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It's not that you're not meant for academia mate, it's that you're a lazy piece of shit who refuses to work. It's not complicated. You're soft, weak and lazy. That's all there is to it. You're shit.

>>18290704
>Some things I wanna rule out
You're not in a position where you are entitled to rule out anything.

>>18290704
Maybe try for an apprenticeship or traineeship? You learn on the job, so it's not quite as mind numbing but it's not exactly academic either.

So you WANT someone who has STIs?

>>18290656
Around 50% of the world population has a vagina. It's not like they're all hiding.

>>18290661

Well women are everywhere but it's human instinct to not open up to random people you see talking to you on the street.

There has to be some kind of social excuse like bumping into each other accidentally or something.

I'm in Asia btw. It's not normal to talk to strangers

muscles is what our monkey brain associate with better protection and better babies. Modern humans really don't need muscles from an evolutionary standpoint anymore so it's not surprising if some of us naturally just stop putting them on a pedestal.

I'd say be honest and say you care more about the effort/thought than the product.

Open up your pussy to scrawny pc nerds, bitch.

>>18290648
Appreciating and complimenting his strength would be more from the heart than forcing yourself to comment on an aesthetic that doesn't excite you.
Instead of going "ooh and ahh" over the muscles say; "Wow, looking strong today baby!" And leave it at that rather than trying to act like you're drooling over him flexing.
You should encourage your SO in activities that fulfill them and give them a sense of accomplishment. His training isn't for you, but to acknowledge it and show interest is important in my opinion.

You know you could just not put it on Facebook?

>>18290635
Is he someone you talk to normally in the course of your day/have any sort of friendly relationship with?

>yes
Probably should give him a heads up if you value that relationship. Some guys take bros before hos seriously and as much as you may like this girl, a heads up is the least a friend deserves.

>no
Then why the fuck do you care what he thinks? If he's a casual acquaintance/facebook """"""""""friend"""""""""" you don't really care about his feelings anyway.

>I hate facebook, but its necessary
No, no it isn't, the fact that you think it is speaks to your intelligence.

>>18290635
It is a former high school acquaintance, not your friend, so I don't think you should give him explanation or stress over it anyway. Just do what you do and if he starts commenting or being annoying unfriend him.

>>18290612
>I took a job I don't really like that pays below minimum wage
You know that's illegal, right?

>>18290618
Not OP, but Amerifat here:

Lots of places here will regularly pay hourly wages less than minimum wage and it's legal because the employees are given tip-share or anything that *might* make up the difference if they're lucky.

>>18290622
You obviously didn't read OP's post, he's from Australia. Your ass-backwards American law is irrelevant here.

>Anonia and Anonette come to the sudden and enlightening realization as to why whoring is a thing

Better start sucking them dicks

>>18290576
lol I'd never do that for money anon, I said legal

>>18290582
lol you think you have another choice if you want to go, ur so silleh

Perhaps find a locally assembled pussy source?

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>>18290579
>locally assembled pussy source

>>18290579
Blunt but true. LDR is basically masochistic unless you have a very real chance of one of you being able to relocate in the short-medium future.

I've been there and never will again, because it's so unhealthy. You get all of the feels with none of the reals. You go to bed, alone. You wake up, alone. You jerk off, alone. It feels like you're not alone, but the reality is that you are.

You might think that you're lucky that you do get to meet once in a while, but really that just makes it worse. It's just drawing the inevitable it out. I wish it weren't so anon, but in my experience, it is.

Unless one of you can relocate, then as stated above source a locally assembled 3D version instead.

>>18290542
Smile. Keep your beard trimmed and your clothes in order.

I would give my left nut to be you. Armstrong managed with just one so I'd still be fine.

>>18290590
OP here, I'm still a kissless virgin at 20 regardless, because I've never pursued anyone. No one is ever completely happy with who they are I feel.

You don't know the situation. You were in love with her, it's more likely that you're convinced her new boyfriend is an asshole out of spite than him making her do this.

>>18290540
Like I said, it's not just me that she's cut out of her life. If it were I could understand. The general consensus is that this guy is a lying, manipulative asshole.

The last message she sent me reads as follows:
"Its kinda new and different to say the least. Being wrapped around someone's finger while slowly losing control is different for me. All I can say is I am not acting like myself at all. You're not the only one that is noticing. I am talking less and less to my room mates and family. But we can't really talk anymore like we used to. It's inappropriate for me to talk to anyone else while I am dating this guy. Take care of yourself, namaste friend".

Again, if it were just me I'd understand, but we all know that isolating someone is step 1) of an abusive relationship.

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing". This plays over in my head and it's been rotting away at me for the best part of a year.

>>18290535
>The girl I used to be in love with

"Used to be" She is literally none of your business now. Drop your "white knight" fantasy of saving her.

>>18290500
Ikr, its kinda easy to see your trash, dunno why its taking him longer to see that then every other guy.

>>18290506
He sees my flaws. He knows a lot about me.

>>18290549
What do he know?

>>18290499
This is bait right? Nobody wants those "unique so le indie" girls. They're all ultra feminist and irritating.

I feel like this post is a bit more for self affirmation, but speaking on a personal note:
Yes, a non-slutty normal girl is much more attractive than the art house pseudo woman

>>18290499
Most guys prefer normal looking girls.
Be pretty and have a personality.

TL;DR: Girl closes herself off when she's feeling sad, and I want to change that or something, but can't because she won't communicate

If she does it now what do you think shell do later? If it hurts now how much will it hurt when she does it after you really fall for her? A time off i an evening you spend on your own, not weeks you disappear.

Also tf is 'im sure youd like to come and have a drink'? She 'sure'? Sure youre desperate and wont say no??? Fuck that mate, youre worth more than that, ghost that bitch back and move on. See how she likes it.

>>18290502
Actually, my bad, it's a translation thing. She said something more along the lines of: "I'm planning to go to the city tonight... If you would like it then I'd surely like it if you would have a drink with me". That's the best I can do.

>>18290460
Tight is fine as long as nobody is in pain. In general, guys like tight.

What I think you're trying to verbalize here is you want DEEP. And deep is whole other thing. Depending on how deep your cervix actually is in your vagina, you might have to get a guy with a larger sized dick to hit you where you want. However, longer is usually wider and wide is not conducive to tight. That's where the pain I mentioned comes in.

>>18290488
>>18290488
But regardless of size, is it more pleasurable if woman stay relaxed down there during the thrusts?

I keep finding myself tensed as if I was doing Kegel exercises during intercourse and I'm not sure if this one of the things I'm doing wrong that keeps me from orgasms

>>18290460
>(I like to have my cervix touched/hit)
No, you don't. Hitting the cervix HURTS, dude. Not in a sexy pleasure-pain-mix way, in a "holy fuck holy fuck getyourdickoutofme RIGHTNOW" way. It's very, very rare for women to enjoy it - about as rare as dudes who like getting kicked in the dick. They're out there, but there ain't many of 'em. A lot of women think they enjoy it and most have never experienced it.

Hitting the cervix during sex is not at all common because when you become physically aroused the cervix shifts position slightly. No matter how huge the guy's dick is, the angles just don't work out.

As for your actual question -
>Does it take away from the pleasure and make orgasms difficult?
Maybe! No way to say, all women are different. Generally sex feels better if you're relaxed, yes.

I hope you're communicating with your partner about this! If you're involuntarily tensing, you can always ask him to slow down a little the next time you have sex, and force yourself to relax, mentally as well as physically. Take a deep breath (a literal deep breath, not a metaphorical one, breath air into your lungs and then let it out), focus on relaxing your muscles, and don't worry about this at all:
>Do guys sense the difference, does it feel tighter and nicer?
Put that out of your mind. Your vagina is fine, dude. Guys like it when the girls they're fucking are enjoying themselves. Focus on going with the flow and just letting the sensations hit you and see if it feels any better.

Do you mean actual whore or just that you sleep around. Unless it's the former I don't get what the big deal is.

So... why arent you shagging him then?

>>18290454
Get some startup capital for advertising and a few Bad Dragons and start camwhoring. Then you don't actually have to fuck anyone once you really get it going. Unless you're a high-end escort, you'll probably make more money anyway.

Unless you did mean whore in the sense of just being promiscuous. Then you're just a dipshit, because there is literally no problem. Get your STI tests like you should be anyway and stop fucking people that aren't him.

Also, I am now living on my own and have been working night and day on improving myself. I find it even more frustrating how while doing this it has somehow managed to have the exact opposite effect. I believe that we are in the same place in our lives and have a better opportunity this time around for a real relationship. She was always super into me and seemed "different" then all the other girls (no mending). I was taking things slow and casual this time around simply because we haven't seen each other in so long.

>>18290453
Brah sounds like she just wanted to use you and make you feel how she felt all those years ago.

Girls are vindictive and never forget. Where as guys...well.. we fucking forget everything.

"i disagree with that statement but if you feel that way i'm not going to fight you on it"

Let go and move on. Enjoy feeling bad, it's what makss you human. You sound like you are making some good steps in getting better so it's best not to dwell and keep walking.