For a woman, what does the first time having sex feel like? I might be losing my virginity soon and I'm anxious about what to expect. Is it really not supposed to hurt with the right kind of preparation?
As far as I know, it depends on the woman. For me, it was slightly painful, but then again it wasn't a cock that broke my hymen; it was his fingers and a patient ex.
My hymen broke from sports, so I don't know.
Your hymen is likely broken too, many girls' are, especially if you live in a first world country and are moderately physically active.
Of course it hurts if he just shoves his dick in with no prep. However, foreplay and "heavy petting" helps blood flow and elasticity in the region and is necessary for a good sexual experience, on both ends.
Unlike guys, we aren't as visually stimulated. If you are really anxious over the worry of pain, your vaginal muscles will tense up and make it painful. I guess guys exhibit similar performance anxiety.
Just relax and relish in the attention from your partner. Your body is a good guide for its desires when you're free of anxiety.
>>18287791
For my girlfriend it hurt a bit at first, but eventually she said it was feeling pretty good, then after that it was smooth sailing. That said, I was veeeeeeery patient with her, said we could stop at any time and how much I loved her, basically tried to calm down her nerves and reassure her it was going to be alright.
the only reason i've yet to commit sudoku is because i fear that death would somehow be even more boring than my life
anyone got a joke?
>>18287741
I got a good joke
>your life
HA
>>18287741
why end it when spring and summer is coming? It's just getting good nigga! Also, try lifting if you don't have anything good to do. You might just love it.
Death is surely more boring than life, that's why you are afraid of death.
Death is just another word for "nothing".
Purpose brings peace of mind.
Find a craft, whatever it might be, something that can help/bring joy to others. Something that you can become great at. The world needs honest and good people, now more than ever.
You may never get your name written in the history books but you can still write history. You can change the lives of a few you love and they will in turn do the same.
The flap of a butterfly's wing.
My girlfriend and I have been living together for 4 years now. We just recently signed a lease for a year, and adopted a pet.
I can't stand her. Everything she does bothers me, and she is incredibly boring. If I don't provide something for the both of us, she just sits on her phone and browses the internet until I suggest something. She has no hobbies, no creative outlets, and no education. She doesn't party, doesnt do anything but dab and reddit and work a dead end job. Her only conversation is gossip about coworkers, and theres no ambition.
However, I'm not financially stable. I recently started a decent paying job and will be within a few months, but will still be on a lease with her for at least 6 more.
How to stay sane that long? I feel like I walk on egg shells every day around her, shes infatuated with me, and any time I bring up the slightest hint of our relationship coming to a close she starts to collapse. How to I not shatter this poor girls world?
I dont know if I'm asking for advice, it feels good to just get this out into the world and not just in my head.
At the end of the lease, dress up as Mickey Mouse, yelled in your highest pitched voice "I'M GOING TO DISNEYLAND", and hand her a treasure chest full of her possessions.
Break up my man. You might waste so many opportunities.
>>18287673
Can't you just ignore her and do what makes you happy? Go out to bars and find another mate in the meantime.
i have intimacy issues and have a long history of keeping people arms length.
i've always been very honest about this with my bf. i told him why i have the issues i have, how i try to work on them and to please be patient and not assume that my issues are a sign of me not wanting to be with him or not loving him.
i've tried really hard and i feellike i have made huge progress those one and a half year we've been together.
tree weeks ago, he started to work shift and since then, we're still trying to adapt and adjust and find enough time together. there are days where we only see us so much as to say hello and goodbye.
we also have no more weekends together.
this has had a huge toll on our relationship. we rarely have sex anymore, despite having had a lot of sex before (atleast daily).
i fear that we're breaking appart. the last tree days, he has barely reciprocated my attempts to initiate sex, cuddling, talking or just generally spend time together. it really baffles me. when we finally would have an hour together, he suddenly thinks installing the wi-fi booster is nr one on his priority list.
i tried to talk to him about it and he just blames it on me "needing time for myself". which i told him is not true. ofc that was a topic before, because he wanted to consume my every free second and i am a lone wolf.
i feel like he somehow snapped and this is my punishment for my "intimacy issues". i don't know what to do. talking leads nowwhere and he blocks all my attempts to connect. he doesn't even text me back anymore.
shit adv, i need your help. what could be happening to us?
>>18287658
It's hard to say, it could be for all sorts of reasons.
>i feel like he somehow snapped and this is my punishment for my "intimacy issues"
objectively it seems like this could be stretching. he might be struggling with work, why did he switch to shifts?
>>18287691
yeah, you're right. that statement was pretty stupid and just me being frustrated and making assumptions.
i asked him and he said he's fine and he enjoys the work.
he worked there before, but had a long break of 1,5 years because of school and military (which is obligatory here). it's not completely new for him, but he hasn't worked shift anymore since we were together.
i told him imm concerned that we don't have so much time together anymore, to which he agreed. his solution was to make the tume we have count, which i thought was a very good idea. it's just that i don't see him do exactly that anymore and it scares me...
>>18287740
Ok but why did he go back to doing shifts?
>1 year LDR
>not a clean break at the end
>"we'll always be friends"
>stay friends for 6 months but drifting apart especially once she meets someone else
>"I'm cutting you and everyone I know out and moving to a different state because my new guys wills it"
>check obits every once in a while because going out of my mind with worry, even close friends don't have news from her, barely speaks to family
>everyone agrees her new guy is a psycho overcompensating for repressed cuck fantasies
I emailed her last year on her birthday and again a Christmas, but she didn't reply. I've held back from calling her. I know I can't "save" her, I know I can't use rational argument to make her see sense.
A year and half has passed, I repressed the hurt as hard as I could until a couple of weeks ago when it got too much and I started getting more and more depressed. I grieved extremely hard for her yesterday and today. I cried more than I ever remember crying before.
Why do I still want to reach out to her after she basically stabbed me and everyone else in the back? How do I stop? Conversely I also feel like I'm the one leaving her behind, doing nothing feels like leaving a wounded friend behind on the battlefield. Don't I owe it to her, to her friends, to her family and to myself to try?
>>18287607
You don't have to owe any of them anything.
Live your life, bro. If you are that in-need of pain, go ahead and try again. Chances are it will be the same mess all over again.
>>18287630
Thanks anon. I try to move on but it sickens me how empowered I was and now I feel so powerless. I feel like I broke her, I feel responsible and I don't know how to make that feeling go away.
>>18287607
don't try to get her back. you've lost someone important. you may want to think you can do something to help her. I mean, you think she needs your help? She has her family.
It is a sad thing to hear and this might not seem sympathetic to the way that you are feeling. What I'm suggesting is that there really isn't anything you're going to be able to do or say to stop the thought of her from entering your mind.
It doesn't last forever. Just try to survive
so this girl I like I've been camming with and we've seen each other naked and had cam sex and all that shit said I couldn't fly over to meet her
She says sex is for marriage even though she's a fat girl, she's afraid that I'll fly over, fuck her, and just leave when I really wanna date her
She has abnormally high self esteem for a girl
and I dunno why,
This leads me to believe that all women should be raped or sexually or emotionally abused while they're young so they can grow up to have low self-esteem because high self-esteem women are literally aids and aren't receptive to love
What can I do?
pic unrelated
>>18287589
What is wrong with you?
I said she's ridiculously confident because she doesn't respond to my negs and she knows herself she doesn't have the looks to bargain for marriage EVER and I shitted all over her for that and she still doesn't care
She says I have too much pride.
>>18287593
>>18287589
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TL;DR: Anything I need to know about taking a girl's virginity?
So there's a showmance between me and an actress. We flirt very heavily, escalating to me spanking her with props and us holding hands. She's very provocative for a 24-year-old virgin who wears a purity ring. We've basically just been overly friendly without me pushing her boundaries.
Tonight, we hung out by her car as we always do and she suggested we go for a walk. We ended up getting on a talk about her previous relationships, purity ring, values, my sex life, and what was brewing between us. Eventually I kissed her and when we got back to her car we made out for a good half hour.
It escalated pretty quickly. She said I was the first guy she'd ever been this handsy with. Butt grabbing and spanking, neck biting, I stroked her thighs firmly which made her quiver and gasp. I didn't go for tits or vagina because that's where her boundaries were
She made a few references to the forbidden nature of what we were doing. I jokingly moved her hands to my crotch but stopped and she said "thanks for stopping. I don't know if I would've stopped myself if you didn't". She said "good thing we aren't horizontal, because both of our shirts would be off by now". We talked about virginity loss, I said "I've never taken someone's virginity, but I think I'd do I good job making it a good experience". She said "I think you will" and kissed me.
So yeah, I really just wanted to talk about it a bit (nobody who wants to know can know, nobody who can wants to), but I think there's a good chance I'll be her first. What do I need to know about taking someone's virginity?
>>18287553
It's best when you have a way with words. It's like lick the slick slit. Those sorts of tongue-twisters. You know?
be gentle and considerate of her feelings. make sure as you're putting it in you ask her if she's okay or if it hurts too much.
Also, don't pressure her into fucking you, women know what they want, if she's tryna bang you, it will happen naturally.
Deflowering a female is something that every man should do at least once in their lives.
>>18287553
She's not a virgin.
"actress" = porn star
Welcome to the social media century
Should I believe in my gut?
I'm living with my sister and brother in law since I moved here from my hometown and I need some accommodation. I don't know why but I started feeling uncomfortable around my brother in law lately that sometimes when he looks at me I felt weird, like guilty or disgusting I don't know what it is.
I'm planning to move out soon since I don't want things to be awkward plus my sister is very jealous type of woman.
I just want to know if somehow I'm being paranoid? Or delusional? I don't know why but the relationship between me and my brother in law was always good.
>>18287504
Your post is too vague. What do you mean? Like you feel quilty about living there? Or is there some weird sexual vibes between you? How long have you been living there?
Ya might have a case of projection, if the relationship between you two's been good and you don't have anything right off the top of your head to give you a rationale behind your sudden feeling.
>>18287514
I don't know how to explain it. Like when we party together (since I also have the same circle of friends as my sister) he would try to get closer or sometimes casually touched my hands (maybe he was drunk who knows)
His stare when he look at me made me uncomfortable. I don't know if I'm being paranoid. He also glared at me a lot.
I lived here for months now and I know him for years already
What makes men so afraid and anxious when thinking about approaching an attractive woman?
The very IDEA of approaching an attractive girl and trying to get a conversation going seem to make even reasonably attractive men very tense and afraid.
What can be done about this?
False rape allegations
Sperging out and having the girl hate you/dislike you/think of you as weird
>>18287465
Because their pronunciation and spelling is all wrong. It make them self-conscious.
>tfw starting to get a cold
I hate colds so fucking much, any advice on how to make it go away faster or at least more bearable? Besides nasal spray
>>18287451
>bearable
>bearable
>bearable
Can you even spell?
>>18287461
No I can't because I'm a dumb worthless piece of shit who shouldn't be allowed to live
>>18287466
True
I realize this sounds like petty high school garbage, which is probably is, so I apologize in advance.
In my circle of friends of 6 - 8+ years since middle/HS there is one guy who I don't like too much. He usually ends up annoying me or souring my mood in some form, though I love everyone else. This has been the case for quite some time, but I think it's finally reaching it's limit, getting a bit tired of being around him.
Do I have no options other than to put up with him? I assume it would bring down the overall mood if I were to avoid speaking with him when we all chill together, and I still want to hang out with my other friends so I would like to avoid the "don't show up if he is there" option. I don't want to tell anyone else in the group about this as it would make things awkward. If it weren't for everyone else I would have cut contact with this guy long ago.
>>18287441
try not being a psychotic cunt
>>18287441
Maybe if your writing style was less awkward then you'd be less awkward.
>>18287441
>He usually ends up annoying me or souring my mood in some form
Please could you give a greentext of some of these occasions? So we can have a better picture.
>Sit down to study
>Practice test
>Dont have the attention span to even read the first question switch tabs and browse more 4chan
How do I get Aderal? Would this help me?
Nah. You'd just spend your entire adderall high browsing 4chan.
>>18287440
Look up "StayFocusd" on the Google store if you use Chrome. It temporarily blocks websites then gives you breaks to use them for set amounts of time.
That and learning about the Pomodoro technique single handedly brought me up another tier as a student. I still have trouble focusing a lot of the time, but I get most of my shit down now.
If you seriously think you have ADHD, see a GOOD (as in doesn't hand out prescriptions like candy) doctor.
>>18287440
It's pronounced as in adderall
not aderal what is this shit
I didn't get into the program I wanted at UW. Sucks, but I need to move on. I did get into their international studies, but can you do anything with something like Asian Studies? Engrish teacher or some government work such as at an embassy?
>>18287398
yes OP. something like the above.
but just make sure you learn a lingo, (Japanese or Chinese) so at least you get some sort of skills out of the thing.
business, diplomacy, teaching, journalism, etc.
degrees aren't all that important once you have some common sense, direction and experience
>>18287615
Diplomacy could be cool, but from what I gather, FSOs move around a lot. So I could take Japanese in college, but end up in some other random country.
>>18287648
and the problem being?
there are many options.
So birds are reptiles? This is my bio textbook..
????
Use Google
>>18287387
How will I live on..
I'm a girl in high school and I've been attracted to older men (age 40+ usually) since I was in like the 6th grade. Every time I see an article on the news about some 17 or 18 yr old girl sleeping with a high school teacher I actually get JEALOUS because I constantly fantasize about sleeping with like half the male staff at my school. I hate my fucking life and I'm going to die alone.
>>18287335
That was me when i was 14. Idk why but they were kinda hot to me. Im a little older now and im attracted to guys my age more. Long story short get over it casit probably aint gonna happen lol
Go fuck yourself. No one cares and you're not even asking for advice. Reported.
ik it's not gonna happen. I wish I could just get over it but it's not that easy. I'm literally so miserable everyday. Ive had this one teacher for 3 years now and we talk every day after school for a few hours (I don't like to go home early bc abusive parents) and he's even taken me out for lunch a bunch of times. but he's not interested that way. I know him better than anyone else in his life probably, considering he's such a loner. as cliche as it sounds I feel like we're soul mates and it drives me crazy that I know we can never be together. I found out he got laid off bc of budget cuts (this is his last year) and he's moving literally halfway across the country. honestly been considering killing myself a lot since I found out