Recently someone sent me my boyfriend's personal blog of

>>18323922

If you find his sexual habits disturbing this is not a thing that will be a 'character flaw' that you can brush aside, and a perfectly legitimate reason to end it.

You can't force him to change, you can't let this blow over because it will eat away at you.

I'm sorry to have you hear it like this but I think it's time to end it.

>>18323922

I mean, if you don't feel comfortable with him, dump him.

I'm more concerned with the person that got into your relationship. Careful with that. Even if they were right about him, tjey are meddling in your life. Ask yourself why.

yea, even relatively mundane things like finding out your partner is into anal or piss play or something can shock a lot of people, its a perfectly normal reaction. just give it time for your heart and your stomach to settle.

as far as normalcy, you could rationalize that since he has a little bit of everything considered gross, he's probably just into the taboo nature of it and isn't too sexually invested into any particular piece like the rape or snuff. perhaps you could steer him towards some taboo that you both share common ground over?

>>18323931
>Ask yourself why.
because they probably think he's a dangerous person and are trying to warn op about it?

>>18323926

I was considering it until he suggested that he knows he's into deviant fetishes and that he wants to change and he's even discusses going to therapy but thing is I feel like that's overly excessive and I wouldn't want to force someone to change but he also isn't happy with the fact that he's into these things to begin with he mentioned being desensitized to more tame stuff and wanting to revert back to watching more tame stuff but consuming less of the more drastic stuff

Once again I reminded him that I did not want to be controlling and that he didn't have to do this and we could just not see each other again but he seems pretty persistent on changing.

I'm just worried because he says he won't look at more drastic categories anymore but that's just me putting my faith in him

>>18323938

Then she doesn't have to worry.

Just saying. How did the other person find it? They into the same shit and recognized is user name? They researching him? How did that happen in the first place?

>>18323931

I feel comfortable with him and our relationship was completely perfect before this.

He worships me, calls me beautiful, spoils me, everyone is envious of our relationship and I guess this was his dirty little secret

I know he seems a little bit different now because he's trying to prove to me that he can change and he's since deleted the blog and knows that he needs help so he confided in his best friend on the whole situation for moral support

>>18323948

Did the best friend send it to you?

>>18323953

Another friend with similar fetishes but not as extreme followed him and decided to send me his blog

>>18323922
flashback: few months ago me and my friend jerked off to my gf's younger sister's lewd webcam vid, then my friend's gf, being an asshole she is, sent my gf the vid and the fb chat where I described to my buddy how I would like to get "balls deep" in gf's sister.

Gf forgave me for 2 months, then it bubbles up everynow and then, we even went to therapy.
I still think the whole situation is hilarious. It's just a fantasy, why does she have to be so upset about it

>>18323944

You can look at this in the same way as praying the gay away. It never really works.

Porn addiction is an addiction and it encourages you to keep going to extremes, keeping someone in a safe little bubble doesn't help them break an addiction.

Moreover these things never completely go away. I know, I was seriously addicted to porn.

If you think that you wouldn't want to pursue a relationship in the future when these things don't exist, suggest taking some time apart, it might encourage him to work at it harder.

Ultimately though, if this is a thing you can't fully settle within yourself then it's not healthy to keep going.

>>18323922
Who sent you the blog?

It actually does matter.

>Am I being irrational/overreacting?
No, furry/lolicon/futa/noncon is an extremely cringey fetish combo. Maybe if it was only two of those it wouldn't be so bad but all four is pretty hard to swallow. If there was anything related to diapers on top of all that I would immediately dump.

>is this more normal than I think it is?
It's more common but not more "normal", it says your bf got some permavirgin fetishes from being on the internet too long.

>We're in a LDR
That's unfortunate, those generally never go well imho.

Whether you leave is your choice but I wouldn't blame you for falling out of love with someone for having that much baggage. You really can't "force" yourself to regain intimacy, you will regret it.

>>18323956

As I said in my first post, if you are disgusted enough to dump him, do it. And look out for friend number #2. As I said, he may be right, but he did make his move while your bo was away. And he is into the same shit.

Don't let him take advantage of you dumping your dude.

If he's been on the Internet a long time and the sex you guys have is good then he's probably just bored with porn and has to diversify a lot to get off to it. Porn gets pretty dull after awhile
Just be an adult about it and understand it's just porn and means literally nothing

>>18323960
Because that's creepy as fuck and it bothers her because while you only see it as a fantasy, she will never have the peace of mind that you aren't thinking of her sister while you're fucking her ever again.

Have some empathy, my dude.

>>18323981

It's completely fucking ridiculous to expect people's mind to not wander, especially men's.

It's like finding out santa isn't real, sure you feel bad about it but part of growing up is learning to accept it.

>>18323956

Well, he was right about your character at the very least, and he was right in thinking your affection was flimsy as fuck.

Normally I would tell you to grow up and stop obsessing over fetishes but real rape videos and snuff movies are legitimately worrying. If he's extremely apologetic about it you might get him to stop, but most people completely fail at making their significant other drop the unforgivable porn because they're ignorant persons that know nothing about human interactions.

If you want someone to stop doing something you need to reward good behavior with positive reinforcement, you can't just expect them to turn virtuous without your participation.

It's one thing to watch some kinda fucked up porn and regret it immediately. Saving that shit is another thing. While they might actually regret it or feel a bit ashamed, they still liked it enough to jack off to it more than twice and probably won't stop anytime soon.

he has an internet shrine to porn

>implying you're not also into some sick shit
Well we all fall in love
But we disregard the danger
Though we share so many secrets, there are some we never tell

Why were you so surprised
That you never saw the stranger?
Did you ever let your lover see the stranger in yourself?

>>18323922
Why do you care what he fantasized about? Are you worried he's going to ask you to put on a wolf costume?

>>18323922
Pffft thats nothing, h's probobly just a /b/ user

>>18323922
>>18323944
I mean, there's having a fetish and there's being a creep with potentially dangerous sexual habits. For instance, I have fetishes for futanari and breast expansion, and while I'd certainly be embarrassed for someone to find out about them, I'm not really ASHAMED of these kinks.

On the other hand, your boyfriend is not only consuming but also redistributing videos of actual rape and underaged children in sexual situations. That's not just a fetish; that's criminal. If you think he's serious regarding being unhappy about the road he's gone down, therapy is absolutely not unreasonable. However, if you don't trust him to change, even with professional help, you need to just get out of the relationship. There's no point in trying to force yourself to be intimately comfortable with someone who you simply aren't intimately comfortable with.

>>18323922

He's likely not as into the shit you saw as you think he is, in my 10+ years of fapping I've stumbled and used all kinds of things, tastes have changed over time, and I can guarantee most guys have masturbated to things they aren't proud of in their time. But I can safely say in real life missionary/cowgirl with my love is all I really want.

>>18324004
Your relationship is doomed if that's your attitude.

There's a difference between your mind wandering and outright declaring to someone that you want to fuck the shit out of another woman. Also, fuck your "especially men" bullshit; that's a teenager's attempt to dodge responsibility for his own behavior. You have full control over your words and actions.

>>18324042
I didn't know it was open mic night.

>>18324047
I suspect she's concerned by the fact that she has discovered her boyfriend to be a rape enthusiast and a pedophile; I can't imagine why though!

>>18324042
>implying you're not also into some sick shit
Classic deflection. "I'm doing something wrong, but you've probably done something wrong too!"

>>18324096
I think there's a pretty sizable difference between "stumbling across" a video of an actual rape and maybe having a shameful fap to it, and stumbling across that video, making a blog, and then reposting the video.

>>18324103
>not knowing Billy fucking Joel
neck yourself, kid

>>18324108
>having fetishes is doing something wrong
neck yourself, robot

>>18324110
>>18324096
>>18323922
wait, you idiots don't think those videos are actually rape or snuff do you?

How fucking retarded can people be

>>18323981
even so what the fuck can I do now lol I took my clothes off and kissed her whenever she started boohooing about this but making her cum isn't enough, sweet talking isn't enough, therapy isn't enough and she doesn't want to break up either (neither do I), also I am banned from ever looking at her sister again lol I hope she isn't thinking about chastity belt next

>>18324124
What part of my post implied that I didn't know the source of your lyric posting, "kid?"

>>18323922
Dump him immediately,

If he was just into shemales or furies or whatever, that would be weird, but perfectly OK.

But rape and snuff is not normal at all, it's actually illegal and you'd have to be a depraved psychopath to actually get off to that.

Cut the cord, that man is not safe.

>>18324131
You sound like a tremendous manchild with absolutely zero respect for your partner. Breaking up with her would be doing both of you a favor, because you obviously don't care about an actual relationship with another person and just want to have sex.

>>18324137
nah

>>18323922
>real rape videos
>not fiction or fantasy or acted out
real

WHAT THE FUCK
HOW IS THIS LEGAL

please explain, are these real?

>>18324146
It's not, OP is a retard, every fake rape and snuff video in existence says SUPER REAL AMATEUR in the filename

>>18324133
Cool, so you also don't know what an open mic night is

How's that russian necktie coming along?

>>18323922
No need to break up, just put him on no fap. After few months even vanilla porn will be enough for him.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>>18324156
You're right, I should've said "Karaoke night." I'm sorry that my mistake had such a profoundly negative affect on the quality of your day.

But you're still a faggot.

>>18323922
>LDR
Stopped reading at Long Distance Roleplaying

>>18324184
Are you stupid, or just pretending to be stupid? The R stands for "Relationship," not "Roleplaying."

>>18324139
Hope she cucks you. She's probably getting dicked down by a Chad as we speak

>>18324201
kek if what you hope for tend to become the truth you wouldn't be a s/adv/irgin to begin with ;_)

>>18324090
My BE brother.

I wish there were more vids that weren't entirely giantess desu

>>18323922
>large amounts of shemales

LOL!!

>>18323922
First rule of a relationship OP, I don't care how nice either party is to the other, you have to know each other completely and not be afraid to let the other know you completely. If you plan on spending a long time together there cannot be any disguises.

What is normal and what is not normal does not matter. Don't force yourself to "get over" what you don't want to. Instead force yourself to understand him, and if after understanding him, you still don't like him, then you can think about letting go. Don't judge him too harshly, or at all, really, because he will only hide more often in response. Make him feel comfortable with honesty. If he is still reluctant, he might be up to something and that's a red flag.

But solely for the sake of inciting paranoia, if he had not known you, it could have been you in any of those videos and he would've gotten off to it without a care in the world. His affection for you is a product of circumstance, not his heart, because he could have just as easily gotten off on your suffering were you somewhere else. Maybe he eventually wants you to be in one of them...

>>18324090
It is a fetish, just a fetish that the state criminalized. Thought crime and nothing more.

Has he actually done anything wrong op? Other than jerking his junk to stuff that is wierd?

>>18324105
She didn't discover any of that though. She discovered he's into fantasizing about rape/pedophilia.

You are able to distinguish reality from fantasy, right? People who play battlefield generally don't actually want to pick up and start kiilling people, right?

>>18324105
Yea I like to watch very violent movies.

Gonna go on my own shooting spree next week!

Why do women think men are women?