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Partly, your circadian rhythm responds to light. Bright, "blue" light indicates daytime, which is when you "should" be awake. So, during the hours you want to be up, get as much sunlight blasted into your eyes as possible. Stare out windows, etc.

Then, during hours where you should be winding down, get away from blue-ish lights - which, coincidentally, are emitted from computers, smartphones, tablets, etc. There are apps to change the color of light they emit. I have an app called Screenshader on Chrome, and there's a setting on most iPhones you can tweak too.

You can also relegate yourself to non-screen activities before bed too, like reading a book.

Finally, melatonin can help jam you into sleep. Try going to bed an hour earlier with the help of melatonin, and slowly peel it back until you're sleep trained to the correct time. I manged to slowly reverse a 3am-10am schedule to a 11pm-5am schedule this way, because my job required it.

>>18292286
Sounds good. I have flux on my computer and another app on my phone for blue light, but I didn't think of getting light while I'm awake.

And I've already started trying melatonin.
Thanks a lot

get super drunk around 10pm

I'm really sorry I can't remember the name, but I saw a demo for a really awesome male sex toy a while back. It was like this dick sleeve but it could move on it's own and you could adjust the speed and everything.

Anyway one of those might be a good investment to save money and protect you from some of the pitfalls of prostitution, like STDs, legal trouble, and potentially feeding an industry that kidnaps, traffics, and preys upon young women

>>18292264
Some say males libido is his main motivation always forcing him to perform.

Since you managed to earn enough money for prostitutes, maybe you have achieved your end goal? Just enjoy your life?

Or maybe your end goal is something more than shallow sex. Procreation maybe? Starting family?

Just stop fucking random whores and find one whore you will keep around to make some babies and even get the social interaction with her?

>>18292283
I didn't earn it, and they're not very expensive prostitutes. My goal at the moment is to afford more expensive prostitutes, more than once, ones who'll do outre things, that kind of thing. I just think constantly about it and feel boredom and contempt for any other kind of activity or plan.

>>18292262
Get your own girlfriend. No need to steal her. Plenty others exist.

If she ever breaks up and you will be alone at the time, date her. Until then, it is free game.

Whatever you do, DO NOT WAIT for her to become free. You dont want to lose years of your life waiting for sonething what maybe wont happen.

Tldr get your own gf.

>>18292296
That's not the point, I'm not interested in "stealing" her, I know perfectly well that I have no right to break up their relationship, I just don't know if we can still be friends and be honest at the same time

>>18292370
By confessing your "love" to her, you will basically put her into position where she will have to choose you or her bf. And what do you thing her bfs reaction will be?

You dont want your girl to keep seeing dudes who confessed their love to her. She will be forced to cut contact with you either way.

Get your own gf and hopefully your feelings will redirect to new girl.

>>18292255
Ask her out. Won't hurt to do that.
If she says "no", then start looking for somebody else.

>>18292281
Listen to jezus. He died for our sins afterall.

>>18292255
>(though yes, I know you can't be "too busy to date").

That's bullshit. You can totally be too busy to date.

Try some flirting before asking her out. Maybe she just assumed by saying "no" earlier you would stop trying, so she is not really noticing these "signals" you see.

>>18292236
Use one of your very powerful female weapons
>manipulation
>blackmail
>coercion
it is not like you will be bad person, it is in his own good. Force him. Be creative.

Also you can just go to regular doctor. Sometimes you just have stress, fat, no sport, shit diet generally bad life style. Do you even do sport?

>asshole in bed
You have to buy bigger bed or get used to it.

>>18292319
I appreciate the time you took to respond to this thread but, uh, I want a healthy, equitable relationship with him because I love him and I'm in it to win it. So I don't want to coerce or manipulate.

His stress could be more easily managed if he could sleep. He is overweight but a complicating factor is that he has a bad knee, which makes most exercise painful. He got a stationary bike, but I don't really want to nag him to exercise. I'm not sure much good can come from nagging.

Thanks for your time.

>>18292328
>overweight
This is the main source of his issues. Both the issues. He is big, so less room than he does.

Tell him to lose weight. If he has a bad knee go to the pool. He has to, otherwise this will develop into sleep apnea, which will kill him.

He is waking up for the same reason horses sleep 2 hr stretches at the time when laying down. The body knows it's own weight will eventually suffocate it, so it prompts wakefulness once O2 levels deplete through hormones.

http://healthland.time.com/2012/11/06/cant-sleep-losing-belly-fat-might-help/

If he isn't motivated to do this simple self improvement so he doesn't die, this doesn't bode well for the relationship and you should cut ties before it goes further.

>>18292168

>My crush doesn't even notices me

Why have a crush? You have everything going for you. THere has to be people in your life interesting in dating. Why focus on the one person that doesn't care? You are doing this to yourself.

She just won't give a fuck about me, there's no slight improvements I can make to make her get interested, I must go full-perfect now. Am I just always searching for what I cannot have or be with

>>18292171
I don't control it, tried to avoid it for months but I just look for what I cannot have / be with. How do I avoid this behave ?

>>18292102

Why did she do it?

>>18292102
Nope and fuck knows I tried. I did find a perfectly tight pink 18 year old who rode my nuts empty though so there's hope there.

Save your energy, there is no hope

Become an alcoholic of course.

that's everyone on this website

>>18292101

Become someone that's worth a damn.

>>18292097
filipino women only want your money and a green card. as soon as she has that, she will turn from being a fun and nice girlfriend to the complete opposite.

Moldovian women. Feed them and only slap them around occasionally. They'll think you're a good and kind husband. Encourage her orthodoxism too, makes them uber loyal.

I heard that. I work with a Filipina lady who moved here 30yrs ago. She said Thai girls are worst with that. But heard many stories of Filipino chicks doing the same. Race doesn't bother me. All the chicks who screwed me over and blew me off all were white. Black American girls are fucking nuts. Just feeling like all the good ones are taken.

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Bump.

No one has anything to say?

So she basically cheated on you, and you apologized to her for being pissed off about it? She sounds like a fucking bitch.

>Doesn't have a job
>doesn't have a place to stay
>doesn't have money
>accused of stealing


>>>>believes her when she says she's only gonna stay for a few days
Where she gonna go you dumbass? Kick her out, pronto. Bring up her getting a job and finding a place, you can't keep her there.

There's no way to be nice about it and she'll try to make you feel super bad. Shit sucks but you don't owe the bitch shit.

>>18292104
i suppose you're right but its kind of fucked up to throw out someone you've known since high school who has no way to survive on their own.
i brought up her going to live with her parents but from what i understand their kind of fucked financially as well.

>>18292126
Have some self-esteem and put yourself first.

>It's kinda fucked up to put your life and surviving on someone you've known since high-school because you were too lazy to plan ahead and get a job.

Her situation, her parents situations and her boyfriend's situation is absolutely not any of your concern or fault. If having a place to sleep in was of such fucking importance to her she would have gotten a new job. Be real. Don't feel like you have some debt to her, you don't. Take care of yourself and pray to God she doesn't steal too much shit when she leaves.

>>18292046

Keep meeting people. You are bound to find another person.

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>>18292055
I cant even imagine feeling something for people I'm meeting, but you're probably right

I have no idea bro. I sometimes which I'd get fired from my job so itd be easy to decide to move on.
My own plan is to keep saving so I can move and find a new job.

Why do you even hate your job? for me its stress and repitition.

>>18292028

I hate it because I'm used to working directly with patients and being active. This job I never see a patient and I sit in front of a computer for 12 hours. I'm not using by skills or knowledge here.

>>18292299
Apply for CNA school. It's usually about a month to get certified and if you don't mind dealing with actual shit, the pay is good. Having previous paramedic experience will help you get jobs. Try to apply in a hospital if you can

>>18291942
They don't. At least, not all of them - I haven't been able to get over my ex for 2 years.

In general, I think it is easier for girls to find someone willing to spend time with them, even if it's just to fuck them.

Hmm I've never experienced it considering I've never had a long term relationship but I would assume after the relationship they probably haven't felt as good in such a long time

>>18291942
They don't. Meaningless sex does nothing to fill the void of wanting one person you can't have anymore.

>>18291862
You keep fucking them and find a way to vent the hatred. Or learn selfcontrol. Or find a fuckbuddy whom you like

If it's a fuck biddy, you keep fucking them and make absolutely sure they don't get pregnant.

If it's an actual relationship, end it and find someone else. Sex is not as important as connecting with your SO on a deeper level. Find someone where both sex and connection are good.

>>18291886
I'm gay, i don't have to worry about him getting pregnant. and i don't want to dump him because the sex is so good but he's so goddamn annoying.