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>Keeping your social security card in your wallet
Congrats on making it more valuable to whoever stole it, but there's really no reason to be carrying that around with you unless you're attending job interviews.

>>18311626
I was

Seconding this thread

No, not at all. It avoids the awkwardness of them finding out at a later point that they got it wrong, and it's important. If they are going to personally address you they might as well do it right.

Just correct them right away when they say it, in a neutral tone of voice.

Do it with a smile and make just laugh about it. Brush it off like it's nothing. Everybody makes mistakes.

Would you rather they went on calling you by the wrong name?

I'd actually be relieved when someone corrects me. Erases the opportunity to look like an idiot later on.

>>18311513
You're going to have to leave her sometime unless you plan on marrying her. Might as well do it now.

>>18311513
>>18311518
Exactly. Cut her loose.

i agree with everyone here so far. The longer you stay with her the more you'll ruin her when you leave. Rip the bandaid off now. Just be straightforward and honest about it.

At this rate she may needthe hardship to challenge her and wake herself up. Otherwise she was always gonna be a dependant mess anyways so it's best to run and not let her bring you down with her weakness.

sounds like deppresion. Talk to your doctor about going to a 1st line psychologist. TIP: lay off the happy pills unless they specifically say it's hormonal.

>>18311559
Really? I don't feel depressed. I can go around my day, but I feel nothing. The only negative emotion I feel nowadays is irritation when something bad happens.

>>18311559
exactly the words i came to say

You can argue both sides. Personally I think it's in bad taste to invite someone out for your birthday and not make it your treat. Also because you are probably picking a place that you like more than something they like, that might be a bit expensive for what they can afford etc. They provide their company and gifts already. You are supposed to let them share in the festivities and not demand more, the way I see it.

of course, don't be a cheap piece of shit

You "made" them come to entertain you so it's proper etiquette that you pay for their "services"

>>18311470
I ran into the same thought few weeks back. Realized that most people regardless of gender are useless and stupid.

Just out of curiosity, how many women have you fucked?

Except they aren't. Women already outnumber men as university students and within a few decades there will not just be more female lawyers and judges than male ones (which is already the case at least where I live) but also doctors, dentists and so on.

Keep telling yourself that you are above half the human race, though.

>>18311470
We're literally just people like you anon. We work, we fall in love, we do bad and good things. I won't tell you to "go out there and talk to women" but at least stop browsing /r9k/

>>18311428
>stifled emotional growth

Yup. How do you stop it? Shut your mouth. If you feel the urge so strongly to talk about others try say something nice about them instead or a funny story you had with them. I can tell you're whiny lol. Honestly it's just about exercising self-control in your case. You wouldn't want people talking shit about you and it makes you look bad.

>>18311435
Its not always about talking shit, its just laying out my whole life story as well.
I have no idea why I do this or why at the moment it seems like a good idea but fuck me its bad and I hate it afterwards.

Seriously I wish there was an explanation and unfortunately I realise that the only advice is shut up but I wish there was an insight or something that made me stop doing it since not only it harmed me in the past but even now it sure as fuck not making things easier.

>>18311589
It's most likely a manifestation of narcissism. People that I know who constantly talk about themselves also tend to be the most self centered and selfish. This issue stems deeper so look at what can cause the emotion or attitude that sparks it. If it traces to a lack of confidence then tackle the central issue and its effects should solve themselves

>>18311422
*inexperieced

>>18311426
eh need more info
Whats your relationship like with this girl?
Do you two hang out alone? Do you hang out often?
What got her mad? How long was it until she started talking with you again?
Does she flirt back with you often? Have you made a move?

No need to overthink. Ask her out, see how she responds to you and make a move when it feels appropriate.

Are you kidding me? Are you like the most selfish person on the planet or what? Do you have any idea how much your parents sacrificed raising you spoiled brat? Give them what you can and be appreciative. If you have to give up weed for two weeks big fucking deal. Your still eating aren't you?

>>18311418
if you can't cope without weed for about 2 weeks you have a problem. Just take a break for a bit and enjoy your time with you parents.

>>18311421
I want to clarify that I don't use weed to read funny stuff and post marijuana pictures on the internet
Smoking weed stops all of my overthinking and my anxiety that torments me every minute of my life like a huge stop button on negative side of life and a pool of unresolved problems
I know it sounds like an excuse but smoking weed is so much more than simply spending money on unnecessary stuff to piss off my parents
I can not afford to tell my parents that I think I have a serious anxiety problem and have me tested and treated like a sick person

How about a woman with masculine character traits?

>>18311417
Maybe you just haven't met the right woman, or the right man? You'll find out eventually. Sexual attraction is important to a relationship, but you have to be able to spent time with them and enjoy it too. I see your dilemma.

>>18311433
They're right. I am exactly the same. Met a girl who was the one. Got married and have a great sex life. But I can fap to a pic of a hot guy all day long. Wouldn't dream of doing it for real or with a guy or cheating on her with a guy or anyone else. You'll be fine

So what is your question?

hi anon I kinda know how you feel. I have a part time job that I like and I'm very stable financially. I have a couple of friends but not many, and I don't see them that often. I'm super lonely all the time. I want a gf but every time I feel like I'm moving towards it (new match on Tinder, get closer to female friend, etc.) I get excited that something good might happen to me, and then it turns out that I misread the situation or she loses interest or w/e and then I just feel like absolute garbage for like 2 days. I've seen therapists before and they don't help me either.

It seems like you might be fixated on this one girl. If I were you, I'd cut all contact with her. It might hurt at first but I'm sure it's better than seeing her with whomever she's with now, esp after they start raising a child together and being a happy family etc. That will feel really shit, to see that. Cutting her off at least gives you the opportunity to try to forget her, maybe move on and look for other girls. I bet you get more attention than I do.

Hope I helped you anon. Please don't kill yourself. <3

>>18311353
Oh right. I did forget something.
How do you people survive from this, how do you keep on going? Meds dont seem to work, all I'm doing is wait wait and wait for someone to talk to (professional, not friend) and everyone is advancing in their lives except me. These days it has even gotten hard to go outside to do anything. Honestly I don't even know what to ask, my mind is just full of shit right now.

>>18311362
Thank you and you sound like me (except you have a work). I too get overly excited every time I get a match but nothing really ever happens. And yeah, cutting all connections prob. is for the best... even thought it really, really hurts to think something like that.

You don't really deserve a reply, but: no, don't do it.

You can do it for Father's Day, though.

>>18311331
What's wrong with doing it for Mother's Day?

>>18311315
Joke gifts are bad gifts.

Dude, take a nice picture you have of the family together or of you and your mother together and get it framed. She'll fucking love it.

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Do you act like that with your mother too?
What about your sister/girl cousins?

I suggest taking some training on "women are humans too" and befriending some girls. Stay beta, allow yourself to be friendzoned, be a good friend and earn enough experience points until you are comfortable enough so you stop sperging around.

>>18311280
I feel like a loser on the off moment I talk to men, it's what happens when you don't have the opposite sex around you as a kid to talk to and gain familialariy.

>>18311347
You should probably think that while your brain is going into bsod when talking to women, they have no idea whatsoever
You should focus on the way you want to say things and maybe even apologize if you're looking nervous
You have no idea of the support you'll find the moment you say you're anxious, uncomfortable or nervous in general, people who understand will go through lengths to put you at ease
Try focusing on that, a lot of people have no idea what's going into people's minds and since they're relatives you shouldn't worry about being judged

>>18311240
fuck you bumps you motherfucker

All that "I'm not ready talk" is bullshit unless you're trying to rush into a relationship way too early and way too eagerly. Women should always be the first ones to bring up any discussion of a relationship. You have friends that are girls so I assume you're socially adjusted and healthy. Do you have any hobbies? Where have you met these girls that you only fucked? What types of conversations are you having with these women? Also, don't cross off cold approaches. Confidence can make up for being slightly unattractive.

>>18311463
yeah i think im pretty regular, maybe not though considering the problems i have. have plenty of girl friends ya

hobbies, i like to read, cross country walk and program, and then just the usual hanging out with friends and stuff. i meet girls at clubs and social events atm. conversations too numerous to remember, i mean i dont go in super early with the R word but when youve been hanging out for months seems like you can at least talk about it

i tried cold approaching a lot, confidence doesnt mean anything if your uggo. you do need confidence its true, but its another box to tick rather than just a value raise

>>18311481
Problem lies most likely in you than in the settings you encounter these women. As long as you aren't looking for relationships only in clubs I think you need some self evaluation. Try meeting a girl with similar hobbies. Join a club that aligns with your hobbies. I know you said you aren't incredibly good looking but certain sites cater to finding a relationship like eHarmony.

If you are getting constant exposure to women and developing some relationship with them then it is actually entirely your fault and not the environment. Analyze what you do that could ward women off from seeking a long term relationship with you. Anything you notice that you could improve?

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>>18311239
checking it out now.. if it helps.. thanks man

Men are all pretty similar in their tastes but women are not.
My first gf was never truly into getting licked but she liked to suck. She also masturbated by touching her boobs instead of her pussy. She couldn't have proper orgasms either. She still enjoyed sex a lot and she was by far my best sexual partner.