Life Advice

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Ever date seriously someone with differing political views? How was it? What were the challenges other than the obvious? Did it play a factor in why you broke up.

>>18290121

No I haven't, but I haven't dated for years when it wasn't as polarized as it is now.

Mature people CAN have different political views and co-exist. Too frequently we consider politics as emotional issues, and the "opposing" side as evil. It's difficult, depending on the political strength of the person, but possible.

Also consider that for a lot of people, politics are a thin veil which is pierced more easily than they think. Meaning they think they are super liberal or super conservative, but when push comes to shove they don't really give a shit.

>>18290129
Thats sort of what I figured, I really like this guy and we've been good friends for the last 8 years and want to be more but were total opposites as far as politics goes.

Were both old enough so that that shouldnt be the deciding factor but I figure it was worth a shot asking.

But while I still have you here, any advice on dating a long time friend?

>>18290131

Also keep in mind that women are more liberal than men, that is pretty true of most partners.

I think dating a long term friend is great. People SHOULD start out as friends, because with a friend you are just dealing with them person to person, without any sex or desire.

In the end, your relationship will rise or fall on how good friends you will become. Relationships are built long term on relating, not on sex or money or looks or anything else. It's just two people that get along, and also have romantic feelings for each other.

My husband hates children. And whileI don't necessarily want any either, I wish he would at least be open to the possibility of having kids in the future. I can't even talk about other people's kids without him getting all weird about it. Should I be concerned?

>>18290136
Thats the opposite really. Im homegrown conservative, hes academic liberal so most advice I read about doesn't work in our particular case.

Awesome, thank you for responding. Feel free not to answer this but if you could have done some steps ahead of time to have saved your marriage, what do you think it/they would've been?

>>18290141

Yes it's weird. HATE is a strong word, if true (vs. finding them annoying or expensive) that is something disturbing.

Having kids for most women is the most powerful long-term desire they have, to deny that will be very painful for you.

I hate to say this anon, but...if you want to have kids, and you don't have them, that's a major issue long-term for your relationship.

Even if you don't want kids, your husband should let you know WHY he HATES kids. Past trauma? If he doesn't trust you with that, then...

>>18290144
>Thats the opposite really. Im homegrown conservative, hes academic liberal so most advice I read about doesn't work in our particular case.

Same concept...again, it's how emotional you and he get on the issues, how deeply the politics are felt. We're all more emotional on some issues more than others, if you disagree on that you could question each other's ethics and morals.

>but if you could have done some steps ahead of time to have saved your marriage, what do you think it/they would've been?

Nothing. I picked the wrong woman, we were doomed from the start. Too many times we try and force a relationship that just isn't there.

>>18290154
That's a shame. What were some red flags you would tell your older self to listen to if you could go back in time?

And solid advice on that front, thank you.

>>18290159
>That's a shame. What were some red flags you would tell your older self to listen to if you could go back in time?

This sounds weird, but...imagine your bf/gf as the opposite gender...would you be friends with them? If not, then it's not going to work long-term. There are some key requirements for a loving relationship. They sound simple, but difficult to find in practice:
Be able to relate as friends
Mutual respect
Similar life goals
Romantic attraction
Similar leisure activities

I can expand on those, but that's a really really good start.

>>18290168
No that's great advice. I've always thought too that anyone I get married to would be great to also be my best friend.

I have a high sex drive, but can only really get into it if theres some good flowing conversation before hand. Its why I think giving my friend and I a shot even though we are different politically would be good since we have always had a lot to talk about even though we see eachother on a regular basis and have for the last 8ish years.

>>18290175
>I have a high sex drive, but can only really get into it if theres some good flowing conversation before hand. Its why I think giving my friend and I a shot even though we are different politically would be good since we have always had a lot to talk about even though we see eachother on a regular basis and have for the last 8ish years.

I have a bunch of advice on sex as well, but it sounds like you have that covered. :) Good luck anon, always know that love is out there, love is given and received freely, and you deserve it. We all do.

>>18290150

He can't stand to be around kids, and often says "I'm so glad you're not pregnant." We didn't have sex without a condom (even though I've always been on birth control) for the entire first year. He didn't cum in me for another 6ish months after that. Anytime he cums in me he'll freak out immediately afterwards, so it's to the point where anytime he asks during sex if he should I just scream "NO" because I can't deal with his anxiety that follows. He constantly asks me if I've taken my birth control, and from the time of my last pill to when I actually start my period he'll constantly ask if I've started yet. The thing is, I have a medical condition that makes it harder for women with it to get pregnant, but that doesn't even make him feel better.

We have a wonderful marriage aside from this problem, and I honestly believe he's my soulmate. I'm not willing to throw it away over something I'm not even sure I want. I have talks with him often about how his comments make me feel, but he just says "you knew I didn't like kids when you married me". Fair point, I guess.

As far as what makes him hate kids, he says he's just never had the natural desire to have them, and has told me before that he thinks something might be unnatural about him or wrong with him. I think he just puts way too much energy into hating children for some unknown reason. I don't think he even knows.

>>18290183
>I think he just puts way too much energy into hating children for some unknown reason. I don't think he even knows.

I think you clearly know this is not normal at all. Most guys are just neutral about kids (until they have them), some are neutral positive some neutral negative.

But to be THAT negative about having kids shows an underlying mental issue. Ask him why he doesn't want kids, he must have some kind of reason. Are they scary, does he fear the responsibility, ?? There IS a reason, he just needs to let you know (and maybe analyze it himself).

If he is your soulmate, you really really need to determine if you want kids. You might be deluding yourself (most people do) that you don't want kids because your husband so vehemently does NOT want kids, and you want to be with your husband.

You might face a painful choice, but the easiest thing is to figure out why your husband doesn't want kids.

>>18290179
Oh I do, but I'll never turn down honest sex advice if its offered. Anything you wanna share with me that you wish your partners knew how to do or would do would'nt fall on deaf ears if you are still around to share,

>>18290209

Different advice for men vs. women. For women, I'd advise to try and understand the male sex drive more, and their partner in particular.

Don't be afraid to ask for your own fantasies as well, honesty is crucial (see my post above). You should also find a man that can make you orgasm, that should be a requirement for all women from their men.

Also to do a gut check in terms of what kind of fantasies they feel comfortable indulging (and not), and have an open communication with your partner.

Sex is an important part of a healthy relationship, fun, and a very strong bonding experience for a loving couple.

>>18290213
>Also to do a gut check in terms of what kind of fantasies they feel comfortable indulging (and not)

*you feel comfortable.

Shit my post sounds like some kind of generic ABC Family pap, when sex is raw and animalistic. But so is love. Point is that sex FEELS BETTER with someone you love, and you both need to set boundaries in terms of what you want, and what you will do.

Then it's all about the pleasure...

>>18290213
>>18290221

Its okay, I feel like until you really get into it the concept alone either sounds corny as hell or depraved as fuck.

Whats the easier way to convince a guy with a lower sex drive to want it more?

>>18290228
>Whats the easier way to convince a guy with a lower sex drive to want it more?

Eh, you can't. Sex is similar, but works differently with men and women.

For most men, sexual desire works on a mostly low level; his desire is stimulated merely by the shape of her body, and to a lesser degree other factors like how "open" she appears to be for sex (red lipstick, tight clothes are signals to men), it's much more primitive than a woman's desire.

Women's desire is made up of a lot of different factors, with the physical body just being one factor of many. Is he "manly" in terms of confidence, who is he and how much does he want her, etc.

That's why porn for men and women is so different.

But as for guys, it's not really an intellectual decision, it's not like he can see your argument and want to have sex with you. It's more of a primal thing.

If he doesn't want to have sex with you, maybe you don't fit his sex "template": he could be gay, or he doesn't find you attractive in some other way (although guys have a pretty low bar).

If he doesn't want to have sex at all, it could be physical / mental: low testosterone, depression.

So for your guy, you can figure out if he doesn't want to have sex with you, or some other issue with his sexuality in general.

But you can't convince him.

>>18290236
>Could be gay or doesn't find you attractive

These arent the issue i've ever run into, mostly I think its laziness. I've never been one for make-up, but hey maybe its time to see if I can find a red lipstick that doesnt feel tacky as hell.

I am 21 years old and currently every month or so I go down the stroll(skidrow) and fuck hookers and smoke meth with them. I want to know how i can get a legit girlfriend so I dont have to mess with these skitzd out dopefiend broads, pls help

>>18290116
Do you think it's gay for a man to use vagisil for a thigh rash?

>>18290242
>I've never been one for make-up, but hey maybe its time to see if I can find a red lipstick that doesnt feel tacky as hell.

Guys are pretty dumb picking up signals from women that women think are really obvious. Men need things like lipstick / makeup, short skirts, tight clothes, etc. You can obviously go over board with this :), but it really is pretty simple shit for men.

I had a falling out with a gorgeous girl I think I loved. I'm convinced fate brought us together because of some amazing parallels between us, but we don't talk anymore.

I've been hung up on her for months. Am I crazy? How do I get past this?

>>18290246

Haha, assuming this isn't b8, you're like the exact opposite of finding a gf (a stable one anyway, plenty of chicks use drugs).

Try dating women while still doing the same shit, but give it up slowly. Like do it every 2 months to fuck hookers, then 3 months, etc. This will push you to try and find a gf, while you can still fall back to your dumb habits if you are too much of a chickenshit to be with a woman.

>>18290247

Nah dude, chemicals aren't gay or straight. If you're straight, you have no fear of anything you do being gay...cuz you ain't gay.

>>18290252
>I've been hung up on her for months. Am I crazy? How do I get past this?

Nah you're not crazy, it's fucking difficult finding someone to connect with. Maybe you were crushing on her more than she on you. But give it a shot, pursue her. If she's not into you, drop her.

Unrequited love isn't romantic, it's fucking stupid and a complete waste of time.

>have bi gf
>she doesn't want to have kids
>is proly ok with me impregnating another girl

should I do it?

>>18290262
>should I do it?

No. Lot of shit here that is problematic:
>is proly ok
"proly"? This is a fucking kid you're having, she better be sure or she'll bug out.

This is a bad idea, plenty of women would want to have kids. Like I said above, being on similar life paths is necessary for a good relationship. Having children is one of the biggest.

>>18290267
We have a great relationship
She just got a girls phone for us
She's actually ok with raising a kid, just not with being pregnant
It'd be kind of a surrogate mom, except I'd impregnate the girl directl

>>18290284
>She's actually ok with raising a kid, just not with being pregnant

Having a kid is a lot of work and sacrifice. If she doesn't actively want a child, then she can quickly bug out since it's not her child in any way.

Then what.

>>18290258
She sent seriously mixed signals and never listened to what I said, almost completely flipping my meaning.

Call her? Or just hope I bump into her?

>>18290294
>She sent seriously mixed signals and never listened to what I said, almost completely flipping my meaning.
>Call her?

Yes call her, what do you have to lose? You might be misinterpreting her signals; she might be into you or not and you're not getting it.

See her and talk to her, figure out what she is feeling by watching how she moves, her eyes, and what she says.

>>18290290
We have like 3 nephews, so we're well aware of the responsibility and everything else. It's just the belly and giving birth that she doesn't like.

>shit I'm drunk, sorry if I'm just wasting your time here

>>18290298
>We have like 3 nephews, so we're well aware of the responsibility and everything else. It's just the belly and giving birth that she doesn't like.
>>shit I'm drunk, sorry if I'm just wasting your time here

No worries man :).

Thing is, this is what you're NOT saying "she really wants a kid, and can't / doesn't want to be pregnant, she suggested woman x as a surrogate".

You're saying "is proly ok".

Not really feeling the passion from her, bro. I mean just going by what you're saying.

Vast majority of the time, the woman wants kids WAY more than the man. It's just their built-in shit.

The fact that she's "bi" and having sex with other women also doesn't bode well. Sounds like she's unhappy and a little flaky, and doesn't really know what she wants.

That's just what I'm hearing, nothing more.

>>18290304
We do that toghether, it was just a kink but now we thibknwe might be polyamorous

Shit man i don't even know what I'm typing, better check in tomorrow when I'm sober

>peace out

>>18290319
>We do that toghether, it was just a kink but now we thibknwe might be polyamorous
>Shit man i don't even know what I'm typing, better check in tomorrow when I'm sober

In vino veritas.

You can read this when you're sober, but I don't think either of you guys are ready for kids. Why not wait a year or two, if you really want kids and you're stable...you'll both know.

>>18290321
>You can read this when you're sober, but I don't think either of you guys are ready for kids

I don't need to get sober to agree with that lol... I don't think we are either

It's just like... a mixed hypothetical question with a failed attempt of trolling maybe

Nvm, just chit chatting until the world stops spinning hahahaha

>>18290328
>It's just like... a mixed hypothetical question with a failed attempt of trolling maybe
>Nvm, just chit chatting until the world stops spinning hahahaha

Been there :)

>>18290247
How to cope with the fact your partner doesn't love you like they used to and doesn't need you anymore.and leaves you but you still feel the same connection as when you first began dating.

>>18290337
>How to cope with the fact your partner doesn't love you like they used to and doesn't need you anymore.and leaves you but you still feel the same connection as when you first began dating.

That pain is a very difficult pain, anon. You'll always be looking for signs of life, of love...and constantly dashed on the rocks when you don't see it. Some people never get over such pain.

But what you need to know is that they might not love you, but you should still find your love. If they don't love you, they are not your love. You guys aren't meant to be together...because love is mutual.

You need to leave and move on, as painful as that is. In time and with finding other people, you'll be able to remember your past love, but with emotional distance, like an old photo.

We all go through this anon, you can make it through.

>>18290349
Thanks op,she was and fuck still is all I want.so many broken promises I would do anything for her but her feelings changed.and I don't know when I'm going to be able to feel that kind of love again or if I am.makes me feel like putting all my love and effort into a person isn't worth it because people change and when they do I get left behind bleeding.

>>18290358
>.makes me feel like putting all my love and effort into a person isn't worth it because people change and when they do I get left behind bleeding.

I felt like you did. But anon, love does exist, it's out there for you. You picked wrong, we all do. I did. But you can never give up hope that love is there for you. Once you can, look back and see why she wasn't right for you. She wasn't, but you really really want her to be. If she was your real love, she would know it too.

>>18290364
Alright thanks op a million times I'll tell myself that when I'm in a serious rut like now,one more question, what music do you listen to when you're going through shattering heartbreak?

>>18290370
>Alright thanks op a million times I'll tell myself that when I'm in a serious rut like now,one more question, what music do you listen to when you're going through shattering heartbreak?

I listen to different music in different genres, but listening to people that have gone through the same thing, you can hear the pain in the music. Knowing that other people have gone through the same shit is comforting.

And you have to know that love is out there for you...a warm love that will smile at you and love you back. It gives life all meaning.

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My fiance left me after 7 years total together. Said she felt she was holding me back in life. I know I wasn't perfect but neither was she, we both lacked ambition and goals. But I honestly loved her and would have done anything to see us married and kids ect. Anyway we haven't spoke in 9 months and I've gotten past the point of checking her instagram after seeing her just be with her family and friends that used to be mine but no contact any longer.

Part of me finds it hard to believe someone I trusted could be that cold, I tried reaching out once or twice with her just saying we needed time to move past eachother and focus on ourselves. But I can't shake the feeling she'll meet someone else and he'll be the one to do everything I couldn't, he'll have kids with her and make her happy and I'll always be a memory. I've tried dating on Tinder trying to move on but its been 9 months and I feel like I should be past this by now.

Any tips on how to stop thinking like I am, and let her go? Should I become angry with her? Or just stop thinking of her all together. I feel like I'm better now than I was, and this stupid hope of wanting to make things right with the woman I really gave my heart to.

Finding it hard to focus at work, its finally good weather and I find myself thinking what kind of date could I have brought her on. Songs on the radio, the cat we used to have thats now with me. Lifes pretty depressing right now.

>>18290296
She's come onto me pretty strongly before, then immediately insists she just wants to be friends and 'this didn't mean anything, I have feelings for someone else'.

There was empathy too, though, and I also went back on romantic things I said/did.

>>18290378
I'm not op,but going through Same shit as you comparably,and the thought of her with some one else makes me want to an hero.the feeling I could've done something differently to make her happy always crosses my mind.talking about it here helps knowing other people are going through it too.op says love is out there,so I'm believing him bc I feel I'm just beginning to feel life's cruelest things it has to offer but if op can go through this and say love is out there then we should beleive him.

>>18290378
>But I can't shake the feeling she'll meet someone else and he'll be the one to do everything I couldn't, he'll have kids with her and make her happy and I'll always be a memory.
That's very likely to happen.

>I've tried dating on Tinder trying to move on but its been 9 months and I feel like I should be past this by now.
Give yourself some time, you're at least making an effort.

>, and this stupid hope of wanting to make things right with the woman I really gave my heart to.
That's what you have to realize, it's STUPID. You're wasting time, and for WHAT? You think she is going to go back to you? SHE WILL NOT. You are just WASTING TIME and getting NOTHING but bitterness in return.

You have to realize how fucking stupid your unrequited love is. It's wisdom, learning from your experiences. You need to learn this lesson, and not have unrequited love in the future once you get over this one.

And you will, but you have to do it yourself. You know it's stupid to waste time on her, I know it's stupid. Now really really UNDERSTAND that it's stupid, and stop doing it.

You need to meet someone else, people have exes all over the world. You'll make it through.

>>18290379
>She's come onto me pretty strongly before, then immediately insists she just wants to be friends and 'this didn't mean anything, I have feelings for someone else'.
>There was empathy too, though, and I also went back on romantic things I said/did.

She is undecided about you, that's not new. Keep pursuing, but not forever. You need to know when to cut bait.

>>18290398
With her, I cut bait several times.
What kept me coming back was her saying insanely specific phrases/commentary I've only ever heard myself say.
Captured my attention when I otherwise would have looked away, so I think that's something special...right?

>>18290426
>Captured my attention when I otherwise would have looked away, so I think that's something special...right?

It's something, but not enough to sustain.

Should I drop a job that in 2 years will get me to £80k a year or should I move back to my country and use my savings to start a small business employing local folk? I'm 23.

>>18290434
>Should I drop a job that in 2 years will get me to £80k a year or should I move back to my country and use my savings to start a small business employing local folk? I'm 23.

Depends on the business and cost/profits. You have a lot more opportunity for real money with your own business. A lot more, but you'll probably fail a few times first.

>>18290242
I had an extremely low desire to fuck my ex because she didn't put any effort into sex. Like she was there if I wanted to fuck her but never initiated something sexual, didn't like oral, just went with whatever I did and if I did nothing, then nothing sexual happened. Also, she knew I hated condoms and we talked a lot about her getting another contraception but she never got anything, so we fucked with condoms for 4 years. She was so beautiful, but I just resented sex with her for that stuff.
So maybe if a woman doesn't get fucked it could also be because she isn't fun to fuck

>>18290444
God damn right.

>>18290445
>Like she was there if I wanted to fuck her but never initiated something sexual, didn't like oral, just went with whatever I did and if I did nothing, then nothing sexual happened.

Uh yeah that's most women actually. She didn't like you giving oral? Then you were probably doing it wrong.

A few months ago I started with a new therapist. I've been doing really well with him but I feel i'm getting too attached to him. We have this easy comfortableness and laugh sometimes so he's possibly the person i'm closest to at the moment and that's disconcerting. Every week i really look forward for our sessions and i'm starting to find him attractive.

I should highlight that he's really helping me and i don't think i'm focusing on him too much so i would't want to find someone else.

What do you think i should do?

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Do I gamble everything I have (which is basically nothing) and MAYBE my future and go to uni to get a computer science degree

-or-

Do I gamble my FUTURE and pursue my dream of becoming a famous rapper?

>>18290116
Okay, here goes.

I just had a long-term relationship (8 years) end early this year.

The way it ended was brutal and nonsensical. I've been no contact for almost two months.

I've been through breakups before, but this one is really hitting me hard.

He treated me like dogshit and I know rationally that I'm much better off and it would never have really made me happy to end up with him long-term, but I'm having trouble just getting out of bed in the morning.

I think about him daily still. I have other guys very interested, and I like them and all, but the couple of times I've let them kiss me all I want to do is run away and scrub myself with a wire brush.

How long will this take to go away? I'm seriously hating this.

>>18292095
Why do you go to therapy? To help you through something? You only need a friend to do that. You can be attracted to him and still respect him enough not to make your sessions about Your sexual urges.

>>18290116
How did your motivations in life change when you recieved your first child?

Have you ever a "midlife crisis," though I suppose it doesn't have to have happened in your midlife.

I'm 23 and for 6 months I've felt, emotionally, mentally, existentially lost. I feel like I've gone down a rabbit hole. This past month has been especially bad. I feel like I won't ever go anywhere in life and I'm worthless, but every week with brief windows of feeling normal. It's like having your heart broken in terms of that nagging, "I'll never stop thinking about this" feel.

>>18292333
Depression, anxiety, etc. I deffinitely don't bring up sexual matters and don't turn our session around us in particular, but it's how well we interact when talking about whatever that makes me giddy inside and that leaves a little uncertain.

>>18290116
Has anyone her ever hit someone and it made them feel better about a situation?

Like once a month I see the guy my ex cheated me with. It's been over 10 months since the break up. Shortly after the break up I met the guy by accident. It took me everything to not strangle him the moment he came into sight but I managed to talk to him. He swore that he didn't know she had a boyfriend, that she didn't say a word about being in a relationship. I saw truth in his eyes (ex later confirmed it), saw that he was shocked and felt sorry for me and told him my part of the story.

Well after some months I find out he still fucked her, she tried to get together with him. That's the last thing I've heard regarding them.

Now, everytime I see him I just want to hurt him. Best way to describe it is I feel like I got raped and the only thing that I think would make me feel better about that would be just hitting him with some low kicks or bodyshots or something. He tries to ignore me, has this smug fucking look on his face. When I see this guy I just want him to look away or on the ground in fear.

>>18291624
She hated giving it. I wasn't good cause she was my first and lost motivation to eat her out because I didn't get anything in return so I never got better. I mean even her hands did fucking nothing sexual. I was kissing, caressing all of her body, nibbling on her boobs and neck and she stroked my dick three times if I was lucky.
I've had some girls since and you just knew they were horny because of the way the touched you or looked at you. Never to that from the ex. I loved that girl but sexually we did'nt match at all

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>>18290116
I made the stupidest of my life when i was 10 years old to become a professional musician.
Fast forward 30 years, now I'm 40 years old with no money, no job, no wife, no gf, no kids, and no skills.
I had to move back in with my 73 year old father.
He'll die soon, and my gravy train will be finished.
I don't know how to not be a fuck up loser.
My family and friends always tell me how smart, funny and talented I am, but if all that were true, then why am I such a fuck up?

>>18290141
I'm not the OP,
but it sounds like he doesn't want to fuck up any kids the way his parents fucked him up.

>>18292500
People find out how to not be a fuck up loser in their twenties. Just give up gramps.

>>18290183
Not OP, but if you want kids (and you do so don't make mental gymnastics to appease your husband) you had better call this marriage off and find a partner that wholeheartedly wants children

Your husband will resent the children and be a shitty father.

You will find another "soul mate"

>>18292500

So you're a little behind the times, so what. Start now, I'm sure you have some skills.

I need help.

I've been in a relationship for 3 years now with a girl that I love. It has been a great 3 years but over those years I've been feeling like I'm not being my true self or rather I'm not doing the things in life that I want to do

Everything feels dull I cant do the hobbies I loved because of no motivation and I've pushed her to get a job and save some money but it feels like she doesn't want that and she would rather me support us.

I talked to her slightly about these things but it only hurts her which in turn hurts me and I honestly feel like she may be a little immature for me. I want to go on with live and move out into a city do things to better my future but I feel like I'm being held back.

I started working in a new city and now there is this girl that I met. I never flirted with her she never really flirted with me either but we began talking a bit and I sense a connection between us.

I don't know her too well but she seems very goal set and has finished college and has a job. She seems to stay motivated at work and looks like she knows what she wants.

I'm tearing myself apart because I have feelings for these two people and I've been eating myself alive with the constant debate of what I should do. I feel aweful, absolutely terrible. There are some nights where I drive home screaming and crying in my car because I don't have anyone to talk to. I can't trust my best friend because his fiance is her best friend. I know he will say something

If there are any anons that could give me advice or have been in my same situation just anything. I really need someone to talk to. I'm in my early 20's if that mkaes a difference.

>>18292683
1. Tell your girlfriend you cannot handle the stress of being the only one to support two people. Stress to her how hideously unfair this is on her part. Ask her if that's really the kind of woman she wants to be.

2. The new girl represents everything your girlfriend isn't. You're attracted to her because she represents what you want and aren't getting. This is understandable but please understand you don't have feelings for two people; you have a failing relationship and an attraction that is designed to point this out to you/make you aware of the problem so you will fix it.

3. Please dump your girlfriend if the conversation in #1 does not go well; or, honestly, dump her anyway. It sounds like you are ready to move on and this whole relationship does not sound good for you.

>>18290116

What's the best way for a guy to avoid sex, dating, marriage and kids?

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How do I combat low self esteem? I'm 24 now, but for my whole life my parents never complement me, they only ever point out my flaws and constantly call me useless. I'm afraid I'll never be able to get a gf cause of this feeling of worthlessness, worse all the baggage I've accumulated.

>>18292788
>What's the best way for a guy to avoid sex, dating, marriage and kids?

Most effective way? Castration.

>>18292805

>How do I combat low self esteem?

You have to realize your parents are wrong and horribly destructive to do such a thing to their child. You need to have your own life, and separate that life you had as a child when you depending on them for everything, including love and approval.

>>18292927

What if he doesn't believe in body mutilation?

>>18292805
Anon you'll do great things someday. You're not a failure and I'm positive you will succeed in showing yourself that you are awesome. :)

>>18292945

That's the most effective way. But it's not difficult to avoid all that. Most of you guys avoid sex and dating effortlessly.