fucked with me lately. But like shit man, shes 18 and like a 8.5/10 so she's probably moved on by now right? I'm considering going into her work tomorrow. AFAIK it's been like at least a week or so since she's heard from me since I've been blocked on all media. Would showing up at her work be a bad idea? I don't want to be that fucking creep but I thought there was a genuine connection. She said she could see I was being sincere in my apologies but really just needed space and I failed to give that to her.

Holy shit, formatting. I'm not reading that shit.

WOW. OP you brought this on yourself by saying you just wanted to fuck and essentially if she wants a relationship to find someone else

Also
>at the very least I should say it had a lot of her trying to acuse me of being rapey (never been accused before)

Yeah, you are. Even if she's a whore, your story still sounds "kind of rapey".This is coming from a guy that has been called "creepy" before.

(cont.)

Within the past few months, she's lied to me, refused to give me my stuff back, (even called the police on me when I came over to try to get my bike,) and berated me. I legitimately want to kill myself every minute of every day. (Words like "Kill Yourself", "I Hate Myself" and "Pathetic"/"Trash" -- which she's called me when I tried talking to her -- flash into my mind's eye, over and over again, every waking moment.) She'll tell me that it's a good thing we broke up, because I'm suicidal and need to focus on that; though, in actuality, I've always had a good enough grip on my mental health to keep from wishing myself harm -- I feel this way because I've lost her, nothing else. Even though she clearly stopped loving me/realized she never loved me, she persisted in assuring me that she loves me, (while fucking other dudes and even lying to my family and friends about me,) for the first couple months after the break up. Now, she says she truly wants nothing to do with me. She's much happier now.
All I want is for her to be happy, but I also feel a deep-seated urge to die. She called me selfish and worthless, just for pointing out in a conversation that she had a much more priveleged upbringing than I did. Now all I feel is guilt for being selfish and self hate for being worthless, though I know those things aren't true on a rational level...

What do I do? I love her more than anything. Life without her is so hollow. I miss her, and virtually every little thing reminds me of her. I wish I was dead. I feel like even existing is burdensome on the people I reach out to for help, (mainly her, which o guess isn't really the case anymore.)

>>18290164
>she dumped me because I was having a generally tough time thinking about my future, with family stuff, and most of all some depression etc., and she didn't want me to turn to her.
Doesnt sound like a valid reason to get dumped. Unless youre like 24 with no job or life, which would make you look worthless af.

>Within the past few months, she's lied to me, refused to give me my stuff back, (even called the police on me when I came over to try to get my bike,) and berated me.
Im assuming this happened after the breakup. Seems everything went downhill from there. I mean there isnt really much u can do to get her back at this point, and you probably shouldnt. She seems crazy

>>18290181
I don't want to get her back. She's so much happier now. It warms my heart just thinking about it. I love her so much, and I love seeing her smile.

Should I just kill myself, do you think? It looks like she'll be ok

>>18290143

Nope. Insecurity is a turn-off for women, it can be a turn-on (or at least neutral) to most men.

>>18290158
If I keep on focusing on my flaws, won't he notice them as well and end up liking me less in reaction to that?

Low self esteem is not a turn off for man. Being self-deprecating and being vocal about it might be a turn-off.

If you bring up your insecurities all the time, the man might be put off. Not that you're not allowed to talk about it but people who dwell in self pity are usually pretty annoying about it.

It's fine to have low self-esteem by itself.

If you're living at home, why do you have things like rent to deal with?

>>18290123
Okay, it sounds like you're having a rough go, sorry Anon.

Could you give us some more background? What caused you to move home? Why? Was your college career being paid for? Why did it stop? I honestly advise cutting back your hours and focusing on school or taking out a sizable but manageable loan for school and other supplies. What is home life like?

>>18290123
I'm in the same situation although all my classes are online. The only thing keeping me afloat is having a decent job. Try searching really hard and apply everywhere for a job above 10 dollars. I work security and it's piss easy if you haven't done anything really terrible and have OK work history.

Look up templates, they're a diamond dozen.

The less you write the better. Seriously, have nothing but:

Location, Date

I am resigning from my position of X at Y as of today.

Sincerely,
Anon

Look some up online, there are examples. If it's an entry level part time job it doesn't need to be robust. Just write why you're leaving I suppose.

On a paranoid note, he could be trying to get something in writing to avoid paying you some arbitrary legal thing (like severance pay). Idk, just something to look out for.

Sure!
Ever date seriously someone with differing political views? How was it? What were the challenges other than the obvious? Did it play a factor in why you broke up.

>>18290121

No I haven't, but I haven't dated for years when it wasn't as polarized as it is now.

Mature people CAN have different political views and co-exist. Too frequently we consider politics as emotional issues, and the "opposing" side as evil. It's difficult, depending on the political strength of the person, but possible.

Also consider that for a lot of people, politics are a thin veil which is pierced more easily than they think. Meaning they think they are super liberal or super conservative, but when push comes to shove they don't really give a shit.

>>18290129
Thats sort of what I figured, I really like this guy and we've been good friends for the last 8 years and want to be more but were total opposites as far as politics goes.

Were both old enough so that that shouldnt be the deciding factor but I figure it was worth a shot asking.

But while I still have you here, any advice on dating a long time friend?

>>18290080

Fake break up to the parents, then date her on the side. With dumbfuck parents like that, it's the only way.

>>18290080
they are only trying to look out of his best interests trust me. my parents did something very similar to me and my life turned out better than most people did. because I listed to my parents.

sure, I never had any friends growing up or a girlfriend, and I still don't now, but I have 2 cars and own a 2 story house all to my self.

so thanks mom and dad, you are the best parents anyone could ask for.

trust me OP do your friend a favor and tell him to listen to his parents.
they actually sound like good people.

>>18290122
that sounds like shit desu. you've got an empire of dirt.

>>18290062

That's because you are speaking to the wrong mouths.

>>18290062
You can try talking about it here since you're anonymous

>>18290068
Nah people are all shit.

Even psychiatrists and doctors talk about their clients to their wives and husbands.

It's ignorant to think they don't.

>>18290044
1. Talk to her about other people doing "Netflix and Chill" to make sure she knows what it is.
2. Wait a week.
3. Invite her over for netflix and chill via text.

>>18290048
No nigger, no want to do over text.

>>18290061
OP is socially awkward.
What do you suggest that is in the realm of his comfort/skills?

>>18290037
How old are you?

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>>18290037
I prefer to do the inking by hand, but that's just my personal preference.
>what software do I get
I got a cheap version of photoshop from my school so what I like to do is
>do inking by hand and scan it in
>open in photoshop, set the inking layer to multiply
>colour underneath
Idk if Gimp or other free programs have a multiply option. Otherwise I did like Paint Tool Sai, the stabalizing option is top.

>is there any free software for making comics?
Sadly he doesn't have a playlist for them but sycra does a lot of programm reviews
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2XTP2s5SjUI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-GxfPT3veYE

>how do I promote my comic when it's in its final stages?
Probably just mouth to mouth, 4chan seems like a pretty good place (as long as you don't whore it around too much). I'm sure you could also join comic comunities that promote each other.

>recommended publishers?
Like websites? I'd start with something like deviantArt.

ask /wsr/