I've heard that being insecure is a turn-off to men. Is

>>18290143

Nope. Insecurity is a turn-off for women, it can be a turn-on (or at least neutral) to most men.

>>18290158
If I keep on focusing on my flaws, won't he notice them as well and end up liking me less in reaction to that?

Low self esteem is not a turn off for man. Being self-deprecating and being vocal about it might be a turn-off.

If you bring up your insecurities all the time, the man might be put off. Not that you're not allowed to talk about it but people who dwell in self pity are usually pretty annoying about it.

It's fine to have low self-esteem by itself.

>>18290143
Stop there buddy, not to sound cliche or anything but the person who loves you should fall in love with your flaws and insecurities. If you, yourself think that you need to change then do so yourself for yourself; if your spouse or partner thinks you should fix your flaws/insecurities because it's such a turn off then that's very selfish of that person (your partner) Your partner can help you fix your low self esteem because a relationship should be a balanced weight from both sides in every way (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually etc..)

>>18290143
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The annoying thing about a woman that is insecure is that.... she just won't fucking do anything. She won't listen.

What I mean is an insecure woman won't take off her bra even though her guy thinks she's super hot. An insecure woman won't let her guy go down on her because she thinks her VJJ "looks weird." An insecure woman is boring in bed.

it's not so much that the IDEA of being insecure, implying a weakness of character is what the men find bad. That's the issue when women view insecure men. An insecure man implies he has weak character and that's what a woman will find unattractive.

An insecure woman is annoying. A man won't think her character is weak but will just be annoyed that she doesn't believe him. Because she won't let him appreciate her.

>>18290180
I'm very insecure, but I do accept his compliments and listen to him. After I've asked him whether he is truly okay with my body, if he says yes, I will get completely naked from then on. During sex I let go of my inhibitions and I temporarily don't have low self esteem, I'm just focused on all the sex stuff. I do ask questions afterwards like whether my blowjob skills were up to par, or if I can improve anything. I believe him when he says I'm beautiful, though I more believe that he THINKS I'm beautiful. The most difficult thing for me to believe is that I'm supposedly sexy, because I don't feel like I have any characteristics that contribute to being sexually attractive (tiny boobs, so not exactly sexy). It doesn't affect my actions around him, I'll still have sex with him and ride him with pride. Though sometimes when I'm alone I'll cry.