How do I meet normal people to date?

>>18290237
I guess I'll bump this with an example?

For example, I met this guy once in a summer class at college. Seemed nice, shared an interest in mythology, both discussed vidya, Oedipus Rex, etc. I sat next to him most of the time and we would chat on break. He wanted to write and some of his stuff sounded cringey but I was like "Eh, not everyone can be perfect." But oh man, if his writing was cringey, I didn't know what he liked.

So at one point, he missed his ride to another class (it was bowling and off campus) and asked if I could drive him. He said he would pay for my lunch and kinda hinted it would be a date. I happily accepted and went.

Well, he bought me lunch... At the local place on campus (off-shoot of the cafeteria). I guess that's fine? He didn't have a car but he could have suggested I go somewhere? Maybe I'm being nitpicky.

There he went on and on about this script he had in mind for a movie. I tend to be quiet so I was happy to listen.

It all went downhill when we started driving. I think bad writing came up at one point and I casually mentioned I liked bad fanfiction (think "My Immortal") and his eyes lit up. He pulled out his phone and decided to read out his favorite bad fan fic. Aloud. In the car.

It was a fan fic of Optimus Prime, R2-D2 and Slave Princess Leia being forced by Jabba the Hutt to have a three-way. Horrified, I focused on the road as he went on laughing and describing in graphic detail how Leia gave Optimus Prime a handjob with graphite to stimulate his metal penis, R2-D2 entered Optimus Prime's ass and saw pictures inside of all the people had been there, and I think Jar-Jar Binx's disembodied penis came into play at some point.

I dropped him off and said a half hearted goodbye. I was really, really confused and kind of grossed out.

I never sat by him again.

>>18290312
Related: I found the fan fic a while back
Proof: https://www.fanfiction.net/s/5714348/1/Love-Beyond-Circuits-Love-Beyond-Flesh

>>18290312
That's... weird. Some people have no social skills. Some really decent people have zero social skills. For what it's worth, I've been told I'm too nice all my life and I've had my share of experiences with people like the guy you describe. I've been on the wrong end of those experiences before because I don't have terribly good people skills myself sometimes. It happens. I can say I've never read porn aloud to a girl before. That's something else.

To your point, "normal" is a buzzword, nobody is really normal. Everyone has different interests and hobbies and what's interesting and weird to you might be opposite for some other person. That's why dating is a numbers game. And you just keep trying. Eventually you find one that clicks with you and you go from there.

Don't give up.

>>18290338
I guess? Maybe "normal" doesn't exist, but I definitely think crazy does. My problem is, my number seem to be skewed towards the crazy. That was actually one of my better dates?

Thank you for the encouragement though, I really appreciate it.

>>18290345
Fuck it, I'm bumping this with another story because it's late, I'm bored, and alone on a Friday night.

Here is my advice: never accept a date at Comic Con.
So a while back (about two years now?) I got to go to Comic Con. Two friends had a friend who dropped last minute and had an extra ticket, awesome. So I hitched along and had a blast most of the time. Save for my bizarre date.

Second day in, just taking pictures with cosplayers and stuff when I see a cool cosplayer.

>Dat Roy Harper
>Red hair
>Yes

I ask him if I can take a picture and he happily obliges. We hit it off and my friends tell me they are going inside. Me and "Roy" end up chatting and head inside too. We have pretty overt chemistry and seem to really like one another. At one point, this guy comes up and tells us he is one of the writers for the current Green Arrow. He takes picture with Roy Harper cosplayer. Guy is stoked.

Riding off that high, he says "I don't do this often, but since this day can only get better, could I have your number?" I say sure and we agree to meet up later.

Oh man. Bad choice. We meet up outside my hotel later and decide to walk to a restaurant. I don't know which one but he says it'll be good. We chat but he keeps trying to put his hand around my waist or put his hand on my butt. I'm really shy and non-confrontational so usually I just giggle and then mumble asking him to stop. But he keeps doing it.

Once we get to the restaurant (which was Denny's) he reveals he has little to no money and has been eating trail mix to sustain himself this entire trip and not to spend too much at dinner. Okay?

tbc

>>18290380

I'm cool with that, but a little concerned that he's eating trailmix and say I'll pay for my own meal. Great. We chat and somehow, WWII comes up. Hitler is brought up. "Yeah, Hitler is really misunderstood, he was one of the greatest men of all time."

WAT. He goes on this long monologue about Hitler. Getting stared at in Denny's. Slowly sinking down in the booth. Keep trying to change topic to no avail.

Pray that I get out of this alive. Shows me his tattoo of apparently some alternative nationalist movement. I'm done.

Ask for check. Go to front to pay. He starts walking out of the door without paying. I do a double take and ask him where he is going. There was no one at the front, but he whispers that he has no money so he was going to dine and dash, so I end up paying for his meal.

We start walking back and I am desperately trying to get out of this now. I try to text my friend but he keeps looking over my shoulder.

He cooly invites me back to his hotel room. This weirdo actually thinks he's gonna get laid. Nope. Tell him I will see him tomorrow but I have to get ready for a "cosplay."

Jump on bus. Block number. Never see him again.

>>18290380
>>18290385
I don't know man, stories like these are why I avoid cons and con-people in general. I feel like you've had every woman's experience of online dating, only irl, and man is that crazy.

I think you've just got really really really bad luck.

>>18290395
I have purposely avoided online dating for that very reason, as I know it even gets crazier. Yeah, I'm never ever accepting a date from a con ever again.

Party of my issue is that I have what are considered to be "nerdy" hobbies. I know that attracts people out of the woodwork, but I also don't want to have to sacrifice what I like to find someone normal.

I mean, I don't go proclaiming or posting all over that I play Tabletop RPGs or some of my other nerdy hobbies, but it still seems to attract that sort of thing?

Should I seek out people without my likes? How would that work though? Should I just keep shooting and see if I hit something?

>>18290237
>starts with 'unique' individuals
>ends with 'absolutely insane'.

Kek, grow a backbone and trust your instinct. Dont just be strong though, then youll attract the crazies that want to be dominated (and thus make your strength their own). Instead develop self esteem and follow your best interest. This will make you take decisions that will distance the crazies (since theyre not in ur best interest).

>>18290402
This will be rude but I think the person makes the hobby not the other way around. People who play these table tops and card games have low self esteem and thus attract people who take advantage. Im not saying give them up as it wont change anything but perhaps try to outgrow them or at least play actual video games like somewhat sane people.

>>18290385
What u got against nazis bruh? Hitler was a painter u know, a truly poetic soul bruh

>>18290420
>play video games like somewhat sane people
>like sane people
>implying video games are for the mature
Are you retarded?

>>18290457
I said 'somewhat' you dense clusterfuck. Infinitely better than those yugi-ew faggots.