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Is it silly to solely hit on blonde women? 2017-05-13 05:51:57 Post No.18311962
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Is it silly to solely hit on blonde women?
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Let's say you only hit on them because they attract you more than all other girls.
Is it reasonable to want a girl solely because of her looks and nothing more ?
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>a girl soley because of her looks and nothing more
depends on what you mean by 'want'. like you see a random girl on the street and like the way she looks so you go flirt with her. yes, thats fine, how are you supposed to know anything other than how she looks?
but if you are long term dating someone you have no romantic interest in but like her look, then thats bad.
were not supposed to hit on people we dont find reasonably attractive. and we all have types. until recently i only liked guys with curly hair. now its ginger guys. its okay to have a type. it doesnt mean you ONLY want them for their looks, but looks are the first motivator.
theres nothing wrong with that. its kinda like a job application. if someone doesn't have a good resume, you don't bother looking deeper than that.
in dating your looks is your resume, then a date is an interview, and if both check out, and you're a match, you're good.
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Some people only care for looks but the relationship might not last long, if you are look for a long term relationship. Most young people date around based on looks.
But of all looks why did you choose hair color? Does it matter if she is a true blonde?
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If you are only attracted to blondes, nothing wrong with only chasing them. Still leaves plenty of variety.
>reasonable to want a girl etc
No, it literally is not. If you are in a relationship you spend a lot of time with someone. If you have kids together, have shared financial worries, shared family issues etc than you bet it matters more to your day to day quality of life whether she can cook, whether she is patient and can communicate, whether is affectionate etc than exactly how aesthetic her face and body are. However, this is something many people learn in the process of living. It is normal to, to some extent, be disproportionally fascinated with beauty.
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Social media is cancer 2017-05-13 05:31:47 Post No.18311917
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Are you kidding me you can't make an account on Tinder without linking it to your Facebook? Why the fuck would I want that, why the fuck would I be forced to do that?
Why do you people do it? Does creating a fake Facebook account nowadays work?
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sure it does. It doesn't have to be fake. Use your real first name (as it shows up o tinder) and make up your last if you want to maintain anonymity. Tighten up all privacy settings and you're all set.
Tinder really does work for sex/hook ups if you're into that kind of thing. I recommend you don't be into it for too long though.
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>>18311917
Yeah fuck facebook with a hot rake and anything that *requires* it. So tinder can take a running fuck at the moon then.
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>>18311926
I'm looking for real true love as I'm unable yet to find it on OkCupid.
Am I in the wrong place?
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>be last night
>live in the same apartment building as my ex
>only broke up a few days ago, I'm ruined
>cant sleep, stressed out and very warm, go to the balcony around 4:30am for a quick drink of water
>see my ex coming back from a night out and taking another guy into her flat already
It hurts. A lot. Like having my chest smashed over and over with a brick.
>share the same social group (early 20s to early 30s)
>friends have made clear they won't "take sides"
>I can't be around her at all though, hurts too much while she's already taking some other guys dick
>so basically I cant hang around my own friends, because she's always involved
How do you deal with this shit /adv/, breakups are bad enough but when you live so close you can see each others flats AND share the same social group, holy shit how do you get the space to heal?
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What were you thinking when you got into this relationship?
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Life moves on man, you should too. Learn what you can, feel what you must and minimze your losses. Don't bother to understand her, as far as you're concerned she's a dumb who and she can go fuck herself. Focus on /you/ instead.
>>18311873
Chill, captain hindsight.
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You fucked up by getting with a girl who gets over an ex by fucking strangers just days after the breakup. You should have figured she was like this from her personality, she was your girlfriend afterall.
Even worse, you shared friends and both live very close.
This is your fault for having a poor judgement of character, and not thinking ahead. Never share the same friends as your girlfriend, especially without knowing her.
Move away, find new friends and learn from your mistakes. Or get over her, which should not be too hard with how shes acting.
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I can't take living as a dropout.
You get shit on at every family gathering. Nobody respects you anymore. Any effort at picking up the pieces and trying to recover is referred to in patronizing, condescending terms. And even if you do eventually go back to college and graduate one day, they will never stop talking about the first time you failed. There is no forgiveness.
I can't drive because I have no money for lessons, and not even the retail stores want to hire me.
Is military enlistment my last chance for a comfortable life? I was considering Army, is that a good idea?
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>>18311528
No, it isn't the only chance. Enlist in a community college, get your grades up and reapply. If you want to take a military route use it to help pay for your education.
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>>18311547
to get back into college I need money, they''l snap and throw me out if I take student loans.
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>>18311555
The military does a great deal to help with paying for college if you give them a few years of your life. When you talk with a recruiter ask them about the path to college and how they can help. Otherwise consider a trade school. Don't think your life is over. You can be extremely successful without college as well if you have a plan. Generally though it is a safe bet to go to college or a trade school.
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>start talking to a girl in my social circle
>become intimate very quickly, she fucks the shit out of me
>later tells me her dad molested her as a child
>that's fucked up but it happens
>see a picture of her dad by chance
>he looks very similar to me
>don't know what to think
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This /adv/ right? Heres some advice FUCKING RUN
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>>18311474
Go away. Go. Just go. Don't look back.
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>>18311474
>>become intimate very quickly
you do realize you are not the first nor will be the last so not special, right?
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I am madly in love with my mother. I want to marry her. I'm a 25 year old man and she is 49, separated from my father since before I was born.
This isn't some incest fetish or fantasy, I truly want to be in a romantic lifelong relationship with my mom. I don't want to fuck her, I want to make love to her passionately, I want to provide for her, care for her, support her, massage her, talk to her, comfort her, cuddle with her, be her partner, and be her protector...
I don't know how to try and instigate this relationship, and the potential ramifications of this going sideways would be disastrous.
Please help me, I've hidden these feeling for years and I don't know if I can hide it much longer.
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Before anyone asks, I've had several long term girlfriends and have no problem picking up women, but I've never truly felt that I loved them. I liked them a lot, but the only woman I've ever loved is my mom.
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>>18310546
Fine example of single-motherhood
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>>18310559
Actually my dad had more possession of me during childhood, and I had a step father and uncle who were very attentive father figures.
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home issues. and stuff.... 2017-05-13 01:25:52 Post No.18310361
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home issues. and stuff....
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my father has some serious issues.. he once beat me till i could hardly breathe. im 19 now so i was 16 then, however throughout my entire childhood he beat me.. not just beating, punches to the face, for even the most meager reason, unfortunately ive never done anything about it. because i thought he may straighten out his aggression, now i do have witnesses including my mother who all are certainly on my side, my father is a bigot and hypocrite; biggest i know infact, anyone who knows him closely would agree however he tries his hardest to show a facade of niceness when around people he doesnt discriminate against, he'll go as far as wasting money on them so he seems like a likable guy, he is terrible at managing his money to say the least, i know these all seem like bold statements, but hes also abused my mom, i do however have proof of his aggression. but at the time the memory in my phone was full and i couldnt catch the abuse part, when hed abuse me hed go off and try to "buy me off" as to keep my mouth shut; i now have a muscle twitch, i really hate to admit to that due to being a tad bit self conscious about it. he has the highest stage of diabetes stage 4 i believe (with an average blood pressure of 240-270), very noticeable memory problems, very repetitive, hes an over the road truck driver home home 2 times out of the week and; keeps taking longer off (witch is understandable) damaging our money but thats besides the point, every time he comes home he says the same thing over and over again as if hes got some kind of mental problem.. unfortunately i dont think i have enough time to type everything needed out however these are the basics i guess.. im asking if there is anything i could do about this.. i dont necessarily want him in prison. he would not stand for that. hes the kind "that wouldnt get taken alive" so to speak, hes just unreasonable.. i couldnt count the amount of times i got my face covered in blood.
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i trust my fellow annons to keep this here. pressing charges if even possible due to it most stuff taking place a while ago will be a decision id have to think about. thanks for any advice given, i just needed someone to tell.. im older and can handle myself now.
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oh and since im on here and can speak more freely.. the bastard weighs like 320+ pounds and cant do anything for himself, oh and when i say discriminate i mean hes got some weird reasons for hating people including being fat and unable. id rather see him put in a home, hes like 50 now, because with as much as he disrespects me and as much as hes ran off the rest of his family im certainly not taking care of me.
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him*
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2017-05-12 10:57:58 Post No.18310012
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off
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How does an average-looking guy get past a girls "filter" online without having to tell lies?
I dont even want sex or a relationship anymore, just friends and conversation.
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>>18310030
Hard Mode:
I dont drink or smoke
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>>18310030
Humanize yourself with good small talk, sincere questions, goofing around, just all around being a fun conversationalist. It takes effort and practice but it's a hugely underestimated skill to possess anyway.
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The major I'm interested in most definitely has little to no career opportunities. Should I stick with being a philosophy major (interested for the knowledge), or would majoring in something with better career opportunities be more efficient?
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If you can live with the risk that you might never work in your field of study, then by any means go for it. If you can't take that risk, look for something else.
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if you've majored in philosphie people you apply to will either think youre a smart dude or a smartass.
It's a gamble but i guess life is a gamble so fuck that if you want to do whatever the fuck, it'll work out somehow. Or not. Probably not, but thats what makes it fun right? Probably not. But thats what makes it fun, right? Probably not.
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>>18309733
Answer this question:
"Am I ok wasting the money Im spending for this education, just for the sake of knowledge?"
Theres your answer
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guys I'm about to be kicked out my house for not having a job and I really need to figure out why I'm not being hired
>drop out of decent college because I couldn't afford payments (sophomore, no degree)
>parents say they will kick me out if I don't start working and they only support me while I'm "doing something with my life" (in this case going to college)
>good GPA in both, honor roll, lots of extracurricular activities, clubs and shit
>but no job experience because I went straight from high school to full-time college by will of my parents
okay its been aroughly 5 months and I've been putting in applications almost every day. for the past months and a half I've been doing as many as I fucking can, at least 20 online a week and then 2-3 days a week driving to nearby places. I'm even running out of places that I haven't applied to in the area. I apply to EVERYWHERE, from fast-food entry level shit, manual labor, to higher up stuff like bank tellers and paid apprenticeships.
I have
>a well written resume and cover letter when its needed
>good social skills, not a sperg or anything like that
>always asks questions and try my best to act confident and interested in the position
>always dress my best regardless of where it is
>if possible meet the hiring manager and introduce myself (rarely get the chance though)
>almost always call back if I don't get a rejection response, results vary buts its never resulted in me getting hired
>always write about skill I have relevant to the job even if I have to stretch the truth because of no experience
>use professors as my references
>always do my best to fill out the inventory and surveys, they're usually easy and I have good mental math skills
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I've put in maybe 100-125 applications now, probably 75 of those were online. its slowing down. sometimes I'll re-apply to the same place and the website will let me know I'm already in the system or won't let me continue. I've gotten 6 interviews so far. all of them went well. 2 fast-food places, 1 grocery store, 1 department store, 1 gym, 1 sit-down restaurant as dishwasher. NONE of them called me back. I called back each place and asked about my application politely about a week after applying. some responded, some didn't even act like they knew who I was and kept passing me around to managers.
seriously, what the FUCK is going wrong? I've kept a good attitude so far but its really starting to freak me the fuck out.
is there something I'm missing? I've put in maybe 120-130 applications now, its slowing down. sometimes I'll re-apply to the same place and the website will let me know I'm already in the system or won't let me continue. I've gotten 6 interviews so far. all of them went well. 2 fast-food places, 1 grocery store, 1 department store, 1 gym, 1 sit-down restaurant as dishwasher. NONE of them called me back. I called back each place and asked about my application politely about a week after applying. some responded, some didn't even act like they knew who I was and kept passing me around to managers.
seriously, what the FUCK is going wrong? I've kept a good attitude so far but its really starting to freak me the fuck out.
is there something I'm missing?
is it just impossible to get hired without previous experience? should I just hoard my last couple hundreds of dollars my parents have given me, sell my car, and try to move to a city or somewhere with more jobs? I don't know what else to do. my parents sit there and say "you're not trying hard enough", they're no help whatsoever. they're still bitter about me dropping out of college because they think that's only something losers and failures do.
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... how long have you been waiting? Seriously you might be overreacting a BIT.
And all else fails just go to your local temp agency,
Problem solved.
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>>18312735
I've been waiting for 5 months
I don't feel like I'm overreacting when I'm about to become homeless and lose all fucking hope at finishing my degree
My bf is 17 and his parents are threatening to commit him into a psych ward. He's told me the entire story and I feel like it's really wrong, but can't find any information about it at all.
He was diagnosed with depression and has a therapist, but he never threatened his parents or his own life. So can he be involuntarily committed?
I'm scared because he's really scared. They basically hate him and next time he argues with them they said they're gonna take him to the hospital.
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He is 17. One more year and he is legally free from his parents. If you can't wait for that try for emancipation. That doesn't work, you can probably get him legally free from his parents if they have been that much of an asshole to him. Look up various legal offenses you could nail the 'rents with (harassment, abuse, etc.). You could talk to your own parents about it, their help will go a HUGE way no matter what.
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He probably can be involuntarily committed in special circumstances, but if he's only diagnosed with depression and isn't at risk of killing himself (or others) I don't think anyone would commit him to a psych ward, even if he asked.
If his parents really hate him and are trying to fuck up his life he can call child protection services on them, those people take these things very seriously. But you're only hearing one side of the story here, I don't think everything is as he makes it sound.
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>>18312684
That's true but I've witnessed his parents many times so I believe what he says. Obviously he has problems, but they're trying to use them against him.
They couldn't just say "he's acting erratic" or lie and say he said he was suicidal, to get him committed?
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Parents won't let him move out, they'd call the cops on him. And apparently you can't get emancipated if you're ""mentally ill""?
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I have no idea what to do with my life /adv/
>join the Military at 21
>Medic have an EMT
>Gives absolutely no fucks about being "bad ass" or "high speed"
>Reenlist because I have a wife and kid
>Try to reenlist with the flight paramedic option
>actually get accepted I've always been pretty fit
>I really don't give a fuck
>Feel dead inside only time im happy is with my family
>Military so barely see my family
>About to go to Paramedic school
Idk what to do, the more I'm in medicine the less i like it. I feel like I'm getting jaded. I get out in 2020 but idk what to do afterwards. How is being a regular paramedic in the civilian side? I wanted to go to Computers but i didn't have American citizenship when I first joined so I couldn't get clearance. I'm just sad I feel like I'm gonna do something I hate
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>Goes to cover unit for a range shoot
>Hurr durrr doc you're gonna love shooting these shotguns
>yeah....awesome...
>did you have fun!?
>...yeah!! ...sure..
maybe I will never be happy
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Do what you like. You just said you enjoyed being with your family. Do that. Get a job that lets you do that a lot.
Boom you now have a direction in life.
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>>18312643
kinda easier said than done don't you think?
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I've been up for 28 hours, /adv/, what do? I've already learned my lesson, not gonna do it again. But she's mad at hell.
>been together 3 years
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>>18312534
she should be mad, you illegally abused a controlled substance. get your act together kid before it's too late and you're in jail.
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>>18312534
Just focus on yourself and getting some sleep.
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Hmm. Apologize, and maybe thank her for keeping you from bad decisions? You probably worried her to high hell dude. Prison would not be a good way to break up with someone. (Same with OD's)
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More problems with egg boyfriend
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Hi there
A few days ago I made a post about my boyfriend who insists that he's an egg and a lot of you found it funny but didn't help me come up with any actual solutions.
Nothing has changed. He still wants me to call him "egg" or "the egg" and only refers to himself with like.... egg terms (asking if I'm going to crack him, referring to his shell, talking about making food with himself, etc). At this point, I've kind of gotten used to it and accepted that this is just who he's choosing to be at this point in his life but he recently (Thursday) ran away and left a note saying that he did it because he was tired of my "constant covert attempts to crack and cook the egg". He has not been answering his phone, hasn't shown up to work and he doesn't have any friends so I don't know where he could have gone so I'm very worried about him. He's a shut in so he doesn't have any favorite spots for me to check and literally no one that we both know has heard from him. What should I do?
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>>18312528
Find someone mentally stable
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>>18312528
Call the police and find a new bf who isnt crazy
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>>18312528
If it's been 24 hours go to the local police station and file a missing persons report. Include all this egg information, every detail they can and explain to them you think he may be a danger to himself. If what you are saying is true he is clearly suffering from some sort of delusion and paranoia. He needs help.
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My BF wants me to wear racist underwear. 2017-05-13 09:51:20 Post No.18312505
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My BF wants me to wear racist underwear.
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So I'm German living in the UK and my boyfriend is British.
He's always teased me, nicely, about my accent and I really do think we have something special going on.
Recently he bought me a pair of German flag panties and, after a lot of convincing, I wore them in bed with him a couple times and made sure to keep them on during the act.
Now he's just sent me a picture of, not a joke, a pair of swastika panties. I asked if he was joking and asked how he'd feel if I made him dress up as a slave or one of those Jim Crowe black stereotypes. He said I should sleep on it but that its more like me making him wear an Africa pendant.
I do find the taboo hot, and I know he really gets off on it but if a relative or friend even caught glimpse, I'd be ostracised. Not to mention how morally wrong it is.
I suppose what I want to know is how you handle these kinds of boundaries in a relationship. Its a moral thing but not a moral thing like loyalty and honesty.
Sorry if this sounds inane, I know there are threads with deep problems but I'm still a bit stuck.
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Who the fuck would see that besides him???
I seriously doubt this has deeper meaning than him wanting you to be a mean nazi girl or roleplaying a war prisoner or some shit like that
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considering you have complete control over who does and who does not get to see your knickers, I don't get the problem here.
also, going out into the streets to beat up jews would be morally wrong, sporting a tiny logo on your underpants in the privacy of your own bedroom in an effort to spice up your love life wouldn't. not even if the logo is a nazi swastika.
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>>18312515
Laundry guys. Both of us have roommates and one of his made a joke about the Germany ones. Though they're both close but still.